Does He Miss Me? 24 Signs & Hints He Drops to Show He Thinks of You

You and your ex broke up, but you still wonder, “does he miss me?” You may never know for sure, but if you look at these signs, you can get a good idea.

How many men do you know who stubbornly put aside their feelings and attraction to the woman they love without at least giving it a shot? If you are wondering “does he miss me?” the signs are all there. You just have to read them.

He may have to keep his pride intact and not come running back. But, there are other behaviors he exhibits worth more than any beg-back session.

What you need to ask yourself is this – whatever happened between you, is it worth rekindling the romance? Is it really worth giving an ex a consideration?

Some things are better left in the past.

Getting back together with someone is often not the same as the first time around. Sometimes, missing someone is just about looking back fondly on the good times. Not about rekindling a broken romance. [Read: Do you miss your ex or think about them often?]

Does he miss me? 24 ways a guy says he misses you without saying a word

If you want to know if he misses you, look at what he does. Look at where he went since you left, and whether he moved on or stayed stuck.

If he is in the same position, doing the same things, or even doing stupid shit uncharacteristic of him, those things all say, “God, I wish I had her back.”

1. He hasn’t found anyone else

You’ve been broken up for almost six months. Although you hear of him dating some girls, he still hasn’t found anyone to share his bed with at night.

A guy occupies his lonely space, but if he hasn’t found anyone to catch his eye for very long, then you may just be taking up that space in his mind. [Read: 20 signs your ex wants you back in their life]

2. He’s sleeping around 

This is something you may not want to hear. But, guys who miss the woman they can’t have often exhibit careless behaviors. Like sleeping with anyone and everyone to get the girl they love off their mind.

The problem is that no one is you, but they continue trying anyway. If he wasn’t a player before you, and suddenly turned into one, there is something behind his drive to screw everyone in town.

Take heart in the fact that it won’t work. Sleeping around rarely achieves its sole purpose. [Read: Perfect tease – How to keep a guy interested after sleeping with him]

3. He pops up in unexpected places

If you notice him popping up in unexpected places, like your work or at the gym, there is a good reason to believe he hopes to get a look at you and make sure you are still around.

His way of maintaining his distance and not giving in, but don’t underestimate those small “bump into meetings.” You likely never saw him there before, so now is no different. [Read: 24 subtle signs he misses you badly every time you aren’t around]

4. He hasn’t changed his Facebook status

Okay, not every guy is hung up on social media, but many are. When a guy is ready to move on, he makes it known to everyone around him.

If he did it right up front, that might have been a brash decision, and he likely won’t change it back.

But, if after a couple of months, he still hasn’t changed his committed relationship status, then that may be a sign he is waiting for you to return. [Read: How to be friends with an ex without any complications]

5. He pumps your friends for information

If he still sees your friends and can’t help but ask about you, that probably isn’t simply a concern for an old friend.

Continually pumping for an update about who you are seeing if you are okay, or how things are going with you, means he is probably trying to weigh his odds of making his way back into your life.

If he didn’t miss you, why would he continue to ask?

6. After repeatedly asking, he hasn’t returned your things

When a relationship is done, you signal the end by divvying things up. If you repeatedly asked for some of your things back, and he refuses to oblige, he is trying to hold onto a piece of you.

If he didn’t miss you or hope someday to win you back, he would just give them back and be done. [Read: Deleting pictures of an ex – The psychology behind it and why we do it]

7. He regularly drunk dials

If you get a call at two a.m. from his number when he has been out drinking, then you know when his inhibitions are down, you crawl right back up into his head. Don’t think that it is just about a booty call.

There is a drunk girl on every corner for that. If you are the first thing he thinks about when his brain goes to la-la-land, that means you aren’t out of his picture yet. Be cautious if this happens only once, but more than that is a pretty big sign. 

8. He still has pictures of you all over the place

If he still has your picture up in his living room, by his bedside, or even on his social media, then he is definitely not over you.

Keeping your picture around would be irritating to him and scare away other girls if he was ready to move on. An inability to remove those items has “miss you” written all over it. [Read: Is your ex still thinking of you? All the signs to know]

9. His friends tell you he isn’t doing well

His best friend’s job is to help him get past his old girlfriend and move on to the next. If you see his old friends, and they sing you a sad story about how unwell he is doing, take note.

Maybe they tell you how he is depressed and isn’t himself anymore, that is their signal to you that you should step in to help.

If he didn’t miss you, his friends would barely say more than “hi” and make idle conversation. If they are trying to talk to you on a personal level about him, then there is reason to believe that they know he still misses you. [Read: How to get over a bad breakup and start feeling really good again]

10. His life has fallen apart

Guys think they are so tough that they can let someone they love go and will be totally okay. The problem is they don’t understand how much they rely on and need someone until they are gone. By then it is too late.

If he is depressed, his apartment and job have gone to shit. He looks like a woodsman who hasn’t changed his clothes in a month, those are all signs he misses the time you had together.

He probably wishes you’d return to pick him out of the mess he has created for himself.

11. He makes a point of apologizing

One of the biggest indicators that a guy misses you is if they come back to apologize for the way they treated you. It takes a lot of courage, and the loss of a lot of pride, for a guy to admit he is wrong.

It takes even more courage for him to admit it to the person he has wronged. If he writes you a letter, sends you a text message, or even shows up to say he is sorry, then he has been thinking a lot about what went wrong.

He’s also thinking about how he was wrong to let you go or treat you the way that he has.

He may not say “I miss you” or “come back”, but those two words, “I’m sorry”” are sometimes even more powerful than begging. [Read: How to get your ex boyfriend back after a regretful parting]

12. He hasn’t kicked you off his social media sites

When you are really done with someone, you go about de-friending them and kicking them out of your world.

If you are still friends, he is still on your feed and still a follower of your accounts, he is still interested in what you are up to. That typically means he still misses you. 

Now, it could be that he wants you to know what he’s up to because he’s playing games. Or, he wants to know what you’re up to. Either way, you’re on his mind. [Read: Deleting pictures of an ex – The psychology behind it & why we do it]

13. He’s jealous if you’re dating someone

Whether you have mutual friends or he just sees you out on a date with another guy, he acts like he’s jealous.

He may or may not even try to hide his jealousy. But even if he tries to hide it, you can probably figure out that he still feels like the green-eyed monster.

14. He talks about “the good old days”

If you are still speaking with him or you both text each other, he might talk about old memories. He might say things like, “Remember how great our first date was?” or “That weekend we went skiing was so much fun. I miss times like those.”

If he is reminiscing about how much fun the two of you had together, you better believe he is still thinking about you – and missing you. [Read: Old love letters and memories – Keep or throw them?]

15. He hints around at missing you

Just as we discussed with talking about the good old days, if he hints around a lot like that, then that is a sign he misses you. He could say things like “I wish I could find someone to hang out with that I have as much fun with as you.”

He might not want to come out and tell you directly how he feels. But he hopes that by being indirect and hinting around, you will come to the realization that you miss him too.

16. He tries to make you jealous

If you have a mutual friend group, he might show up with another girl on purpose to a party. Not only that, he might have his hands all over her and give you looks across the room.

He might even introduce her to you as his new girlfriend.

Doing all of these things are unnecessary, and he’s probably just trying to make you jealous. If he didn’t miss you or still care, he wouldn’t bother trying to do that because it wouldn’t be worth the effort. [Read: How to make a girl jealous and leave her begging for your attention]

17. He wants to meet and catch up

Whether you speak to him regularly through text or it’s once in a blue moon, he wants to meet up to see how life is going for you. He might suggest getting a coffee or going to happy hour. But if he’s trying to keep it casual like he’s just another one of your friends, you can rest assured that he is missing you.

If he didn’t miss you, he wouldn’t want to see you, right? It’s actually pretty simple if you think about it. [Read: How to tell when a guy is jealous – 25 hints he just can’t hide]

18. He texts to “see how you’re doing”

Maybe you don’t see him anymore or even text him much. But if he pops up here and there on occasion to ask how you’re doing, it could be that he’s not doing well and wants to see if you feel the same.

This is usually code for “I’m not doing well with the breakup. I need to talk to you to see if you’ve moved on or not.” [Read: How to tell what a guy wants from you – the guy decoding guide]

19. He stalks you on social media

It’s normal for people to occasionally like or comment on other people’s posts or photos on social media. But if he’s being blatantly obvious that is practically stalking you, then you know he misses you.

20. He always seems happy to see you

If you run into him at the store, on campus, or at a restaurant, he always has a big smile on his face and greets you with open arms.

This means he is still feeling warm feelings of affection for you and has no bitterness at all. In fact, he has nothing but the warm and fuzzies when he sees you.

21. He jokes about getting back together

He might say things like, “I know you want me back, don’t you!” If he says that, then it’s probably because the opposite is true – he wants you back.

Or he could say things like, “Oh you know we’re still going to get married, right?” Joking around like that is an easy way to get the truth out because it’s masked in humor. [Read: Does my ex miss me? 23 signs your ex is clearly not over you yet]

22. He can’t move on

He might be dating people – maybe a lot of different people. If he can’t settle on just one, that means he can’t find anyone he likes enough to do that.

The reason for that could be because he is always comparing them to you. Or he is just trying to distract himself and keep busy. If he doesn’t want another serious relationship, then it’s probably because he misses you.

23. He talks about “what ifs”

Maybe when the two of you were together you planned a big trip, but it never happened because you broke up. If he brings it up by saying, “If only we didn’t break up, we could have gone on that trip.”

Or, he could say things like, “What if we had gotten married?” Do you think we would have had kids? What do you think they would have looked like?” If he does, then it’s a clear sign that he hasn’t moved on. [Read: How to make your ex miss you – 17 subtle ways to make them want you]

24. He asks people about you

If you know some of the same people, he might ask them all about you. Are you dating anyone? How are you dealing with the breakup? Is your job going well?

He still wants to know everything about you, even if he’s not talking to you. That’s because your ex is still missing you.

Missing your ex is natural – to a degree

You shared a ton of stuff. The reality is if you went through a lot together. He is naturally going to miss you.

Depending on how things broke up if things were ugly or tame, there are going to be parts of him that will miss the good times that you shared. Even if, at the time of the break, the bad ones outweighed them. Time and distance make us see things in a different light.

The past gives us a perspective we didn’t have in the heat of the battle. If you were once in love, there is always going to be some part of him that loves and misses the “you and him” you used to be.

If that is enough to make him come back or not, we can’t tell you. But we just know that as much as you miss him, he probably equally misses you. [Read: Should I block my ex? 17 signs to help you decide what’s best for YOU]

You see the signs, what should you do?

You’ve seen many of the ‘does he miss me’ yes signs. So, what should you do? Basically, that’s up to you. Should you try and approach him? Only you can answer that.

What you need to remember is that sometimes, reviving the past doesn’t always go the way we want it to.

Has the reason you split up been resolved? Or maybe there is work to be done. Can it even be overcome?

Maybe it’s best to simply hold the memories in your mind and move on with a smile on your face. He may miss you, for sure. But unless there’s a solid reason to try and work things out, sometimes things are best left in the past.

[Read: Dating your ex again – How to know where you went wrong and whether it’s worth a second shot]

If you are wondering, “does he miss me,” stop waiting to hear it from him and look around. The signs can be much more powerful.