MMF Threesome Sex: 21 Secrets to Have One Without a Messy Tangle

If you’re interested in trying a MMF threesome *male-male-female* it can be a lot of fun for everyone. So, here are rules to follow and positions to try.

We all agree a threesome can be exciting. The MMF threesome is a particular treat for all those involved. For one, the girl is pleasured with a serving of four caressing hands and an extra sausage. While the two guys get themselves a good taste of real-life, interactive porn. One they both watch and participate in.

So if you’re ready to have an MMF threesome or have fantasized about one, here’s everything you need to know, and the best MMF positions you can use as well!

[Read: 21 must-know ways to ask someone for a threesome and join you in bed]

The most important rules and tips for the most MMF threesome pleasure

The MMF threesome may be inviting, but in reality, it also requires a lot of work and preparation. It also comes with a risk. There are a lot of ways for an MMF threesome to go wrong. Not only ruining a night of supposedly hot sex but also the relationship if one is involved.

That’s why it is best to keep these set of rules and tips in mind prior to an MMF threesome:

1. Always keep communication open

It’s a fact that threesomes are easy until you find yourself in the exact moment. There will be the question of who does what and what goes where. No matter how experienced you are, there’s a part where you just play it by ear.

Most of the time, your threesome partners do things that may surprise, shock, and put you in an uncomfortable position.

When these types of situations arise, don’t be afraid to speak up about them. Communicate anything: if it feels good, uncomfortable, or if you want to do something “creative.” [Read: The things you need to know before entering a threesome]

2. Make sure everybody gets due attention

The most common risk encountered during MMF is when someone gets left behind during the action. Quite understandable given the odd number.

However, the trio must always consider that all feel good and involved during the threesome.

3. Protection

A must-have, especially if you’re all strangers with no idea of each other’s previous sexual activities, it is wise to bring proper protection. [Read: The dangers of unprotected that most people don’t even think about]

4. Communicate expectations and rules

It’s important to talk about the rules and expectations prior to the threesome. Simply, there will be members of the MMF threesome who want expectations and limits.

To make the threesome work, it should be communicated to all parties so that they know when to step on the brakes in case things stray from the comfortable zone during the moment.

Rules and boundaries also help a lot in case the threesome involves a couple in a relationship.

[Read: Tinder threesome – How to write a couples bio and meet the perfect third]

5. Choose your partners wisely

Take a lot of time in choosing your partners. Most often, people choose partners based on their level of attractiveness or openness to a MMF threesome. While all are fine criteria to determine partners, there are other points to consider in choosing your other partners.

a. For couples: Don’t pick someone to play a “third wheel” 

The usual MMF set-up is a couple looking for a third male partner to complete the trio. However, consider that the guy is a human being too.

As mentioned, singles looking for couples to play with also want to feel loved and involved. Don’t treat the third guy like a third wheel just in there to work for your fantasies. Make him feel part of the threesome, not just room meat.

b. For couples who are after a third wheel: try swinger clubs

If you’re a couple really after a third wheel eager to play the part, you can find eager ones guilt-free at swinger clubs and similar meet-ups.

Not only do they flock to those events making your life easier, but you’ll also be sure to find someone already experienced to fulfill your MMF threesome fantasies. [Read: How to make the swinging style work for you]

c. For single first-timers: pick others who are equally single and inexperienced

It will be very exciting if everyone’s on an even playing field. If all three are single and inexperienced in trying their first threesome, there will be much groping around in a manner of speaking.

d. For single females: take caution when finding partners

Especially two guys who know each other. Let’s play the devil’s advocate and say that the setup is not always safe and has a margin of possibility for sexual assault.

6. Threesome with a friend? 

While some would not agree to invite a close friend into a threesome because it’s embarrassing to ask, you might be in for a treat. They could be more into it than you would think.

Even if they don’t admit it, friends *especially guy friends* have considered a threesome with female friends at one point. All it takes is a little bit of coaxing. [Read: What do guys think of all their female friends? 17 honest secrets revealed]

7. Know the MMF positions

Get acquainted with sex positions suited for MMF threesomes. Of course, the other problem of MMF threesomes is who goes where. Sexual positions for the MMF threesome are a bit limited compared to couples-only sex.

Be familiar with the varieties, if not all of them, so that you have a backup plan in case your third partner is not physically suited for the one you have in mind. [Read: The 24 best threesome positions for all combos of men and women]

8. Use toys

Toys are a welcome addition to the threesome. They are always a good idea in a threesome. First, it is a quick remedy to the “third wheel” problem. If one fails to find a hole to park into at some point, they have toys to play with while the other two bring him into the fold.

Toys also make the MMF threesome interesting since there will be a lot of hands to be made busy.

9. Don’t get too drunk

If you’ve read first-time threesome stories online, most of them happened because of alcohol. But there’s a rule to letting alcohol join your threesome: drink until you’re all agreeable to a threesome, but not until you’re sloppy. [Confession: My accidental, first-time threesome story]

10. For guys: keep your homophobia in check

It’s an MMF, man. Two guys. When the action starts, you’ll get to a part where you brush thighs and other parts together. If you interrupt the act every time to shuffle away from the other guy, maybe an MMF threesome is not for you.

MMF threesomes do not really require bi-curious men, but those who aren’t squeamish in rubbing parts with the other male partner. [Read: The soft swap – How to ease your partner into testing the waters]

11. Check in a lot

Try to check in with your threesome buddies after the act. Just to make sure that everyone is okay and cared for during the act. A short call to check-in is well-appreciated by your threesome partners.

12. You can take a break or bail on it

It’s okay for you to take a break or bailout during the middle of the threesome. If things don’t go according to your expectations or if it’s too much for you, it’s perfectly fine to bail out of the threesome.

Ask to take a break and then voice your concern. They will not and should not take it against you.

MMF threesome sex positions 

Now that you know all the rules and expectations you should follow, you need to know some of the MMF threesome sex positions you can use. [Read: 21 must-know ways to ask someone for a threesome and join you in bed]

1. Mutual masturbation

For this position, just get into any positions that feel comfortable to you. You can do it on the bed, the couch, or in the shower. Touch yourselves and each other.

As things get steamy, then move on to other positions. This position not only allows everyone to feel great all together, but it’s also a great way to show others how you like to be touched.

2. BJ switch

Have the male partners stand in front of the female, and then kneel down and switch off performing a blowjob on each of them.

While she’s giving the blowjob to one, she can reach over and use her hand on the other one. This is a great position if the woman loves giving oral. It also allows her to be the center of attention.

3. Doggy blowjob

For this position, you start by having sex doggy style with one person and have the other one lie on their back in front of the woman. The woman gets between their legs, get down to her elbows, and performs oral sex at the same time.

You can also do this with a standing doggy style if you want to get a little more adventurous. It’s also a good position for guys who are anxious about having a MMF threesome since the men won’t see each other very well. [Read: The devil’s threeway – 10 tips to master this sexy MMF move in bed]

4. High five

The woman should get onto her hands and knees and have one man penetrate her from behind while the other man kneels in front of her. Then, she gives the kneeling person oral sex.

For this one, the partners will make eye contact, which can be good or bad, depending on how the men feel. It’s a great way to have one man watch if he doesn’t want to hook up with the other man.

5. Reverse high five

This is a different version of the high five. For this one, have the woman lie on her back with her legs apart. Then, the men should get into a doggy-style position. The person in front gives her oral sex.

If you want to have anal sex, then this is a good position to try. It’s also good if you enjoy oral more than penetration.

6. Circle

For the circle, all three of you should perform oral sex on each other while lying on your sides. Try to put your bodies in a circle by resting your head on each other’s inner thigh. When you do this position, you can share the experience of both giving and receiving.

It’s also a good thing to do if you need to take a break from more complicated or tiring positions. [Read: Unicorn dating – How to find a sexual third partner and do it right]

7. Face f*ck

The woman should lie on her back with her knees bent and her head resting on a pillow. One of the men can go down on her while the other one straddles her chest so she can give him a blowjob. This one keeps the three of you close together and gives everyone a good view if they want it.

8. Double stuff

This position involves double penetration. To get yourselves into the right position, one person should lie on their back at the end of a bed. Their legs should also be hanging over the edge.

Then, the woman should climb on top of them and ride them cowgirl style. The third person stands or kneels behind her to penetrate as well. You might need to adjust to get the angles right, but it’s something that provides a lot of stimulation.

9. Twisty threeway

The woman should lie on the bed and have her legs hanging off the edge. One man will stand between her legs and enter her while the other man straddles you, facing the standing man, to play with the woman’s clit. For this position, the woman gets all of the attention. [Read: How to have a three-way – 13 rules to make a threesome work]

Giving the MMF threesome a try

Having a threesome of any kind requires a lot of communication, patience, and coordination. And if this is your first time, keep in mind that sometimes it doesn’t turn out the way you expect it to.

It might sound like a great idea, but maybe you or your partners might not enjoy it as much as you thought.

On the other hand, you all might have the time of your lives. But you have to be prepared, open-minded, and enjoy the moment the best way you can.

[Read: Throuple relationship – 27 rules and secrets to a happy romantic trio]

Threesomes, especially the MMF threesome, can be fun imagining but a bit complicated to do in real life. But it is a fantasy worth working through!