How to Tell If a Man Is Sexually Frustrated When You’re On a Date

Does your date seem agitated, frustrated even? Learn how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated and work out whether he’s actually having a dry spell.

Dry spells are a fact of life. Sometimes it’s because we’re stressed with work and can’t be bothered, and other times it’s because we just don’t meet anyone we have that amount of sexual chemistry with. However, for guys, sexual frustration can be a distracting issue. In fact, dry spells can be a huge problem for guys! Understanding how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated will help you figure out your date a lot more easily. Believe it not, there are some clear signs a man is sexually frustrated!

It’s true that we all have had periods in our life where getting laid seemed like trying out for the Olympics. You’re not sure what’s going on, but no one wants to have sex with you. It has nothing to do with the way you look, it’s just a phase everyone goes through.

But for some guys, their dry spells turned into a lifestyle. They haven’t had sex in such a long time, that when they get a chance to go on a date with a girl, they’re overwhelmed with emotion, and it shows. You might not really understand what’s going on, but these tips will help you figure it out in no time. [Read: How to handle your partner’s sexual frustration]

Before you learn how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated, what exactly is it?

Basically, when it’s been a while since you last had sex, it’s normal to feel a little frustrated about it. You want to have sex, but the opportunities aren’t coming your way. You start to wonder why, and you might even start to question whether you’re just not attractive or not.

Sexual frustration can also cause a person to appear agitated, distracted, and completely focused on just one thing. It sounds crazy, but if you’ve ever been through a dry spell, you’ll no doubt know what it feels like!

Many guys become worried about these dry spells which worsen the way they may act. They’re so focused on getting laid and feeling better about themselves that it’s all they can think about. That’s not ideal if you’re on a date with someone and you’re trying to get to know them.

It’s not that they’re not a great person, they’re just exhibiting the signs a man is sexually frustrated and it’s not giving you a chance to get to know him properly.

Of course, once his dry spell is over, all of that goes away. But, you shouldn’t be the one to have to end it, just to see him for who he really is!

It’s worth pointing out that not all men can only think about one thing during a dry spell, but it’s a truth for many. [Read: 10 naughty ways to get over a sexual dry spell quickly!]

How to tell if a man is sexually frustrated – The signs to look for

Maybe you’re on your date and you see this guy sweating profusely or nervously biting his nails. Sure, it could be because he’s stressed from work or the fact that you sitting in front of him is making him lose his mind.

I was on a date once where the guy literally yelled out suddenly, “You’re so pretty!” and then slammed his fists on the table.

Now, other than being weird, he was sexually a little tense… if you couldn’t tell. No, there wasn’t a second date. But you want to see these signs earlier than later. Sometimes it’s not easy playing cool. Here are a few signs a man is sexually frustrated.

1. He gets a little too excited when you use emojis

Especially the eggplant one, come on ladies, you know that one isn’t about vegetables. If you text with this guy and use emojis, like you usually do, but he’s really going wild on them, well, it’s a little too eager, no?

Men don’t usually use smiley faces, but if he’s using every emoji in the book, he wants in those pants. [Read: How to decode the emoji meanings they’re sending you]

2. After a date, he wants to see you the next day

You may really like him or vice versa, but usually, you give a couple of days in between your first date and the next one. You may text over those days and then agree to see each other again.

But if he pushes to see you the day after your date for a movie, well, he’s sexually frustrated and thinks he has this in the bag. [Read: 31 red flags in a guy who’s only fake-nice to get something from you]

3. He always tries to turn a text conversation into a sexting conversation

Sexting is fun and when you’re both really into it, you can really go wild with your imagination. But, if he’s always trying to sext with you, then that’s a little bit of a red flag.

Really, calm down. It’s clear that you want to have sex with him. But he’s sexually frustrated. If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy is sexually frustrated, you’ll see that he pushes for more and more.

4. How to tell if a man is sexually frustrated? He’s pushy and it’s obvious

And he’s pushy for a reason. If a guy is sexually active, even if he really likes you, he’s going to play it cool because he’s been sexually taken care of.

But if he hasn’t had sex in a while, he’ll push to see you more often. Asking you out for more and more dates, preferably at his place or yours. [Read: 15 serious warning signs of clingy guys & how you can avoid them]

5. He’s quiet about his dating life

That’s because he literally doesn’t have one. It’s not his fault or maybe it is, you’ll find out soon, trust me. It’s normal for men to have had previous relationships, casual sex, and one-night stands.

Now, he’s not going to go into detail but he’ll bring up relationships and that he’s been “casually seeing people.” If he doesn’t, that’s one of the signs a man is sexually frustrated too.

6. He overreacts about small things

Now he could just have a temper or he’s so sexually frustrated that everything pisses him off because no matter how hard he tries he can’t get laid.

Both are highly possible, so you’ll just need to sit on it and see. But if he’s unreasonably defensive or emotional, it could just be that he’s not having an easy time in the women department. [Read: 13 ways to recognize subtle social cues people give off]

7. His appearance tells you he’s semi-given up

He hasn’t shaved in months. You question if he’s even showered. It looks as though this guy has just completely given up on the idea of having sex. Though he’s on this date, he’s expecting absolutely nothing to come from it.

8. He doesn’t find sexual jokes at all funny

If you try to tease him playfully and he isn’t reacting in a positive way, you may be poking a sensitive subject for him.

This is a pretty good sign there’s something wrong. Men confident in their sexuality and capabilities wouldn’t react negatively to your teasing.

9. He shows his jealous side pretty early on

It could be your first date, and you glance at a guy walking by. Well, he saw and he’s not happy about it. He may bring it up in conversation or you may see him become red in the face and unresponsive in conversation.

He’s really jealous and insecure. It’s because he’s not getting laid. He wants your eyes on him. [Read: 25 hints a guy can’t hide when he’s jealous]

10. How to tell if a man is sexually frustrated? He’s pretty keen to get serious, fast

You’ve been on one date, and they already tell you that you’re the girl they want to spend the rest of their life with. Or you sleep with them once and they have a ring sitting on the nightstand for you. Their desire to commit is a little too much. But they don’t even know you. This is when you need to step back.

11. He does the classic male “peacocking” move

When a man peacocks, it means they want to outshine other men with bright or flashy clothing. Of course, it gets women’s attention, but not in a good way.

If they wear shirts two sizes too small or lizard skin shoes with gold chains, they grab whatever they can. [Read: Why men instinctively indulge in peacocking]

12. He brags, a lot – what is he overcompensating for?

If the guy talks about how he’s such a ladies man and that he once slept with Lindsay Lohan, he’s full of shit. He wants to impress you. Because, in reality, he’s not getting any, it’s that simple.

[Read: Avoid these 16 types of guys like the plague]

Now that you know how to tell if a man is sexually frustrated, it’s time you kept an eye out for them the next time you’re on a date. I mean, you want the guy to like you, not the fact you have a vagina.