Why Am I So Horny? 21 Signs, Reasons, Hypersexuality & When to Seek Help

Do you ever wonder, ‘why am I so horny?’ Don’t panic. There’s nothing wrong with you, but there are things you can do about it. 

Trust us, we know there are times when even looking at a banana gets your panties wet, but don’t freak out—there are many reasons for it. If you find yourself wondering why you are so horny all the time, we’ve got five reasons why your horniness has notched up and three ways to curb the appetite.

You might look around and wonder if anyone else is feeling the heat in the same way as you. Yes, it happens. Within any room, there is likely to be another person who feels the same as you.

There is nothing abnormal about having an attack on the horn. However, if it’s causing you to be distracted or if it’s just downright inconvenient, there are a few things you can do to pull back on the horniness and start feeling somewhat normal again! [Read: The most powerful ways to stop being horny]

Symptoms of being horny

Feeling horny may result from a wide range of factors, like hormones or watching a hot sex scene on TV. Sexual desire is also impacted by fluctuating levels of progesterone and estrogen.

Let’s have a look at the common symptoms of being horny, shall we? [Read: How to get your wife in the mood – 20 easy secrets to get her horny & wet]

1. You think about/want to have sex all the time

If you can’t stop thinking about having sex with a fictional Netflix character, a celebrity, or even a friend, you’re definitely horny.

The medial orbitofrontal cortex has been discovered to be crucial in sexual fantasizing, according to studies using brain scans. This area of the brain is in charge of processing both your sensations and visual representations of your sexual desires.

This is due to the fact that this area plays a key role in how your brain generally handles emotion, the pivotal element of fantasy.

Your fantasies are also caused by your brain developing, so it’s safe to say having sexual thoughts means you’re getting smarter. [Read: 47 sexy secrets to be seductive & make anyone feel horny around you]

2. You’re restless

You’re having difficulty falling asleep, like your thoughts are constantly focused on the person you’re having a crush on. To get over this restlessness, you need to release frustration by taking the matter into your own hand. Yes, we’re talking about masturbation.

After an orgasm, your body releases prolactin, a hormone that makes you sleepy. Now you can finally have a good sleep. [Read: 30 benefits of sleeping naked & must-know tips you have no idea about!]

3. Your genitals feel tingly

No, you’re not reading this wrong. When you’re horny, your genitals do tingle! This is when blood rushes to your genitals, causing them to swell and dilate. Crazy, isn’t it?

4. You’re extra stressed out

You’re not alone if your feelings of horniness and anxiety occasionally concise. While stress is known to reduce libido in some people, it can actually put you more in the mood.

The production of oxytocin and feel-good endorphins during sex and masturbation help reduce stress. So it may seem normal for your mind to wander to erotic fantasies when you’re stressed and need relief.[Read: How to reduce stress – 17 fastest hacks to a calmer & happier life]

Why am I so horny?

It’s getting hot in here—wait, no, it’s not, it’s just you. Put your clothes back on. There are times when looking at two dogs humping will get you hot. The sound of a gentle clap or a simple hug might get you going.

There are a million things that might get your juices flowing, so to speak. The good news is that there is nothing anatomically wrong with your or anything else. You’re just horny, end of.

You might be wondering if you’re experiencing a psychological phenomenon, or if it’s something more. When you’re developing bags under your eyes from dry humping your pillow at 3 a.m. four nights in a row, it’s a good time to start looking for answers and solutions.

There are a couple of easy reasons why you’re always horny and some easy solutions to go with it. [Read: Too much sex? 15 signs to know if your sex life is well balanced]

1. Hormones can make you super horny

Ah, yes, those hormones have done it again. And they’ll keep on doing it… until you’re about fifty, and then it’s all downhill from there. Hormones are a huge factor in contributing to your sex drive.

When you were going through puberty, aside from being in a constant state of angst or sheer rage, you were probably extremely sexually frustrated too. Blame the hormones. However, most of us have made it past that stage of life. [Read: Sexually frustrated? Ways to calm the ants in the pants]

So then, what could be the reason for your spike in sexual energy? If you find yourself asking why you’re so horny just before your period, it’s because your estrogen and testosterone levels are increased during ovulation.

We recommend having sex during this time. It just feels better… or maybe that’s just the hormones talking. [Read: When women are at their horniest and what you can do about it]

If it’s not your period, you have a couple of other reasons for this spike in horniness. Firstly, it could be a spike in testosterone, or if you’re on hormonal birth control, that also plays a huge factor in your hormone levels. Or you’re pregnant… Surprise!

2. You’re eating aphrodisiac foods

You might not have thought about how foods affect your sex life unless they’re used during sex *do not use honey, we repeat, do not use honey*.

Alright, we don’t want to say that you’ll feel good if you eat healthily, but we will say that you’ll have better sex if you eat healthily. Which is completely true.

If you’re bloated, constipated, or lethargic—you won’t want to have sex. You most likely just want to sit on the couch and watch The Simpsons. Why? Because your body is full of crap and it is cockblocking you.

 But if you’re constantly horny, not wanting to have sex isn’t the issue. Food still may be a culprit in your excessive horniness. Whaaaat? Yeah, you heard us. Your dinner plate is making you horny. [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell – a lover’s guide to eating well]

The foods listed below are all aphrodisiacs. Meaning, if you’re eating four bananas a day and can’t stop masturbating, maybe take it easy on that penis-shaped fruit. Try an orange. Mix it up a bit.

These aphrodisiac foods only help to increase your sex drive. So, if you’re constantly horny, cut these foods from your diet for a bit.

– Celery

– Avocado

– Watermelon

– Blackberries

– Almonds

– Garlic *within reason*

– Steak

– Bananas

– Broccoli

– Oatmeal

– Mangoes

– Sesame seeds

3. Blame chemical influences too

It’s not always the hormones *even though most of the time it is*.

We’ve all had a drink or two and suddenly felt much hornier than when we first walked into the bar. That’s what chemical influence can do to someone. They lower our inhibitions and let us relax. Even the scent of a specific lotion or perfume chemically enhances our perceptions of a person or situation.

Drugs also have an influence on the sexual drive, which we don’t condone AT ALL. But if you’re doing them all the time and wondering why you end up masturbating in the middle of a music festival, that’s why. [Read: True sex talk – alcohol’s effects on sex and your libido]

4. If you’re in a new relationship

What a beautiful period in life—when you cannot keep your hands off of someone. When you’re in love or starting a new relationship, that sexual energy is peaking, making it impossible not to want to have sex. We’ve all experienced this.

Think of it like being on really good drugs. You can’t think straight, you’re laughing at everything, food tastes amazing.

What we’re trying to get at is to reduce your horniness and break up with your boyfriend. No, we don’t mean that. But simply understand that the rush of endorphins associated with your new love is causing this excessive horniness. Either take advantage of it or, well, yeah, break up. [Read: Do pheromones work like a love potion, or is it all hype?]

5. You’re experiencing a personal trigger

It’s amazing how such simple and subtle things get your engine turning. It might be cologne, a type of shirt, the weather, or anything else. It’s personal to you, and it triggers your horniness.

Becoming turned on isn’t as ABC as many people think. So, if you’re asking yourself why you are so horny, think about what went on right before you started feeling the sexual urge.

If you start to see a pattern emerging, you’ve discovered a personal horniness trigger. [Read: How to amp up the pleasure -things that make you horny]

6. Alcohol

If you don’t already know this, alcohol increases testosterone levels. This male sex hormone plays a role in sexual desire.

Being drunk is also linked to lowered inhibitions, increased confidence, sexiness, as well as self-assurance. Although it’s not a sure bet, a drink or two may make you horny. [Read: Drunk kiss – 15 types, levels of kisses & the meaning of a drunk makeout]

7. Full bladder

Can wanting to pee really make you horny? The answer is yes, as the vagina, urethra, and clitoris are all crammed together, which causes you to feel hornier.

8. Frequent masturbation

You can also get horny from regular or chronic masturbation. According to a study, those with penises may masturbate more frequently than people with vaginas. However, this is only a tiny sample, so it may not be entirely typical of the population.

Regardless of your sex, masturbation may increase your level of horniness. [Read: Male masturbation techniques & positions to blow a big load all alone]

So, how can you turn the dial down on your horn?

Good question, everyone. You’d think that being horny all the time would be an amazing feeling. The truth is, the feeling gets old after two hours. Not only that, but it really affects your daily activities and relationships too.

Sure, guys love sex, but probably not for consecutive hours for consecutive days in a row. They need a timeout too. So what can you do? [Read: 30 hot, sizzling ways to spice up your sex life & leave you horny 24/7]

1. Have regular sex

This may be obvious, but many people overlook this option. You guys, it’s okay to have sex. Perhaps you just need to relieve some compressed stress and hormones from your system. If you’re feeling horny all the time but are not having sex, then we recommend finding a partner.

It doesn’t have to be a serious relationship. You can have a friend with benefits or a one-night stand—just as long as you get the deed done.

Wait, at least be sexually attracted to them. That’s a healthy minimum standard. BUT! Always practice safe sex, otherwise, you may have a whole other problem you need to face. [Read: How to start a friends with benefits relationship]

2. Try a physical workout

You don’t always need to masturbate or have sex to relieve sexual tension. Working out can often get the job done while also toning you up.

Sure, it’s not as fun, sweating sucks when it doesn’t involve sex. But we can say for sure that you’ll be much more relaxed at the end of your workout session. So, grab your runners and water bottle and go for a walk. [Read: Benefits of exercise on your mind, body, and libido]

3. Masturbate

Good ol’ masturbation. Who says you need someone else to get off? As long as you have a functioning hand or vibrator, you can give yourself an amazing orgasm.

It doesn’t matter what you use while you masturbate, whether it’s a vibrator, porn, or a photo—just get yourself comfortable and in the zone. [Read: Mind games – how your body’s chemistry affects love]

4. Find other sexual outlets *virtual sex, phone sex*

If you don’t want to do any physical activities, you can still release your sexual frustration through virtual sex and phone sex.

Watching porn, whether solo or with a partner, can also satisfy you greatly. [Read: Do girls watch porn? 20 reasons to start & why they lie about watching]

5. Practice mindfulness

The goal of mindfulness meditations is to help you connect with your breath and concentrate on the here and now. When compulsive sexual behaviors start to interfere with your everyday life, you may benefit from using this strategy to deal with sexual addiction.

Some people use meditation to mimic the satisfaction of masturbation without actually performing it. [Read: I need to get laid – signs you’re dry, horny & need to bang someone ASAP]

6. Get a massage

Try getting a massage, but not the erotic ones. A good massage can help you relax and be refreshed in every way: mentally, physically, and sexually. Besides, stress only feeds the horny monster, and sometimes we want it to be as tame as possible. [Read: Massage therapist confessions: Bizarre massage stories]

What is hypersexuality

Although the idea is fiercely contested among specialists, hypersexuality has been characterized as the “inability to regulate one’s sexual behavior that is the source of significant personal distress.”

It is not recognized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders *DSM-5,* and not all specialists believe that it exists. Similarly, according to the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, there isn’t enough factual data to prove that “sex addiction” actually exists.

All things considered, it may be worthwhile to seek treatment from a sex therapist or other sexuality expert if your experiences with sexuality and desire feel stressful or out of control.

Should you be worried about your high sex drive?

In most cases, a high sex drive by itself is nothing to worry about. However, from time to time, your sexual habits might cause issues in other aspects of your life.

If any of the following apply to you, your sexual behavior may be out of control:

1. You’re unable to concentrate on your daily tasks and responsibilities

2. You’re not taking care of your health

3. You tried to get your sexual urges under control but failed

4. Your sexual activities are never enough

5. It’s affecting your personal relationships

Having a high sex drive also increases the chance of getting a sexually transmitted infection *STI* or getting pregnant, so always prioritize safe sex. [Read: Is it safe to have sex with a UTI? The guide you shouldn’t ignore]

When to seek help

Wanting to have a lot of sex doesn’t make you a sex addict, but if you see these signs, it’s time to seek professional help.

1. When feeling horny begins to interfere with work, relationships, and/or other areas of life

If you feel like you’re unable to function properly just because of your horniness, that should be a big problem. A normal person may get inappropriate fantasies during the day, but that should not make it impossible for them to complete their daily tasks or maintain relationships and a healthy lifestyle!

2. The feeling significantly distresses you

Does your feeling of horniness significantly distress you? Being sexually frustrated is one thing, but if it causes you to suffer from anxiety, depression, or other types of issues, you should talk to a doctor or a sex therapist.

3. If you’re engaging in risky sexual behaviors that could potentially damage your health

Do you find yourself engaging in risky sexual behaviors like having sex with multiple partners without condoms, under the influence of drugs and alcohol, or being forced to have sex?

If yes, you need to immediately talk to someone and ask for help before things get out of control. You can still have fun and be responsible for your health and well-being. [Read: How to have safe sex in every single way it is possible to]

You never thought you’d be asking yourself, “Why am I so horny all the time?”, or wondering how to stop being quite so horny. Understanding why you’re horny helps you understand your sexual appetite and how to care for your needs.