Sexual Bucket List: 35 Dirty Deeds to Build Your Naughty Wishlist

Most people have a bucket list, but what about a sexual bucket list? If you don’t have one, it’s time to draw one up. Expand your sexual horizons!

Do you have a sexual bucket list? If not, why not?

Life is fleeting. Things happen so fast—and before you know it, the moment is gone. In all this chaos and madness, we can find ourselves letting go of things that we wanted to do and things we wanted to experience. Will you be able to go forward through life with all your shoulda-woulda-couldas following you around?

This is obviously where a bucket list comes in. But are bucket lists really enough for all the adventures you want to experience in your lifetime?

What about the things you want to experience in bed; those raunchy, naughty, fun things that can make you say that yes, you have had a rockin’ good sex life?

Here, we give you a low down on some of the fun and sexy things that you have to try at least once in your lifetime. Then, if you don’t have a sexual bucket list already, you’ll be able to start drawing up your own.

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Create your own sexual bucket list with these fun and sexy experiences

Drawing up a sexual bucket list doesn’t mean that you have to start ticking them off every single day. There’s no rush, and you should always make sure that you fully experience one thing before moving on to the next.

Of course, you also need to make sure that your partner is down for whatever you’re suggesting too.

But, if you’re keen to start expanding your sexual horizons, these are a few fun and totally sexy entries you might want to add to your sexual bucket list. [Read: 30 super sexy ways to spice up your sex life instantly]

1. Looking totally scandalous

Wear something you know you shouldn’t be caught dead in – the sexiest, raunchiest lingerie you can find.

To give you a head start, try the classic combo of a cupless lacy bra and peekaboo crotchless panties—or even try those fancy nipple stickers with your sluttiest high heels.

2. Play by yourself

If you haven’t tried out an adult toy on yourself, then you’re missing out on all the fun.

Masturbating with sex toys allows you to not only up the ante while you’re going solo, but also to explore your sexuality even more. But remember: Play nice! [Read: 14 clever and convenient things around the house to masturbate with]

3. Bring a toy for company

If you and your partner are used to having just the two of you do the tango, why not add some toys to spice up your sex life—even just once?

If you’re feeling not-so-frisky about the idea, try some lubes first, or have your partner watch you play with your vibrator.

Even if you’re just playing by yourself, seeing you enjoy and gyrate is enough to give your man all the pleasure too. [Read: The 15 most common types of sex toys and couples and singles MUST know about]

4. Porn it up

Just as your fantasies don’t have to just involve you, watching XXX-rated adult films can be an enjoyable couples thing. Make it even more titillating by watching porn together while naked.

This can be a great way to turn the heat up and have you both express how you like to be stimulated in bed. If not, then you can just simply laugh at the ridiculous scripted moves and predictable storyline. [Read: 29 movies with a lot of sex that will definitely get both of you horny and in the mood]

5. Dabble in BDSM

Instead of welcoming home your partner with a whip and taking him or her to a bed tied with lace cuffs, start your adventure into BDSM very early in the day.

Be treated by your partner *or vice versa* as if you are royalty with back massages and foot rubs, leading on to bondage or a little whipping if the mood feels right.

6. Spanking

If more hardcore BDSM is not your cup of tea, then at least try to bring some spanking into your sexual repertoire.

After all, many forms of rope playing involve spanking and power play. You don’t need to have any equipment, but be sure to do it right and aim for the plump, full parts of your partner’s behind. [Read: BDSM guide, tips and tricks for first-timers]

7. Sink your teeth into it

As weird as it sounds, another fun yet kinky way to express how you appreciate your partner’s body part is by biting it.

You may have always had an urge to wrap your mouth around that wonderful ass anyway. Whatever you do, though, don’t take a chunk out of your partner—keep it sexy yet playful.

8. Mutual masturbation

Masturbate together—better yet, do it to each other. There’s nothing as intimate as watching your partner go solo.

If you’re truly comfortable together, you’ll love to do it to each other and even climax from it, if you can stop yourself from getting too involved! [Read: Mutual masturbation – 14 intimate ways to connect without touching]

9. Getting sexy in a public space

We all have the fantasy of getting caught playing where we shouldn’t. So why not add a little spice to your sex life by taking it outside?

Try the park at dawn, the library at noon, the rooftop of your building, or any other public space. It may be taboo, but that’s what makes it all the more exciting. Just be sure you won’t really be caught! 10 naughty sex games for couples to feel really horny instantly]

10. Food foreplay

Bringing food in your list of sexual experiments can be tricky, but when done right, it is very fun and memorable.

Use fruits such as strawberries, grapes, cherries or bananas. You can even add syrups such as honey or chocolate. Oh, and don’t forget the whipped cream! [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell – A lover’s guide to getting aroused with food]

11. A day at the beach

There’s nothing like salt, sea, and sand to bring you right to paradise. Take your partner to heavenly bliss by having sex on the beach.

Start with a picnic under some palm trees, bathe in the turquoise waters, and then slowly undress each other as you roll out your blanket on the powdery white sand and let nature be your audience.

Of course, you could also get down and dirty in the sea! This is one very popular entry on many a sexual bucket list.

12. Shave it

Shaving each other can make you see your favorite body parts of your partner in a whole new light and even give you a deeper appreciation of each other.

Shaving requires a lot of trust and you must also be comfortable enough with each other, especially if you are going to snip off those growing hairs in each other’s private parts. It’s a fun and sexy test of your relationship. [Read: Trim, shave or natural – The best looking bushes!]

13. Role play

Role play is always fun. With the right props, back story, and build up of anticipation, role play makes it possible for you to have sex with different kinds of people but still be with your partner. Get it, get it? Good.

14. Sexual scavenger hunt

It’s always fun to play games and solve puzzles. Think up a sensual scavenger hunt to tease and tantalize your partner.

Have him or her wake up to clues scattered all over your place, and even extend the search to his or her office and have him or her running around for the ultimate prize – you. [Read: Really fun sex games to play with your boyfriend in and out of bed]

15. Luxury love boat

It’s always a good idea to splurge—wisely—at least once in your life. If you can afford it, go to a luxury destination such as a private island or a five-star luxury hotel.

Better yet, go on a cruise around the Caribbean—and if you don’t have a lover on the trip with you, why not open yourself up to meeting a billionaire along the way?

16. Bathe together

Draw a warm bath and take out those aromatic oils to make the experience even more sensual. Then, lead your special someone to the bathtub as you both undress—and don’t forget the flower petals and tea light candles.

Lather each other up and pretend you’re Julia Roberts and Richard Gere in Pretty Woman. Who knows where it might lead?

17. Bring back the art of letter writing

Letter writing is indeed a lost art. So why not brush up on your handwriting and get some special stationery to pen something erotic to your partner?

If you’re good at drawing, you can even give your partner an illustrated preview of what you will do to each other that night. [Read: Top 50 dirty, kinky ideas that are worth trying at least once]

18. Create your own sex tape

There’s something terrifyingly hot about watching yourself have sex. We know that you want to know what you look like when you’re getting downright dirty.

Why not make a video of yourself and your partner and add it to your sexual bucket list? Just make sure to delete it. Don’t make copies. [Read: How to spice up your sex life in 30 sexy ways]

19. A threesome

This is on almost everyone’s sexual wish list, whether they admit or not. It’s on many people’s sexual wish list. This is such a common fantasy, so why not make it come to life?

There’s something thrilling about having sex with two other people. In fact, there are so many possible combinations, but still, trying one of them is a dream coming true. [Read: The threesome invite – How to make the amazing happen]

20. Dominate

Almost everyone wants to experience having their partner in a position where, well, they have no control. Whips, handcuffs – they need to be in a place where they give themselves to you.

They obey your every wish while you’re playing dominatrix. It’s fun, and your partner will get the opportunity to see your wild imagination.

21. Sex with a stranger

Although the rational thought of having sex with someone you really don’t know can be terrifying, people are actually really turned on by anonymity.

Now, to try this fantasy and add it to your sexual bucket list, you don’t need to grab someone off of the street. You can have fun by having you and your partner dress up as someone else – gets wigs, different clothes, different personalities.

Meet at a bar and then, well, go home with this “stranger.” But remember to stay in character. [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]

22. Experiment with anal

Lots of people love anal sex. Don’t get discouraged by your one friend who told you it sucks and not to put it on your sexual wish list. It doesn’t – they just didn’t know what they were doing.

Anal sex is a fantasy for many people, but, like your friend, they don’t know how to do it. So, read up on it the first time. But after that, go wild. [Read: Painful anal sex? 31 happy bum tips to make anal feel smooth and easy]

23. Boss/employee sex

You may not want to hear this, but a lot of people have sexual fantasies of sleeping with their co-workers. Hopefully, your partner is self-employed. But if not, you can always dress up in your work clothes and recreate the scene.

Having sex with your boss is a power move, and we know your partner has no problem acting out that character. [Read: Tips to keep in mind when you date your boss]

24. Join the Mile High Club

It’s time you joined that exclusive club! If you’ve already crossed off public and outdoor sex from your list, congratulations. So, why not get this one into your sexual bucket list and out of the way?

Having sex in an airplane is, well, exhilarating. The thrill of being caught in the bathroom is so intense because you really have nowhere to run to other than your seat. And plus, who wouldn’t want to try having sex thousands of feet up in the sky?

25. Lights, camera, action!

Is there a scene from a movie that really turns you on? Maybe the clay wheel scene from Ghost? If that made you sweat, which it probably did, why not act it out with your partner? Dress up as the characters, and just act out the scene.

To be honest, you probably won’t even make it through the scene – it’s amazing how quickly you get aroused from it. [Read: Hot sex ideas to blow your lover’s mind in bed]

26. Group sex

This may not be on everyone’s list, and fair enough. There’s a lot going on in group sex, but if you’re into threesomes… why not add in an extra person?

This is a great opportunity to be able to explore your sexuality in a safe place. [Read: Types of wild sex parties you can have at home]

27. Uniforms

Many people like police officers and firemen for a reason. Helloooo… they look so hot in their uniforms. Get your partner wearing a uniform and the minute they walk in the door, it’s off.

This is a huge fantasy for many as there’s just something about a uniform that makes our pelvises jerk.

28. Off to the strip club

Believe it or not, many women like going to a strip club with their men. Your partner is getting aroused by the stripper, but he can’t touch. But, who can he touch? You.

It’s that safe space if you’re not comfortable with a threesome. Plus, you guys can both get lap dances, which is a pretty sexy sexual bucket list item if you ask us! [Read: The girl’s guide to strip clubs and female strippers]

29. Become the stripper yourself

If you’re not keen on the idea of going to a strip club, why not turn yourself into a stripper instead?

Dress in your sexiest outfit, put on some music that gets you in the mood, and start moving your body to the beat. Your partner will be salivating long before the last item of clothing hits the ground.

30. The no touch lapdance

Lap dances are a powerful tool and they’re super exhilarating. Grinding up against your partner while they’re unable to touch you is such a trip.

Sit them down on a chair and tie their hands behind their back. Then off you go – lap dance up a storm and watch them struggle against their bonds as they desperately try to touch you.

31. Swinging fun

If you’re keen to try group sex but you’re not sure how to start, how about swinging? There are many different ways you can try swinging and different guidelines you can put in place to ensure your comfort.

If watching your partner get off with someone else turns you on, this could be the ideal entry on your sexual bucket list. [Read: The sexy swinging lifestyle – How to make it work for you]

32. Sexting up a storm

Not everyone is comfortable with dirty talk in person *more on that shortly* but sexting is a great way to get started. It also gives you time to think about what you want to say.

Craft a sexy message and send it to your partner while they’re at work. Then, keep building up the sexual tension until they return home. To say the sexual fireworks will fly is an understatement! [Read: How to start sexting with your partner if you’ve never done it before]

33. Dirty talk

Have you always wanted to feel comfortable talking dirty to your partner? Practice makes perfect!

Use words that you feel comfortable with and build up from there. Tell your partner what you want to do to them and what you want them to do to you. Be as filthy as you feel comfortable with and your confidence will soon build. [Read: How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one else can]

34. Sex with another gender

If you’re a woman, perhaps you’ve always wanted to try lesbian sex. If you’re a guy, maybe you’ve always been curious what it would be like to have sex with another man.

Make sure that the person you get down and dirty with knows that you’re experimenting and that it’s not going to lead anywhere. If they’re happy with that, get on with it! [Read: The lesbian fantasy and what it means to have one as a straight woman]

35. Acting out your darkest fantasy

We all have one, don’t we? Make it an entry on your sexual bucket list to tell your partner about your dirtiest sexual fantasy and then start acting it out. Of course, you should also encourage them to do the same too.

[Read: Tired of monogamous sex? 20 sexy ways to start spicing up your sex life]

Create your own sexual bucket list by trying these fun sex ideas, and step just a little outside your comfort zone. That’ll add some spice to your bedroom, make you feel great about yourself, and give you a chance to grab life by the proverbial balls!