How to Get a Player to Like You & Hook Him Before He Hooks You

Everyone says you can’t get a player to like you, but it’s not as hard as they make it sound. You just need to know how to get a player to like you.

So, you like a player, and you want him to like you back. But how? How are you going to manage that? Well, that’s why you’re here. I’m going to guide you through the art of knowing how to get a player to like you.

But please, please remember, this person is a player. So, while you try to get them to like you, don’t get played yourself.

How to get a player to like you and fall hard

I used to love chasing after players. Wow, I’m making myself sound so desperate. Well, I wasn’t that desperate, but I definitely enjoyed the challenge. If he looked, acted, and talked like a player, I was automatically into him. How could I not? [Read: The reasons why your guy is acting distant and strange]

Players are usually pretty good looking, know exactly what to say, and the right moves to make. As I got older, I realized what a waste of time it was. But, in the moment, I loved it. Listen, do I think you should get a player to like you? No, I don’t. I’m old school when it comes to this.

Players aren’t people who change magically overnight. But, if you’re like me, then you’re not going to let that get in the way of winning over his affection. Listen, I really hope it works out for you. Maybe I’m just bitter from my unsuccessful past. Never mind, this isn’t my therapy session—it’s time to focus on you. Go get him, girl.

#1 Focus on friendship. I know you want to jump straight into it, but you need to develop a relationship with him first. He’s a player which means he’s used to women falling for him. This guy can get any girl in the room, so this isn’t a problem for him.

But you need to offer him something else, something he doesn’t get with the other girls—friendship. Being his friend gives you an advantage. [Read: The reasons why a guy could play hard to get]

#2 Don’t be like the others. You see the other women falling for him and chasing him around. Don’t do this if you want to learn the art of knowing how to get a player to like you. Remember, focus on building a friendship. If you act like the other women, he’ll see you like them. I know it’s hard, but act relaxed, in the same way you would act with your other friends.

#3 Rock your confidence. If you want to make someone like you, be confident. This is a player we’re talking about, remember? They’re used to being around women and getting what they want.

Show him you love yourself and know what you’re worth. This will give him the desire to chase you because he knows you’re not going to be an easy catch. Keep your head high, shoulders back, and work that walk, girl! [Read: 30 effortlessly easy and sexy ways to keep a guy interested and hooked]

#4 Don’t tell him you like him. Oh, I know you want to just blurt it out, but don’t. He’s a player which means he’s all about games. If he knows how you feel about him right away, in his head, he’s already won. You need to put on a convincing poker face. This doesn’t mean you need to be an ice queen, but don’t be the one who confesses their feelings first. Give it time.

#5 Get seducing. Well, it’s time to work your charm. That’s right, seduce him. Yes, he’s a player, but at the end of the day, he’s also a human. And when a man sees a confident woman who’s seducing him, it’s hard for him to resist.

This doesn’t mean you need to completely change the way you dress or how you do your makeup, but you should add a little flirting and eye contact into the mix. [Read: 15 ways to tease and flirt with a friend without being weird]

#6 Comfortable is sexy. The traditional way of seducing a man is to put on a tight dress and heels, but you don’t have to do that. You can if you want, but what people find most appealing is when someone is comfortable with themselves. This can be in a tight dress, or something more casual. There’s no seduction outfit you need to wear. Put on something that makes you feel sexy.

#7 Be what he can’t have. That’s right. I know you want him to have you, but right now, you need to make it look like he can’t have it. Players are always getting what they want, that’s why they’re players. But, be someone he can’t have when he snaps his fingers. He needs to work for your attention. [Read: How to get any guy to notice you and fall for you]

#8 Be independent. Players are always around women that want to be with them. Women that need them around. But no guy wants a woman who’s going to hang off of him, especially a player.

When it comes to players, this is usually why they never commit. Sure, they like women, but the ones they’re with become clingy. So, live your own life. Join an activity, hang out with your friends, do your own thing.

#9 Don’t be so available. This is something that’s really important. A player always has a couple of girls on his phone who are available whenever he needs them. You don’t want to be that girl. Because once that happens, you’ll never leave that spot. If he calls or texts you, don’t reply right away. You need to show him he’s not on your priority list. [Read: How to play hard to get with a guy and leave him craving for you]

#10 Get along with his friends. Unless you don’t like his friends… then maybe you should reconsider this entire plan. But, if you do like his friends, well, this is a great time to get to know them. A player has a strong support system amongst his male friends. They usually have an entourage. If you want to leave an impression on him, get to know his friends. 

#11 Be supportive. If you’re developing the friendship, great. But being a friend is more than just hanging out together. You need to show him that you’re there for him. He probably doesn’t express his emotions to other women very often. But by being there for him, you show him the relationship is genuine and safe. [Read: How to get someone to open up and really connect]

#12 Cool it with the compliments. Of course, you want to tell him he looks cute today or that you like his shirt. You can do it, with a limit. Don’t be the person who’s throwing compliments at him like flies. It’s okay to validate his ego or self-esteem. But, if it’s excessive, well, you’ll be seeing more of his ego than anything.

#13 Rock his world. If you get to the point where you are going to have sex, well, good for you. It’s not easy to make it that far. This is the night where you to rock his world. Of course, he’ll need to rock yours too. If the sex ends up being amazing, he won’t be a player anymore. He’s been with many women, so, this needs to make him change his mind about what he’s doing in life.

#14 Be patient. I know you want this to happen quickly, but when it comes to people’s emotions, it’s not something you can force. You need to give him time to relax, open up to you, and develop a connection. If it’s a genuine connection and friendship, it’s not going to blossom overnight. I know it can be hard because you want things to move forward, but you can’t push too hard. Just chill. [Read: All the reasons why chasing a guy never helps]

#15 Know when to move on. That being said, you’re probably not going to wait around for years and years. At some point, if you’re feeling he’s not into you that way, it’s time to let it go. It’s hard, I know, but what are you doing to yourself?

You can’t end up being the person you hangs around a guy endlessly, waiting for the moment when he realizes he likes you. That moment won’t happen, at least not when you’re glued to his side.

[Read: How to ignore a guy and get him chasing you]

You know how to get a player to like you. Now, the next step is actually doing it. You just need to own what you’re doing, and he’ll fall head over heels.