The Most Obvious Signs He’s Interested in You After the First Date

You think your first date went well. But you’re not sure how he feels. It’s time to learn the signs he’s interested in you after the first date.

The beauty of the first date is that no one knows what’s going to happen! But there’s one thing about first dates—the ending is usually hard to read. It’s the start of a chess game, and you’re waiting to see who’s going to make the first move. These signs he’s interested in you after the first date will give you an edge in the game.

The first date is over… what next?

Ah, the first date. It’s always the most exciting one. You don’t know each other, yet there’s some curiosity happening between you. It’s an exciting thing to do with someone. You don’t really know what’s going to happen. Maybe this will be the last time you see each other, or maybe this one date will snowball into a long-term relationship.

[Read: Strong feelings after a first date? Here’s how to recognize all the right signs]

When I was dating, moments after the first date looked like this: me texting or calling all of my closest friends, describing everything, analyzing every single glance, twitch, and word—contemplating whether or not I would get a phone call. Yes, I was a little… uh… obsessive.

The 11 most promising signs he’s interested in you after the first date

But before you call all your girlfriends, look at the signs he’s interested in your after the first date, then, chill out. Overanalyzing the entire date won’t get him to call, but it will help you lose your mind. So, let’s get started, is he interested in a second date?

#1 He says he wants to see you again. Listen, if he says he would like to see you again at the end of the date, the odds are that he would like to see you again. Now, some guys just say it to be polite. But, if someone doesn’t want to see you, they probably won’t suggest seeing you. [Read: How to read the signs he’s not interested after the first date]

#2 You finished the date. I know this sounds like I set the bar low, but hear me out. Many guys will cut the date short and simply make an excuse to end the date early. They’ll give you an hour of their time, and that’s it. But if your date doesn’t have an emergency text, well, it’s a decent sign they’re enjoying the date.

#3 They extended the date. You agreed on meeting up for a couple of hours, but it seems like things are going so well; he wants to know if you have more time to spend with him. This is a great sign! No one will waste their time with someone they’re not interested in. He had an out, but he chose to spend more time with you. [Read: How to flirt after the first date and create the right kind of sparks]

#4 He sends you a text after the date. Now, if he doesn’t text you right away, it doesn’t mean he’s not interested. But if he does send you an “I had a great time” text, it shows he’s interested in seeing you again. If he wasn’t into you, he would do everything to make it clear he doesn’t want a second date.

#5 You made second date plans during the first date. Well, that’s a good sign! He’s already brought up other ideas or places you should together… during the first date. If the date went that well, then why are you reading this? If he’s planning another date on your first date, things are looking good.

#6 He texts you within a couple of days.  Not all men will text you right away, even if they’re interested. If he contacts you within a couple of days after your date, he at least wants to keep the conversation going. So, keep talking and see what happens. [Read: How to text after a first date and make them fall for you even harder]

#7 You feel the chemistry. You’re the only person, aside from him, who knows how the date is going. You can tell when the date is going bad, and you can tell when it’s going well. Of course, a good date doesn’t mean anything will come out of it. But at least it shows you he didn’t have a bad time. [Read: 20 very strong signs of attraction in the first conversation]

#8 He was flirtatious during the date. Again, many people are flirtatious without actually wanting to do anything more than just flirt. But let’s not assume the latter. If you noticed some of the other signs on your list, plus this one, he enjoyed your company and smitten by you.

#9 He’s consistent. When it comes to relationships, consistency is key. If someone isn’t consistent with their actions, it’s a clear sign someone isn’t really that into you. However, if someone likes you, they’re going to show consistent behavior. If he calls or texts you when he says he will or asks you out consistently week after week, it’s a good sign. 

#10 You feel it. You know when someone is interested in you; you can feel it. Now, you’re probably nervous because you’re into him, and it’s clouding your judgment. So, chill out! Take a deep breath and listen to your gut instinct. What is it telling you? If you feel he’s into you, then you’re probably right. Just relax, and the truth will unfold. [Read: The tried and true methods for how to follow your gut instinct]

#11 He wants more one-on-one dates. Maybe you went on a double date the first couple of times, which were fun, but now he wants to get to know you more one-on-one. If so, this is a great sign he’s interested. He’s not trying to bring more people around you; instead, he does the opposite.

[Read: The 13 signs of a good first date to calm your nerves and get you excited]

If you notice these signs he’s interested in you after the first date, then you’ll probably have a second one with this guy. And if not, no worries! There are plenty of fish in the sea.