Lesbian Dating Apps: 2023’s Best & Most Used Apps for Girl-on-Girl Love

There are so many dating apps for straight girls. But what about if you’re gay? Here are the top dating apps for lesbian lovers.

Dating isn’t easy. If you think dating is easier for certain genders, races, or sexual preferences, then you’re so wrong. Whether you’re using straight, trans, or lesbian dating apps, dating consists of a lot of awkward conversations and ghosting.

But thanks to the apps and sites out there that help you connect with people who have the same interests as you, dating is made easier.

You’re here because you need to find the best lesbian dating app for women who love women. But what specific lesbian dating apps are out there? Well, this feature will show you them all. We can’t guarantee that they’ll save you from bad dates forever, though!

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The lesbian dating apps you need to check out

Tinder is one of the most well-known dating apps on the market, but it has one flaw; like many other mainstream apps, doesn’t actually cater to the LGBTQ+ community.

Worst of all, it doesn’t cater to lesbians. Surveys show that there are twice as many men on Tinder as women, so good luck finding a cute girl!

The LGBTQ+ community has features that make them unique, but Tinder just doesn’t represent those features. With that said, we’re here to show you the best lesbian dating apps that you can join. Because fuck Tinder.

1. HER

This is one of the most popular dating apps for lesbian, pansexual, bisexual, and queer women.

It’s very easy and flexible to use, as it’s a blend of social networking and dating together. This makes for a great atmosphere because it doesn’t have that pressure to only hook up with people.

The problem with some dating sites is that you can create your own profile with only your email. So, instead of lesbians signing up, you get some creepy guys pretending to be women. Instead, HER makes you sign up with your Facebook account, so you remove the chances of talking to an undercover man.

You have unlimited messaging and can upload unlimited photos. But what’s different is that you’re able to read lesbian-focused articles, which is the Facebook-like aspect of it. So, you can meet someone to date or just chat, while also seeing what’s going on in your city.

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2. Bumble

For all of you who are tired of the standard dating-app formula, this is a great twist on dating apps. Bumble is a unique dating app where women are the ones responsible for making the first move.

Okay, we realize that this is irrelevant if you’re a lesbian. But the concept is cool, right?

There is still a twist to Bumble though. If no one makes the first move after 24 hours, your connection disappears. That’s right, if you put off saying hi first *because you’re afraid or too lazy* you won’t ever be able to say hi again.

Making the first move always sucks, but this app forces you to take the first step. So, if you’re trying to step out of your comfort zone, then you should definitely try out this app.

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3. Hinge

This is another lesbian dating app that has some similarities to Tinder but is still different. So, what are these differences? Well, Hinge actually only allows you to match with friends of friends *from Facebook*. So, it uses your social network to find other lesbians around you, with whom you have a mutual connection.

This kind of leaves out the whole “do we have any friends in common” question because that’s the only way you’d be able to communicate with them. Another great feature of Hinge is that this app only shows you a batch of people every day.

You don’t have this endless stream of people to go through. Rather, it makes you go through each profile since you only have so many to choose from. This is great because with Tinder you can spend hours swiping through people and never reaching the bottom of the pit.

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4. OkCupid

Okay, so we all know that OkCupid isn’t strictly designed for the LGBTQ+ community. However, it’s one of the best lesbian dating apps out there. It doesn’t matter what you look for, whether it’s a one-night stand, a serious relationship, or FWB—you’ll find it.

OkCupid is designed so that you can easily browse through any group of people located around you. You’re able to send and receive unlimited messages. Plus, it is free. [Read: 10 weird dating websites for those with unusual tastes]

5. Tinder

… yes, we did just insult Tinder earlier. But it’s still a perfectly good lesbian dating app.

We all know how Tinder works. You swipe, they swipe, you match, and then you chat. Tinder has a large group of users, so you have great odds of finding someone for whatever you need.

Sure, it’s usually overrun with dudes posing next to dogs, their friends, or their catch of the day. But like with anything, there are always some hidden gems to discover. So, for now, though we can’t stand it, it still remains one of the most popular apps used by everyone worldwide.

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6. Lex

Although this lesbian dating app is taking the community by storm, there’s a chance you still haven’t heard of Lex. Lex is a free lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, and queer social network where LGBTQ+ people can meet.

On this platform, you can find friends, events, dates, and more! Lex has two very unique features, which make it super different from the Bumbles and Tinders of this world.

Firstly, it’s entirely text-based. Remember those lonely hearts ads you used to see in the newspaper? Lex is based on that time-honored method queer people have used to find each other for centuries. Rather than swiping through matches, Lex users post classified ads with a title and description about who they are or what they are looking for. 

Secondly, anybody can sign up—except for cisgender men. That makes this lesbian dating app a personalized, insightful, female-focused way to find your next date.

7. Hashtag Open

If you’re poly or ethically non-monogamous, it’s even harder to find partners.

With Hashtag Open *sometimes written “#open”*, you can find other lesbians who are interested in being in a relationship with more than one person.

Even if you’ve never been in an open relationship before, this lesbian dating app offers you the chance to experience a new kind of dating. You can also create an account as a couple looking for a third. As for how it works, it’s all based on swiping. If you can use Tinder or Bumble, you can use this!

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8. Fem

The Fem lesbian dating app is a great way to meet eligible lesbians through videos. The best thing about this app is that it was made specifically by lesbians, for lesbians.

Every feature of the app is designed to work for WLW, and give girls the best experience possible when looking for love.

If Fem sounds good to you, make sure you’re comfortable being on camera. Everything is based on videos; once you’ve uploaded your own video, you can make a match. Then, you can either chat solo or group chat. Although, if you’re not good with videos, a photo works too!

9. Lesly

Lesly is a Tinder-style dating app specifically designed for queer women and lesbians. It’s a lot like Tinder in a lot of other ways too. However, what makes Lesly different is the way it allows you to “show” your photos.

If you choose to “show” a photo, it shares your image with the rest of the community, kind of like a specially-made ad for you! In addition, Lesly’s staff screens users’ profiles to make sure everyone on there is genuine. That means no there are no weird guys, just genuine gay girls looking to hook up.

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10. PinkCupid

Sounds like OkCupid, right? PinkCupid is like OkCupid, except focused on gay women. That makes it a super useful lesbian dating app for single girls who are ready to mingle.

You can create your profile for free and join a community of like-minded women looking for friendship, love, and more. It’s very easy to use and has both a mobile app and a desktop dating site.

Although it’s not free to access the premium features, this is a great app if you want to only see other lesbian girls as potential matches. Also, the Cupid Group name means you can trust that this site isn’t anything dodgy. They also own over 30 other niche dating sites, such as Military Cupid, Interracial Cupid, and even Christian Cupid.

11. Bounce

Have you ever got talking to somebody, only for it to never go further than just… talking? Bounce is a lesbian dating app that means you have to take things offline. It’s all about arranging a meeting IRL, as soon as possible.

Bounce connects you to other people who are looking to go on a date that night. If you tell it when you’re free, it’ll show you potential matches based on your shared location preferences. If you say “yes” to someone and they do the same, it’s a match! The app will even tell you where to meet—all you have to do is show up.

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12. The League

If you’re somebody with high standards, you won’t want to date down. The League is a dating app designed for people who refuse to settle. In order to join this dating app, you have to apply and wait while The League’s team reviews your profile. Then, they’ll decide whether you’re good enough to be accepted.

There has been some criticism of The League for being elitist and exclusive. However, if you’re looking for an elite match—and have the right credentials yourself—this is the ideal lesbian dating app for you.

On top of the entry requirements, there’s also an ongoing membership fee. But if you’re elite enough to join, the fees probably won’t be an issue.

13. Kinkoo

How kinky are you? Kinkoo is the world’s largest dating app for kinksters, or anybody who’s into BDSM, fetish, and kink relationships. It’s entirely free to join and works a lot like Bumble or Tinder—just swipe on the people you like, and the people you don’t.

Even if you aren’t looking for a long-term partner on this kinky lesbian dating app, it still gives you a chance to explore your darkest desires. You can even use it just to chat or sext, or find kinky friends from all over the world. [Read: Queerplatonic relationship: What it is & 25 signs you’re in one]

14. Feeld

Feeld was originally created as a way to find threesomes or a third person for your throuple. But this lesbian dating app isn’t just about open relationships anymore. Now, it’s all about creating a non-judgemental platform for single or partnered people to experiment with alternative kinds of relationships.

Feeld is open to people seeking all kinds of unconventional arrangements, with an emphasis on non-monogamous relationships. It attracts open-minded people who are accepting of LGBTQ+ identities as well as kink and polyamory. Couples can link their accounts together, and singles can create their own.

15. Thrust

Of course, there are some lesbian women who aren’t publicly out yet. If you’re one of those girls, it might have made you nervous seeing that so many lesbian dating apps on this list link up with your public social media. We know that not every gay girl is lucky enough to be accepted for who she is. So, you might need an app that allows you to find love on the down low.

Enter Thrust. Thrust is designed to be inclusive for all kinds of people: from gay people, to trans people, to people at different stages of coming out. The main focus of Thrust is safety and privacy for the LGBTQ+ community, so it doesn’t connect to social networks or collect users’ data. Even the messaging app is secure, so you don’t have to fear leaks.

Thrust is also a great option for lesbians of color. It’s black developer-led with a strong commitment to combating racism. This means there are strict rules that prevent other users from excluding you or treating you differently because of your race.

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16. Qutie

Lastly, you might be looking for a lesbian dating app that’s not about hookups. Maybe you’ve grown out of your hot girl summer phase, or are just looking for a chance to settle down. If that sounds like you, Qutie is an LGBTQ+ targeted app that promotes meaningful connections and long-term relationships.

Another distinctive feature of Qutie is video messages. These allow you to make sure you’re actually talking to a real lesbian, so you never get catfished again. Even if you’re not on the hunt for a romantic relationship, Qutie is built with budding friendships in mind.

Now that you know these lesbian dating apps, it’s time to download them to your smartphone. Of course, you don’t have to delete Tinder. But it’s good to see what else is out there for gay girls!