Finger Blowjob: What Makes Finger Sucking So Sexy & How to Do It Right

It sounds raunchy, but the finger blowjob isn’t as kinky as its more intimate counterpart. Here’s how to enjoy finger sucking the right way.

If you Google the term “finger blowjob,” all you’ll find is a billion porn-related search results. Seriously, I tried. When I finally found a legitimate reference, I was surprised at how little finger sucking has been discussed.

Most blogs and magazines focus on regular blowjobs or variations of the regular blowjob, but nobody mentions the sucking fingers or the finger blowjob! So, what exactly is it?

What is sexual finger sucking?

The finger blowjob is simple. All you do is fellate your partner’s finger – or two – and watch the fireworks commence. If you’ve seen your fair share of porn, you’ve probably seen how some women would suck on their partner’s fingers as a form of foreplay or for added stimulation as they’re doing the deed.

But is the finger blowjob really as simple as it sounds? Is it even really that important?

The answer is yes and no. A finger blowjob is akin to a nipple suck or a butt plug. It depends on the user whether it’s too kinky or not kinky enough. The important thing is that you should be willing to try it, or else, end up sucking an appendage for no apparent reason.

When did the finger blowjob become a thing?

I was as surprised as everyone else when I encountered the finger blowjob. The first question that popped in my mind was, “What the hell does this even do for you?” The answer, apparently, is a lot.

The finger blowjob probably gained popularity in the 70’s, when sexual experimentation was at its peak. People were more open and progressive about sex. Men and women were more confident about their prowess in bed, which is something the finger blowjob necessitates.

No one talks about the finger blowjob, unless it’s within the context of dirty talk. It simply happens, like the licking of someone’s neck or a kiss on the chest. It’s not necessary, but you’re better off when you use it.

Why should you try the finger blowjob?

Sucking someone’s fingers’ main purpose is to increase your sexual excitement through foreplay. Most people see it as a preview for an actual blowjob. The tender caress of your tongue and the tiny nibbles can be a very provocative teaser for what’s to come.

If that’s the case, can straight men still do it, knowing that they won’t be handling a penis anytime soon? The answer is yes. The finger blowjob can also be used to titillate the senses of their female partner. Just because a girl can’t get a blowjob, it doesn’t mean that she’s not allowed to enjoy the finger blowjob’s effect.

Some people think that it’s useless, considering the nerve endings on our fingers don’t elicit that much excitement on our whole bodies. Compared to the neck, spine, inner thighs and ankles, the fingers are practically numb – unless you use the finger blowjob, that is. That’s because the finger blowjob isn’t just there to stimulate nerve endings. It’s there to titillate your partner’s mind, too! [Read: 9 sexiest foreplay tips you can ever use in bed]

Things to consider before giving a finger blowjob

Now that you know what the finger blowjob is, here’s what you need to do to get your partner and yourself ready.

1. Hygiene

Make sure that the person receiving the finger blowjob has clean hands. If you didn’t see them wash their hands, use some sanitizer. I don’t know what it is about sanitizers, but people tend to always ask for some when they see someone else use it.

2. Willingness

If you can’t handle the idea of sucking a finger, don’t bother trying. It’s not that scary, but some people are reluctant to try it because it’s strange or provocative. The finger blowjob just won’t work if you look at it that way.

3. Confidence

When you finally decide that you’re ready to do it, make sure that you go hard or go home. A finger blowjob is not effective if you just suck your partner’s fingers without taking advantage of how it will affect them. You need to feel sexy, look sexy and be sexy while giving your finger blowjob. So build up that confidence, and go for it.

4. Reception

Some people don’t take well to the finger blowjob because it’s not used very often. If your partner seems reluctant to receive one, just tell them that you want to try it once, and see how it feels. It’s also okay to laugh it off if you fail the first time, but really? How the heck can you blow a finger the wrong way?

How to give a finger blowjob

For your reference, we suggest watching the finger blowjob scenes from Cape Fear, Sex Drive, and Scary Movie – and no, these are not porn videos. The scenes depicted are as close to the real thing as possible. You can use those as a reference, or you can use our tips below:

1. Set the mood

We don’t recommend sucking your partner’s finger while you’re in a Starbucks, unless that’s what you’re into. It’s best to perform this while you’re feeling frisky at random moments or when your partner’s distracted, like when they’re watching TV, playing a videogame or leaving the pot to simmer. It is especially recommended when you’re about to have sex. [Read: How to make a guy horny while sitting next to him]

2. Project

The finger blowjob is only effective when you look like you’re enjoying it as much as the person you’re doing it to. Admittedly, it doesn’t stimulate the necessary nerve endings, but your goal is visual and tactile stimulation. You’re not doing it to make the other person come. You’re doing it to show them how you’re going make them come.

3. Start with everything else on the hand, but…

Don’t jump on the fingers immediately when you start the finger blowjob. Just like with an ordinary blowjob, you start with a kiss as you work your way down. With the finger blowjob, you should start by licking your partner’s wrist, followed by their palm. We suggest lingering on this one, because it will be mind-blowing for the receiver. And then slowly, but surely, move closer to the fingers and suck on them one by one.

4. Slow it down

Don’t suck on the fingers as if you’re working on making them climax. Again, there’s no point in doing that. Slow and steady licks and sucks will get you the reaction you’re aiming for – anticipation and arousal.

5. Amp it up

This is basically the climax of the preview. At this point, you can finally show your prowess with your tongue and cheek pressure. Flick your tongue over their fingertips or swirl it around as you increase the suction. Show them what you plan on doing to other suckable parts of their body by giving them a teaser on their fingers.

6. Remember to own it

No matter what anyone says, the finger blowjob can improve your sex life to a whole other level. Sex is sex, but add a little kink to it, and you’re golden. Don’t worry about how you look or what your partner is going to think. As long as you like doing it and see how awesome its results are, there’s nothing holding you back from giving your partner a finger blowjob.

[Read: 10 ways to take making out to the next level]

It might seem new for those of you who’ve never tried or heard of the finger sucking blowjob, but we promise, it will change the way you look at foreplay. Not only will you learn how to exude your sensuality, you can also show your partner that you have a lot more going for you than what they’re used to in the bedroom.