How to Turn On a Guy Without Being Obvious & Leave Him Desiring You

It’s one thing to be overtly flirty and hit on a guy. But it’s a completely different art to learn how to turn on a guy without being obvious at all.

When I was in high school, I was horrible at flirting. I just didn’t know how to flirt, and let’s not even go to whether I knew how to turn on a guy without being obvious.

Okay, I wasn’t horrible, but I came on way too strong. I guess all those chick flicks didn’t work in my favor. I remember asking a guy out, and even though he said yes, he called me when I got home to let me down easy. Years later, we were reminiscing, and he told me how scared he was at that moment. I freaked him out. And a fourteen-year-old, my ego was bruised, and I felt rejected. But I was just learning the ropes of how to flirt, and trust me; it took me a while.

[Read: 15 obvious signs of flirting between a guy and a girl]

Learning to flirt… and learning the art of subtlety

Before my relationship, I was the master of flirting. Though I made a clear line of whether I was interested or not, I also made sure to be more subtle. And that was a challenge.

For myself, it was easier to be more forward, but it also made the conversation boring, and the experience less exciting. Plus, I learned from high school, most guys don’t like to be pushed into anything *obviously*.

I learned you don’t need to say, “oh hey, I like you” to show someone how you feel about them. But knowing what to do can be hard. Most likely, you’re already making these subtle moves; you just don’t realize it yet.

[Read: 15 subtle moves that’ll bring a guy closer to you with minimal effort]

A guide on subtlety – How to turn on a guy without being obvious

It’s not as hard as you think. Sometimes, when you’re learning how to turn a guy on without being obvious and trying to get him to like you, it’s the little details that’ll make the biggest of differences.

#1 Love yourself. No, I’m not going to start singing a Taylor Swift song, but don’t be so quick to overlook this. Though you may not realize it, self-confidence and self-respect is a huge turn-on for men. Loving the skin you’re in is the first thing you need to do before even thinking about guys. A real man is turned on by a woman who loves herself and the body she has. [Read: 15 amazing ways to glow, discover self love and happiness]

#2 Talk about his passions. If you know some of the things he likes, you can use those topics to strike up a conversation. For example, if he’s into baseball, bring up a game that just happened or a future game you’re interested in seeing. This is a great way to make subtle hints without diving right in. [Read: 30 really sexy flirting tips if you’re looking for obvious ways to sexually arouse a guy]

#3 Hold eye contact. We tend to ignore the power for eye contact even though it’s one of the most common ways to communicate with one another. When you’re talking to him, hold eye contact. Though it’s not obvious, it’s a subtle way to flirt with someone and let them know you’re interested.

#4 Don’t be too available. That’s right. If you want to learn how to turn on a guy without being obvious, you need to keep some mystery between you two. When it comes to the chase, no one likes an easy catch. But in all seriousness, you should continue on with your life and not try to make yourself available for him. And in the end, that’s what will also keep him interested. [Read: 15 qualities all men secretly crave in the woman they date]

#5 Lightly touch him. This doesn’t mean you should jump on him. When you’re laughing at a joke he made or just talking, you can lightly touch his arm or shoulder. Physical contact doesn’t need to be intense to show him you’re interested. Plus, it’s a good way to gauge how he feels, whether he accepts the touch or moves away.

#6 Give him genuine compliments. We all love compliments – men, women, cats, and dogs.

Everyone loves being praised. When you feel the need to compliment him, give him one. But be specific. Don’t just say he looks ‘cute.’ Give him compliments on changes he’s made or things he’s done. [Read: 25 unique compliments for guys they’ll never ever forget]

#7 Show off your pearls. People like to spend time with those who are happy and positive. You shouldn’t be afraid to smile and laugh when you’re feeling good. It shows him you’re happy to be around him, and he makes you feel good – two things every guy wants to see.

#8 The hug. A hug is quite powerful and can tell you a lot about the person you’re hugging. If you’re hugging a guy goodbye or hi, let it linger just a bit and hold the hug a couple of seconds longer. It’s subtle, but it will tell him how you feel. You don’t need to hug him all of the time, but when you do hug him, make it count. [Read: 14 very subtle moves that’ll make any girl a natural seductress instantly]

#9 Turn on some music. When the mood is right, don’t be shy about putting some music on. Music not only puts us in a relaxed state, but it also connects people. Putting on some feel-good music can hit the spot as it’s more arousing than touch.

#10 Use your hair. I swear I’m not shallow! I hate to say it, but your hair can come in handy when it comes to subtle flirting. Running your hand through your hair or moving it out of your face are subtle acts that’ll make his eyes focus on your face. It’s sweet and sexy. [Read: 15 subtle and speedy moves to get a guy to make a first move and ask you out soon]

#11 Get close when you talk. If you want to tell him something, don’t be shy to get close. You can whisper in his ear if you’re in a crowded place or lean into him. These situations aren’t necessarily obvious as the atmosphere is loud and impersonal. You can create an intimate setting yourself by going into each other’s personal space *if he gives you a thumbs up*. [Read: How to make a guy seriously want to kiss you whenever you want him to]

#12 A flash of skin. If you’re wondering how to turn on a guy without being obvious, here’s a move that’ll surely work. Ocassionally, show some cleavage or skin when it’s just the two of you, “accidentally”, of course! As long as it doesn’t seem intentional, it’ll drive any red-blooded man crazy, and make him want more.

[Read: How to make a guy really horny just by sitting next to him]

You don’t need to flirt with a guy to turn him on overtly. If flirting isn’t your thing, or you want to be more discreet, just keep these steps on how to turn a guy on without being obvious in mind. They’re so subtle even he won’t have any idea why he he gets so turned on around you!