High Value Woman: 20 Traits that Make Men Respect & Be in Awe of Her

All men love a high value woman. But what does that mean? If you don’t know how to be one, don’t worry. We have all the answers you need right here.

All men want a high value woman. The problem is, a lot of women aren’t sure how to be that. Sure, you see these confident, powerful women around but usually, you don’t see any men accompanying them.

So how do you become a high value woman that men will never want to leave? It’s not as easy of a process as you think but it’s also not hard, either. A lot of the time, being this type of woman comes naturally the older you get.

What is a high value woman?

A high value woman is someone that all people admire and respect. She is kind, respectful, and loving to everyone – including herself.

And because of that, she won’t let anyone in her life who doesn’t do the same. She has very high standards. However, just because they are high standards doesn’t mean they are unreasonable.

If someone in her life can’t – or won’t – behave in the high-quality way that she knows she deserves, then she has no use for them in her life. And this doesn’t mean that she’s conceited. Actually, it’s the opposite.

She wants other people to be the best they can be, just like she does. Her example to the world is something that other people admire and should strive to become themselves.

[Read: 15 posh signs of a high maintenance woman most guys can’t handle]

High value vs. low value women

Obviously, all men are different. Some like certain types of girls while others like the opposite. However, there are a couple of girl types guys just can’t stand.

Those are the whiney, helpless girls that walk around needing to be saved. In other words, they are low value women.

You might think this is cute, and perhaps some guys will even find it alluring at first, but after a while, it’ll get really annoying. Girls who can’t do anything for themselves aren’t exactly attractive. Guys don’t want to spend all their time helping their women instead of loving their own life. [Read: Dating someone with low self esteem and what it’s like for both partners]

So, if you need to know how to be a high value woman, we have all your answers. 

How to be a high value woman all guys dream of dating

If you’re ready to turn your life around for the better and attract guys all the time, these tips will help you do just that. Being a high value woman is beneficial for more than just getting guys, too. Here’s how to know your value and show it to everyone.

1. Know your worth

You’re far more valuable than you’re giving yourself credit for already. Because you’re here, reading this, you think you’re not valuable enough. This mindset is exactly what’s holding you back from being this high value woman.

So know your worth. You have so much going for you and so many men would be lucky to have you. Once you realize that and start to own it, you will be the type of woman all guys want. [Read: How to respect yourself – 14 secrets to discover your self-worth]

2. Demand respect

Don’t just accept it, demand it. As women, you’ve had to work a bit harder to gain the respect of others. Instead of working for it, just demand it.

If someone doesn’t respect you or what you stand for, get rid of them. You don’t need those types of people in your life and if you don’t have them around, people will start to value you more.

3. Have confidence

This is key. If you don’t have confidence, being a high value woman won’t be easy. You can only fake it until you make it for a little while.

In order to show people how great you are and become this woman men highly value, you have to believe you’re amazing. [Read: How to build self-confidence and realize you’re worth it]

4. Settle for nothing less than what you deserve

Ever. If someone is being bad to you and you know you deserve better, then leave. This isn’t something you can really give chances for.

If a guy treats you with disrespect even once, drop him. That type of person isn’t someone you want, anyway. He can’t respect you right off the bat, then he doesn’t deserve you.

5. Set your standards early

You really have to let your standards be known. What are you expecting from your man? What are you expecting from everyone? When people don’t meet your standards, get rid of them. It’s really that simple.

If you only keep people around you who respect your standards, you’ll only have people who truly value you. Set those standards and don’t let anyone fall beneath them.

6. Have your own life

Your significant other is not your life. Your job isn’t even your life. You have to be your own person and have your own hobbies and interests.

Engage in a fun and adventurous life and maintain that even when you’re with a guy. He’ll value you far more for it. [Read: How to get a life – 20 things you MUST do to feel alive again]

7. Be passionate

Passion is very powerful. And this has nothing to do with being in bed together. Having passion in everything you do is far more likely to make people see you as a high value woman.

Passionate people give it their all. They put forth the maximum effort and show the world they care. If you show people you care, it’ll work well for you.

8. Hold power, but be soft

You can be a very powerful woman while also being soft and feminine. This stems from having people’s respect. When you demand respect and do so in a very subtle way, you end up holding a lot more power than you think.

This allows you to be powerful, while also maintaining your soft, feminine side. This is what a high value woman is all about. Work toward being powerful, but in a subtle way. [Read: How to be a lady who awes her man and everyone else]

9. Don’t always be available

You can’t always be available for your man. Firstly, because you just aren’t. Don’t cancel plans just because he wants to do something last minute. No. You have a life and you’re not free for him whenever he beckons.

This makes you a high value woman because it teaches men to respect your time and to appreciate the time they get with you. When you’re busy, they’ll feel like they have to schedule time with you far in advance because they don’t want to miss out. That’s value.

10. Say no

Don’t always be so agreeable. You can say no. If you truly have a differing opinion or don’t want to do something, just say no. A lot of women think the key to getting guys to like them is to just agree with whatever they say.

It’s really quite the opposite. Saying no and standing your ground creates respect. They’ll learn more about you and admire you standing up for what you believe in or just doing what you want and not just what they want. [Read: How to say no, stop being a people pleaser and feel super powerful]

11. Be respectful

It’s not enough to just have respect to be a high value woman. You also have to be respectful of others all the time. Basically, just be a decent human being.

A lot of girls get this wrong because they assume a high value woman is a woman in charge. And they think being in charge means being a bitch. That’s not the case.

Respect everyone no matter what and show guys this. They won’t want to let a kind, respectful woman go.

12. Have class, but let your naughty side out

You can be classy while also being sexy. It’s not like you have to choose between them. A high value woman knows how to balance the two seamlessly. [Read: How to be classy – 20 classy people traits that command awe and respect]

Have class and be respectful of others, but also show a guy you know how to have a good time. Flirt with him in a “good girl” way so he can see that even though you’re one classy woman, you’re also naughty and have a devious side. He’ll value that in you.

13. Have an opinion

High value women have opinions and thoughts about a lot of different topics. When someone asks them what they think about the state of the world or if they think that life on other planets exists, they have an answer.

This shows other people that she is intelligent and she has thought about important things in life. That makes her particularly interesting, and people like to talk to her about deep topics. They feel comfortable sharing their own thoughts and opinions too. [Read: The best first date conversation – 23 tips to impress in minutes]

14. Don’t be needy

Because a high value woman stands in her own power, she is never needy. She never has to beg anyone to give her their attention. One of the reasons for this is that people naturally want to be around her. She has good vibes and doesn’t pressure people or get negative toward them.

People don’t like it when someone is overly needy. It is draining and they feel smothered after a while. A high value woman knows this, and she never wants anyone to feel suffocated because of her. She gives other people the freedom to be themselves on their own terms. [Read: 21 signs of a clingy girl and how to avoid turning into one]

15. Teaches people how to treat her

People will treat us however we “instruct” people to do it. In other words, if they treat you badly and you allow it, then they will just keep doing it because you don’t stop them.

But if you only allow good behavior from other people directed your way, then they know that’s how you expect them to treat you.

That’s what a high value woman does. She teaches people how to behave around her. This could be done either directly or indirectly. Either way, people know that they shouldn’t cross the line into negativity around her. [Read: How your self-respect in a relationship affects you and your love life]

16. They aren’t dramatic

A high value woman has no tolerance for drama or soap operas. She likes her life to be normal, calm, and positive. So, She does not put up with any silly dramas from other people.

In fact, she doesn’t even allow those kinds of people into her life. She refuses to play that game with other people because she knows it’s unnecessary and negative. And she certainly doesn’t act that way herself because she’s more mature than that.

17. Be happy alone

A high quality woman doesn’t “need” a man. She might want a man, but that’s different. She is happy by herself, so she doesn’t feel incomplete if she’s not in a relationship.

This is particularly attractive to men because she won’t put any pressure on him to be anything that he’s not.

She also likes her alone time. It’s important for her to have quality time with herself to get in tune with her thoughts and emotions. She has a balanced life between her social life and her alone time. [Read: 24 ways to be a strong, independent woman all men love and desire]

18. Love yourself

Loving yourself is the most important thing anyone can do, and a high quality woman knows this. Some people think that loving yourself means that you are conceited and are better than everyone else. But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Truly loving yourself means that you are comfortable in your own skin. You are happy and only surround yourself with positive people because you know that you deserve it and nothing less. [Read: How to be yourself – 26 steps to unfake your life and love being you]

19. Don’t chase anyone

Because a high quality woman knows her worth, she doesn’t even think about chasing anyone – especially a man.

She has the attitude of, “If you want to be with me – great! If you don’t – great!” She’s fine either way because she loves herself.

If someone doesn’t want to be in her life, she lets them go freely and peacefully. She thinks that they are entitled to their opinion, and it doesn’t bother her. Instead, she just gets on with living her life.

20. Be willing to walk away

Because she is self-confident, loves herself, and doesn’t chase people, she is willing to walk away from anyone who doesn’t treat her with respect. She has no tolerance for anyone that isn’t another high quality person.

She will never, ever stay in any kind of relationship that isn’t good for her. Because of that, she is always on the lookout for how someone is treating her.

And if it’s not up to her standards, she walks away. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a friendship or a romantic relationship. She’ll walk and never look back.

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Being a high value woman is all about knowing who you are, and owning it. Let your true colors shine and know your worth. If you know it, all men will too.