How to Have Phone Sex: 26 Tips to Make Them Horny Listening to You

There are many ways to seduce someone – especially in our technological world. So, if you have ever wondered how to have phone sex, here are your answers.

Many people have wondered how to have phone sex, because it can be more awkward than sexy for most people.

But then again, for a few, having phone sex comes naturally!

The truth is, mastering the art of arousing your lover over the phone isn’t hard if you know the little sexy things that make the difference between an uncomfortable conversation and a sexy one.

Just so you know, almost always, phone sex isn’t planned ahead. It just happens, as soon as one of you says something naughty over the phone. And if both of you can talk horny without killing the mood, it would be the sexiest thing you could do with each other from a distance.

[Read: 25 sexy text messages to initiate a dirty conversation with anyone in minutes]

What is phone sex?

Phone sex is a form of aural sex. And aural sex is a form of sexual stimulation where you get turned on by listening to something that arouses you.

Almost all couples have indulged in phone sex in some manner, more so at the start of a sexual relationship.

Have you ever told your lover how much you’re missing them over the phone, especially when you’re horny? If you ever have, well, you’ve just initiated phone sex. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and sound really sexy doing it]

But what you say and how you sound after that sentence makes all the difference between a sexy orgasmic conversation and a dead end.

If you’re uncomfortable with the thought of having phone sex with your lover because the whole idea seems awkward, start by texting naughty. And just when things start to heat up, call your lover up and continue the conversation over the phone.

Use these 110+ sexy and dirty questions to ask a guy and seduce him with words or this list of 20 dirty questions to ask a girl and get her wet in under 15 minutes to get things warmed up. These questions really work!

History of phone sex

Before we learn about how to have phone sex, let’s go back to history class for a second, although you most likely didn’t get this kind of lesson in school! You probably wish you had, but that’s another story.

Anyway, the business of sex is as old as human history. Prostitutes have always offered sex for money. But of course, that’s not the kind of phone sex we are talking about. We’re talking about the kind you have with someone you know. However, the evolution of the sex business as it relates to modern phone sex is kind of interesting.

A woman named Gloria Leonard is thought to be the first person to use 900 numbers to make money in the adult sex industry. She used herself and recorded her own voice that gave callers updates in the next issue of her magazine. And obviously, she did it in a very sexy, sultry way. [Read: Dirty Snapchats – how to stay safe while sharing your sexy pics]

The phone sex industry was quite popular for some time. And even though it’s not anymore *at least not as much*, that doesn’t mean that it hasn’t had a huge influence on personal phone sex behaviors.

The good news about having phone sex with someone you know is that you don’t have to pay for it! Some of those old phone sex lines were very expensive. So, good for you for being frugal and doing it on your own! [Read: 15 FaceTime sex moves to blow your lover’s mind with your tricks]

Why should you have phone sex when you can just have sex instead?

As humans, we love variety every now and then. If you have sex in the same missionary position for a few years without talking dirty or fantasizing in bed, sex can definitely start to feel like a chore that’s best avoided.

In a similar vein, why is making out in public or groping each other in a car more exciting?

Well, that’s because our mind craves new sexual experiences that can heighten arousal all the time. [Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]

Just like that, phone sex can give you the much-needed variety and a heightened sense of arousal, especially when both of you aren’t around each other at that moment.

And if both of you are in a long-distance relationship, phone sex plays a crucial part in keeping both of you satisfied sexually, and can help reduce the odds of cheating on each other as well. [Read: Easy tips to make a long distance relationship work in your favor]

How to have phone sex like a sexy sassy minx

Do you want to be a seductive seductress over the phone? Or do you want to get your girl wet with your words and make her wish you were next to her? Do you want to turn on anyone you speak to within a few minutes of naughty talk?

It doesn’t matter even if you have no idea how to have phone sex, read on and you’ll be a natural in the art of sex talk and phone sex in no time.

Just use these tips on how to have phone sex and you’ll definitely know everything you need to know to have a naughty, sexy conversation and arouse each other completely! [Read: 60 sexy and dirty things to say to your man + The secret art of dirty talking like never before]

Patience and the art of phone sex

Phone sex can’t be rushed. Just like you need foreplay to enjoy passionate sex in bed, you need to be patient and set the mood right before you start talking dirty.

A tip for beginners, talking over the phone late at night will make the conversation feel a lot sexier and naughtier naturally.

To start off, just lower your voice almost to a whisper and continue talking. If your lover asks you why you’re whispering, just make an excuse or tell them you don’t want to be overheard.

As soon as you start whispering, in all probability, your partner too will start emulating your voice and they’d start whispering too *even if they don’t realize it!*

Always remember to be patient and make sure both of you have at least an hour of alone time over the phone without any interruptions.

You don’t need to tell your partner you want to have phone sex and put pressure on them to initiate a sexy conversation. Just speak normally in a soft, low voice and the rest will follow. [Read: How to have a sexy voice – 17 easy hacks to sound dirty and naughty saying anything at all]

Setting the mood right for phone sex

Your surrounding can play a big part in the way you feel and how much you can enjoy phone sex. If you want to have a naughty conversation without any distractions, use these tips to get your surroundings right.

1. Turn down the lights

The darker the room, the more you can focus on what you’re hearing without getting distracted. Sometimes, even watching your own body can distract you. [Read: Sexy bedroom – 24 sex room ideas to make any room look and feel sexy]

2. Cancel call waiting

If you’ve got the time, cancel call waiting before you call your lover up. Or just speak late in the night when you aren’t expecting any calls.

If a friend calls you several times during your conversation with your lover, it will definitely kill the mood.

3. Close your eyes

Lock the door, and isolate yourself from the world. Sit back on your couch, or get in bed and under the blanket. Focus all your attention on the words you’re saying, and the words you’re hearing.

4. Don’t play any music

Music may seem sexy and very appropriate at first, but it’ll be an annoying distraction in no time when you have a hard time hearing what your lover is whispering.

5. Talk softly

This is very important, never ever speak loudly if you want to initiate phone sex. Speak in your normal tone at the beginning of the call, and as the minutes of the call stretch on, get into bed and use a husky whisper and speak very softly.

The more your lover has to strain to listen to you clearly, the more they’ll get drawn into the conversation. [Read: How to sound really sexy in bed and turn your partner on]

6. Speak slowly

Don’t rush the pace of the conversation at any point in time. The more relaxed you feel and the slower you speak, the more relaxed and aroused your partner will feel.

7. Make it personal

Call your lover by their name or their pet name now and then while talking about anything at all. It makes the whole conversation more personal and sensual. [Read: Sexy words – Your guide to using the right kind of words to turn your lover on]

The perfect lines to initiate phone sex

Once you’ve set the mood right for a sexy phone conversation, all you need to do now is make a subtle move to initiate phone sex with your lover.

Here are five perfect things to say to get into the mood for phone sex.

1. “What are you wearing right now?”

2. “I wanna read/tell you a story.” Read out an erotic passage from a book or a page. A perfect example: Real-life dirty public flashing confessions from readers

3. “I wish you were here with me right now…”

4. Say something naughty to your lover. But don’t mention that you want to have phone sex.

5. Text sex. Start off with text sex before calling your lover up. [Read: How to sext – 16 dirty samples to start texting naughty]

The best kind of phone sex conversations

When you initiate the conversation with your lover using the lines mentioned above, your lover may not get the hint initially, but that doesn’t matter. They know you’re asking something naughty anyway.

Once you’ve initiated phone sex in your sexy, low voice, use any of these conversation makers to continue the conversation and steer it into seduction mode.

1. “What would you do to me if you were with me now?”

This is a great way to get your partner to do all the dirty talking. As long as you speak in a soft and sultry voice, you would definitely arouse your partner and get them talking.

2. “Remember the time we had sex in the… I get horny just thinking about it”

Talk about something sexual that both of you indulged in recently. It could be something as simple as a public show of affection, the last time you groped each other at a party, or your most recent risky sex act.

If what you did turns you on, chances are, it turns your partner on too.

3. “Is there something you’ve always wanted to do with me… sexually?”

This is a great way to communicate with each other and learn about each other’s sexual interests. And the best part, you can turn your heart-to-heart communication into something a lot more arousing by initiating phone sex around this idea.

[Read: Male sexual fantasies – The top 16 dirty desires every guy has in mind and Female fantasies – The top 17 fantasies that arouse almost all women]

4. “You know, I’ve always wondered what it would feel like to…”

Talk about your dirty fantasy, something you may or may not have told your lover already. As long as you get descriptive and explain what you like, your partner will get turned on just imagining what you say.

Play with yourself to have better phone sex

Phone sex is best experienced when you involve your privates. Close your eyes, get under the blanket and play with yourself as you speak to your lover.

It’ll heighten the sensation, increase the arousal, help you shed your inhibitions, and drive your imagination into crazy overdrive! [Read: How to have sex with yourself and learn what turns your body on]

Heavy breathing

This is as sexual as it gets. You need to know this, how you say something while having phone sex has a bigger impact than the actual words you use.

You don’t need to speak a lot while having phone sex. When you’re just enjoying the moment, don’t bother talking at all, even if there’s a good five minutes of silence. [Read: How to sext – 30 flirty tips to learn how to text dirty and naughty]

Just breathe into the phone and let your partner hear your heavy, lust-laden panting. If you use it right, heavy breathing has the same effect as dirty words over the phone.

Explain yourself very clearly

Having phone sex with your lover is like reading out a novel to them. They’ll have no idea what you’re talking about unless you explain yourself slowly and very clearly.

When you’re talking about how you’re touching yourself, or what you’d like to do to them if they were in bed with you, talk about every single detail that you’re thinking. The more you describe it, the better it sounds.

Get descriptive and name the body parts you’re touching. Explain how you think it would feel. Talk about how you’d like to undress your lover, and how you’d like to run your face and hands over your lover. The more descriptive you get, the hornier you’re going to make your lover feel! [Read: 19 foreplay sex games to get naughty and aroused in minutes]

Things to avoid doing while having phone sex

As exciting and sexually arousing as phone sex can be, there are a few precautions you need to remember to avoid ruining the conversation. Here are a few mood killers you definitely need to keep in mind.

1. Don’t laugh while having phone sex

Even if something sounds funny, or you’re still not in the mood, don’t laugh about anything at all.

2. Don’t raise the tone of your voice

Remember, the sexy whisper gives the best effect while having phone sex. At no point during the entire conversation should you ever raise your voice or speak in your normal tone.

The second you lose your soft, sultry voice, your partner will snap out of the sexual trance you’ve created at the beginning of the conversation.

3. Don’t change the topic

“I don’t know what to say…” “I’m so embarrassed…” and other awkward lines always kill sex conversations. If you don’t know what to say, just breathe into the phone and relax, while thinking about something sexual.

If your partner has something to say, they will. Just try to enjoy the sexual sensation flowing through your body instead of worrying about an uncomfortable conversation.

4. Performing acts

If you’re uncomfortable doing something your partner asks, don’t snap back at them. If your partner asks you to touch yourself or perform an act and you don’t feel like it, whisper something like “I’ll do that in a while… I like what I’m doing right now/ I want to hear you do something.” [Read: How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one can]

5. Don’t lie

Lying or faking it over the phone creates an atmosphere of mistrust if your lover realizes you’re just pretending. Indulge each other while having phone sex.

If your lover asks you to do something sexual with yourself and you’re comfortable doing it, do it instead of sitting back and lying that you’re doing it already. The more involved both of you feel in the act, the more arousing the conversation will be.

6. Don’t get shocked easily

If your lover says something shocking or repulsive in the heat of the moment, just steer the conversation into something else slowly and calmly. We all know that it’s definitely easy to get carried away and say something unexpected or gross when we’re extremely aroused.

So if your boyfriend asks you to undress and eat your panties or your girlfriend asks you to stick a finger in your butt, and you don’t feel like it, perhaps it would be wiser to just deflect the idea to something else. Instead of killing the phone sex, just talk about something else.

Having phone sex can be fun and memorable, and a huge turn-on even when both of you are far away from each other.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve never had phone sex before or if you’re too uncomfortable talking dirty over the phone. All you need is to initiate it once, and you’ll see how arousing the experience can really be. [Read: 10 sexy conversation starters that’ll make both of you horny instantly]

Who shouldn’t have phone sex

Anyone with a phone can have phone sex. And it seems rather harmless, right? It’s just a lot of fun and can be really hot too.

So, is there anyone who shouldn’t be having phone sex? Yes, there is. And here they are.

1. Married people who aren’t doing it with their spouse

The lines of what exactly is cheating are kind of blurred these days. Before the technological age, cheating just consisted of the physical kind. If someone was having intimate relations with someone other than their partner, then that was cheating.

But now, you have a lot of other subsets of cheating. You have emotional cheating. And you also have things like being on a dating app without your partner’s knowledge, texting the opposite sex, hanging out with someone else, and of course… phone sex. [Read: Micro-cheating – What it is and signs you’re unintentionally doing it]

A lot of people justify this because if you’re having phone sex, you’re not physically cheating. But turn this around. Would you want YOUR partner to have phone sex with someone other than you? Of course not!

So, people who are married or just in a committed relationship should not be having phone sex with anyone else but their partner, even if it happens accidentally.

2. Underaged people

There is a reason for someone being “underage.” It means that their brain hasn’t developed to the point that they can make good, mature decisions. That’s why having sex with someone under 18 is illegal if you are over 18.

So, underaged people really shouldn’t be having phone sex. Sure, plenty of them are, but that doesn’t make it right.

It may be better than actual sex, but it’s still not something that a lot of young people can handle very well, especially if they are not in a committed relationship with that person. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s guide to orgasms]

3. Someone who isn’t in a relationship

If you just connected with someone on a dating app but haven’t met them yet, then you should definitely not have phone sex. You might think that it would be a way to lure them in and make them like you more, but it’s not.

Having phone sex with someone you don’t know can be dangerous. And it definitely won’t make them respect you.

In fact, it can have the opposite effect. So, keep the phone sex to someone with who you are in a loving, committed relationship.

4. Friends

Yes, there are “friends with benefits.” And that’s pretty common these days, as we all know. If you are friends with someone but you would really rather be in a committed relationship with them, then you shouldn’t have phone sex with them. [Read: 25 friends with benefits rules you must know to have a happy ending]

The reason for this is because you probably think the phone sex will make them want to be in a romantic relationship with you. However, it might not happen. If they wanted to have a relationship with you, then they would.

So, don’t go into sexual territory with phone sex if you are trying to “sex a person into a relationship with you.”

And that’s about everything you need to know about how to have phone sex, what to talk, where to talk, and who you shouldn’t be talking dirty with. If you can remember all these details, we can guarantee you that you’d be able to arouse your lover with your words over a phone call, literally, within minutes!

[Read: Try these 40 dirty and sexy would you rather questions that’ll make you horny in minutes]

Use these tips on how to have phone sex and follow these conversation ideas, and you’ll see how easy, instinctive and arousing phone sex can really be.