18 Ego-Boost Signs She Enjoys Having Sex & Thinks You’re Good in Bed

If you aren’t sure if the girl you just started dating is having fun in bed, look for these signs to know for sure if she enjoys having sex with you.

During sex, women are giving you constant feedback on how your sexual performance is satisfying them. But do you really know how to interpret each reaction? How do you really know the signs that she enjoys having sex with you or thinks you’re good in bed? If you do, you will be able to give your partner a mind-blowing sex-perience every single time!

Learn to understand what her body is saying to you, and you will know exactly what she likes, what she doesn’t, and how to really take things up a notch, upgrading your bedroom skills to the next level.

Is every woman the same?

While we are generally universally turned on by certain things, there are many differences in our sexual pleasures.

Some people like slow and caring sex, and some like rough, passionate sex. Some people are very sensitive and require a gentle touch, while others will be bored by this and need a heavy hand. How can you tell the difference? [Read: How to moan right and sound sexy in bed]

The subtle signs she enjoys having sex with you

From the moment things start to get heated, your partner will constantly be giving you feedback on how she feels about what you’re doing through different means.

Let’s look at each one individually, with some tips on how to pick up on what she is communicating to you. If you see these signs, big chances are she thinks you’re really good in bed!

1. What she says

This one is pretty simple and self-explanatory. Women will often tell you what they like, and will give you a little tip by saying things like, “faster,” “slower,” “a little to the left,” and “What the hell, I told you not to touch me there!”

Don’t be scared to speak up and ask her what she likes. A lot of guys feel like they should know already, but not everyone is the same, and women will prefer that you ask rather than assume and get it wrong *just don’t ask her persistently while she’s enjoying herself*.

After all, you will both have a better experience just by asking a simple question. [Read: How to satisfy a woman in bed and make sex exciting for her]

2. Involuntary noises

Moans and groans are great feedback and one of the best signs she enjoys having sex with you. Different women make different kinds of noises.

Some will scream the house down while others will whimper quietly. The former is not necessarily having a better time, it is just a difference in how they express themselves.

It is the subtlety of changes that gives you valuable feedback, like if she gets louder or the pitch changes. If the frequency increases or the sound becomes more “gasping,” then she is getting more pleasure.

Maybe she will even go silent, which you will notice along with other things like breathing and body movements. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]

3. Eyes

The eyes are the window to the soul and are extremely expressive. You can learn a lot about what is going on with someone by looking deep into their eyes. It is hard to describe, but you can sense what someone is feeling.

You will know what’s going on in her head when you look into her eyes at an intimate moment. If they roll back, you probably don’t need me to tell you that this is a good thing!

4. Body movements and contortions

Women will often wriggle around in pleasure, and sometimes even completely lose control and move involuntarily. If she is pulling you in closer or moving more aggressively with your rhythm, that is a good sign.

Increasing the speed or aggressiveness of these movements is indicative of an increase in pleasure, as is her adopting your rhythm and working to move with you. [Read: 14 amazing types of orgasms all females can experience in bed]

5. Breathing

Breathing rate is one of the easiest things to be aware of, and it’s pretty hard to misunderstand. As her pleasure increases, so does her breathing rate. Breaths will get shorter and quicker, with a more gasping nature.

6. What she is doing to you

Often she will grab at you, bite you or scratch you when she is in intense pleasure. Sometimes, she will pull you in closer – depending on your position – or guide you to go faster.

Any action of hers to physically encourage you is a green light that she is enjoying what you’re doing.

7. Her vagina

Obviously, it gets wetter, but it also becomes more sensitive, so if you are inside her, you will feel it “grip” you and then release. [Read: 21 delicate moves to finger a girl and make her squirm in your hands]

The obvious signs she’s not enjoying sex with you

Along with the positive feedback, you also have to pay close attention to the negative feedback. Here are the things she’ll be doing if she’s not enjoying herself.

1. What she says

Again, obvious. She will usually say “slow down” or otherwise give instructions on what to do, rather than saying she doesn’t like it. Simply follow what she says.

2. Pulling away

This is not always a sign she doesn’t like it. Sometimes, a woman will pull away when the pleasure or sensation is too intense, and she needs a break.

If it feels like a reflexive movement, chances are you were probably too aggressive and hurt her, or otherwise did something that caused discomfort. Take note of what causes this, and don’t do it again! [Read: 10 popular moves from porn that guys do but women hate]

3. Trying to maneuver you or herself

Sometimes, she will move one or both of you around to get a better angle or a more pleasing position.

She knows her body and where she wants you to be, so let her move you around and learn from where she puts you. You want to aim to go back to this position in your next encounter. [Read: What women want in bed but are too ashamed to ask]

4. Expressing pain

What is too gentle for some women to really get pleasure will be painful for others.

You have to judge how sensitive she is to touch, especially when it comes to things like biting and hair-pulling. Let that dictate how aggressive you should be.

5. Being too relaxed

Sex isn’t supposed to be very comfortable. If she’s not moaning and wriggling around a bit, you probably aren’t having that much of an effect on her.

Try changing your position and looking for changes in the aforementioned signals. [Read: Are you satisfying your girl in the bedroom?]

How to keep sex interesting with a girl and make her want more of you in her

Now that you know the signs that she enjoys having sex with you, let’s talk about how to keep sex interesting for her.

As time goes on, couples can get into ruts. So, you don’t want her to be bored. Here are some things you can try in the bedroom to keep things spicy.

1. New positions

It’s easy to get into a rut with the positions. Certain people like certain ones, but it’s always fun to find new ways to do it. Here are some that you can try.

Seated scissors – your girlfriend should straddle you with one between your legs and one outside of it. 

Hands behind ankles – to get a little kinky, have her lie on her stomach, and get on her knees. Have her reach back for her feet and attach handcuffs or a scarf around her wrists so they sit behind her ankles.  

Standing room only – have her adjust her leg around your waist, but, or thigh while you are standing.

Reverse cow-girl – this is when she rides you on top, but she is facing away from you.

[Read: 12 easy sex positions that look expert-level sexy and feel real good]

2. Toys

It’s always fun to bring some toys into the bedroom. Women always like vibrators, so that’s a great place to start. You can also try a cock ring, G-spot vibrator, clit-sucker, dildo, butt plug, anal beads, or even a sex swing.

Depending on how adventurous she is, there are others that can make sex even wilder. But you will want to talk to her ahead of time so that she is comfortable with what you are using. Some girls like to be surprised, but others don’t.

3. Role-playing

Role-playing can be a lot of fun too. It allows you both to become a different person other than who you are. It’s like being two actors that are acting in a movie. You can get as creative as you want when you do this. [Read: Role-playing ideas for couples – 16 naughty ideas to dress for sex]

Some role-playing scenarios you can try are:

Cop-prisoner – one of you can pretend to be a police officer and you are arresting the other one for something bad they did. Then you can “punish” them.

Teacher-student – this is a common fantasy for a lot of people who had crushes on their teachers when they were in school.

Strangers – go to a bar and sit on opposite ends of it. Then, act like strangers when one of you picks up the other one.

Sexy maid – have her buy a sexy maid outfit and go around the house cleaning with nothing underneath her costume.

Pizza delivery – pretend like you’re in a porn movie and have one of you ring the door to deliver a pizza. Role-play the conversation from there.

[Read: How to role-play in bed – role-playing sex games]

4. Sex in unusual places

Most people have sex in their beds. And sure, that’s comfortable, but it’s not that exciting or daring. So, why not try to do it somewhere that is a little bit risky?

You could try doing it in your car, outside in a field, on a beach, or even in an uncrowded movie theater. Doing this adds a lot of excitement because you risk getting caught.

5. A little S&M

Depending on how kinky you both are, you could experiment with a little S&M. If she’s willing, then that is one of the best signs that she enjoys having sex with you.

You could try handcuffs, other bondage, flogs, whips, and blindfolds. Make sure you have a safe word and take things slowly because this isn’t for everyone.

6. Food

It’s always fun to get sticky and gooey when you are having sex. You should try to do a lot of foreplay using food and licking it off each other’s bodies.

Try whipped cream, hot fudge, honey, ice cream, or anything else that you think is tasty and fun. [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell – a lover’s guide to eating well]

How to make sure your girl enjoys having sex with you

Feedback during sex is usually for slight adjustments, not wholesale changes. If you have a little bit of experience, you have a general idea, and the feedback will be more about perfecting, rather than learning.

Oftentimes, you will want to change the rhythm or pressure based on her feedback, so move slightly in one direction or another, or otherwise slightly modify what you are doing.

Every instance of positive feedback gives you encouragement to do more of what you’re doing, to revisit that position, and focus on it. Every instance of negative feedback gives you the insight to avoid that spot, to be gentler, or ask her what she likes. [Read: How to spice up the bedroom – 22 tips to set the bed on fire]

We are never more openly expressive than when we are having sex, and it is important to note that feedback is inevitably happening all of the time. It is in your best interests to learn to recognize and understand it, to make the experience better for both of you.

Being given a bit of direction or negative feedback does not mean you are not good in bed. But failing to heed the feedback and continuing on with what you’re doing despite her displeasure will indeed make her think you’re bad in bed!

Feedback is a blessing that makes your job so much easier. Remember how daunting it was the first couple of times you had sex and had to figure everything out from scratch?

[Read: 12 questions about female sexuality finally answered!]

Now you know the signs she enjoys having sex with you, and how to keep it exciting. Experience and feedback make it easier every time, and you grow to learn what each individual partner likes sexually based on the signs her body is giving you in real-time. Any guy can become really good in bed, simply by reading and following her moans and groans.