Win ‘Em Over: How to Get Your Boyfriend’s Friends to Like You

You and your boyfriend are a great team. What happens with his friends? If you’re looking for how to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you, read on!

When it’s just you and your boyfriend, you are perfect together. You communicate with each other; you have a cute routine, and genuinely care about each other’s needs. And honestly, this is a great sign of a healthy and long-lasting relationship. But naturally, it can’t always just be the two of you, so you need to know how to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you.

At some point, you’re going to have to meet his friends, and he’s going to have to meet yours. But right now, you’re not worried about your friends meeting him; you know they’ll get along. You’re worried about his friends liking you, and the feeling is understandable. His friends are people who love him, and you want to make sure that they approve of you.

Now, this probably has placed some pressure on you, even though it shouldn’t. They’re people just like you. But I understand you want to be able to feel comfortable around them, crack jokes, and fit in with his friends.

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How to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you

If you want to have a good connection with your partner’s friends, you must put some effort into it. It may take some time, but it’ll happen – trust me on that.  So, if you want to know how to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you, here’s what you’re going to have to do.

It’s time to win them over.

#1 Show up. This doesn’t mean you should show up to everything. He’ll probably want some alone time with his friends too. But you do need to make an appearance. How can they get to know you if you’re never around? Yes, it may be awkward for the first couple of meetings, but don’t avoid it. [Read: How to feel more comfortable when you’re meeting new people]

#2 Accept his friends for who they are. Within reason, of course. Listen, you may not like all his friends; personalities can clash, and that’s okay. But you need to accept his friends for who they are *unless they’re sexist, racist, or plain rude* and learn to get along with them. Try to find the qualities you like in them. [Read: How to accept your boyfriend’s friends and get them to accept you]

#3 Think of his friends as your own. If you want to break the ice and feel welcomed into their group, you need to think of his friends as your own. This will help you remove the mental barrier you have and get to know them on a personal level. Talk to them, and be yourself around them. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for successful romance] 

#4 Don’t fight in front of his friends. If your partner upsets you, don’t lash out at him in front of his friends. You can put the issue aside and wait until you get home to talk about it. Meeting his friends shouldn’t become a dramatic event; focus on getting to know them without any uncomfortable bickering scenes.

#5 You can take control of the conversation. I used to sit for hours next to my partner and not say one word because I didn’t know how to interject into the conversation. Don’t do that. If you don’t like the subject, you can always take control and either add to the conversation or change the subject. [Read: How to start a conversation with a stranger and say all the right things]

#6 You’re not going to be the center of attention. This was a hard one for me. When my boyfriend is around his friends, though he pays attention to me, he also pays attention to his friends. And this is completely understandable, but sometimes, it can make you feel left out. It’s not going to be all about you, and you need to accept that.

#7 You can bring your friends too. Not all the time, of course. It’s important his friends get to know you without any distractions as well. But, you can always bring your friends with you to help you get through the initial meeting. Having your support system will help you calm down and be your true self.

#8 Don’t focus on making a good impression. If making a good impression is the only thing you’re focused on while meeting his friends, it’s not going to do you any good. You trying to be overly polite may not be interpreted that way. Instead, try to be yourself and relax. [Read: Your complete new boyfriend guide: The dos and don’ts every girl should follow]

#9 Put your phone away. If you want his friends to like you, it won’t happen if you’re glued to your phone. Yes, our phones have become our security blankets, but step out of your comfort zone. If you want them to like you, genuinely get to know them through conversation.

#10 You don’t have to be BFFs. Listen, you don’t have to be best friends with your partner’s friends. Becoming good friends with someone doesn’t happen overnight. If you’re cordial with them and can have nice conversations when you’re together, then that’s a great achievement. [Read: What to do if your boyfriend’s friends are a bad influence]

#11 Easy on the PDA. Though you and your boyfriend are affectionate, no one wants to watch another couple make out in front of them. It just isn’t cute. Of course, you can kiss each other and show affection, but you don’t need to dry hump each other. Keep it to an appropriate level.

#12 Invite them. Yes! Why not take charge? If you live with your partner and wondering how to get your boyfriend’s friends to like you, invite his friends over for a meal or movie night. You don’t need to wait for your boyfriend to arrange something, you can take charge. The fact you reached out will not only impress them, but it’ll also show your boyfriend you care.

#13 Pay attention. That’s right. If you want to get to know his friends, you need to pay attention. When they start talking, listen. Look how they interact with each other, their jokes, and see what the relationship between everyone is really like. If you want to feel like part of the group, pay attention. [Read: Does your boyfriend have a girl best friend who’s too flirty?]

#14 Don’t be too friendly. Of course, you should be friendly and respectful to his friends. But don’t take it too far. Your friendliness can easily be taken as flirting. So, you don’t need to touch his friends overly. Oh, and spread your attention around to everyone; don’t single in on only one of his friends. [Read: 15 easy ways to be likeable and loved by all instantly!]

#15 Don’t use your partner as a way to win his friends over. Of course, you can playfully tease him if it’s with good intentions, but that shouldn’t be your tactic for the entire night. Don’t start picking at his flaws or trying to embarrass him. People don’t like the mean girlfriend.

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If you want to know how to win over your boyfriend’s friends, all you need to do is follow these tips. In no time, his friends will become your friends.