Female Fantasies: The Top 17 Fantasies that Arouse Almost All Women

Every woman is different when it comes to what makes them a little hot under the collar, but there are some female fantasies that most ladies enjoy! 

Whether they admit it or not, everyone has fantasies. Maybe you have a few too *we know you do* and it’s likely that they fall into regular categories. After all, there are some pretty common female fantasies out there. Just as there are some pretty common ones for men too.

Fantasies can be acted out or they can simply remain in the mind. They can be a quick go-to when you need a little help getting off, or when you just want to close your eyes and dream.

It’s a personal choice whether you ever actually try and fulfill your sexual fantasies or not. But, never feel guilty about having them!

Sexual fantasies are fun and enjoyable and as long as they’re not too dark or violent, there’s nothing for you to feel anything negative about.

So, if you dream about your favorite celebrity, tying you up and going all Christian Grey, or you fantasize about role playing in public, go with it!

[Read: Male fantasies – The top 16 dirty thoughts every guy has on his mind]

Top female fantasies

The female imagination is a wonderful thing, so it’s no wonder that common female fantasies are likely to be tweaked and changed according to that particular woman’s needs. That’s the fun thing about fantasies, they’re personal and they belong to you alone.

Check out these common female fantasies below. See how many you can nod along to. Maybe you’ll find some new ones to add to your list!

1. Rough sex

This might sound like something many women aren’t really into. But many women do dream about rough sex with a guy, or fantasize about a man walking in, carrying her onto a haystack, and getting all downright aggressive *in a consensual way, of course!*.

Women like dreaming about a man who rips her Chanel overcoat, her Gucci tee, and her Savage X Fenty lingerie and ravages her. But for all the men out there, don’t ever try doing this.

In reality, she’d snip your ding dong off before you can get past her coat. But a woman wouldn’t really mind if her own man does that to her, of course, minus the ripping of her expensive clothes. [Read: How to have rough sex and 15 dirty moves to have the sexiest time ever]

2. Being a stripper

For some women, give her a few shots of Grey Goose, and she’ll be all over the table. She’ll be flinging clothes off one after the other. But most women don’t do that, even after they down an entire bottle. They’re just way too inhibitive.

So the next best thing, they dream about stripping for an audience. They especially love it when a man takes out a few notes and dangles them down her G-strings. Women do feel a tad awkward talking about it with their man, but we really think they should. That would be two fantasies with one stone.

Of course, you could say that the stripper fantasy comes down to power play. Having a man literally salivating as you strip for him is pretty powerful, right? [Read: Sexy strip tease 101 – How to strip for your man like a pro]

3. Role reversal

Women wonder what it would be like to be in a man’s shoes. Or more precisely put, they wonder what it would be like to be in a man’s boxers. They dream about stories where they could wear his long trench coat and a cap with nothing inside and take the man in the front or back.

The man’s obviously playing the girl here in this female fantasy. And, he may not really like this much unless he’s willing to walk around with a sore ass the next morning.

But what’s the one statement a couple who wants to make this female fantasy a reality has to use? ‘Medic! Lubes. We’re going to need a lot of lubes!’ [Read: What is pegging and how to peg your man in bed]

4. Threesomes

Most women have dreamed of having a threesome. It might be with a woman and a man, or two other men. Either way, most women will admit to it if you push them on it, and it’s right up there with the top female fantasies.

Despite the dreaming-about-it side of the equation, most women will never actually act out their desire. The reality of having a threesome is far more complicated than you might imagine at first glance. And, when it comes down to it, the hassle often isn’t worth it. [Read: How to have a threesome and 20 things you must know first]

5. Group sex

This is one of the bigger fantasies for women and men and it’s often about more than a threesome. Maybe a foursome, maybe even more.

Surprisingly, women like to dream about being involved in a group sex situation too. It’s usually a combination of men and women, but some may just want one or the other.

Again, most women won’t actually act it out, because actually dreaming about it and don’t it are two totally different things. [Read: 9 types of wild sex parties you can have at home]

6. Partner swapping

Swinging is still one of the biggest female fantasies around. In this situation, two couples swap partners and swing away, enjoying playing and watching the whole thing.

Taking this fantasy a step further, it may be that a woman dreams about swinging with a couple she already knows, and maybe she fantasizes about her friend’s husband. Shock horror, right?

7. A night of hot lesbian sex

Not all women accept this controversial fantasy for women. But many women secretly fantasize about having a physical affair with someone like Angelina Jolie or some other hot bombshell who always talks like she loves to have sex with women.

Women fantasize about what it would be like to be with someone of the same sex, someone who knows just how she wants to be touched and what will make her orgasm.

And just in case you haven’t thought about making love to Angelina, girlie, she’s stated that she finds a woman’s body to be the most attractive thing in the whole world *all men second that*. And, she loves to make out with women! Now, even if women haven’t given girl sex a thought, they might just change their minds. [Read: Why do guys drool when two girls kiss each other?]

8. Exhibitionism

Many female fantasies include showing off. A lot!

They dream about walking down a beach and by the time they reach the waters, they’ve got almost all their clothes off. If not that, a woman fantasizes about having sex in public where people can see her performing her act.

The closest thing that women do to get familiar with this female fantasy is flashing to unsuspecting loners walking along on a highway.

Exhibitionism fantasies can be a great boost for sizzling sex, and can also have a woman talking about really, really dirty things in bed. Which does turn on both partners. Life is good! [Read: Public flashing girls confessions]

9. A submissive mate

Women do like getting kinky once in a while. Men are usually the ones who are on top, but at times a woman fantasizes about a man doing more than just showing off his balancing act on top of her.

She fantasizes about being told what to do in bed. She wonders how it would feel to be punished if she doesn’t do what he says and it may even turn her on. Even though it sounds like a guy’s fantasy, what the woman does during this act is her fantasy.

Some women say they would listen to their partner, while some girls said they would do the opposite of what their master orders and wait to be punished. Freaky lil’ minxes!

10. Acting the dominatrix

This is a role reversal of the submissive lover. Some women like to dominate men, instead of getting dominated all the time. This is one of those female fantasies where they imagine what it could be like if they could indulge in all kinds of crazy acts with their men.

This includes tying him up and doing whatever she wishes to her man. Telling him to perform sexual acts on her as well as making him beg for what he wants, are just a few things that run along in a woman’s mind in this fantasy for women. And trust us, some acts are just way too crude to be put here. [Read: How to dominate a man in bed – 14 ways to be a dominatrix goddess]

11. A stranger in the bedroom

The thought of meeting a stranger for one night of great sex, where she can do anything and everything she wants is just what can turn her on like a light bulb.

She could do whatever she wants, talk dirty, ask the guy to take her from the back, talk about another woman, anything!

Many women want to talk about a lot of things in bed, but worry too much about what their man might think of their female fantasy. A meeting with a stranger, at least in her head, takes away a lot of those inhibitions. [Read: How to start fantasizing about someone else with your lover]

12. Come and get me, boys!

This fantasy is all about having several men touch a woman at the same time. She may even dream about being surrounded by several men kissing, touching, and seducing her at the same time. Of course, we should point out that this is totally consensual and she’s inviting them to do so.

Every woman has her own favorite number in mind, varying from three to around ten men caressing her! There’s something about just sitting back and being overwhelmed by sexual male attention that turns on women.

Women don’t really dream of this all the time and hope it would come true someday, but they just can’t help but sit back and wonder, how it could feel like!

13. Role play

We mentioned that a woman may want to be a guy for the night, but it’s not only that.

One of the common female fantasies is to play a totally different character. It could be anything from cosplay to a sexy nurse. The list is endless but the point is that she isn’t herself and she’s able to play a totally different role. [Read: The sexual role play guide for beginners]

14. Sex in public

Sex in a car, on the beach, up against a tree, you name it. Of course, she doesn’t want to get caught, but the risk that she might is pretty sexy!

Risky sex is a pretty common fantasy for both men and women and although we certainly don’t advocate it, because it’s illegal in most places, there are some less risky ways to try it – for instance, you could have sex behind a blacked-out window – you can see people, but they can’t see you! [Read: Sexual voyeurism and the horny rush it gives you]

15. Anal sex

Okay, you’re probably cringing at this one and wondering why it would appear on a list of female fantasies, but wait a minute. While many women don’t want to go through with it in real life *some do, of course*, many are curious about it. That’s why it makes the list of female fantasies.

She wonders what it feels like and why some women enjoy it so much. It could be that she’s wondering whether she might like it too. [Read: First time anal sex – The curious bum lover’s guide to have anal sex]

16. Being watched by her partner

This is one of the more risque female fantasies. Some women dream of their partner watching them have sex with another person, be it a man or a woman.

It’s the whole wanting to be watched, voyeurism side of things, but it’s also a power thing because they want to see their partner’s reaction. Again, it’s not one that a woman is likely to act out, because of the emotional fallout, but it’s a fantasy nonetheless. [Read: The cuckold fantasy and what you need to know to try it]

17. Visiting Christian Grey’s red room …

A little earlier we mentioned being submissive, but this one takes it a step further. After 50 Shades, many women started to dream about being tied to a table and spanked, or having Mr. Grey himself play around with his many toys on her.

Of course, it doesn’t hurt that Mr. Grey himself is pretty easy on the eye so that might explain this fantasy in part! However, the idea of being totally at your partner’s mercy as they decide when and how you orgasm, is pretty overwhelming.

Of course, there are plenty more female fantasies and there are always unique fantasies for women that may turn some women on more than others. But as long as you’re having fun and so is your man, go on and explore your mind.

[Read: 20 things about girls that turn a guy on sexually]

You may think your man doesn’t enjoy these female fantasies, but you’ll never know until you hint a few ideas to him. And in any case, the fantasies for women and men aren’t really very different, are they?