How to Make Your Boyfriend Miss You Every Time You Aren’t Around

Sometimes you need to inject a little freshness back into your relationship. Learning how to make your boyfriend miss you can do just that.

Relationships are great at the start, right? It’s all hearts and flowers, happy times, and wonderful memories, but as time ticks on, it’s normal for some of that shine to rub off. And if you’re looking to put back some shine, learn how to make your boyfriend miss you.

Relationships all go through it

It’s normal! You settle into a groove, you become comfortable, and sometimes that can mean you show your appreciation of the other person a little less too.

Of course, that doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them as much, it’s simply that you’ve become comfortable. Now, we all like to be told that we’re appreciated, loved, and how wonderful we are. If your boyfriend is saying these words or showing you with actions a little less, it might be time to give him a little jolt.

While normal, I’m certainly not saying it’s okay either. You deserve to be told how wonderful you are! Sure, not every single day otherwise it would probably become boring, but we all love to hear it. It helps us feel connected to our partner and keeps the flame alive.

[Read: How to reignite the lost spark in your relationship]

Learn how to make your boyfriend miss you

The jolt I’m talking about is learning how to make your boyfriend miss you when you’re not with him, so he starts to show his appreciation of you a little more when you’re by his side.

Now I’m not a big fan of tactics and games, but sometimes you have to shake things up a little. In that case, let’s look at how to make your boyfriend miss you in nine pretty easy steps.

#1 Don’t be as available for dates and meet ups. It’s quite likely that you’re used to saying ‘yes’ and dropping most things whenever your boyfriend suggests meeting up. It’s also likely that you’re the one suggesting things to do and places to go. Stop doing it. Seriously. Let him come up with some suggestions, and don’t be as available when he asks if you want to do something.

It goes a little like this. He calls in the last minute and asks if you want to hang out that night because his friends canceled on him. You’re free, but you say you’re busy. No, you’re not shooting yourself in the foot, you’re teaching him a lesson! Use that time you’re not doing anything to chill out and relax a little, it won’t hurt him and it might teach him a lesson! [Read: How to pull back in a relationship when you’re giving too much]

#2 Don’t pick up the phone or answer messages straightaway. Do you always answer when he calls? Do you reply to messages within minutes? Practice the delay method! Understanding how to make your boyfriend miss you basically relies upon him thinking you’re doing something more exciting and getting his brain working a little. He’s become complacent and that needs to go.

When he calls, let it go to voicemail and call him back a little while later. When he messages, wait a short while before reading the message. It’s not a good idea to leave him on read, as that is likely to cause an argument, but simply don’t allow the ‘read’ tick to show! [Read: 13 needy signs you’re too available for your partner]

#3 Spend more time with your friends. It’s not a bad thing to spend time with your friends, so it’s time to place them as a priority in your life too, if they’re not already. When we’re in relationships, we often let our friendships slide; I’m certainly not saying it’s right, but it does happen.

This is a great way to learn how to make your boyfriend miss you whilst also benefiting yourself and your friends too.

#4 Focus on yourself. Take this opportunity to practice self care! Do something you’ve always wanted to do, rather than dropping everything for him. Have a hot bath and read a book. Play a sport or go to the gym. Go out shopping and enjoy yourself for the day. Learn something new.

Basically, focus on number one. Let him wonder what you’re doing and why for a while. The chances are, he’ll start to show a lot more interest and appreciation because he’s concerned as to why you’re not quite as easily available or focused on him as you normally are! [Read: How to be a strong independent woman that men love]

#5 Use social media to highlight what a great time you’re having. Social media is a two-pronged beast. It can be used for good or for bad. However, use it to strengthen your case a little. Whenever you go out with your friends, highlight this on social media. Showcase what a great time you’re having. Update your status with random quirky quotes and things you’re doing and go to town with the selfies.

This doesn’t mean you’re cutting him out of your life by any means. It simply means you’re expanding your life beyond him and creating a better balance for yourself, while teaching him a lesson at the same time. [Read: The traits in a woman that draw all men towards her]

#6 Encourage him to spend time with his friends too. Of course, it’s only fair if you’re out with your friends that you should be fine with him doing the same. Encourage him to go out with his friends. Show him that you’re perfectly fine with it.

He might wonder why you’re telling him to go out alone and make him realize when he is out how much he misses your presence. This might just jolt him back into super-boyfriend mode.

#7 What is your scent? If you regularly wear a certain perfume, make sure you leave little hints of it around his house or car. If you use a certain shampoo, rub your hair on his sweater a little. It might sound odd, but our sense of smell is very powerful for memory recall. When he smells something that is similar to your specific favorite scent, he’s going to remember you and probably come over all nostalgic. [Read: How to be a high value woman he’ll never ever want to leave]

#8 Don’t share every single detail with him. Are you guilty of sharing all your thoughts and secrets with your boyfriend? Of course, you shouldn’t have secrets, but that doesn’t mean that you have to spill out every single thought and detail of your day with him either.

Be a little mysterious. Avoid telling him as much as you normally would. He might start to wonder why you’re not sharing as many details. As a result, his suspicions might cause him to pay a little more attention. This is a great way to learn how to make your boyfriend miss you! [Read: 16 reasons why you may be taken for granted by your boyfriend]

#9 Make the times you are together super fun. When you are together, make sure that you have a great time, smile, and show him attention. Then, when you’re not together he’s more likely to miss the fun vibe you have when you’re in the same place.

Don’t be fake. Simply make the most of the time you spend together and make it count. Understanding how to make your boyfriend miss you relies upon you having great memories together in the first place.

[Read: The 9 stages of love all couples go through]

If you need to learn how to make your boyfriend miss you simply because he’s become a little complacent of late, don’t worry. This happens to the best of us. Just remind him of your worth when you’re not around, and he’ll start to understand why he fell in love with you in the first place.