Tinder Threesome: A Couples Guide to Swiping Right to a Threesome

You and your partner want to spice up your relationship with a threesome. So, you downloaded Tinder. Here’s how to have a great Tinder threesome.

Everyone has dipped their toes into the online dating world, seeing what’s out there. But many people use online dating to help them find a third person for a Tinder threesome.

And to be honest, it’s a great way to find people. I mean, getting a third person for a threesome going to a bar or club isn’t an easy achievement. On Tinder, you can form a profile that shows exactly what you want and attract like-minded people.

In other words, it certainly makes the hunt a little easier for you. But that doesn’t mean a Tinder threesome is going to be a smooth ride.

[Read: 20 things you need to know before entering a threesome]

13 naughty tips for a successful Tinder threesome

If you and your partner are considering a Tinder threesome, great! But before you jump into bed with a third someone, it’s important to know a couple of things about them and learn how to find the best match for you. If this is your first time in a threesome, you want the experience to be a good one, and not one that will traumatize and scar your relationship.

So, if a threesome is something you both want, I’m going to tell you how to find and have a Tinder threesome.

#1 What do you want? Before you and your partner start searching for the third person on Tinder, reflect and decide if this is something you really want? Do you really want to have a threesome? Or is this something you feel pressured to do? Whatever the answer, it’s important to stay true to yourself before talking to your partner. [Read: Boundaries in dating – how far is too far for you?]

#2 Talk to your partner beforehand. Okay, you know what you want, but now it’s time to talk to your partner. You both need to be on the same page and decide this is right for your relationship. Don’t do this because you’re scared of breaking up with them, or because you always wanted to have sex with that third person. 

#3 It may take several conversations before anything happens. Here’s the thing, though you may want to have a threesome, your partner may not be fully on board. One conversation about having a threesome won’t cut it. It may take several conversations until you and your partner are on the same page and come up with the ground rules. [Read: The top 10 taboo sex topics we love but avoid talking about]

#4 Swipe together. Finding a Tinder threesome cannot be left in the hands of one person. Have fun with the hunt for a third. Swipe through profiles together. That way, you both pick a person that is attractive to both of you, and it makes the experience more interesting and fun.

#5 Make it obvious on Tinder that you’re a couple. Don’t avoid the inevitable. You are looking for a Tinder threesome, so make it clear on your profile that you’re a couple. That way, you match with people who know exactly what you’re looking for. Don’t waste your time on people who aren’t interested. [Read: 12 Tinder bio tweaks that’ll bring you more dates in no time]

#6 Create an accurate bio. People really do read dating profiles. So, it’s important that you write one that’s accurate and states what you’re looking for as a couple. The profile can have a couple of witty jokes to lighten the mood, but it should give a clear impression of what you two want.

#7 Be upfront and honest. On your Tinder profile, it’s crucial that it’s honest. More importantly, when you’re chatting on Tinder with a potential third partner, be honest and open about what you and your partner are looking for. Honesty really is the best policy. [Read: The threesome invite: How to ask someone to join you in bed]

#8 Meet your third for a drink. If you want to have a successful threesome, you should go out for a drink with your Tinder threesome. You don’t know them. You should make sure there’s a good click between everyone. Ask them out for drinks, make sure your partner is there, and just talk.

#9 Never be pushy. When you meet your third, you’re testing the waters and seeing the chemistry between everyone. This is a smart idea. But what you cannot do is be pushy. If your third isn’t comfortable with what you want or doesn’t feel a good connection, never push them into something they don’t want to do. [Read: How to find a naughty threesome unicorn and set the right rules]

#10 Set up the ground rules altogether. Decide with your partner before talking to anyone, what you will and won’t do. Once you have decided on what you both want, then talk about it with the third person. They’ll have things they won’t do, and you’ll need to respect their needs. If their rules don’t suit you, then find someone else to have a threesome with.

#11 Communication during sex. During the threesome, communicate with your partner and the third person. When there’s an extra person added into the mix, it’s important to make sure everyone is enjoying themselves, and that they feel comfortable with what’s happening.

#12 Don’t get wasted. If you must get wasted to have this threesome, then you shouldn’t be having it. There’s nothing wrong with having a drink or two, but if you feel you need to be drunk to have this threesome, consider whether this is a good decision for you or not. [Read: Why drunken sex is never a good idea]

#13 Talk about the threesome after. You had the threesome, and it went well… for you. But there were two other people involved. Always check-in with your partner and see how it went for them. Ask what they liked, what they didn’t like, and if this third person was a good match. Check-in with the third person as well to make sure they’re okay.

[Read: How to have a three way with 13 rules to make your threesome work]

Now you know how to have a Tinder threesome. Go through the process together, and decide if it’s the best thing for you both. If it is, then follow the steps!