How to Know if Someone Is Right for You: 15 Signs to Look Out For

If you’re wondering whether or not someone is right for you, take a look at these signs and see how to know if someone is right for you.

My dad would always tell me, “find someone who can be your best friend.” And though he was right, finding my best friend took years. In other words, learning how to know if someone is right for you might take time. Of course, some people meet the love of their life right away and are set for life. Finding a genuine partner takes time for most of us.

When I would date someone, I’d think whether or not we’d be a match, and even though the guy was usually great, there just wasn’t the click I needed to see in the relationship.

It wasn’t until I met my current partner where I felt that this person could really be my best friend and someone who’ll be by my side. I met him when I was 27. So, it really takes time for some of us.

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How to know if someone is right for you

If you’re worried about whether this person is the right one for you, don’t worry. Take your time and really reflect on your relationship. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from dating—you shouldn’t rush it. If you’re not sure about your partner, slow things down and take your time before making any big decisions.

Just look at the signs to answer how to know if someone is right for you.

#1 You’re willing to risk it. When you’re with this person, you’re not scared to open up and become vulnerable. You want them to see the real you, even if it risks them not feeling the same way. Now, this sign alone doesn’t mean you found the right one because love is a two-way street. But the fact you’re willing to put it on the line shows your true feelings. [Read: 12 very real signs of true, unending love in a relationship]

#2 You don’t fear the relationship. If someone is scared of committing to another person, odds are they don’t feel that person is really the one for them. But you don’t fear the relationship, and neither do they. Instead, you want to commit yourselves to the relationship.

#3 They don’t hold you back. You don’t want to have to carry your partner on your back throughout your life. This isn’t what a relationship is about. Your partner walks beside you, not behind or ahead of you. They don’t hold you back from doing what you love; instead, they push you forward. [Read: 50 questions to test your compatibility in the relationship]

#4 You fit into each other’s lives. You can imagine living your life with this person. They like your family and friends; you have similar interests and enjoy spending time together. If you can visualize being together in the future, it shows that you fit together in each other’s lives.

#5 You don’t want to snoop. You don’t feel you need to snoop through your partner’s things or check who’s messaging them. You trust your partner and your relationship. If you feel the need to check where they are and what they’re constantly doing, there’s distrust on your side. Why? You need to figure this out.

#6 They don’t want to change you. You are who you are. And, of course, there may be things about yourself you want to change, and that’s fine. But your partner didn’t come with a list of things they don’t like about you. They accept who you are, flaws, and all.

#7 You feel safe and secure. If there’s one person who should make you feel safe, it’s your partner. If you don’t feel safe and secure around them, they’re not the person. Trust is everything, and if you don’t trust them, you don’t have anything going for your relationship. 

#8 You want to work on your relationship. To be with this person, you want to put effort into the relationship. You want to build a future with them and be vulnerable around them. No relationship is perfect, but you’re willing to work out the issues you have in order to make things work.

#9 They listen to you. If you’re upset or hurt, when you express your feelings, they don’t dismiss you. Instead, they listen and talk to you about what happened. A good partner is someone who shows genuine interest in your life and well-being. They actually want to know what’s going on in your life. [Read: These 18 emotions are things you should never feel in a healthy relationship]

#10 You talk openly about sex. Well, this is important. Most couples have sex, but very few can comfortably sit down and talk about sex. You want a partner you can talk to about sex. They should be interested in how to please you and vice versa. 

#11 You’re a team. When you are together, you’re a team. There’s nothing that can come in the way that you won’t conquer. Your relationship isn’t about competing with one another; it’s about becoming an unbreakable force. Your strengths and weaknesses balance each other, and that’s a great sign this person is the right one for you. [Read: 25 must-follow relationship rules for happy love]

#12 When you’re happy, they’re happy. Now, I don’t mean, “happy wife, happy life.” Because a relationship is about two people. If you both place each other first and work on pursuing their best interests as a couple, then this is great. Your partner should be happy when you’re happy, and vice versa.

#13 You feel comfortable to disagree with them. Can you imagine being with someone you can’t disagree with? Even my partner and I have the occasional disagreement, and we feel free enough to express our feelings. Disagreements are normal in all relationships, but if you feel you should suppress your voice, that’s a problem.

#14 You inspire each other. You two aren’t only a team. You inspire each other to chase after your dreams and goals. Your partner wants the best for you and will cheer you on while you complete your goals. The right person is someone who inspires you to be the best version of you. [Read: The signs your partner is truly supportive of your goals] 

#15 They comfort you when you’re upset. You want a partner who will be able to support you when you’re feeling down. Though this sounds simple, it’s not easy finding a partner who’s compassionate and attentive. Instead of making fun of you or criticizing you for being upset, they listen and comfort you.

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Learning how to know if someone is right for you isn’t easy to find out. But, after looking at these signs, reflect on your relationship and how you feel in it. Is this person the right one for you?