Reverse Missionary: How to Drive Your Lover Nuts with Passion

There are many sex positions to try, but don’t overlook the reverse missionary position! A fresh take on the missionary could brings serious pleasure. 

If you’ve been with the same person for a long time, you know how important it is to spice things up in the bedroom. You can’t keep having the same boring sex over and over again. You need to make it fresh and exciting each time. And one great way to do that is with reverse missionary. Why not throw in a new sex position and add some sizzle to your night?

Trying new sex positions of any kind will make things a lot more exciting but reverse missionary, in particular, is one not many people try. But they should.

It feels great and creates a myriad of sensations you might not have felt before.

[Read: Sex positions guys love – 12 easy moves that’ll make him want more]

Sex life a little boring? It’s time to mix things up

It’s totally normal to get stuck in a sex rut occasionally. We get it – life can be stressful and you’re running from one commitment to another. When you finally get home, you’re just not in the mood to be inventive and start swinging from the chandeliers.

But, if you allow your sex life to stagnate for too long, it could cause problems in your relationship.

The key is to make time for one another and understand that sexual intimacy is an important part of your relationship. But, it’s also on the both of you. You can’t be the only one trying to make things more interesting – you both need to play equal parts. [Read: Tired of monogamous sex? 20 racy ways to make it way, way hotter]

Switching up and trying new sex positions isn’t the only way to keep your sex life interesting. There are actually a lot of things all couples should be doing in order to have a healthy sex life.

Why not try role play? Dirty talk? How about bringing a few sex toys into the bedroom? You could even head outside and try al fresco loving! Spontaneous sex is great for bringing the spark back, but the most important thing? Communication.

Talk to each other about what you want to try and how you want to do things. You never know, there might be something your partner is desperate to try but doesn’t know how to tell you.

The bottom line is that you should be experimenting and doing something regularly, to keep things fresh and exciting. [Read: 17 of the best and naughty ways to spice up your sex life]

So, what is the reverse missionary position?

If you have no idea what the reverse missionary position even looks like, don’t worry. With all manner of new sex positions cropping up nowadays, it’s difficult to understand them all. The good news is that you don’t need to have an ongoing catalog of new positions in your brain, you just need to pick a few to try.

Reverse missionary is when the woman goes on top and lays on top of the man with her legs fully extended next to his.

Basically, if you’re in regular missionary and spin over so the guy is on his back, it’s reverse missionary. Simple enough. Try and picture it in your mind and you’ll see how it works.

Basically, you’re taking a pretty vanilla position and you’re giving it a sexy, adventurous twist. [Read: 30 sex positions to try in 30 days or less]

Of course, there are multiple versions of the reverse missionary position as well. But to make it easy to remember, just remember the typical missionary sex position where the man is on top of the woman. Anything you do in bed where the woman lies on top of the man, and the man is under her, that’s a variation of the reverse missionary.

How to do reverse missionary and blow your partner’s mind

Of course, the first time you try reverse missionary, you might be struggling to get into place or worried you’re doing it wrong. Don’t worry about the specifics too much!

You might end up slipping to one side and still enjoying it – in that case, you’ve created your own bespoke sex position! [Read: Floppies and other awkward things that happen during sex]

1. Get warmed up first

No sex position is really going to be the best it can be if you’re not fully warmed up first. Reverse missionary is no exception. Make sure both of you are engaging in a decent amount of foreplay before diving in and starting this position.

Since this position focuses a lot on grinding and the g-spot, make sure she is fully stimulated and it will make it that much better. Throw in some lube and you’ll find the slip and slide makes for an amazing sensation too. [Read: How to foreplay for the best sex ever]

2. Try a few more active positions first

We’ll be honest with you, this is a lazy position. Neither of you will want to do too much work so make sure you’re finished with the more active positions.

This can actually be used as a great way for you to catch your breath mid-romp. Use the time to continue the stimulation while relaxing so you can hop right back into some fast-paced positions – if you want to. [Read: 12 very easy sex positions that look expert-level and feel really good]

3. Set the mood

Reverse missionary is a very passionate position. Since you have so much contact with each other, you’ll want to set the mood.

Throw on some passionate music, light some candles, and be intimate with one another in a comfortable and super-sexy setting. [Read: 10 arousing movie sex scenes to warm up for a night of sex]

4. Throw in some dirty talk

If you want to make reverse missionary even better, talk dirty! Since the two of you are so close and so involved with one another, it’s the perfect opportunity to express just how much you love their body. You can even whisper in each other’s ears – you’re in the right position to do so!

If you’re new to dirty talk, first start by explaining what you like about the position. Then you can move into instructing them where to touch you and how you like it. This will make things all the more exciting. [Read: How to talk dirty in bed and turn your lover on + dirty talking examples]

5. Get your hips moving

The best part about this position – for women, anyway – is the fact that it’s great for grinding. Grinding feels the best for women because it’s constant pressure on the g-spot.

So move your hips and make sure you take full advantage of that opportunity. [Read: How to hump a pillow and the naughtiest ways to do it right]

6. Let your hands wander

Since you are touching your partner with basically your entire body, enjoy it. Feel their arms and chest and run your hands through their hair. Don’t just let your arms remain motionless.

This touching can create even more sensations when you’re already so sensitive to their touch. Let those hands wander!

7. Ladies – take control!

With the woman on top, she’s in charge. You can move in any way you please and completely take over. Not only is this really sexy and empowering for you, but your partner will think so too.

It’ll make the sex hotter and much more passionate. [Read: What men want in bed – 32 things they want and absolutely lust over]

8. Allow your passion to take over

Don’t try to control yourself. Your entire body is pressed up against your partner – hard. Let your emotions go. Let your body be natural. Usually, that means you’ll become more and more passionate. This will make your sex naughtier and hotter than ever before.

It might mean you flip over to a different position or you finish up where you’re at – it doesn’t matter as long as you’re both lost in the moment.

Other underrated positions you have to try

If you’re looking to spice up your sex life – which you should be – there are other sex positions most people never even think of. Try these the next time you’re getting down and dirty with your lover.

1. Reverse cowgirl

Ladies, you need to straddle your man backward. Let them get a full view of that behind. This is super underrated.

Not many people think of it in the heat of the moment but it’s sexy as hell. It gives the women sole control and the man gets an amazing view. [Read: The reverse cowgirl sex position – What it is and how to ride a man in sexy style]

2. Spooning sex

This sweet and comfortable sex position is seriously underrated. Just have sex while lying on your side. Not only is this a really great way to build intimacy by having so much contact, but it also hits the woman’s g-spot perfectly.

Let those hands wander and touch her clitoris too – she’ll go crazy! [Read: 15 ways to make spooning sex hotter than any other position]

3. Upright doggy style

When the girl is on all fours, just have her rise to her knees so your torsos are touching. This not only makes it easier to hit her g-spot, but it also gives the guy a handful of every part of her body.

She’ll feel overwhelmed with amazing sensations and he’ll have the best view ever. [Read: How to have rough sex + 15 moves to have the sexiest time ever]

4. Standing sex

You can do standing sex anywhere, but so many people avoid it. Next time you feel like getting it on, take things away from the bed and toward the wall. It’ll be sexy and passionate as hell. [Read: 9 ways to have great shower sex and enjoy it]

5. Lotus position

If you want to add some intimacy and romance to your sex life, this underrated sex position will do just that.

With the man sitting upright, the woman climbs on top while facing him and wraps her legs around his waist. It creates a very intimate feel that can give you the best orgasms.

[Read: 20 new things to try in bed at least once with your lover]

When it comes to making sure your relationship and sex life are healthy, you need to try new things. Reverse missionary is definitely a position you should try while getting frisky with your lover.