Ignoring a Guy: Why This Works So Well & How to Use It Right

Do you think ignoring a guy would make him desire you more? Almost always, yes! But here’s when you should use it, and make him chase and obsess over you.

Guys have a way of acting as if they don’t need us around. But, try ignoring a guy and see what happens. It is an excellent way to get him and keep him.

Often the hardest things to do are met with the best rewards. When it comes to getting a guy to fall head over heels in love, sometimes the way to his heart is not through his stomach but by getting under his skin. Ignoring a guy may be the best way to pique his interest and have him begging for your attention.

If you want to know why ignoring a guy drives them crazy and makes them want to pursue you more, you need to read this first – Why do men like a chase and how to use it in your favor. Once you read it, you’ll know exactly why men are hardwired to chase, and also the exact way to do it so he pursues you without losing interest or giving up.

Where most girls go wrong when ignoring a guy

Look, there are two reasons to ignore a guy. One, you dislike the guy and want to make it clear you absolutely have no interest in him, and you want him to stop pursuing you. If that’s the case, read this, how to ignore a guy and make him leave you alone.

And the second scenario, girls ignore a guy because they assume it would make them fall harder for them. Of course, this is true to a large extent. But there’s a right way to do this. Most girls assume you need to completely ignore a guy, and he’ll magically fall harder. No, it doesn’t work that way. What you need to do is let him know for sure that you are interested in him. BUT at the same time, you need to reject his advances or turn down his dates.

Do this, and it WILL make him fall harder for you. Why should you do this? Because it let’s the guy know that you are interested in him, but would date him or go out with him only when he makes real effort to woo you and pursue you. Read why do guys come back and fall harder when you ignore them to know the steps you need to make this work.

Ignoring a guy and why does this work so well

So why does ignoring a guy work so well? That’s because guys are predictable creatures. If you chase them, they run. If you are too needy, they pull away. Because if you aren’t a challenge, you aren’t as attractive. Perhaps for instinctual reasons, guys love the thrill of the hunt.

If you don’t make yourself hunt-able then you aren’t all that alluring. If you ignore him, it drives him crazy.

#1 Bring out the “hunter” in him.

Men really are the “hunters.” There is nothing they enjoy more than chasing after something they want that they can’t have or catch. If you ignore him and make him feel as if he can’t have you, he wants you even more. I know, totally dumb. But the thing he desires most is usually the thing he can’t have. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

#2 Ignore him if he craves power.

Guys like to feel powerful and successful. If you are something unconquerable, it will be all he seeks. If you ignore a guy, he feels powerless to win you over.

Wanting to be in control, it literally drives him nuts that no matter how hard he tries, you just really don’t care enough to acknowledge him. If you worry that he will give up and quit, think again. Ignoring him only makes him work harder. [Read: How to ignore a guy that ignores you – 14 ways to gain back the power]

#3 Make him think you are something special.

Usually, when girls like a guy, they can’t do enough to get their attention. The girls flirt, they hang on a guy’s every word, and make him feel super special about himself.

If you want a guy used to girls falling all over themselves to capture his eye, you must set yourself apart from the rest by being what all the other girls aren’t.

Ignoring him confuses him to no end. The girls he doesn’t want, can’t seem to tear themselves away, and the one that he does, doesn’t want anything to do with him. It makes him think there is something special that you alone possess. It makes him have to have you. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and leave him craving for you]

#4 Make him crave your attention.

Let’s just be honest. Guys crave attention and admiration. If you pretend you couldn’t care less about him, it makes him work overtime to catch your eye.

The more he can’t have your attention, the more obsessive he becomes. Ignoring a guy is like making him wait to have sex with you. If you don’t let him have the attention he craves, he craves it that much more. [Read: Ignoring someone for attention – how to do it right and win anyone over]

#5 Teach him not to mess with you.

If you’re in a relationship with a guy who either doesn’t give you enough attention or with a wandering eye, show him what it feels like for someone to discount his feelings or make him feel less than.

The only way to tame a guy who seemingly can’t be bothered with your relationship is to show him the sting of what it feels like when you dump his ass. Shutting him out and ignoring him altogether makes him think twice about what you really mean to him.

And, it also teaches him that if he can’t get his shit together and start treating you right, you have no problem walking away and saying goodbye. To hold onto him, make him believe he is disposable, and, also, you are not. [Read: 15 shitty ways to lead a guy on and dish out revenge]

#6 Ignore him to keep the peace.

Sometimes, you must ignore a guy to keep him in line. There are many men out there who like to push their girlfriend’s buttons, especially when they look for a little drama.

Are you with a guy who cyclically does things that make you want to jump out of your skin? The only way to deal with it is just to ignore the behavior. Just like with little kids, if you cease to acknowledge their bad behaviors, eventually they stop acting out.

If a guy learns he no longer gets a rise out of you because you learn to ignore him, likely, he stops doing whatever it is that drives you crazy. And maybe, just maybe, you find some peace in your relationship. [Read: How to play a player and return the favor like a boss]

Ignoring a guy is a super powerful tool to grab his attention, keep his attention, or curb his bad behavior. Although guys usually pretend like they couldn’t care less if women are around, try ignoring him. What you will find, is he needs you a whole lot more than he lets on.

If you try to capture the attention of a guy who could have any girl he wants, be the one that doesn’t give it to him. Ironically, that makes him want you more and more.

[Read: How to make a guy really jealous – 30 wicked ways to leave him smitten and furious]

The thing most guys want most is the thing they can’t have, so be that thing he can’t seem to catch by ignoring a guy. But remember, if you want him to pursue you, be available but play hard to get and ignore him in just the right ways!