How to Make a Guy Feel Guilty for Hurting You & Breaking Your Heart

Feeling the need for revenge? The best revenge is self-improvement. Focus on yourself and learn how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you.

It’s normal to want to know how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you and see the error of his ways, especially if he crushed your heart into a million tiny pieces. The thing is, what’s done is done. Time can’t be turned back. Now you focus on the future. More importantly, learn to be happy in the here and now.

When you’ve been hurt, you generally start thinking in one of two ways. You’ll either wallow in your own self-pity or have a burning desire for revenge. Either way, shake yourself, remember you’re better than all of this, and focus on number one!

If you’ve recently been hurt, being positive is probably the last thing you feel like doing. But it is the most important thing you can do! Negativity will breed further negativity. Before you know it, you’re stalking his Facebook, turning up outside his house, and basically making yourself crazy. Remember your dignity and your power, and avoid the crazy behavior!

[Read: How to leave during a breakup and leave with your head held high]

How to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you

Understanding how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you is really about turning your attention back on yourself. How is that useful? It will not only make you feel amazing, giving you the time to focus on something other than the pain and upset you’re feeling, but it will also make him question his motives and what he did. He might even question his decisions and want you back. But that’s when you’ll say a big, fat no!

If you’re not sure where to begins, these 8 steps on how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you is a starting point. If these don’t work, you’ve found one that really doesn’t have a heart!

#1 Focus on number one. I mean you. Take this time to focus on yourself. Do not feel guilty about it. Being hurt can really take it out of you, cause your self-confidence and question everything about your life. It depends on the severity of the hurt, but any type of betrayal or upset can knock you for six. Be kind to yourself and do the things you love. On top of that, focus on health and wellbeing.

You’ve no doubt heard about people having their hair cut after breakups and going to the gym, transforming themselves into a pillar of health. That’s what you need. And enjoy every second of it! Once he sees you glow from the inside out, he’ll wonder what he was thinking at the time. [Read: 15 of the worst things you can say during a breakup]

#2 Make sure you look amazing if you’re likely to see him around. This could take a little pre-planning because you need to know when you’re going to bump into him. If you have regular occasions when you’re likely to be in the same room, look your radiant best.

Not only will it turn his head and make him think twice, but it will give you a huge surge of self-confidence to make him wonder whether he made a mistake. Turn on your heel and don’t pay him any attention. It will drive him crazy! [Read: 14 things to keep in mind when you bump into your ex]

#3 Make your new happiness known via social media and mutual friends. This might not be the most honest of moves, but learning how to make a guy feeling guilty for hurting you isn’t all about being genuine all the time! You’re probably still smarting inside, feeling upset and let down. Don’t let him see that. This doesn’t mean you let him off the hook, it means you don’t allow him to see how much he damaged your self-esteem.

Simply post a few upbeat positive pictures, statuses, and quotes on your social media feeds. Just don’t go overboard to the point where it looks obvious that you’re faking it. But then again, make sure that you avoid any negative, wallowing options. If you have any mutual friends who might be on board with your cunning plan, make sure how well you’re doing is getting back to him through them too! [Read: How to make him regret hurting you without hurting yourself]

#4 Delete his number. Wonder how this will make him feel guilty? Say he calls you out of the blue, for a second you have no idea who is calling, because the number isn’t saved in your phone, won’t it hit him hard if you say “sorry, who is this?”

Deleting the number of someone you care about can be hard. But it’s best that you do it. It will also help you with our next step. [Read: Why the no contact rule always works]

#5 Radio silence is the way forward. No matter how desperate, no matter how drunk, make sure that you do not call or text him under any circumstances. The fact that you’re not contacting him will make him wonder why. Every guy’s ego does this, guaranteed. It’s also a truth that when someone isn’t talking to you, that’s a sure sign they’re hurt, and stab away at his conscience.

So, delete that number, sit on your you hands if you already know the number by heart, and enlist the help of a friend to stop you from making a call or text.

#6 If you see him, ignore him. If you do happen to see him in the street or when you’re out, make sure you ignore him as much as possible. If you can’t ignore him, keep your answers sharp and only one-word. You do not want him to think that whatever he did to you is forgiven and forgotten. Your sharp answers or, even better, your silence, will tell him that he is forgotten, but what he did isn’t.

#7 Have fun, it’s the best revenge! The single best way to make him feel bad about what he’s done is to see you enjoying life. Even if you can’t think of anything else you’d rather do less, get dressed up and go out with your friends. Force yourself to enjoy it!

The more you fake it, the easier it will be to really enjoy it. After a while, it will become natural. This will help you to heal and make him wonder whether he made a mistake. Really want to know how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you? Let him see that you’re over it and loving your life. [Read: How to get revenge and hit back and get even]

#8 Move on, for the right reasons. The final step in your plan is to move on. Make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons and not to get back at him. Don’t try and pull someone else into your situation by hurting them unintentionally. If you do move on with another person, make sure it’s because you want to be with them and not because you want to get back at your ex.

[Read: 15 rebound relationship signs to look at for]

Understanding how to make a guy feel guilty for hurting you is all about looking after yourself and healing from the hurt he caused. A genuine smile on your face is the biggest “look at me now” you can give!