How to Read the Signs Your Girlfriend Isn’t Sexually Attracted to You

Attraction can come and go, and at times it’s not in your control. Use this to recognize the signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you anymore.

Man, why do relationships have to be so difficult? Well, if I had the answer to that, I would be rich. But, I guess all the hard work and drama is worth it. But the thing about relationships is that they’re a two-way street. And that means it’s not always going to work in your favor. Lets talk about sexual attraction, which is why we’re here. I mean, really, your girl may have been incredibly attracted to you to begin with. And you may be attracted to her. Now somewhere along the way, perhaps you’re starting to see signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you anymore.

As much as you want your partner to feel the same about you, there’s always a chance their feelings are on a completely different page. And maybe this is what you’re experiencing right now.

If the thought of your girlfriend not being sexually attracted to you has crossed your mind, the good thing is everyone has had those thoughts, so you’re not alone. Sometimes it’s just our own insecurities that bring these thoughts to our minds. Other times, it’s our partner who’s giving us mixed signals, making us think that maybe they’re not as into us as we originally thought. Well, it’s time to squash these thoughts by figuring out what’s really going on.

[Read: What does sexual attraction feel like? How to know the exact feeling]

The 11 most obvious signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you

There’s no good time to discover this.

#1 She chooses masturbation over sex. There are times when we would rather masturbate than have sex. But for your partner, this has become a reoccurring trend. She doesn’t want to have sex with you; she prefers to masturbate. Now, this isn’t a bad thing, but you need to find out what’s causing this. Is it her lack of sexual attraction towards you or something else? [Read: 13 steps to become the sexy guy you’ve always desired to be]

#2 You feel there’s a switch. You just know, deep inside of you, something has changed. You can’t necessarily pinpoint what it is, but something is very off. All the warm, loving feelings you have are still there, but for your partner, you’re not feeling the reciprocation. [Read: Why did she suddenly lose interest in you and what you need to learn from it]

#3 She’s distant towards you when things get physical. You start to touch her and try to arouse her, but she’s not having it. Instead of engaging in physical contact, she pulls away. This isn’t to say she won’t touch you back, she will, but it’s very calculated and shallow.

#4 She makes remarks about your body. When we’re not sexually attracted to someone, we’re more aware of their physical flaws. And if she starts commenting on your body, pointing out things she doesn’t like, well, that’s one of the probable signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you. First of all, no one should ever do that. [Read: How to pinpoint the exact causes when a woman loses interest in a man]

#5 Her body language changes when you touch her. Of course, since she’s your partner, you want to show her affection with hugs and kisses. But when you go in for a hug or kiss, her body language isn’t giving you welcoming vibes. Her body tenses, the hug or kiss is very shallow, and she doesn’t let you get too close. Something is up.

#6 You have to initiate everything. And when I mean everything, I mean everything. Though she used to touch, kiss, and hug you, that’s all come to a slow stop. Now, if you want any affection, you need to ask for it from her. And even when she gives you affection, it doesn’t feel right. [Read: What a woman is trying to tell you when she starts pulling back]

#7 She tells you her sexual feelings have changed. Maybe she’s hinted her lack of sexual attraction to you before, but you didn’t pay attention or take much interest in what she was trying to say. Think back to former conversations and see if she ever tried to let you know how she was feeling about the relationship.

#8 The sex has changed. It’s normal for couples to go through phases in their sex lives. Some moments, couples will feel intense sexual attraction, and then there will be dry spells. It happens. But in this case, the sex has changed. She’s not as engaged as she used to be; it’s almost as if you’re the one who needs to do everything. [Read: Is your girlfriend turning into a pillow princess?]

#9 Have you talked about it with her? Well… have you? Or are you just going to live in misery without ever bringing it up? Yes, you can try to read her body language and figure out how she’s feeling, but there’s an even better way to get to the point. Have you talked to her? Relationships are all about communication. So, start talking. [Read: What makes a man sexy? The desirable traits that make a man hot AF]

#10 Bring it up in conversation. Well, if you’re seeing a few of the signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you anymore, bring it up in conversation. Or this will just continue to torture you. And you don’t want it to get to the moment where you have a breakdown.

She’s your girlfriend, and you need to be able to talk about difficult subjects with her – and this is one of them. Sit down and talk openly and honestly about how you feel. Let’s see what she has to say. [Read: 20 ingenious ways to keep a relationship exciting and really fun]

#11 This doesn’t mean she isn’t sexually attracted to you. Relationships aren’t cut and dry; there’s no black and white when it comes to love. Even if she’s exhibiting these signs, it doesn’t mean she isn’t sexually attracted to you. It could be that she needs the sex to be spiced up or that you two have detached from each other because of work, school, etc.

[Read: How to be the hot guy – 20 rules to instant hotness!]

No one wants to come across these signs your girlfriend isn’t sexually attracted to you anymore. But, it does happen. It’s better to know now than later. Pay attention to these signs, talk to your girlfriend, and make the changes together so the excitement can find its way back into your relationship.