How to Be More Romantic: 15 Mushy Gestures to Make Any Girl Melt

If you want to attract and keep a girl, you need to focus on romance. Learn how to be more romantic and keep her swooning over the long-term!

Romance is important. However, with the world moving at such a fast pace and everyone’s relationships being reduced to the bare minimum, it’s so hard to find. But if you want to make a girl yours, you need to know how to be more romantic because women crave romance in relationships.

Which means, if you’re a romantic guy, you’re already ahead of the game.

The trouble is, more and more men nowadays are losing sight of what romance truly is.

Thankfully, we’re here to set it straight so you can make all the ladies fall for you. If you can nail down being romantic, you’ll win over most women in no time.

[Read: 60 most romantic movies in the world that are a must-watch to learn about romance]

Why you need romance in your love life

Romance is all about making a girl you like, or your partner, feel loved and special by doing unique things for them. Without it, you run the risk of making your partner feel insignificant and unimportant to you – even if that’s not even close to the truth.

Therefore, you must have romance. Every relationship has to have some level of romance, even if you’re not really the lovey-dovey type. Even the smallest amount of romance can go a long way in making a relationship successful.

[Read: How to be romantic without being cheesy]

But, what exactly is romance?

The first problem you run into is a definition of what romance is. You see, romance is different for everyone. Some girls love the hearts and flowers routine to the max, but others find it a little cringe. In that case, you’ll need to hit the right side of the line so she doesn’t want to throw up when you attempt to be romantic.

If you look for a definition of romance, you’ll see that it’s not really actions, it’s a feeling. The actions are the things that bring the feelings. The definition is “a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love”, according to Oxford Languages. So, if you want to make a girl feel romanced, you need to create excitement and mystery. Of course, there are many ways to do just that! [Read: 20 ingenious ways to keep a relationship exciting]

You know your girlfriend better than anyone, so you should be able to understand the things that would make her feel like romance is present in her life.

However, if you’ve just met a girl and you’re trying to woo her, things are a little more difficult. In that case, the list we’re about to talk through should help you out. [Read: How to impress a girl – The 15 atypical secrets you MUST know]

How to be more romantic and win over every girl

There’s a reason women watch so many romance movies. It’s because we’re missing it in our lives. We crave that romance and when we don’t find it, we seek it out in other forms – like movies and books.

But if we had a man provide that romance for us, you better believe our attention would be on him. That’s why we’re here to teach even the worst guys how to be more romantic so they can find true love. [Read: 30 really romantic ideas that’ll make your lover instantly melt]

1. Appeal to what’s important to her

It’s really not hard to find out what a woman loves. She’ll talk about it all the time. The things she cares about the most and what she’s passionate about will come across loud and clear.

All you have to do is remember those things and do something that will help her in that way. If your girl is writing a book, read her chapters and give her feedback. Support her whenever you can and even buy her notebooks to jot down ideas in. That is simple romance. [Read: 20 questions that will reveal what’s really important to her]

2. Be there when she’s upset and needs you

If a girl is stressed out and really upset but doesn’t want to ask you for help, be there anyways. Do it on your own. Recognize the signs that she’s in distress and help her with anything. You can even do something little and silly to make her feel better and that’s really romantic.

3. Don’t overlook the little things

Knowing how to be more romantic is super simple. All you need to do is do the little things every now and then. Picking up her favorite candy on your way home may not seem like much, but to her, it’s really romantic. [Read: 25 little romantic gestures for everyday life]

4. Go big on occasion

Aside from the little things, do something big and extravagant every now and then. Buy her flowers, take her to a really nice restaurant, and even take her on a spontaneous weekend trip.

5. Take a hint from her favorite romance movies

What romance movie is her favorite and the one she can always watch on repeat? If you don’t know, just ask her. Then watch it for yourself. What does the male lead do that’s cute and romantic?

Even if it seems cheesy to you, give it a try and see how much she loves it. A girl’s favorite romance movie can tell you a lot about her. [Read: 25 steamy romance movies that are great to turn up sensual love]

6. Show her genuine affection

Be physically affectionate. Be touchy-feely with her, kiss her forehead, give her a lot of hugs, and give her attention in that way.

Showing affection isn’t the same as being sexual, though. Give her sweet and innocent touches and it’s really romantic. [Read: 16 non-sexual touches that’ll make your girl feel connected and loved]

7. Voice your affection

Something that’s even better than physical affection is when you tell her how much you care about her. Be vocal about your feelings. We know this is generally harder for guys to do, but believe us when we say it’s really romantic to women.

8. Take over the chores when she’s had a stressful week

If you really want to know how to be more romantic, then pay close attention to this one. When you know a girl has had a rough week and she’s stressed out, do some of her chores and do some small favors that will lighten her load. You may not even realize just how romantic this gesture is. [Read: 20 sweetest ways to cheer your girl up when she’s down]

9. Pay attention to what makes her happiest, and do more of it

What are some of the things you’ve done in the past that have made her really happy? Figure out what those things are and keep doing them. Don’t think that girls get sick of those things – especially if she’s really happy about them every time.

10. Plan a special date night once a month

This is particularly true for those of you in a long-term relationship who want to learn how to be more romantic. The truth is that when you’re with the same person for a long time, you might stop going on dates as you settle into a routine.

Your job, and a way you can be really romantic, is to plan a date night once a month. One whole night where you take charge and take your woman out for a nice dinner and maybe some ice cream. It’s simple, easy to do, and she’ll love it. One rule however – never cancel or rearrange date night. It’s a sacred date on your calendar!

[Read: 33 awesome date night ideas every couple should try]

11. Give her an oil massage

A great way to bring romance into your relationship is by offering your woman a nice oil massage. You can do her whole body or just her back. But if you light a few candles and let her sit back and relax, the amount of romance she’ll feel is incredible. And you might just get a little something in return! [Read: How to give your lover the perfect sensual massage]

12. Run a bath for her when she’s stressed and overwhelmed

Baths are hot, relaxing, and pretty much every woman enjoys them. You can even get some scented oils and light a few candles for her. Allowing her to unwind is actually very romantic.

13. Know how to calm her during stressful times

Every girl is different in this way. Some women want to talk about their issues and vent, some want to listen to music, and others prefer to light a few candles and just breathe in the relaxing scents. Find out what your girl needs and give it to her.

14. Show her daily how much you care

It’s surprising how many guys don’t realize that romance doesn’t have to be a huge spectacle. It can actually be very small things you do daily that show her you care. Just be there every day and make sure she knows how much you love her. That’s enough to make her feel romanced. [Read: 50 super cute things to say to your girlfriend]

15. Write her a love letter every once in a while

This is extremely underrated. Guys think love letters are stupid and unnecessary but women LOVE them. We can’t even tell you how much women love getting a handwritten letter from their men.

Write down how you feel about her and how she makes you feel. You can even jot down different things she does over the week that make you fall for her harder and then give it to her during a date over the weekend. This is such a romantic gesture and she’ll basically melt for you. [Read: How to write a heartfelt love letter like a true romantic]

Romance doesn’t have to be cheesy!

At the start, you might have thought we were going to talk about big cheesy gestures, but as you can see, romance doesn’t have to be cheesy at all. Okay, we’re not going to lie, there are some pretty cheesy things you can do if you want to be old-school romantic, but as before, not all girls like that kind of thing. Sure, it’s cute, but it’s also unnecessary much of the time. [Read: 15 corny things every couple in love does at least once]

Just as a cheesy chat up line has the power to make a girl roll her eyes and want to run away from you, an over-the-top gesture can do the same. She might love it, but there’s also a risk that she’ll think you’re overcompensating for something.

It’s far better to stick to the small things and make sure that she feels loved 100% of the time. For most women, that’s exactly what romance is.

 [Read: Do you have an insecure girlfriend? 30 signs and the best ways to be romantic with her]

Learning how to be more romantic isn’t as difficult as some men think. There are tons of ways to bring the romance every day that will make any woman happy to have you.