I Miss My Boyfriend: 20 Warm Ways to Get Through It When You Miss Your Man

What should you do when you miss your boyfriend? Crying and saying, “I miss my boyfriend,” won’t help, will it? Find out how to deal with missing your boyfriend in a healthy way.

For whatever reason, you can’t be with your man all the time. Maybe you have a long-distance relationship, or you just have conflicting schedules and can’t get together as much. Knowing what to do when you miss your boyfriend but can’t actually reach him can keep you satiated until you can.

Freaking out and going nuts with a desire for him isn’t an option. You don’t want to be a mess without him. You are your own person, and that person is a strong and capable woman.

You aren’t with your boyfriend because you need him but because you want him. But, even with that, sometimes the time apart can feel like forever.

Saying “I miss my boyfriend” sounds whiny when some people say you are lucky enough to have a boyfriend. So, how do you deal with it when you miss your boyfriend? [Read: 24 romantic things to do for your boyfriend]

I miss my boyfriend

You can’t be together 24/7. Not only would that be wildly unhealthy, but any couple spending that much time together would get sick of each other. You have to be able to spend time apart even when you’re in a relationship.

Sure, when you spend more than a week apart, you miss your boyfriend. That is normal. But you should be able to go a few days without him. Hopefully, you are talking and catching up throughout that time, but being able to miss him and still go on with your day is so important.

Maintaining your own life also helps make the relationship stronger. You aren’t two parts of a whole. You are two wholes that come together.

When you miss someone, chemicals release in your body that practically scream at you. These chemicals can make you feel stressed and even anxious. These are natural bodily functions and can happen even if you have the best and more trusting relationship.

So, even though being apart is good, it is difficult; there’s no denying that.

As hard as it can feel to spend time apart, knowing that it’s essential to have a long-lasting relationship can make it at least a little easier. [Read: 17 ways to know if someone misses you or not]

What to do when you miss your boyfriend

We understand that it can be difficult. You want nothing more than to talk and even see your man. That feeling doesn’t really go away until you’ve found a way to satiate it.

You may not be able to jump on a plane or even drive down the highway to see him right now, but you can get through those times. Plus, they make time together that much better.

Here are a few ways you can feel better when you miss your boyfriend. [Read: 21 ways to cheer yourself up]

1. Look at old pictures

You probably have tons of pictures of the two of you. Looking at them can make you feel a lot better about missing him.

Remembering all those times you’ve spent together can help bring them to life again, and you’ll feel as if he’s right there with you.

2. Reread old conversations

We know you’ve taken screenshots of cute things he’s said in the past – who hasn’t? Open up those screenshots and remind yourself of those cute conversations.

Better yet, open your messages and just reread everyday conversations. You’ll feel as though you’re talking to him again, and it’ll ease some of that heartache. [Read: 40 cute texts to make him smile and miss you more]

3. Send him a silly picture to look at when he can

Sometimes just reaching out and sending him something he can look at later can make you feel better.

You won’t exactly be scratching an itch to talk to him, but imagining how happy he’ll be to see your face pop up on his phone can be enough for now.

4. Let him know you’re missing him

When you miss your boyfriend, send a quick message about how much you wish you could see him. You never want to do this repeatedly, though. That could be a bit annoying for him.

But if you can, tell him you miss him, and talking to him that way can help you feel better. [Read: 25 topics to text your boyfriend about]

5. Smell some of his old cologne

If you really want to imagine that he’s right there with you, spray some of the cologne he always wears. Having that scent near you can ease some of the pain you’re feeling. However, it could also make you miss him more, so try it out to see how it works.

6. Wear his clothes

Every girlfriend has stolen at least one of her boyfriend’s sweatshirts/t-shirts. So, when you want nothing more than to see him, throw on his clothes that you “borrowed.”

Wearing our significant other’s clothes is a way of connecting with the special someone who we can’t physically see. For whatever reason, it comforts us to know that a part of them is so close to us. [Read: 18 turn-ons that’ll arouse your man instantly]

7. Watch his favorite movie

Now, you might not like the movie all that much, but you know he loves it. It can make you feel close to him, in a way. So pop it on and watch it for a while. Understand why it is he loves it so much.

8. Peruse his social media

We put so much of ourselves online nowadays. He has pictures and statuses that give you insight into his life when he posted them. So take a look at them when you miss your boyfriend.

You don’t need to stalk his every move, but looking back on things he’s posted can remind you that you’re lucky to have him, even if he isn’t right there. Think back on all the times he told you about that stuff, and you’ll miss him less.

9. Close your eyes and imagine him there

This is really the best way to make yourself feel better. Just picture him there with you. You can even do this as you go to sleep, and it might help you dream about him.

Having him with you, even in a dream, is better than being awake without him. [Read: Ways to trick your mind into dreaming about what you want]

10. Plan what you’ll do when you can talk to and see him

Instead of dwelling on how much you miss him, formulate a plan for when you do get to see him again. Come up with date ideas and all the stuff you want to talk about. It’ll help pass the time, keep you distracted, and make you feel better.

11. Write him a letter

You don’t necessarily have to send it, but it could be enjoyable to write him something. Talk about how you miss him and how you feel about him being so far away. Sometimes all you really need to do is let your feelings out to feel better. [Read: Ways to distract yourself and stop crying]

12. Work on some of your hobbies

If you feel like you’ve spent too much time dwelling on how much you miss him, then it’s time to try distraction.

Diving into something you love can help you forget that you’re missing him. It’ll pass the time until you get to talk to and see him again. Plus, you’ll have fun doing it. The more fun you have without him, the easier it is to be without him.

13. Go hang out with friends

Once again, getting distracted is the best thing to do. But being with friends is a little better than just doing something fun by yourself. You can actually talk to them.

They can actively keep you busy in conversation, so your thoughts won’t just keep wandering to your man. [Read: Ways to stop obsessing over someone]

14. Go to his favorite restaurant

You two probably always go there together. Going somewhere where he loves the food and atmosphere can help you feel better about being so far from him. In a way, it’ll bring him to you since it’s such a big thing that he loves.

15. Do something to pamper yourself

You miss him. You deserve something great because you have to go through those emotions. No matter your reasons for being apart, it’s still hard.

Treat yourself to a spa day at home and just relax. The more you enjoy yourself, the less you’ll have to miss him. [Read: Embrace and overcome loneliness]

16. Look at his favorite memes

If he loves a certain series or movie, look at memes for it. Even if you don’t get them, you know he would, which can cheer you up when you’re feeling down and miss your boyfriend.

17. Clean

This sounds boring, but cleaning can really help you feel productive. Sure, you can’t see you’re boyfriend. But saying, “I miss my boyfriend,” over and over won’t help. Instead of dwelling, get something accomplished.

18. Buy him something

Whether you are at the grocery store or shopping online, pick up something that will make him smile. It will make him eager to see you, and you’ll be so pumped to give him his gift.

It doesn’t need to be something fancy. Just get him his favorite snack or a silly mug, and it will put a smile on both of your faces. [Read: 23 gift ideas for your boyfriend]

19. Enjoy yourself

Ahem. He may not be there, but you can imagine he is. You can do this alone or with the help of a bedside friend *if you know what we mean*.

Why not pleasure yourself a bit until he can be there with you? No shame in enjoying yourself when your boyfriend can’t be there. You know he’s doing it.

20. Make him something

Make him his favorite dessert or pick up the ingredients for his favorite meal. You can make it next time you’re together. Knowing you can do something for him will feel good, and it can keep your hands busy,

[Read: How to make him miss you and call you more]

It’s never fun missing a significant other. Knowing what to do when you miss your boyfriend can help you get through that tough time until you can be with him again.