Passionate Lovemaking: 23 Secrets & Ways to Make Sex Lustful & Steamy

Passionate lovemaking takes the bond between you and your lover to a completely different level. Learn the ins and outs of passionate sex and start tonight! 

Having sex and making love are two different things. For sure, having sex is great, but when you make love, there’s something deeper involved. It’s a connection that makes everything more enjoyable and far sexier as a result. Don’t be fooled into thinking that lovemaking is boring – passionate lovemaking has the power to move you in ways you never knew before.

Of course, when you make love, you’re doing it with someone special. You can still have animalistic or angry sex with someone special. But, when you settle down to make love, it has the power to make you feel things you’ve never felt before.

If you’re not sure if your time between the sheets is as passionate as it could be, you may just need to press the reset button.

It’s easy for life to get in the way and make things monotonous. Use these tips to take your lovemaking to new passionate highs. [Read: The real reasons why passionate love can be the strongest of all]

First, understand that sex is important in a relationship

Whether you have been together for as long as you can remember or just recently started a relationship, being intimate in the bedroom is something that all relationships have in common.

Lovemaking is an act that strengthens the bond of relationships, and is also one of the most pleasurable acts that can be done with a loved one.

Sometimes, the lack of this is even why relationships fail, and surely, this is something that no couple wants.

A passionate and sexy lovemaking session can be achieved by any kind of relationship, new or old, same sex or opposite. That’s why there’s no excuse for you to be having bad sex or to have no sex at all!

What are the key ingredients for passionate lovemaking?

You might be wondering what makes passionate sex drip with passion. What do you need to be so crazy about your partner that you can’t wait to tear off their clothes and get down to it? It’s not just about the desire to have sex, it’s about so much more.

For lovemaking to be passionate, you need the following ingredients: [Read: How to increase passion in bed and get the sizzle back]

1. Trust

2. Love

3. Time and space [Read: Making time for making love made easy]

4. A true connection

5. Zero distractions

6. A desire to show your love through sexual touch

7. In some cases, you need a build-up of tension, e.g. after an argument, or a stressful period of time

8. Zero inhibitions when you’re with your partner [Read: 8 steps to get back your body confidence in the bedroom]

Passionate sex means that you’re looking into each other’s eyes. You’re touching each other and showing your appreciation and desire for one another. It means you’re not thinking about anything else, and you’re truly connected at the moment.

It’s sweaty, it’s loud, it’s breathless, and it’s utterly exhausting. But, it’s worth every single sweaty second!

The sexy secrets you need for passionate lovemaking

There are a lot of reasons why couples should strive to have passionate sex every time they become intimate.

First, passionate lovemaking is way better than ordinary sex. And, more importantly, it deepens the bond that you have and improves your relationship.

Here are some secrets that will help you hit those passionate highs. [Read: How to make love to a woman – 21 tips to leave her moaning for more]

1. Do some preparation beforehand

Clear your schedule and take on some light activities for the day to make yourself more relaxed and “in the zone.” Passionate lovemaking happens when both people are relaxed, full of energy, and free from any kinds of distractions during the act.

You’re not going to be able to do that if you’re stressed from just finishing work. [Read: How to plan and create a sex bedroom effortlessly]

2. Set up a comfortable love nest

Whip out those high-quality sheets that you’re saving up, and set the A/C to a comfortable breeze. Maybe put on some mood lighting and music.

The ambiance will help you get into the mood easily and give you a comfortable sleep once it is over – not that you’ll struggle after being so exhausted!

3. Ladies – Wear some sexy lingerie he’s never seen before

Surprising your man with some new and very sexy lingerie will get him going, for sure! He will also love tearing it off your body as he can’t wait for a second longer.

However, be sure to give him a sexy show and let him drink in every inch of you, before you let him touch you. [Read: How to pick the perfect lingerie for your girlfriend]

4. Build up foreplay long before you take your clothes off

Passionate sex takes a wild turn when you reach a point where you just can’t get enough of your special someone. All you want to do is carry them to bed and rip their clothes off.

Once this happens, the passion naturally comes in without having to force the mood.

To do this, try starting a foreplay ritual that doesn’t involve direct touch. This will build up your desire for one another once you’re ready for the action. Here are some ideas: [Read: The best sexy conversation starters to get you both horny]

a. Naughty hints

Leave a seductive note, text message, or a surprise phone call with your bedroom voice. Drop those hints without being explicit to give your partner equally naughty ideas.

b. Strut your stuff

Wear something that flatters your best physical assets or caters to your partner’s fetishes. Walk near your partner, show your goodies, and swat their hands teasingly if they decide to get frisky. [Read: 10 sexy ways to get your partner in the mood for naughty romance]

c. Build tension

Let them touch, smell, and caress a bit, but only to whet their appetite for some evening fun.

5. Be confident in yourself

Right at that moment of heightened passion, you are the sexiest creature on earth in your partner’s eyes. So you’d better live up to that expectation!

Break out of your usual character and be the sexiest you can be. The more confident you are, the more you’ll be able to shed your inhibitions and just enjoy the moment. [Read: 13 benefits of being sexually active that makes sex so worth it]

6. Take it slow and savor the moment

And by slow, we mean really slow. Don’t start with the rough kisses while hastily taking your clothes off just like in the movies – even if your libido has reached breaking point.

Enjoy every second from the moment you take off your partner’s clothes. Admire each other’s nakedness and take time to explore each other’s bodies. You could even try an erotic massage to get you both totally unable to hold back. [Read: I want to have sex with you – 15 ways to seduce without words]

7. Start with kisses

Kissing is an important part of foreplay that most pay little attention to when the fun begins.

However, taking the scenic route with a long make out session will build up sexual tension and allow your brain to flood your body with the necessary hormones. So pucker up and do some lip work! [Read: 15 sexy ways to tongue kiss and arouse your partner in seconds]

8. Hold off on the key areas and do a little off-road exploration

A common tendency for couples during lovemaking is to immediately attack the main erogenous areas such as the breasts and the nether regions. Obviously, it’s because they just can’t help it.

However, hold off on these for the moment and explore the hidden gems of your partner’s body. Give those areas a little more attention, and you might discover something new.

9. Focus on the moment you’re in

During your long foreplay, make sure that you are focused and concentrating on the task at hand. This way, you’ll discover new aspects of your partner’s body and get to enjoy seeing their reaction to your stimulation. [Read: How to foreplay – The key for the best sex of your life]

10. For men – Take long, slow thrusts

Your loins may be in such a rage that you want to pump really hard, but let’s leave that thought behind. Give her a romantic love scene and take long, slow thrusts during passionate lovemaking. Then enjoy her reaction as she takes in every single inch of you. [Read: Slow sex – 13 steamy reasons why it’s the best sex ever!]

11. Make eye contact

Maintaining eye contact makes your lovemaking more passionate because you can see your partner’s reaction with every thrust or caress.

It might seem awkward or even too intimate at first, but stick with it and grab the rewards.

12. Remember to communicate

If it feels good, say it. If you feel like moaning, then don’t be shy – do it! Vocalizing what feels good is very erotic and encouraging to your partner’s ears.

Compliment your partner from foreplay to finish, and top it off with that sweet “I love you” after you collapse on each other in a sweating heap.

13. Use the element of surprise

Sometimes, you and your partner know that you need *or you have* to make love when the two of you are already in bed, just waiting for who hints at whom. Do not let yourself get dragged into this. Instead, act upon your instincts and use the element of surprise.

Sneak up on them when they’re showering. Jump on them the moment you get home. Hug them naked from behind while they’re cooking.

These are simple things, but they can definitely make lovemaking sexier, and get you out of the routine rut. [Read: Spontaneous sex – 15 reasons you need it and how to do it right]

14. Experiment with your clothes on

Sometimes, in the rush of things, you barely remove your clothes and just start doing it. Or, sometimes, you are in a public space where you cannot really get naked right then and there. There is a certain degree of excitement and thrill in keeping your clothes on versus just getting naked all at once.

Remove the bare minimum of clothing you need before you engage in a lovemaking session. Seeing each other in disheveled clothes that have been pushed aside just so you can have sex can be a real turn on!

15. Read up on some new positions

Be open minded enough to try different sex positions. It’s easy to stick to the same old positions time and time again but there are so many to try!

Different positions will also make lovemaking not just passionate and sexier, but the excitement of figuring out what new position pleases your partner is also going to be a challenging and exciting learning process. [Read: The kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

16. Make your own video

This isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, but for those who are open to it, you’re in for a treat! Knowing that you’ll be filmed will bring out that sexy porn star in you, complete with sexy lingerie, silk boxers, and the moves that will blow your lover’s mind. It’s like having an invisible audience to your passion!

Just remember that the copy of the video or the file must be kept safe at all times. Also, it’s important that you trust your partner when you film the video to the point that, even if you break up, you won’t have to worry about your video leaking out.

17. Give the oral of a lifetime

Admit it, oral sex is a lot of work. And not everyone is willing to make that extra effort to please their lovers. You do not have to do it every day, and even a once-a-week session may be enough to get that libido running.

Experiment with different ways of pleasuring your partner with your mouth, and encourage your partner to do the same. Remember, it works both ways! [Read: How to give good head – The biggest guide and 50+ blowjob tips]

18. Don’t just stick to the bedroom

If you find yourself telling your visitors ‘don’t touch the kitchen counter, we were just having sex there,’ then you truly are enjoying lovemaking, and having enough passion for doing it in all areas of your house shows that.

If you find that you are only doing it in the bedroom, slowly take it somewhere else. Start stripping in the living room and do it on the couch, or try doing it while having a shower.

These small changes in space will turn both of you on, and before you know it, you will be going skinny dipping and doing it whilst in the swimming pool or rolling under the stars on the grass lawn behind your house.

If that is not passionate sex, we don’t know what is! [Read: 15 risky places to have sex and get your adrenalin racing]

19. Arouse the five senses

Make sure that the room or place where you will make love has all the elements for the five senses to be aroused. [Read: Here’s how you explore the 5 senses of sexy lovemaking]

a. Sight: Warm lights from candles or a yellow lamp or light bulb can instantly make a room ready for some passion.

b. Smell: Light a couple of aromatic candles, use a diffuser, or burn some aromatherapy oil.

c. Sound: Turn on some lovemaking music like smooth jazz for slow sex or some EDM beats for something a little more energetic. Just make sure it’s background music, and not the highlight of your session. [Read: The best songs to make love to]

d. Taste: There is nothing better than tasting the salt off of your partner’s skin. But if that’s not your thing, edible lubricants or melted chocolate can be an option.

e. Touch: Lovemaking is all about the art of touching each other, slowly and with the hunger for intimacy. But if you want some tactile stimulation, silks, feathers, or even a leather whip might be your thing. [Read: The best tips to help you open up about your kinky side]

20. Focus on being in the moment

Some people just make love for the sake of having an orgasm and getting the glory of finishing themselves off. Some make love just because they have been so used to doing it. Stop thinking and acting like this.

To be able to enjoy lovemaking, you should always keep your focus on what you are doing and not thinking about the work that needs to be finished later today or the tasks that need to be done tomorrow. Being physically present is just half the battle, you also have to be mentally present.

21. Make sure you’re both comfortable

There can be no lovemaking at all if you’re not comfortable. Some women cannot lubricate properly if they are uncomfortable or if the room is too cold or too warm. An erection might be a little difficult to achieve for the same reasons.

Prep yourselves mentally, emotionally and physically for what’s about to happen. Do your best to make the room comfortable and to put your partner at ease before you start trying anything. [Read: 13 ways to overcome sexual anxiety]

22. Finish things off with a cuddle

The best ending to a bout of passionate lovemaking is to cuddle your partner and do a bit of pillow talk after sex. Of course, it won’t be long before you both fall into a deep and relaxing sleep!

23. But, if you want to do it again – go for it!

It could be that you start to feel the stirrings of horniness again not too long afterward. If that’s the case and your partner is up for it, don’t be afraid to go for round two! [Read: How to cuddle with a guy – All the cuddle secrets you HAVE to know]

Everyone can spice up their sex lives!

You might think that only old married couples have problems with libido or struggle to remain excited about sex. You’d be surprised how many young couples go through the exact same thing!

Life can sometimes get in the way, and everything turns into a routine. But, by choosing to always make sex a priority, you can use these passionate sex tips and keep everything as hot as it should be.

[Read: The best ways to make married sex feel like a one night stand]

Lovemaking is called such for a reason. It is an act that transcends the physical aspects of sex. Passionate lovemaking does wonders to a relationship because it not only provides good sex, but also allows you to form a deeper bond as a couple.