Hands Free Orgasm: 19 Secrets & Mind Tricks to Think Naughty and Orgasm

A hands-free orgasm really will blow your mind. Not sure how it works? Well, we’ve all all the information you need to blow your mind! 

Orgasms can be so many things: ecstatic, blissful, mind-blowing, pleasurable, faked, and even absent. But what about a hands-free orgasm? The term seems like an oxymoron, but a lot of people swear by it.

So what is it, really?

Before you wrack your brains struggling to figure out what the heck this thing is, look no further. We’ll tell you everything you need to know about having a hands-free orgasm and whether you can actually get off on it… for real. [Read: 37 health benefits of masturbation, bad side effects, and other must-knows]

What is a hands-free orgasm?

A hands-free orgasm is a kind of erotic hypnosis, which uses guided meditation to relax the mind and turn on the pleasure switch in your subconscious. As a result, you can orgasm with just your mind, without any touching at all.

This kind of orgasm was actually popularized by the Internet, of all things! The meditative technique took the world by storm when a YouTube video with a soft-spoken female narrator hit the platform with promises of intense sexual gratification just by hypnotic whirls, red and black spirals, and a honey-smooth voice.

The hands-free orgasm *or HFO* has proven to be quite a game-changer for both men and women—or at least, it tickled the fancy of many a kinkster out there. This is because we all know that sex is tactile and highly physical.

However, HFO banks on the premise that sex also has a psychological element—that you have to be in the mood for sex and have no distractions to reach the peak of pleasure.

It operates in the same way as traditional hypnotherapy, in which you subject your mind to the power of suggestion by relaxing your thoughts and allowing them to focus on images suggested by the hypnosis. [Read: Tips for women who want a mind-blowing orgasm]

Simply put, HFO is meant to get you off just by stimulating your brain and your imagination, mimicking the psychological sensations of actually having sex or at least masturbating.

Can everyone have a hands-free orgasm?

Unfortunately not. While most people can train themselves to have a hands-free orgasm, you have to be able to really focus. Even then, there’s no guarantee that it’ll work for you.

Remember, sex is one of those things that doesn’t have a right or wrong answer most of the time. What works for one person might be a total let-down for someone else. But, it doesn’t hurt to try, right? [Read: Accidental orgasms – awesome ways to make the accidental happen]

How does hands-free orgasm work?

With the help of guided meditation, you relax physically and mentally. Then, you empty out your mind from all the stress and pressures of life, leaving your mind clear and prepared for aural stimulations produced by hypnosis.

With a little practice, you can learn to master HFO. And, believe it or not, bring yourself to powerful *and potentially multiple* orgasms.

By Googling “hands-free orgasm videos,” you can have access to a wide array of clips, from hypnotic swirls to actual pseudo-pornographic images *and even some explicit anime*.

They all share one thing in common: a soothing, smooth, sensual voice in the background that seemingly lulls you with soft-spoken commands and vivid imagery. [Read: Couples kink list – 52 freaky and weird sexual fetishes many people indulge in]

Myths about hands-free orgasms

As with anything that people don’t totally understand, there are a few myths swirling around about hands-free orgasms. Let’s check out a couple of the most common and the real truth.

1. Only women can have a hands-free orgasm

Not at all! Men can have them too. Anyone who practices and manages to clear their mind enough to totally relax has the potential to achieve a HFO.

However, as we’ve already said, it’s not for everyone. But that doesn’t mean there is a solid barrier and it’s only for women.

2. You don’t have to masturbate if you’re in a relationship

Says who?! People who are in committed relationships can masturbate just as much as those who aren’t! In fact, why not do it with your partner and really give them a show?

Put simply, just because you have a person to have regular sex with doesn’t mean you might not fancy a bit of alone time with yourself too. It’s natural! [Read: Mutual masturbation – 18 intimate ways to connect without touching]

3. Women can only orgasm from penetration alone

No! In fact, most women struggle to orgasm from penetration alone! Many women require some kind of clitoral stimulation to orgasm. While some can get off on only penetration, it’s definitely not the case for the majority.

How do you do it?

Though there are many kinds of videos and approaches to erotic hypnotism that causes hands-free orgasms, they basically have the same idea and process:

1. Find a private spot

Like with actual sex and other meditation practices, you have to find a quiet, comfortable, private spot where there are no distractions.

This should allow you to focus on your erotic meditation and how your mind and body react to the stimulation. [Read: How to masturbate – 30 solo orgasm and female masturbation secrets for girls]

2. Breathe deeply

Take deep, abdominal breaths to expand your belly and allow your lungs to expand as well, taking in more oxygen and energizing your blood flow. Inhale through your nose and imagine your lungs as a balloon.

Fill them with oxygen as you inhale, letting your body wash you over with relaxation, and then breathe out your stresses.

As you settle into relaxation and calm, start to focus your mind on your clitoris, vagina, penis, and/or perineum *that piece of skin between your genitals and anus*. This will also help stimulate your blood flow to your crotch.

It may help to do a few Kegel exercises as well in order to be in touch with your sexual center and slowly build passion.

3. Talk dirty

As you settle into a calmness, let the hypnotist’s words penetrate. If you are watching a YouTube video or some other erotic hypnotism clip, let the words and imagery sink into your subconscious.

This is also the perfect time to think dirty thoughts and imagine yourself doing dirty deeds.

If you’re the loud type, you can let out and talk dirty as loudly or as softly as you want, whatever turns you on even more. Another tip is to think back to that time when you had your best “O” ever—remember those feelings, and give in to them. [Read: How to dirty talk – 36 sexy tips and 55 examples to turn anyone on with words]

4. Meditate

Summon all your hottest, raunchiest fantasies and let them bring you heightened sexual pleasure. With enough practice, you can do this without any difficulty.

As long as you keep your mind open and free from any distractions, you are more likely to receive suggestions and stimuli from the erotic hypnosis videos or from your own meditations.

The idea here is to put yourself in a trance-like state when your mind is open and can therefore translate or reflect this openness throughout your body, making you wholly open to the suggestions and sensations of the erotic hypnosis.

5. Focus and defocus

Throughout the whole process, remember to keep your focus. One of the biggest problems many people face, especially when they are new to meditation, is trying to focus without overthinking. So, you have to try to think of one thought at a time and not allow other thoughts to come in and distract you.

Direct your thoughts on what you are feeling and the sensations that are slowly building up. Do not think about anything else, such as what you should or shouldn’t be feeling, or if you’re doing something wrong. Just concentrate on the pleasure. [Read: 47 best male masturbation techniques, positions, toys, and fun ways to jerk off]

6. Keep trying

Getting the best orgasm hands-free doesn’t happen overnight. For many, it won’t happen on your first try.

You have to remember that a big part of “coming” is psychological, and when it comes to a hands-free orgasm, you have to train your subconscious to be able to direct your emotional, physical, and sexual functions.

Once you have this down pat, you will find it easy to get off with just the power of your mind going in an erotic, hypnotic spiral. [Read: First orgasm stories – people confess about their first time]

Other forms of hand-free orgasms

If you’re struggling to clear your mind via visualization and meditation, there are other ways you can try and reach a hands-free orgasm. Here are some ideas:

1. Dry humping/rubbing

You’re not actually touching yourself, so therefore it’s hands-free! Dry humping against a pillow or other surface will give you the friction you need to get off.

2. Pressurized water

This method has been used for a long time and it’s a successful one too!

If you have a removable shower head, you can angle the water at your clitoris and move it around to your liking. Obviously, you’ll need to adjust the speed and pressure of the water as you go. [Read: Shower sex – 18 sexy bathroom secrets to get wet, make love, and not slip]

3. Hands-free sex toys

Remote-controlled sex toys such as vibrators are a great way to kick back, relax, and enjoy the ride!

4. Orgasmic breathing

A combination of breathing techniques, pelvic muscle squeezes, and imagination can help you to achieve a hands-free orgasm via orgasmic breathing.

5. Squeezing the pelvic floor muscles

Squeezing your pelvic floor muscles can help you to achieve orgasm with some practice. You’ll need to get into a rhythm that works for you, but it’s fun to try! [Read: Kegel exercises – Why both men and women should do it]

6. Practice Tantra

Tantric sex takes some practice and focus, but the great news here is that you can do it all with your partner and deepen your bond as you go.

Top tips for hands-free orgasms

It’s normal to feel like hands-free orgasms are a total mystery. After all, we’ve been told for so long about different types of touches.

However, the power of your mind can certainly help you to achieve an orgasm that will knock you sideways in the best way possible!

If you’re keen to try, here are some tips to help you on your way. [Read: How to have Tantric sex – a beginner’s guide to awaken your sexuality]

1. Get aroused beforehand

You’ll find it much easier to reach a hands-free state of total pleasure if you’re aroused beforehand. So, yes, go ahead and touch yourself at this point but then stop and focus on the hands-free methods.

2. Set the mood

Turn the lights down low, set some candles, put on some sexy music, or even watch a little porn if you must. Setting the mood will get you in the right frame of mind before you start. [Read: Sexy bedroom – 24 sex room ideas to make any room look and feel sexy]

3. Come up with a strategy

For sure, spontaneity is a great thing, but if you’re not sure how you’re going to start having hands-free orgasms then a plan beforehand is a good idea. Which option do you think will work best for you?

4. Be patient with yourself

Look, this isn’t going to happen overnight. You’re basically training your mind to think a certain way and that requires time and effort. So, be patient and good results will come your way!

Are you ready to go hands-free?

For anyone wanting to explore their sexuality, be in touch with their sexual side, or just simply try out a different kind of orgasm, then a hands-free orgasm is definitely for you.

It allows you to relax and open yourself up to all the sexual possibilities as you let your mind control your body and bring you to greater carnal heights—all by yourself, and with no hands!

[Read: How to edge yourself – what’s edging and 15 sexy secrets to huge orgasms]

The hands-free orgasm is changing the masturbation game, and many swear by getting off of it. While anyone can definitely try it out, it still takes a lot of practice to rein in your mind and let it direct your sexual core to the point of orgasm.