Spooning Sex: How to Make it Hotter Than Any Other Position

Being as close a possible to your partner is as hot as hell. That’s why spooning sex is one of the best positions out there. Learn how to do it better!

When it comes to sex, we all have certain positions we like more than others. Much of the time, those positions depend on our mood, how it feels with that specific partner, and what’s the hottest to us. If spooning sex isn’t on your list of go-tos, it needs to be.

Many couples completely forget about this position during sex. It’s not one that’s typically considered “sexy.” However, when done correctly, it can be hotter and feel better than any other position.

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Why mixing up your positions is a must

I know you have your regular positions that you like the most. While it can be easy to just hop into one position you know you like, it’s also very limiting. Not to mention it will get very boring very quickly.

The thing about sticking with one position is that you’ll get used to it. Your body will become accustomed to that type of pleasure and ultimately, it’ll stop working to get you off. That’s why you need to switch it up. Try new positions that might feel even better than your usual. [Read: 13 extraordinary sex positions to try tonight]

You don’t necessarily need to read the Kama Sutra to learn about these things, you can just experiment and go with what feels good for both of you. No need to bend in ways that nature never intended if you don’t want to!

What is the spooning sex position?

Are you the big spoon or the little spoon? Either way, spooning sex is a very intimate and extremely close position that allows you to explore your bodies freely whilst getting on with the action.

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To create this position, one person *if it’s a man and woman, then this will be the woman* lays in front, on their side, with their legs slightly bent at a right angle and the other person lays behind them, fitting snugly into the same position. You’re touching from the chest all the way down to your feet and every single movement feels like delicious friction.

The big spoon *the person behind* can reach their hands around and touch their partner wherever they want to be touched, and the little spoon *the one in front* can reach back and grab their partner’s butt! You can move slowly or quickly, however feels good to you. [Read: Sex positions for beginners: 7 moves to instantly feel like a pro]

You can see from that description how spooning sex is intimate and close, because you’re literally attached in every sense of the word. You’re cuddling whilst having sex, or if you don’t want to make it quite that close, you can just let your hands roam. Either way, it’s as hot as hell.

The types of penis and spooning sex

While everyone who indulges in spooning sex will sing its praises, there’s one kind of penis that isn’t really a great fit for spooning sex – the penis that is hung downwards, or curves downwards. [Read: The perfect cock – A woman’s opinion on what kind of dick feels the best inside a girl]

If the male in the relationship has a penis that curves downwards, chances are, his penis will easily slip out every time you try to spoon each other and have sex. You can easily fix this though, if the bigger spoon *the man* lies behind the woman attached at the butt, but while leaving a lot of space between your shoulders and his, so he’s lying at an angle behind the woman, instead of snuggling the little spoon.

On the other hand, if the man’s penis curves upwards, prepare yourself for a wild, cozy and sexy time because this position would work perfectly for both of you. [Read: The 13 types of penises that women love… or laugh at]

Read on to know why spooning sex feels so good, intimate and romantic all at the same time!

Why does spooning sex feel the best?

Having sex in this position is typically known as very intimate and cuddly. While it’s definitely both of those things, it can also be extremely erotic too. If you’re looking to feel the ultimate pleasure, here’s why spooning sex feels the best.

1. Spooning sex is intimate

Need we say more? Intimate sex can be some of the best you ever have. When you add such a level of emotion and closeness to an already intimate act, it makes it even better. All of those sensations melt together and leave you with bliss. [Read: 10 intimate sex positions to feel the romance]

2. You can feel their whole body against you

You’re not only getting the feeling of having sex, but the skin-on-skin contact involved with spooning sex is unmatched. You feel their entire body pressed up against you and that sensation and warmth makes it all the more better.

3. It’s perfect for neck and ear kisses

If you’re a woman or have a woman who is especially sensitive in the ears and neck region, this position is perfect. The man has direct access to stimulate those erogenous zones in just the perfect way.

4. It hits the G-spot the best

If you want to really hammer on the g-spot, spooning sex is the way to do it. When the man penetrates this way, it’s hitting the g-spot directly. You won’t have to contort your body in order to feel it in that spot. [Read: How to hit her g-spot and make her squirm]

5. It takes minimal effort

Lazy sex that also feels incredible is basically the best. Imagine waking up very tired, but in the mood for some sex. This position requires minimal effort from either of you. You can just lay there and feel the pleasure without exerting a ton of energy.

6. It’s great for all sizes

Whether your man is big or small, this position will work in their favor. Since spooning sex does such a great job of targeting the g-spot directly, even smaller men have success at hitting it with spooning sex. [Read: The best sex positions for men with smaller penises]

7. The man gets a handful

Of your hair, of your body, of those boobs! The access the man has to your body is insane with spooning sex. They can move their hands all over your body – including the very important clit. Not only does this turn them on by getting to feel every inch of the woman, it’ll also feel great for the woman.

How to do spooning sex the right way

You could argue that there is no right and wrong way to do any position, provided it feels good and nobody ends up accidentally injured! However, these tips will help you to do the spooning sex position in a way that feels out of this world.

1. Obviously, foreplay comes first

Never skip this. Ever. Even though this is a pretty lazy, relaxed position, foreplay does wonders. Once both partners are all stimulated and ready to go, it’ll help make hitting that g-spot even sweeter. [Read: 10 foreplay moves all guys need to use on their ladies]

2. Get warmed up in other favorite positions first

If you want to really make the most out of spooning sex, use it as an end position. Get your usual sex positions done before settling into this one. It’ll help get you both right on the edge of orgasming so spooning can be the big finish.

3. Use your hands

For the love of all that is good in the world, use your hands! Both people have so much they can do with their hands in this position to make it even better. The man can grab all over the woman’s body.

And ladies, reach behind you, pull him in closer, grab his hair from behind you and make him kiss your neck. It’ll make this position so much sexier. [Read: Magic fingers – the sexual art of using your fingers]

4. Kiss exposed areas

Like we mentioned above, there is a lot of access to kissable areas when you have spooning sex. So put your lips to work and make sure those areas get some attention. Kissing the back of your woman’s neck or her ears can really push her over the edge.

5. Grab at what should be grabbed

Hello, access to those boobs! And the clit! And literally any other part of her body you want to have your hands on. Come on, grab away!

The feeling of being grabbed and taken possession of can be extremely erotic and sexy. Make sure to do this when having spooning sex. [Read: Nipple play: How to pleasure a girl by focusing on her breasts]

6. Experiment with different sub-positions within spooning sex

You can actually do a few things here. Firstly, there’s the regular spooning on your side with your bodies pressed together. But the women can also lean forward and create a sort of sideways doggy style. They can also just arch their back in order to tilt their pelvis in just the right position for g-spot stimulation. [Read: 20 new things to try in bed with your lover]

7. Change up the tempo

In order to make spooning sex even better, change the speeds every now and then. Don’t just go very slow but don’t stick to a fast-paced bang session, either.

When you switch up the speed of sex, it can change the sensations.

Obviously, fast and hard penetration can get both of you off, but moving slowly and deeply can help both of you build an even stronger orgasm.

8. Make it romantic, rough, or wild

The great thing about spooning sex is that there’s not just one single position related to it. Yes, the man will be behind and the woman will be in front while you’re both on your sides, however, you can adjust from there. [Read: Best places to have sex: 41 wild and naughty ideas beyond the bed]

In order to make it a little more wild, the woman can bend forward at her waist so it’s really like a lying doggy-style. This allows the man to add some speed, depth, and rough handling. Or you can stick to the mainstream spoon position and really feel each other.

9. Ask if it feels good

Ask your partner if it feels good and be honest! If something is a little squished or you’re not quite comfortable, say so.

Communication is key to great sex, whether you’re spooning or doing something else entirely. Of course, asking your partner if they’re loving what you’re doing is also pretty hot and opens up the doors to a little sexy talk too!

Whispering a few hot words into your lover’s ear could tip them right over the edge. [Read: How to talk dirty and turn your lover on like no one else can]

10. Use lube

Use lube for a little extra slick and slide. Lube makes everything feel better, even if you’re wet enough already. Make sure you’re using water-based lubes with condoms to make sure that you don’t accidentally weaken the latex and give yourself a problem that you really don’t want to deal with.

11. Get jiggy with your hips!

Pretend you’re Shakira and start wiggling those hips. It feels good whether you’re the big spoon or the small one and it will add even more friction to an already very close and intimate position.

If you’re using lube, moving your hips a little more will feel even better too. [Read: 10 different sex positions to spice it up and add a bang in bed]

12. Play around with leg positions

You don’t have to keep your legs down and mostly closed if you don’t want to, lift one up towards the ceiling, or pull your partner’s knee back towards you when they’re in front, so you can play with their clit. Every time you move your legs, it changes the sensation, so play around and see what feels good!

13. Throw in some eye contact

You might wonder how you’re supposed to gaze into each other’s eyes when you’re back to chest, but the one in front can easily twist their head around a little and look at their partner occasionally. This doesn’t need to be a full-on staring contest, but a quick glance can be pretty hot when you’re close to climax.

[Read: 11 must-know tips to make spooning in bed way more intimate]

If you’re not having spooning sex regularly, now you know why you should be. In order to make the most of this sexy romp, remember these tips the next time you’re spooning in bed!