How to Watch Porn with Your Girlfriend & Get Her to Enjoy It With You

If you want to watch porn with your girlfriend, there are some sexy ways to get her interested. Follow these tips and she might be as addicted as you are!

Most girls, when their significant other mentions watching porn, turn up their noses and act disgusted. It’s an unfortunate reality, but that’s just how it is most of the time. For a lot of people out there, it can be a bit frustrating, if they want to kick-start the connection with their lady by way of porn. So, you need to know how to watch porn with your girlfriend.

Porn is a tool that can be used to liven up your sex life, but a lot of women just cast it off without a second thought.

This leaves many men both upset and wary of asking again, for fear that they may upset their girlfriends further—and we all know that no one wants to deal with a cranky girlfriend.

It’s not difficult to see where some girls may have a hard time accepting that their significant others watch porn—let alone actually enjoy it with their partner.

Even if some women watch porn from time to time, sharing that privacy with their significant other can be a challenge all on its own.

[Read: Do girls watch porn? 20 reasons to start and what girls lie about watching]

So how can you watch porn with your girlfriend?

There are many different steps you can take in order to pique your lady’s interest in the porn world. While it can be scary at times, these tips can ease some of that fear and help you proceed with your goal.

1. Ease into the idea

Don’t tell her mid-hookup that you guys should watch porn. This is a HUGE no-no. She will immediately dismiss the idea, and she may even dismiss you altogether! You can probably understand that one.

Why? Because if you two are in the middle of some great foreplay and your thoughts are about porn, she is definitely going to think that she’s not enough to get you going.

Even if that was not how you meant it, if you ask her in the middle of anything physical, she will think this and you will be doomed. [Read: The worst things a guy could do in bed with a woman]

2. Figure out her sexual attitudes and behaviors

This is an important step before you watch porn with your girlfriend. You obviously want to use porn to enhance your sex life with her, right?

But if she’s resistant to the idea, before you introduce it, you should try to understand some of her sexual attitudes and behaviors first. This will help you find the best video to use when you introduce her to it.

For example, she might be particularly sensitive to violence. If that’s the case, don’t show her any BDSM videos with slapping or choking. That will turn her off and you’ll have the opposite outcome that you want.

So, you want to be aware of her red flags and turn-offs before you ever have her watch anything with you. [Read: Alternatives to porn – 16 options to get your girl hot and wet without porn]

3. Mention it calmly in a neutral setting

Don’t slip her the idea while her friends are all over for a fun get-together, and don’t mention it to her when you’re trying to get her naked. Mention the idea as if it’s a passing thought when the two of you are alone.

That way, she will be intrigued to know more about why you want to, and she won’t feel like she’s being pushed up against a wall and forced to make a decision.

If the two of you are just calmly hanging out and a porn-like scene happens to pop up on a movie, make a comment about how it would be cool to try.

4. Explain why it would mean a lot to you

Don’t start by saying how you want to make things more interesting in bed. She will quickly make the assumption that she’s not doing enough and that you’re bored—even if you just want to add something to your already-amazing sex life.

Explain that you love where things are, but maybe you can try something new—give it a little something that’ll take it from great to amazing!

Just tell her what you’re thinking about it, and that it would be a great way to discover new things.

5. Make her feel sexy about it

If you really want to watch porn with your girlfriend, then tell her how attractive you think it is. By telling her that you think it would be really sexy to watch her watching porn, you’re taking the emphasis off the porn and focusing it on her.

This will then make her want to please you, because really, what girl doesn’t want to be the most attractive thing in their significant other’s life?

She will start to see watching porn in a positive light because it will make her look better in your eyes.

6. Choose porn that is meant for couples

If you got her to agree to try porn, do NOT *and we repeat do NOT* start with a video that has 3 girls that are all young, hot, and in their prime. This will turn her off right away.

No woman wants to be compared to one other woman, let alone 3 others that are naked and stunning.

Start with something softer and more couple-oriented. Getting her to watch something that’s romantic and sultry will get her more interested in that type of porn, but may also make her curious about the other types. [Read: What kind of porn arouses women more than any other?]

7. Pay attention to her, too

Sure, it’s exciting to see different naked women on screen, but you have a really amazing naked woman right next to you in real life—appreciate her!

If you’re paying too much attention to the video and not enough to her, she will get turned off and, quite frankly, insulted.

She agreed to watch porn with you, not watch you watching porn. That’s a quick way to make her feel inadequate.

8. Let her be in the driver’s seat

Once you’ve introduced it, let her have a turn at picking out the video.

Not only will it give her more confidence in the fact that you’re watching porn together, but you may also learn a thing or two about her tastes. This will help you out in pleasuring her even further.

9. Show her how much it makes things better

 Once you’ve got her watching porn with you, make sure she sees that it definitely revs your engine and makes getting jiggy with you that much better.

By showing her that there’s a purpose and even a reward to her being interested in porn, she will more likely continue that behavior.

10. Don’t use it every time

As much as it may make things a lot better in bed, you shouldn’t use it every single time. She will start to think that you’re dependent on it, and that can turn her off from watching it in the future.

You can use it frequently, but also make some nights special for her, and focus all of your attention on her. That way, she will realize that it’s her that gets you going and not just the porn.

She will be much more interested in adding porn back into the mix if you do this once in a while. [Read: 10 popular moves from porn that men love and women hate]

11. Be experimental

Watching porn with your girlfriend is what a lot of guys dream of. And so don’t be scared of asking her about it because she might also be looking for something sexy and exciting to do with you in the bedroom too. 

Tell her that it’s exciting for the two of you to become a little experimental in your sex life. It always feels good to try out new things, so tell her this is something you’d like to try. This is your chance to make your naughty fantasy come true.

12. Try porn when she’s in the mood

If you have brought up the idea of watching porn with your girlfriend and she has been open and receptive to the idea, then wait until she’s feeling in a naughty mood.

You don’t want to try it when she just got home from a very stressful day at work and is cranky and irritable. That won’t go over well. [Read: Is watching porn cheating? No, but it can make or break your sex life]

So, if there is a time when she initiates having sex with you, then you know she’s feeling horny. She might even have some ideas in her mind too, so let her lead the way. Try to figure out what she’s thinking and follow her. 

If you think she is turned on and excited enough to watch anything with you, then this is your chance to bring in the porn.

But make sure you use it wisely because you want her to enjoy it. Don’t play anything that can turn her off or ruin the mood. It should just add more heat to the sexual moment. [Read: How to open up about sex and get your partner to reveal their deepest sexual desires]

13. Let her choose what to watch

Once she agrees to watch porn with you, make sure she chooses the video to watch. Help her go through the list and see what interests her.

This will help you understand what she likes and what she doesn’t like. It will also make it easier for her to watch porn with you. She might even like it and want to choose another video to watch next time. [Read: 25 dirty questions to ask your girlfriend and get her talking naughty]

14. Point out the progress

When you watch porn with your girlfriend, then it becomes your responsibility to make sure there is progress going on. Make her notice it too.

Tell her things that have changed in your relationship and the improvements in your sex life because of watching porn together.

Ask her if she likes the idea of trying new positions you saw in the porn video. Show her how this idea of watching porn together has made your sex life and overall relationship stronger. When you point these out to her, she will definitely appreciate you more and want to continue doing it with you.

15. Make sure she knows that you don’t NEED it

Because, really, you don’t. In all honesty, you can probably manage without perfectly fine. But if you constantly use it in order to have sex with your lady, she’s going to get bored and uninterested in it—which is the opposite of what you want! [Read: 60 sexual questions to ask your girlfriend and read her dirty mind]

So toss the laptop aside some nights and keep things spontaneous. She will be dying to see what else you have in store and she will also be more accepting of throwing porn back in the mix next time.

16. Do NOT pressure her

If your girl just doesn’t want to use porn as a part of your foreplay escapades, then do not pressure her. Nagging her about it will only make things worse, and she will feel like you need it because she’s not good enough.

If you just plant the idea in her head and accept it if she says no, then she may wind up trying it to make you happy. [Confession: How watching porn together saved my sexless marriage]

17. Be open to questions or resistance 

There is still a stigma for watching porn for a lot of people. So, your girlfriend might not be any different. Many women are resistant to it for a variety of reasons, so you need to be open and ready for any questions she has. 

Some common questions include:

(1) What’s the point of watching porn?

(2) Why do we need to watch porn when we have each other to have sex with?

(3) Are we objectifying women by watching porn?

(4) Why do you need me to watch porn with you…don’t I turn you on enough? And

(5) If you watch porn without me, isn’t it cheating? 

These are some common questions your girlfriend might ask about watching porn with you. So, be prepared to answer them in a calm, non-judgmental way. 

[Read: 20 signs of a slutty girlfriend and the hot and bad of dating her]

Every couple needs a little something extra in their sex lives sometimes. If porn is what you wish to use, it can be difficult to convince her to give it a go. With these tips, you will have an easier time when you watch porn with your girlfriend—and maybe even get her hooked!