Eye Fucking: How to Master the Secrets of Intense Sexual Eye Contact

It’s easy to fall in love with a beautiful pair of eyes, but have you ever fallen in lust? If so, you might have been eye fucking without knowing it!

They say that the eyes are the “window to the soul” and in many ways, it’s true. You can tell a lot about a person by the depth of their peepers! However, it’s also possible to find total attraction in someone’s eyes. Have you ever tried eye fucking? If not, it’s time you got down to it!

Apart from silently communicating our needs and desires, our eyes also play an active role in our romantic exploits. It is common to hear people say that they find attractive eyes a plus for a potential partner, while some would tell how blatant ogling can get you in trouble.

[Read: 13 subtle but powerful eye contact moves that work like magic]

But despite this, relationships all started with “the stare.” It is that moment when you discover that you’re physically attracted to that person. That’s the reason both guys and girls check people out.

Besides passive glances, there is that one kind of stare that people use to communicate downright sexual attraction, and that is known as “eye fucking.” [Read: 20 strong signs of sexual tension to know you make each other horny]

What is eye fucking?

The phrase “eye fucking,” as the name implies, is a gaze that you give to a certain person in order to imply that you are physically and sexually attracted to them. It also tells them you want to try your chances to make that stare-down version of lovemaking real.

For some people, the intention is how it sounds, but others would take it as a “testing the waters” stance. They use it to see if the target of their gaze will take the bait and reward the gesture with a conversation or something more.

In other words, eye fucking is long distance imaginary sex using only your eyes.

Sounds technical, right? [Read: Eye contact attraction: It’s powerful, but it is fatal or real?]

Eye fucking vs ogling

To quickly differentiate the two, eye fucking is more complicated and has a different intention from ogling a person. Sure, they both are physically and sexually motivated, and some forms of eye fucking will involve ogling, but the main difference is that in eye fucking, you are mostly looking at the other person’s eyes with a deep, sexual gaze.

Ogling is the proverbial “taking a gander at the goods.” When you’re ogling, you stare at certain parts of the person’s physique. For women, it’s usually the butt and the boobs, and certain parts of the musculature for men. Ogling doesn’t really care much about the whole person, but rather the goodies that they are sporting. And it’s usually one-sided and fleeting.

Eye fucking, on the other hand, focuses on the person as a whole. It is a display of interest. While looks may initially stray on certain “key areas,” most of the time the person is suggestively staring you directly in the eyes. [Read: What are bedroom eyes? How to master the art of seductive eyes]

Why is eye fucking so sensual?

Because the eyes are as deep as the soul – never ending!

If you’ve ever tried staring at someone in the eyes for more than a few seconds, you’ll no doubt have had that intense need to look away. It’s extremely intimate and the dare to hold that gaze means that you’re really interested in each other.

When you push past that awkward moment when you can’t take the stare for a second longer, it becomes more relaxed, hypnotic even.

Many people describe eye fucking as almost being in a trance. You’re totally glued to that person and you can only imagine the kinds of images that are going through both minds. It’s sensual because it’s so intimate and so daring.

Is it comfortable to do at first? Hell no! But, is it worth it? Hell yes! [Read: Eye contact during sex will take your orgasm to the next level]

Strategies for eye fucking without being mistaken as a creep

The first thing you need to know is that eye fucking is tricky. Most people are unaware of this kind of attention and may respond by looking away and assuming you’re creepy.

So, there is a risk in doing this. However, if you really want to play this game, there are certain ways to pull one off and maybe get lucky in the end. The main tip? Don’t be shy, yet don’t come too strong. [Read: Prolonged eye contact when flirting – what it means and how to do it]

1. The initial glance

This is the part where you notice the attractive person you’re interested in. You notice that he or she is cute, and you don’t want the day to end without getting their number. For this, short glances would suffice.

Take a look at the person either directly from a distance or from the corner of your eye. Then take a look at the surroundings that you share. Are there a lot of people? Or is it just the two of you?

Having a lot of people around gives you a sort of “screen” to make a safe second glance. If you two are alone, however, it may require further courage from you. [Read: How to get your crush to notice you and like you back]

2. Secure a vantage point

This is the part where you close the distance if you’re far away or give yourselves some space if you’re too close for comfort. Ideally, it is a table away in front of the person, or anywhere within their line of sight. Get comfortable and prepare yourself.

3. The second glance

The second glance is the invitation to “get caught” staring at the other person. In the case that both your eyes meet, take the initiative to linger a second longer before you move your eyes away.

And if by any chance during your second glance you catch him or her looking at you, boy, it’s your lucky day. [Read: How to look into someone’s eyes without looking like a creep]

4. Don’t be shy, take the initiative

You see, people also take interest in other people who are interested in them. There is that compulsion to look at the person looking at you *unless they find you repulsive!*.

In this small window of a moment, you must gather up the courage and take the initiative to make eye contact with the person.

As mentioned, you might lose heart for the fear of being seen as a creep. But then again, what’s the worst thing that can happen other than the person walking away? [Read: How to be more sexual and fall in love with the sexy side of you]

5. The third time is a stare

This time, let’s move away from glances and go full auto with a direct gaze. Remember, you need to direct your gaze in the person’s eyes and eyes alone.

Also, you need to hold that gaze long enough for them to notice you and have a sexy little staring contest until the other person capitulates with a favorable *or unfavorable* reaction. From there, you can do other things. [Read: How to have sex appeal – Secrets to unleash your inner sexy beast]

6. Remember to smile

As mentioned many times before, a smile is the safest way to disarm another person’s guard and instantly turn you into a possible friend from your previous status as a random stranger.

However, you need to be mindful of the way you smile when eye fucking.

A creepy awkward smile with teeth showing will blow all your efforts! The neutral friendly smile is the go-to, but if you can pull off the seductive toothless grin, go for it. [Read: How to read people – 12 secrets to figure anyone out instantly]

7. Use posture and body language to your advantage

We have talked about how body language can ease social interactions, especially with a potential romantic partner. Smiling is one of them. You can also use other body language to sweeten the deal.

For girls, it usually involves lip-biting and hair flicking, guys on the other hand, can adopt postures that suggest confidence and gentleness. [Read: Lip biting – What makes it so hot and secrets to make it way sexier]

8. Mind their reaction

Did the person glance back at you? Did they keep up with your eye contact? Did they smile back when you smiled? Minding how the other person reacts will give you clues as to whether you need to keep at your pace or maybe change your strategy, or even back off.

The best possible reaction you can get is when the other person engages you in mutual eye fucking and you can go on stripping each other’s clothes off with your eyes. Just remember to follow the formula: glance, observe, and follow through. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]

9. Reaping the rewards – approaching the person

You cannot keep eye fucking the whole time. At one point, someone would have to take the hint and approach the person to talk. And that person would be you most of the time.

But that also depends on how you want the situation to end. You can get up there and talk to the person, or play mysterious and leave the area without giving off that last seductive glance. Your call. [Read: How to approach your crush – Get noticed and impress them all at once]

If it doesn’t work, don’t take it personally

Eye fucking isn’t the easiest thing in the world. You’re basically expecting the other person to be a mind reader of sorts, and to cotton on to what you’re trying to tell them with your eyes.

If you master the art of eye fucking and it’s mutual, it can lead to wonderful places. You might meet someone you have extreme sexual chemistry with. This could lead to a wild one night stand, a regular hook up, or even a relationship over time.

What you need to remember is that the risk of rejection is high.

If the target of your affection doesn’t understand what you’re trying to do, or they seem annoyed or even disgusted at your attempts to lure them with your peepers, don’t worry. It doesn’t work with everyone, but when you get it right, it’s fantastic!

[Read: 23 signs of intense mutual attraction to instantly know if someone desires you as well]

While eye fucking sounds a bit intense, is a nonverbal form of communication to convey physical and sexual attraction to a stranger. Despite the risk of getting accused of being a creep, there is the exhilaration of getting caught, and the blush and rush of endorphins when the person of your interest reciprocates the stare.