How to Respond When a Girl Rejects You: 15 Ways to Be the Bigger Man

No one wants rejection, but it’s going to happen whether you like it or not. You just need to know how to respond when a girl rejects you.

By learning how to respond when a girl rejects you, you’ll be able to handle anything that comes flying your way in life. Rejection is hard but once you overcome it, you’re invincible—well, almost.

Now, since you’re a guy, you should know that you’re going to get rejected. This may or may not have something to do with you, but even if it did, so what?

You’re going to learn that rejection is a part of not only the dating world but in life. You may not get the job you wanted, or your parents won’t let you have the car on Friday night, these things are going to happen. [Read: How to grow up and be a mature adult]

How to respond when a girl rejects you

I wish I could tell you that you’re never going to be rejected. But I didn’t expect to get rejected either, and well, I’ve had my fair share of rejection. Now, I never went crazy and keyed people’s cars when that happened, but I didn’t handle the news that well.

I would start crying, yelling, talk about them behind their backs. Was it nice? No, but this is what people do when they’re in pain. However, you can still be in pain and not act like an asshole.

Is it as fun? Probably not, but you’ll feel better about the entire situation when you handle it like an adult. No, you don’t need to call her a bitch.

#1 Not everyone is going to love you. Realize that not everyone is going to want to be with you. Once you accept that, rejection becomes a little easier to handle.

It’s still hard when you have feelings for someone, but you can’t control how someone feels for you and that’s not her fault. This doesn’t mean it’s your fault either, it simply means you are not a match. [Read: How to hit on a girl without acting like a creep]

#2 Keep your cool. You’re going to be upset. Like anyone being rejected, the first thing you’re going to be is hurt and then, well, a little angry. But listen, this isn’t the moment for you to freak out and start yelling at her. No, no, no. Just chill and play this off cool. You can freak out later in the privacy of your own home, but for now, keep it under control. [Read: How to handle rejection without making a fool of yourself]

#3 Don’t take it personally. Let’s say you met this girl at a bar, and you tried to hit on her. She rejected you. Can you blame her for rejecting you? She doesn’t know anything about you, but she’s rejecting what you’re presenting her.

Now, if she’s known you for a while and she rejects a move you make on her, she obviously doesn’t see you being a successful match. [Read: How to get a girl to notice you even before talking to her]

#4 Understand no two women are the same. There are no two women that are the same. Some women love cheesy pickup lines while other girls don’t. Your approach may work for one girl, but it won’t necessarily work for every girl. Work on your approach and understand how to alter it depending on the woman you’re talking to.

#5 Reflect on what you did. The only way you can gain more successes rather than rejections is to actually reflect on what happened. What did you say to her? How did you approach her? Now, it could just be that you chose the wrong girl at the wrong time, but if you’re noticing you’re getting rejected often, ask yourself why.

#6 Leave your ego at the door. If you let your ego get in the middle of this, you’re going to say things to hurt her and you at the end. After you get rejected, you should shrug it off. You can laugh, pretend to cry, shrug your shoulders, and continue to the next girl. If you allow it to stick to you, you’ll put yourself in a negative mood, and that’s the end of the night for you. [Read: How to overcome the fear of rejection and just ask the girl out]

#7 Know when she’s rejecting you. The worst thing that can happen is when you stick around longer then someone wants you to. Know the signs of when you’re being rejected. When you see the signs early enough, pull out.

She’s going to reject you whether it’s in two minutes or ten minutes. Pull out before she rejects you, that way, you leave on a high note. And you changed the power tactics which may catch her attention.

#8 Walk away. I’ve seen some men get rejected or ignored and then hang around for a couple of minutes longer, thinking that maybe this chick will change her mind. Listen, if you get rejected, leave her area. Don’t hang around with her or try to convince her otherwise.

Her mind is made for now. You hanging around her will only make her decision stronger. So, if someone says “no, thank you,” the best thing you can do is walk away. [Read: She rejected you but still acts interested? Here’s how to read her mind]

#9 Don’t bad mouth her. If you’re wondering how to respond when a girl rejects you, here’s something you need to remember. I’ve seen guys get rejected and then retreat to their friends only to make a scene, pointing at her, laughing at her. Well, not only is this incredibly rude, but you’re also ruining your chances with other women. You don’t think any of the other women notice this? They all see it and trust me if you act like this, you’re going to keep getting rejected. Be classy and be respectful.

#10 No begging. There’s nothing more humiliating than seeing someone beg for someone to go out with them. I know you may really like her or think she’s beautiful, but if she’s rejected you, don’t start begging. This isn’t going to go well for you. Once she sees herself as someone above you, it’s over. Make sure she sees you as an equal. So, no begging! [Read: The gentleman’s guide to successfully asking out a woman]

#11 Make a joke. Now, sometimes women will reject you by completely ignoring you. I’m sorry on behalf of all women, it really isn’t cool to do that. But now you see how immature she is, so see it as a win.

After you get rejected, make a joke out of it if you can. Have a laugh, say something funny, and walk away. You don’t necessarily need to leave the scene with a bitter taste in your mouth. [Read: How to make a girl smile, laugh and like you instantly]

#12 Don’t think all women are like this. I’ve seen some women reject men in terrible ways. Ways that truly offended me. But realize not all women are like this. There are some women who believe they’re better than everyone else and feel it’s okay to treat people like this, but this isn’t the majority.

If you approach a woman in a respectful way, most women will kindly decline the offer without being rude.

#13 Remember it’s about numbers. You’ve probably looked for jobs before, but you know that to land one or two interviews, you must apply to literally hundreds of job postings. Well, this is basically the same thing when approaching women.

It’s a numbers game. You can approach one girl and she may reject you, but approach ten girls and your odds of having a conversation or getting a number are significantly higher.

#14 Tweak as you go along. As you continue to approach women, make small tweaks to your approach. Learn from each interaction and go from there. That way, you develop a generally solid approach to women and become more comfortable when talking to a woman that appears as a challenge to you. [Read: The subtle cues that will have you reading a woman’s mind]

#15 You’re going to be rejected. The only way to figure out if what you’re doing is right or not is through rejection. This is just the way we learn. So, the best way to handle rejection is to understand that it’s going to happen whether you want it to or not. All you can do after that is change your tactics and learn from each rejection.

[Read: The 10 most important rules of being a gentleman]

Listen, the dating world can be harsh, but you don’t have to let it get you down. By knowing how to respond when a girl rejects you, you’re one step ahead already!