Male Orgasm: How It Works & What Men Feel During & After Ejaculation

What does a male orgasm feel like and what do men experience during and after ejaculation? Here’s everything you need to know about a man’s mind as he cums.

Male orgasms are just as mysterious as female orgasms were to us not too long ago. Even now, we don’t know everything there is to know about the female orgasm, but we’ve come a long way. The same can be said of the male orgasm. So what is a male orgasm? What do male orgasms feel like?

How do men have them? What do they feel as they cum? And why do some men distance themselves or fall asleep immediately after they ejaculate? Let’s find out all the answers here!

[Read: Why do orgasms feel so good? 21 whys and ways to make it way better]

What is a male orgasm really?

An orgasm *male or female* is basically a muscle reflex that is controlled by the body’s nervous system. When all the right conditions are met and sexual stimulation occurs, the muscles contract and release in a wave-like fashion, resulting in a feeling of involuntary intense pleasure.

That’s literally all there is when it comes to the physical symptoms of an orgasm.

For men, this usually happens when the penis is stimulated either through physical touch or visual stimulation. Unlike women, who can have multiple orgasms, men usually only have one per sexual encounter. 

If you’re looking for the basic information to get things started, you should know that the male orgasm generally lasts between three and ten seconds, and is usually accompanied by ejaculation.

And ejaculation occurs when the muscles at the base of the penis contract to forcefully expel seminal fluid from the body. This fluid contains sperm, which allows for reproduction. [Read: First orgasm stories – People confess about the first time they played with themselves]

Do men’s orgasms feel different from a woman’s orgasms?

The difference between male and female orgasm is a tricky thing to judge. Apples and oranges, maybe. While some claim that there is a distinct difference, others maintain that the two experiences are relatively similar. But can we really know for sure when we know so little about orgasms in the first place?

However, the majority of research suggests that there are indeed some noticeable differences between male and female orgasm.

For example, men typically reach orgasm quicker than women, and their orgasms tend to last for a shorter period of time.

Additionally, men are more likely to experience an orgasm from penetration alone, while women often need direct clitoral stimulation in order to reach climax.

Also, male orgasm tends to be shorter and more explosive, while female orgasm is usually longer and creates more waves of pleasure.

Additionally, the male orgasm is usually more centered in the genitals, while women often experience orgasm as a full-body sensation.

Finally, many women report that they can have multiple orgasms, while most men need a refractory period after climaxing.

All of this is to say that though there may be some similarities between male and female orgasm, there are definitely differences in the way they feel.

Ultimately, though, when it comes to knowing what male orgasms feel like, whether or not someone enjoys their orgasm is purely subjective. So whether you’re a man or a woman, as long as you’re enjoying yourself, that’s all that really matters. [Read: 33 absolutely astonishing facts about sex you never knew]

What does it feel like to ejaculate for a man?

For most men, ejaculation is an incredibly pleasurable experience. The feeling of ejaculation has been described as intense, full-body orgasmic sensation that feels different than an orgasm from masturbating or playing with yourself without ejaculating.

It just somehow never feels complete until a man ejaculates. Hey, sometimes, men even get blue balls if they play a little too long and go too far without ejaculation! [Read: Blue balls – What it is, why guys get them, and every other must-know detail]

When ejaculating, some men report feeling a “wave of pleasure” that starts at the base of their spine and moves up their body. Others report feeling an overwhelming sense of release and pleasure that builds up until it is suddenly released.

In either case, ejaculation is often accompanied by muscle spasms and involuntary gasps or moans. The sensation of ejaculation can vary from man to man, but it is generally considered to be a very pleasurable experience. [Read: The male moaning mystery and why many guys choose not to make any noise in bed]

The male orgasm and ejaculation is often accompanied by muscle contractions in the pelvic region, anal sphincter, and prostate. These contractions force the semen out of the ejaculatory ducts and urethra, and the semen is typically expelled at a velocity of 28 miles per hour. *fun job for the guys that tested this!*

For most men, the sensation of ejaculation is intensely pleasurable. And the feeling of ejaculatory inevitability that precedes ejaculation by a few seconds is often intensely pleasurable for most men. [Read: How to not cum fast – 24 must-know tips to last longer and satisfy her]

The sensation of ejaculation can vary depending on a number of factors, but is generally described as pleasurable and intense. For some men, the feeling of ejaculation and orgasm may be quite satisfying, and for some others, it may be toe-curling and happy-seizure-inducing!

In any case, if you’re wondering what a male orgasm feels like without experiencing it yourself, you should know that it is an essential part of the male sexual response cycle and can be a highly pleasurable experience, and probably just as pleasurable as a woman’s orgasm.

How intense are male orgasms?

It’s a common misconception that all orgasms are created equal. In reality, there can be quite a lot of variation in the intensity of orgasms experienced by men.

Some men report feeling only a mild tingling sensation, while others say they experience intense waves of pleasure that can even be overwhelming.

So why the difference? It’s likely due to a combination of factors, including:

a. individual physiology and psychology

b. how long it’s been since they last ejaculated

c. how sexually aroused the man is, and

d. how long he’s been edging and delaying orgasm

[Read: How to edge yourself – What’s edging and 15 sexy secrets to huge orgasms]

Some men may simply be more sensitive to stimulation than others, and this can make all the difference when it comes to the intensity of their orgasms.

Additionally, some men may find that certain types of stimulation *including both mental and physical stimulation* are more likely to lead to an intense orgasm.

With all this in mind, it’s clear that there’s no “right” way to experience a male orgasm – it’s different for everyone. So whatever your level of intensity, just enjoy it!

How long does it take an average man to achieve orgasm?

The answer may surprise a woman – it can vary quite a lot from one man to the next. Some men may be able to ejaculate very quickly, while others may take considerably longer. In a few studies, the average time taken to reach male orgasm was around 6 minutes.

However, there was a lot of variation, with some men taking as little as 30 seconds and others taking up to 20 minutes.

So, if you’re wondering how you or your man compare to the male orgasm average, it’s worth bearing in mind that there is no definitive answer. Each man is unique and will have his own time frame for reaching orgasm.

Some guys could even blow their load just with foreplay. And some guys could ejaculate the second a woman touches their penis. It’s all very unique, and you’ll never know what a man is packing until you give him a good tug and squeeze with your hands or your pelvis! [Read: How to make out with a guy and make him explode in his pants midway]

Premature ejaculation and hasty male orgasms

Also, since we’re talking about male orgasms and ejaculation, in particular, we can’t ignore the fact that premature ejaculation is a common problem for many men.

It can be embarrassing and frustrating, and it can lead to sexual dissatisfaction for both partners. There are a number of different techniques that can help to delay orgasm.

One common approach is to focus on the level of arousal. If premature ejaculation is a problem, it may help to try to control the level of stimulation during sex by avoiding activities that are likely to lead to an early climax, such as extended foreplay or using very vigorous movements.

In addition, it may be helpful to take breaks during sexual activity to allow the level of arousal to subside.

Another approach is to try to increase the time between arousal and orgasm. This can be done by focusing on different types of stimulation, such as kissing and caressing, rather than solely on intercourse.

In addition, it may be helpful to use sexual fantasies or visualizations as a way to distract from the physical sensations that lead to orgasm. [Read: How to dirty talk with a guy and delay ejaculation with the sexiest words]

With practice and patience, premature ejaculation can be overcome, and both partners can enjoy a more satisfying sexual relationship. [Read: How to last way longer in bed – 34 secrets for men to stay hard and go way longer]

And leaving premature ejaculation behind, let’s talk about one more annoying facet of the male orgasm – the ruined orgasm!

What is a ruined orgasm and what does it feel like?

A ruined male orgasm is one where the climax is less intense than it could be.

The ruined orgasm can occur for several reasons, but most often it is because of outside forces interrupting masturbation or sexual intercourse. It can also be caused by psychological factors such as anxiety or depression.

For men, a ruined orgasm may feel like an incomplete ejaculation. There may be little to no semen released, and the orgasm itself may be shorter and less intense than usual. Some men end up experiencing “blue balls” after a ruined orgasm *pain and discomfort that can come from incomplete ejaculation*.

While a ruined orgasm is not necessarily harmful, it can be frustrating if it happens frequently. After all, a man gets to ejaculate once in a while compared to women. And it can be rather annoying to miss the grand finale after putting in all that hard work!

There are some things that you can do to help prevent ruined orgasms, such as avoiding distractions during sex and masturbating in a comfortable environment. And if you’re experiencing them often, you should also consult with a doctor or sex therapist, as there may be an underlying medical condition causing the problem. [Read: 22 common reasons why a woman fakes an orgasm in bed]

Why do men distance themselves after orgasm?

Ah, the tricky bits now! Before we talk about this confusing phenomenon, let’s just make it clear that not all men behave this way. In fact, many men actually enjoy afterplay and cuddles just as much as women after ejaculation and sex.

But if your man rolls over, plays dead, or turns into a pillow princess immediately after having sex, you may be sleeping with a man who distances himself after the male orgasm.

It’s a pretty common phenomenon: after the male orgasm, men tend to detach emotionally from their partner. But why does this happen?

This post-orgasmic detachment can be confusing and frustrating for women, who may feel abandoned after what was supposed to be a shared intimate experience. [Read: Why do guys distance themselves after intimacy? And how to handle it]

Here are the possible reasons why men suddenly go from horny rabbits humping you to fainting and passing out all in a matter of seconds as soon as they ejaculate! *in case you didn’t know, male rabbits actually “fall off” a female rabbit and pass out as soon as they ejaculate!*

1. Shame and guilt

Usually, some men feel a sense of shame or guilt immediately after climaxing *unless they’re in a long-term relationship*, which can lead them to withdraw emotionally from the woman lying next to them.

2. Neurochemical changes

Another explanation could be that a male orgasm releases a surge of neurochemical changes in the brain that can produce feelings of euphoria and satisfaction. These feelings can be so powerful that they trigger a desire to rest, withdraw and be alone.

3. Relaxation

Additionally, orgasm is often accompanied by a release of muscle tension and a general sense of relaxation. In this post-orgasm state, men may simply want to enjoy the peacefulness of being alone.

4. Avoiding attachment

Some believe that it’s an evolutionary mechanism, designed to ensure that men don’t get too attached to any one woman.

5. Hormonal changes

Others point to hormone changes that occur after orgasm, which can lead to a feeling of post-coital sadness or loneliness. [Read: How do guys get emotionally attached? 19 signs and ways his mind works]

6. Men and women are different

Another possibility is that men’s brains are wired differently from women’s when it comes to emotions and sexual arousal. In other words, men’s brains are designed to focus on the physical sensations of sex, while women’s brains are wired to experience a wider range of emotions during sex.

7. Evolution

It could also be that men are simply wired to disperse after sex. Evolutionarily speaking, it makes sense for men to want to spread their seed as widely as possible. As such, post-orgasm behaviors that lead to detachment may be an innate response aimed at ensuring reproductive success!

This difference may explain why men sometimes feel emotionally detached after an orgasm while women often feel more emotionally connected.

Whatever the reason, it’s clear that post-orgasmic detachment is a very real phenomenon for many men.

While some men report feeling more bonded to their partner after sex, others report feeling a sense of distance or even regret.

Lastly, it’s important to remember that the male orgasm is a highly individual experience, and not all men react in the same way after reaching climax.

Whatever the reason, it’s important to communicate with your partner about how you’re feeling after sex. If you’re feeling distant or disconnected, let them know so they can understand where you’re coming from. Honesty is key in any relationship. [Read: Sex in a relationship and what it means to a woman]

The last word on male orgasms and what they feel like

The male orgasm is considered by almost all men to be the highlight of sexual intercourse. And it’s no wonder why: an orgasm is accompanied by a release of tension, a sense of well-being, and often, an overwhelming feeling of pleasure.

Though the male orgasm may be relatively short-lived, the experience can be extremely satisfying for both partners.

In fact, some research suggests that the male orgasm may even have health benefits, such as reducing stress and increasing immunity.

A male orgasm is a moment of complete physical and mental release, when all the muscles in the body tense up and then relax again. The heart rate increases and blood pressure rises, giving the whole body a sense of euphoria.

For a few seconds, all worries and concerns vanish, and are replaced by pure pleasure. And all said and done, a male orgasm is a truly wonderful experience, and one that every man should enjoy.

So now that you know what a male orgasm feels like, the next time you’re enjoying having sex with your partner, don’t forget to appreciate his moment of ejaculation – it’s truly one of life’s great pleasures for a man.