Why Are Girls So Moody? 17 Reasons & Ways to Help Her Deal with Them

Have you ever wondered, why are girls so moody? Most guys have. So, here are some reasons they are moody and what you can do about it.

Why are girls so moody? That is a loaded question probably asked by men since the beginning of time. So, you are in good company.

And before we get started, here’s a little secret. If it is due to her time of the month, do NOT ask her, blame her, or be jealous she can use it as an excuse. This will not help, even the tiniest bit. Do not be tempted. [Read: How to tell an attention seeking woman from the rest]

Are girls really so moody?

Before you go claiming that girls are so moody, make sure you’re right. Sure, girls get moody, just as guys do. But is she really moody, or are you impatient?

Men have long been taught that women are crazy, emotional, and moody. But is that really even true? Or are you just claiming that because you don’t want to deal?

Often, when a girl, completely within reason, asks a question or wants to have a serious talk, guys think her moody or irrational. When, in fact, it is you being irrational, immature, and ahem, moody.

So before wondering why your girl or any girl is so moody, take a second to look at the situation and determine who is really the moody one here. [Read: Don’t fall for these typical girl stereotypes]

What causes bad moods and why are girls so moody?

Okay, now if you actually established she is being moody and you’re not just being unreasonable, why are girls so moody? There are a plethora of reasons, but what are the likely culprits? And what can you do about them?

1. She is on her period

Yes, hormones play a large role in girls being moody or emotional. It is science. Therefore, it is not our fault. We cannot control it. Even when we know that’s what it is, we can’t really do anything about it.

So if your girl cries at an allergy medicine commercial, gets super mad that you burnt some toast, or withdraws, just let her be. If she asks for something give it to her, but there really is nothing you can do but be there for her. [Read: 20 things you should never ever say to girls on their period]

You might know her moods. If she is upset, cuddle her and make her tea. If she is mad, give her space, and if she withdraws, don’t push her to talk. 

You have never gotten a period, so you have no right to comment. And even if your ex or your sister or your best friend’s cousin was never moody, dealt with cramps, or was extra tired, it does not matter. All women are different. So let her dwell however she chooses. [Read: 23 things girls wish guys knew about a girl’s mind]

2. She is having a bad day

This shouldn’t be too shocking. Men have bad days and get moody too. We all handle rough days in different ways. Maybe you go to the bar and have a beer or play violent video games. 

She might be annoyed at everything you say and do. Try not to take it personally. We all take things out on the wrong people and point our anger at the incorrect target. 

In this situation, ask her what’s wrong. Don’t try to fix it, tell her it is fine, or tell her she is making big deal out of nothing. Just listen. Tell her it sucks and you’re there. That is all she wants. [Read: 20 happy ways to cheer up your girlfriend when she’s sad and down]

3. She is stressed

If your girl has been moody pretty often lately, she is likely super stressed. That can be due to work, family, or even something like a remodel or planning a wedding. 

The last thing you want to do here is to tell her to relax. Nothing is ever that simple. If you do want to give her some time off and you know what is stressing her out, take care of it. Don’t just buy her a gift certificate to the spa and say peace.

Have what she needs covered. If her mom needs help with a project, volunteer. Don’t change what she is doing or make her feel bad for being busy, just offer to take a little off her plate. [Read: 15 thoughtful ways to comfort a girl and do it right]

4. She isn’t sleeping well

There can be a whole lot of reasons someone isn’t sleeping well. A lot of people suffer from severe insomnia. And that can definitely lead to someone being moody.

The last thing you should do in this case is tell her to go to sleep. If she is up late working, don’t say, you should get some rest. She knows that. Sleep is just not so simple for some people.

However, offer to make her some chamomile tea or play soothing sounds or even buy her a new pillow. All of this can be very thoughtful but read her response. If she is annoyed and fed up with trying sleeping aids and you show her you’re annoyed, it only makes her feel guilty for something she has no control over.

Just try to be patient with her moods if it is due to bad sleep. Trust me, she is suffering more than you are. [Read: 18 effortless ways to help someone who’s feeling down]

5. She is just feeling down

All guys and girls have off days. Something just isn’t right, and we really don’t have a reason for it. Maybe she had a weird dream or woke up on the wrong side of the bed.

For a lot of people, whenever the sun doesn’t come out all day, they just feel off. On those days, just give her a hug. You don’t have to go out of your way and be super doting.

If you want to help your girl when she’s feeling moody, just offer to watch her favorite movie, pick up her favorite takeout, and cuddle up on the sofa. Those are the days when she just needs a few home comforts to perk her up.

6. You

Although the world does not revolve around you, sometimes, in fact, we are moody because of you. You could have done something wrong, lied, or done something that annoyed her. Most women will tell you what’s wrong, you apologize, and moving on can commence.

But sometimes, even after that, we fester in the annoyance or anger a little longer than necessary. We might hold a bit of a grudge. We can even be a little passive-aggressive. Those situations give them time to cool off. [Read: How to deal with passive-aggressive people without losing your mind]

Depending on the severity of the faux pas, we will get over it in time. Probably not if it was something like cheating. But if you broke a vase or ate the last of the salt and vinegar chips, time and humor cure most minor hiccups. 

7. Women are not perfect

Sometimes men expect us to be perfect, prim, and proper. We get a bad rep for being emotional, so many of us try our damnedest to remain calm and cool. But when we do that and not let you know we’re upset or feeling moody, you get excited and think we are “not like other girls.”

And just because we can be cool and forgiving and put up with some dumb stuff, it doesn’t mean we are perfect. Being annoyed, moody, or emotional mostly just means we care and are in fact human.

We are all guilty of overreacting sometimes. It is bound to happen from time to time. We just ask that you put up with it the same way we put up with dirty socks, fantasy football, and your moodiness.

No woman can be agreeable all of the time, and you shouldn’t expect her to. Just as you have your reasons for being mad or distant or upset, so do we. [Read: Crazy women – 15 signs that your girlfriend is insane!]

8. She’s not eating well

The quality of food that someone is eating affects not only their physical health but also it affects their mental well-being. If someone doesn’t eat enough fruits and vegetables a day, they can feel less happy, nervous, or just feeling depressed.

9. She’s dehydrated

Dehydration is very serious, even though it doesn’t seem like it should be. Even if you’re just a little bit hydrated, it can make you feel fatigued, lose focus, and have a bad mood.

If you’re familiar with how some people feel “hangry” when they are hungry, being dehydrated can also make someone feel “off” and grumpy.

10. She works too hard

Whether she is working a lot of hours at her job or career or just has her hands full with kids or chores around the home, she is probably working too hard.

She might be resentful of that too, if you don’t pull your weight and help her out. Relationships are a two-way street, so if she’s working too hard, then she’s probably moody too. [Read: How to reduce stress – 17 fastest hacks to a calmer and happier life]

11. She spends too much time on social media

The longer people spend on social media, the worse their moods can get. One of the reasons for this is that a lot of women compare themselves to other people.

And if your girl feels inadequate, that will make her moody and irritable. Another reason is that using social media can feel like a waste of time. And if you don’t feel like something you’re doing is meaningful, it can put a person in a bad mood.

12. She hasn’t had any fun lately

Laughing and playing can really help the stress hormone levels in a person. Even if she hasn’t smiled in a while, that can affect someone’s mood. As the saying goes, “All work and no play makes you a grumpy person!” 

How to deal with a moody girlfriend

Now that you know why your girlfriend gets moody, how in the world do you deal with her better? Do you just have to grin and bear it, or can you do something about it? Here are some suggestions. [Read: Is relationship stress getting to you? Learn to fix it or walk out]

1. Go with the flow

Instead of resisting her moodiness, you can just go with the flow and try to block it out. Her mood might be affecting your mood, and so that’s why you try to change hers. But you really can’t resist it. So, it’s better just to relax and realize that her bad mood won’t last forever.

2. Accept that neither you nor her can control it

As we just said, you can’t control her moods. You can’t snap your fingers or bring out a magic wand to turn her into a happier person at the moment.

So, just accept it. That’s how she is and you can’t change her or control her. And in fact, she probably can’t control her moods or change them either.

3. Empathize with her feelings

Sometimes, all girls want is to be heard. They like to vent about something because it makes her feel better. You might not understand it, and you might even think what bothers her is stupid.

But you have to empathize with her – or at least pretend that you do. It’ll make your girl feel better, and maybe she’ll be less moody in the future if you do this enough. [Read: How to show empathy and learn to understand someone else’s feelings]

4. Don’t take it personally

It may seem like her moods are directly related to you. While that could be the case, many times, it has nothing to do with you. It feels like you are the target of her moods because you are the one there when she is moody. But try not to take it personally. It’s probably not about you most of the time.

5. Set boundaries

Just because she is moody doesn’t give her the right to roll right over you with her feelings. So, you need to set boundaries. If she is in a bad mood and taking it out on you, tell her to stop. And if she won’t stop, then walk away until she can cool down and be rational again.

[Read: Are you dating a highly sensitive person? 20 things you can’t ignore]

Next time you wonder, why are girls so moody, maybe instead, consider how you can make them feel better. It’s not always an easy thing for guys to do, but you can help her be happier. And that will make you happier too!