15 Sexy Conversation Starters for Couples to Get You Horny In Minutes

Words have a lot of power when it comes to sex and turning your partner on. Here are some sexy conversation starters to use so you can set the mood.

Have you ever felt like turning your partner on, but putting on lingerie and doing a sexy dance seems like too much of a routine? You want to aim for subtle, but you can’t seem to find anything to take your partner off his online game or her Facebook feed without outright sitting on their face? Well, you should try using some sexy conversation starters!

The perfect solution lies in the art of conversation, where you can steer your partner’s mind in a sexy direction… And you don’t even need to take your clothes off!

Why people like sexy, dirty conversations

You might wonder why people would like sexy conversations in the first place.

Well, many people love hearing dirty talk either inside or outside the bedroom. We either lose ourselves in the heat of passion or create naughty anticipation before it happens.

But what is it about sexy conversation that increases our sexual desire? Believe it or not, there is a lot more to it than our desire to bring out wild sex. [Read: 87 best dirty truth or dare questions for a wild and sexy night]

A big reason people like sexy conversation starters and dirty talk is because sex all begins in the mind. The brain is actually the most powerful sex organ – even more than our genitalia. The reason for this is because it’s where our sex drive comes from. The right amount of sexy conversation will excite our minds. 

So, dirty talk is a whole mind and body experience. People enjoy it because it activates all parts of your brain while your body is responding in anticipation. So, the mind is actually an erogenous zone! And how the brain organizes the rest of our erogenous zones proves that it determines both sex drive and sexual pleasure.

Sexy communication also shows that we’re open to trying new things in the bedroom. Talking about the kind of sex we want and hearing what our partners want to do to us is important in the sexual arousal process. [Read: How to talk dirty with your partner and turn them on like no one else can]

Asking what our partners need from us and what we need from them opens up the lines of communication to show we’re open to changing things up in the bedroom.

Verbalizing the sexual roles we want and hearing what our partners want to do to us is essential in sexual arousal.

Sexy conversation starters also allow us to talk about sexual fantasies we have. Having actual sex and just talking about it involve two very different mindsets. Erotic dialogue can lead to interest in new sexual acts that someone might not have previously thought of.

People also like this dirty talk because it helps them become more comfortable and familiar with using words and descriptions that express their needs and wants. Doing this encourages your partner to be ready to try those things on you. 

Believe it or not, the more comfortable someone is talking about sex, the more happy and satisfactory their sex lives are. [Read: 30 hot, sexting examples to start a naughty text marathon]

Finally, sexy conversation creates intimacy between two people. It gives them permission to talk about their deep, dark, wild fantasies. It can be dirty, erotic, and fun for a lot of people.

The intimacy created through sexy talk helps bond the couple together because good sex is part of a good relationship. 

Some people might be uncomfortable with it at first because they might feel like a “pervert.” But it’s not. It’s about enhancing your sexual experience and discussing your sexual desires. 

However, for sexy conversation to be successful, it has to be two-way. Both people need to do it so there’s no sort of imbalance or power struggle. 

The bottom line is that dirty and sexy conversation starters *especially in bed* is a perfect prelude to the real thing. [Read: How to open up about sex and get your partner to share their deepest sexual desires]

The best sexy conversation starters to warm both your loins up in no time!

It may seem like you have to be a pro at dirty talk to pull this off, but in reality, a few subtle lines are all you really need.

1. Sexy phone call

Give them a sexy phone call from within the house. Go into the bathroom or the bedroom or any room where you prefer to do your sexual activity, light some candles and send your lover a message saying, “What are you wearing?”

After you’ve sent this message, send them an extremely sexy photo of you saying, “I’m wearing my birthday suit, would you like to wear yours? Find me.”

Your partner is sure to drop whatever he or she is doing to come and find you, so it’s one of the best sexy conversation starters! [Read: 40 dirty and sexy would you rather questions that’ll make anyone horny instantly]

2. Describe having sex with them

Sometimes, if you start describing how you would have sex with that person, it’s enough to drive them crazy.

Ask those questions like, “Do you like to be licked or sucked? Do you like your balls to be licked or do you prefer them untouched? Do you want your nipples pinched?”

Giving them a description of the naughty acts you’re willing to try can be enough to get those “I’m getting some!” bells ringing in your partner’s head. Plus points if you describe these suggestions in the sultriest or huskiest voice you can muster. [Read: 36 racy, random funny questions for flirty guys and girls]

3. The position discussion

Discussing sexual positions is almost always a turn-on for anyone. Ask your lover what they thought of the most recent exotic sexual position that you just had, and if they liked it a lot. Tell them that there is more in store and that you would like to discuss it with them.

Even if your partner says that they didn’t like the previous sexual position you tried, you could still use the same comeback and say, “Well, we could try something else,” and start discussing other options.

Try your best to be as descriptive as possible when you’re talking naughty. [Read: 20 naughty sex questions to ask your man]

4. “I want to pleasure you”

“I would like to masturbate you and use sex toys to pleasure you,” will be a very strong declaration that you would really like to have sex. 

The very idea of lying back and letting your lover pleasure you could be enough to get you into the mood within seconds.

Make sure that you are ready to follow through on your plan, though. If your partner’s libido was initially down, it might take some time to get it up and running. So make sure you’ve got the energy to get them from unaroused to aroused enough to jump you. [Read: 24 sexy ways to arouse a man and get him in the mood even if he’s not horny]

5. The “areas covered” discussion

Even if you live in a small apartment, there are still several areas that you still haven’t had sex on, that is for sure. Have you ever done it on the dining table? Or the work table? The balcony? In the shower? On the roof deck?

Asking “Would you like to try the kitchen counter next?” might ignite a spark in your lover, especially if you have discussed doing it in as many places in the house as you can.

Be adventurous, there are almost always new things to try! [Read: The best places to have sex – 41 wild and naughty places beyond the bed]

6. Dirty games

If your lover is the kind of person who likes to play board games such as scrabble or answer trivia and crossword puzzles, then this might just work for you. 

Invite her to play scrabble and try to put in as many dirty words as you can like suck, insert, penis, vagina, nipples, sex, and other slang words like pussy, cunt, dick, cock – you get the drift.

Try to write this down as well in a crossword puzzle that they are trying to solve and hopefully things will get warmer from there.

7. Create anticipation

If you are still in the office or school and you would really like some hot bedroom activity as soon as you arrive home to your lover, make sure to get them excited. 

One way to do this is to start sending them messages that will pique their interest, especially if you know they are already at home and not doing anything. Tell them, “I have handcuffs, edible underwear, and a can of whipped cream…” and leave the rest to their imagination.

Or you can also say, “I am in a lingerie store getting you lacey thongs, and after this, I’ll buy some flavored lubricant,” if your lover is a female. If your lover is male, you can still utter the same sentence, just say that you are shopping for sexy lingerie that you cannot wait to wear tonight after showering and shaving.

The very idea that you’re putting in some extra effort to make tonight’s session steamier than usual is sure to get your partner excited! [Read: How to prepare for sex – 20 things you MUST do to really enjoy it]

8. UNF = Universal Noise of F*cking

If neither of you makes any moaning sounds while having sex, then start learning to moan by trying to copy what you hear from adult videos.

Your partner might look at you oddly the very first time, but once the noise registers in their mind, they can definitely have a mental image of what should be happening in order to make you repeat that sexy sound. [Read: Sex sounds – How to look and sound sexy AF while making out]

9. Romance novels

If your partner is a bookworm, buy a few romance novels or erotic literature for them to read. Show this to your partner, and ask them to read it to you or to read it together.

One way to make this even more exciting is by asking your partner to read some of the steamiest chapters aloud as you pleasure them with your hands and mouth. Watch them squirm as they try to read coherently while stifling their moans.

10. Visual stimuli

Visual stimuli seem to be the easiest way to start a conversation that will increase libido. Put on an adult film and watch it together. Don’t instantly go for the hardcore films, though!

If you’re a guy, your woman will most likely prefer something more romantic and sensual. If you’re a girl, your man might prefer something with a lot of focus on the female lead. [Read: 13 non-porn erotic movies that are sure to turn you on]

It’s going to be a herculean feat to get your hands off each other after watching two hot porn actors go at it onscreen!

11. Favorite part of the body

A lot of people have their favorite parts of the body. IT could be specific to an individual or it could be more of a generalized thing like, “I’m a boob man” or a “Legs man.” Either way, talking about your favorite body parts and why will get the two of you going.

12. Sexual experiences

This can be a little uncomfortable for two people if they are talking about past sexual experiences that didn’t involve the other person.

However, if both people can talk about it generically, then this can serve as a brainstorming session for how the two of you can recreate them for yourselves. [Read: How to fantasize about someone else with your partner and not feel guilty]

13. Sexual desires

One of the best sexy conversation starters is discussing your sexual desires. Talking about what you like and don’t like and your fantasies can be a real turn-on too.

You might be surprised that the other person has thoughts that you never thought they had. And when you find this out, you can try to please them and fulfill their needs, desires, and fantasies.

14. Dirty talk

Usually, people think of dirty talk as happening when you are actually in the act of having sex. And while that’s true, it can be done before you have sex – or in-between – as well.

Talking dirty brings out the “bad boy” or “bad girl” persona which turns a lot of people on. [Read: 30 naughty and sexy questions for couples to keep the spark alive]

15. Use sexual questions to ask each other

If you want to get into a deeper sexy conversation, then you can come up with some more complicated sexual questions to ask each other.

For example, you could ask, “If you could have sex anywhere in the world, where would it be?” or “When it comes to BDSM, have you tried anything? What would you be willing to try and how far would you go?” 

[Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth talking about and trying at least once in your lifetime]

Getting your partner in the mood for some sexy lovin’ can be done with some sexy conversation starters, along with a perfectly seductive tone. Give these a try with your partner the next time you’re feeling frisky!