MFF Threesome: 31 Tips, Dos & Don’ts to Make Sure All Three Have Fun

An MFF threesome is a fantasy for a lot of people. It can be amazing or a disaster. So, you need to know all the dos and don’ts so you can do it right.

As far as male sexual fantasies go, a threesome with two other women is right at the top of the list! This fantasy normally consists of being led by the two females in question to the bed, like a sultan with his concubines, before being laid down and having your every whim catered to.

Of course, reality rarely follows the dream, and it really isn’t a matter of lying back and waiting for it all to happen. The fact is, you are just one cog in a three-piece machine. Each of you is equally deserving and expecting of the same kind of attention. 

And you all have your own needs and proclivities, and each is equally likely to bring things to a violent halt if these needs aren’t met. So, in order to ensure that your planned MFF goes off with a bang and not with a whimper, stick to the following list of dos and don’ts.

MFF threesome dos to remember

1. Do draw up boundaries

Especially if one of the two ladies is your partner, you need to decide beforehand what the other party’s role is—i.e. to entertain her while you watch, or to provide full-on contact. Getting it wrong could result in a divorce if you’re lucky, or a full John Wayne Bobbit if you’re not!

2. Do divide time equally

One of the key mistakes that people get wrong in a threesome is not dividing their time equally. Focus upon one too much, and the other is likely to get in a huff and march off, spoiling the whole thing. [Read: Threesome tips – 20 things you HAVE to know before getting into one]

3. Do keep busy

In a similar vein as the last point, you potentially receive twice as much pleasure from a threesome, but also have twice as many people to keep happy. Laziness is not likely to go down too well.

4. Do take it one step at a time

If it’s your first time, build up to the event. Find someone who is willing and get to know them first. This way, everyone will feel more comfortable when it comes to the actual act.

5. Do play some appropriate music

Music is really good for setting the scene and for hiding embarrassing noises and silences. Just make sure it’s appropriate. Thrash metal or acapella are less likely to get your guests gushing than screaming or exploding with laughter. [Read: The absolute best sexual playlist to use while having a threesome]

6. Do listen to each other

If someone tells you they’re not comfortable with something, listen to them and respect their wishes. A sudden lunge and blaming it on hitting the wrong hole is not going to go over well!

7. Do play safe

If you’re inviting someone into your bedroom whose sexual history you are not aware of, then make sure tractor-tire rubber is adopted at all times … or you may just take something away from the experience that you were not expecting. 

And just to be extra sure, ensure you have a bumper pack of condoms around so you can switch with new ones each time you’re switching penetration. [Read: Threesome sex – 3 times the fun or 3 times the trouble?]

8. Do choose your sources wisely

When looking for a third person, if they’re not already known to you, try and go through specialized swinging sites where there are thorough filtering methods available, rather than an open-source human marketplace where all kinds of psychos hang out.

9. Do choose your third-person wisely

Sometimes, the closer someone already is to you, the easier and more relaxed it might appear to be. However, tell that to your girlfriend three months down the line, when her best-friend-turned-threesome-buddy suddenly develops an obsession with you. Awkward!

10. Do take it slowly

There’s no stopwatch ticking away that you have to complete proceedings by. Even more than usual, threesome sex needs to be built up slowly, in order to foster the necessary relaxed state. Just take it easy, and let the feeling happen naturally. [Read: MMF threesome – 21 secrets to have one without a messy tangle]

11. Do get consent from all parties

This might sound obvious, but you have to make sure that all three people give their enthusiastic consent. Some people might say yes to an MFF threesome, but they might only do it to please other people. So, be brutally honest with everyone to make sure everyone really wants to do it.

The don’ts of MFF threesomes

1. Don’t get drunk

A little bit of alcohol is fine for loosening up, but get drunk and you might not only affect your performance but even scare and/or disgust your guests. Not everyone is happy to offer themselves up to a rutting drunkard.

2. Don’t clock watch

Yes, you have to divide your time equally, but don’t make the mistake of an exact allocation of attention.

Going down on one lady and counting to sixty before swapping over, again, isn’t really responding to the situation in the natural way that is necessary to make it work. Give equal attention, but do so organically. [Read: The step-by-step guide to having uncomplicated three-way fun without the hassles]

3. Don’t make assumptions about tastes and standards

Just because you like something doesn’t mean others will. Think twice before you get out the handcuffs and gimp mask!

4. Don’t film without permission

Not only is this a violation of trust, but it could also lead to time behind bars in some parts of the world. No matter how smoking they are, they probably aren’t worth the trauma of shacking up with an amorous 7-foot biker for the next three months.

5. Don’t force the issue

Don’t try to force a threesome upon a partner. If you do, and she agrees, then later down the line, it could lead to serious trust issues and potentially separation.

If she isn’t up for it, then suck it up and look for something else to spice up your love life. [Read: 50 kinky ideas that can spice up your sex life to a whole new level instantly]

6. Don’t rinse and repeat

Doing one thing to one lady and then repeating everything exactly the same on the other is NOT going to work. Everyone is different and you’re just going to have to learn what works best for each.

7. Don’t just lie there

You have some work to do, buddy, so stop acting like a spare wheel and start putting in the time—or you might just get left alone.

8. Don’t expect Scarlett Johansson

Real-life isn’t exactly like the movies, and if you’re expecting your threesome to turn out like “Vicky Cristina Barcelona,” think again. That third person might just turn out to be … well … not quite as attractive as you’d hoped for. In which case, it’s up to you to make the most of it. [Confession: My hot, sexy unexpected threesome experience]

9. Don’t close yourself off to new experiences

What’s the point in trying something as radical as a threesome, and then getting squeamish about every new thing that comes up? Live a little, dude!

10. Don’t forget to prepare

Your guests are unlikely to be impressed by crusty bed sheets and a musky odor. Adorn the bed with fresh linen, get out the scented candles, and put on some relaxing music. A well-set scene is, more often than not, a highly rewarding one.

11. Don’t get attached

Having sex with other human beings can bond them together. The sexual act releases oxytocin in people’s brains, which is a feel-good, bonding hormone.

So, it might be difficult not to get emotionally attached to one or both of the partners you’re doing it with – especially if it’s a regular thing. But getting emotionally attached can really complicate everything. [Read: How to emotionally detach from someone and stop them from hurting you]

12. Don’t have a threesome with your partner if you can help it

A lot of couples have a threesome together with another person. But that can really make things uncomfortable – not only for the couple but for the third person.

Seeing your partner engage in sexual activities with another person can create a lot of jealousy and resentment. So, ideally, all three people in a MFF threesome should be three single, consenting adults.

13. Don’t ignore anyone

When people are so used to having sex with only one person at a time, it can be complicated trying to include a third person. So, you might get going with one of them, and the other will just sit there watching and feeling ignored. Make sure everyone is participating and no one is feeling left out.

14. Don’t forget aftercare

When people have a threesome, many times they don’t think about the consequences. This includes how they should act when it’s over.

Should everyone cuddle together? Or should you immediately get dressed and go home? Talking ahead of time and coming up with a plan for aftercare is important as well. [Read: After sex – Post-sex rules and rituals everyone HAS to follow]

MFF threesome positions to try

Now that you know all the do’s and don’ts about a MFF threesome, here are some positions you can try while you’re having some sexy fun.

1. Double dip

For this position, two women lie on top of each other in the missionary position. Then, the man crouches down in between the womens’ legs. And the women can alternate with the penetration. This is a great position when two people want to focus on the other and the third one wants to sit back and watch before they join in the fun.

2. Doggy train

The women should get on their hands and knees with one in front of the other. The person in the back will finger or perform oral sex on the person in the front.

Meanwhile, the man stands behind them and has sex with one of the women, doggy style. This position is intense and naughty. [Read: The 24 best threesome positions for all combos of men and women]

3. Tag team

One person should lay on her back at the end of the bed. Then, she should hang her legs over the edge. The man should then kneel between her legs to have sex while the woman sits on the reclined person’s face.

If you really like performing oral sex, this is a great position to try. And if you’re the person lying down, you can be the center of attention.

4. Double cowgirl

The man should be lying on the bed on his back. Then, one woman should straddle his waist and lower down onto his penis.

The other woman should lower herself down on his face for oral sex. You’ll be pretty close together in this position, so everyone can have a good view of each other. If you’re on top, you can even face the third person and kiss.

5. Voyeur

Two of the people will have sex in any position they want to. Meanwhile, the third person watches and masturbates.

If you’re new to threesomes or are nervous about joining in, this is a great warm-up. As you get more exciting from masturbating, you can add in more touching. [Read: 21 must-know ways to ask someone for a threesome and to join you in bed]

6. 69 + 1

One person should lay on their back while the second gets on top in the normal 69 position. The man then penetrates one of them from behind. This one requires a lot of balance, but it’s hot to have so many body parts in one spot.

Final thoughts

A MFF threesome can be a lot of fun for most people. But you have to approach it the right way. Keep in mind that everyone is human and has emotions. So, you need to approach it delicately so you can have a lot of fun and no one will get hurt.

[Read: The threesome invite – How to make the amazing happen]

Now that you know about the dos and don’ts of executing a successful MFF threesome, make sure you act upon them… or face the consequences!