How to Act Cool in Front of Your Crush and Grab Their Attention

You want your crush to notice you and fall in love with what they see—I get you. Here’s how to act cool in front of your crush and gain their attention.

You could be the coolest person in the world, but the minute your crush appears in front of you, you shrivel up and act weird. Believe me, I don’t think there’s anyone who hasn’t wondered how to act cool in front of your crush.

You’re confident in yourself, but the moment you crush comes into the room, everything changes. Of course, you want your crush to fall for you and like you back, but, before that even comes close to happening, how do you even act around your crush?

How to act cool in front of your crush 

Now, I’m going to tell you all the different ways to be cool in front of your crush, but the most important one is to be yourself. I know you want to impress them, but it’s not going to work while you’re trying to fill someone else’s shoes.

[Read: When you like someone – are you losing yourself to impress them?]

Be yourself. Actually let your crush to get to know you. I know you’re scared about them not liking you, but who cares if they don’t? Yes, it’ll sting a bit in the beginning, but if they’re not into you, you have the freedom to find a new crush. And if they do like you, well, it worked out very well for you. [Read: How to start a conversation with your crush and woo them]

We’ve all been there.

#1 First, relax. Listen, I know you have a crush… we’ve all had crushes, but you need to chill out a bit. This is just someone you have feelings for, don’t place them above you. This is why we struggle to be around our crushes and act like ourselves; we place them above us. But they’re no better than you. [Read: How to stop loving someone else… and learn to love yourself more]

#2 Don’t try to act cool. I know you want to know how to act cool in front of your crush and impress them. But here’s something you must know. You can’t “act cool.” Because what is “cool” anyway?

Sure, you can try to act like a character in some rom-com, but that’ll only take you so far. The coolest people are the ones who are themselves. And if your crush sees who you are and likes it, then that’s great. If not, your crush isn’t for you. 

#3 Be humble. I know you want to impress your crush, that is everyone’s goal when talking to their crush. But you don’t need to brag to look cool. If you want to impress your crush, aside from being yourself, be humble. As much as you may think bragging is a turn-on, it’s not. [Read: How to ask someone if they like you without embarrassing yourself] 

#4 Be yourself – always. Your crush may like football and beer, but that doesn’t mean you have to like those things too. Stay true to yourself and don’t try to alter who you are to impress your crush. If you don’t like the same things they like, that’s okay. You know the saying, opposites attract.

#5 Don’t second-guess yourself. If you said something to your crush, and two seconds later think what you said was dumb, don’t try to change it. Roll with waves. This is who you are. We all say stupid things from time to time, but that’s what being human is all about.

#6 Learn from your past mistakes. There were plenty of moments before this crush where you screwed up. It’s completely normal; we’ve all been there. What you need to do is learn from those mistakes and apply what you’ve learned to your new crush. [Read: How to stop being shy around your crush and get their full attention]

#7 Don’t think so far ahead in the future. This was my problem when I had a crush. I would daydream about them, literally thinking about our wedding day and what our kids would look like. Yeah, and obviously, that never ended well. Don’t plan the future with your crush. Live in the moment. 

#8 If they don’t text you back, don’t freak out. You made the bold move of sending a text to your crush – good for you! It’s a big step, but it doesn’t look like they responded *at least not yet*. This isn’t the time to send them multiple text messages or stalk them on social media. Just chill. You made the first move, that was already a big step for you. [Read: How to text your crush and play it cool and win them over]

#9 Keep your exes out of it. Yeah, don’t talk about your exes with your crush. That’s the last thing you should bring into the conversation. What do exes have to do with your crush? Why do they need to hear about your past? Focus on you and your crush. Talk about things that you have in common.

#10 You don’t need to talk about how much sex you’ve had. You probably think talking about sex and your past sexual experiences will make you look cool, but it won’t. You don’t need to talk about how much sex you’ve had to look cool in front of your crush. And if you want a relationship with them, then this isn’t the right way to go about it. [Read: How to tell your crush you like them – 15 smart and cool ways that really work]

#11 Actively listen. I’ve seen enough romantic comedies to see people blabbing away to their crushes, completely out of nerves. If you want to “act cool” around your crush, actively listen to them while they’re talking to you. You’ll be surprised how much people crave a genuine conversation.

#12 Talk about what makes you passionate. You are your best when you’re doing and talking about things that you’re passionate about. This is when people really see you shine and see the joy come from your eyes. If you want to “act cool” then talk about things you that mean something to you. [Read: How to get your crush to notice you and like you back] 

#13 Decide whether this is someone you actually want to invest time in. Hilariously, I spent so much time having crushes on people that really weren’t good matches for me. So, before you start freaking out about your crush, try to really see if this is someone who is good for you.

[Read: How to get to know your crush with an easy guide to know it all]

If you want to know how to act cool in front of your crush, take a deep breath and just be yourself. That’s how you “act cool” and get anyone to like you.