Do I Like Him? 26 Easy Questions to Reveal the Answer in a Minute!

If you have your eyes set on a new man, but you’re still asking yourself “do I like him?”, these 26 questions may help you decide.

Sometimes our minds play cruel tricks on our bodies. We spend an entire month fawning over someone, only to wake up one day and realize we never really liked them at all.

It can be really hard to tell if you actually like someone when their presence makes your heart skip a beat. It may seem like it at first, but it can be tricky to realize your true feelings for them, or if it’s just a ridiculous crush that you’ll wake up and forget about one day.

So we’ve put together questions to help you decide on the question you may be asking yourself, “Do I like him or not?”

Liking someone versus finding them attractive

Many of us are unable to tell the difference between when we really like someone or when we just think they’re REALLY good-looking. Sure, some might say that attraction always starts with appearance until you get to know them better.

While this may be true, the confusion makes us get into a relationship with someone we don’t care for but just find cute. When you really like someone, you actually don’t pay much attention to their appearance. To you, their personality is attractive. [Read: Girl talk – what makes a guy physically attractive and appealing?]

Signs that you just like the idea of him and not actually him

Feelings are such a complicated topic. You’d think that you could easily point at your feelings and say, “Yep, I know what that is.” But the reality isn’t quite like that.

When you think you have a crush on someone, there could be so many other explanations for your feelings that don’t involve romance. Maybe you’re feeling lonely, maybe you’re wanting to get back at your ex, or maybe you have an upset stomach.

If you’re not sure if you like a guy, or if you just want to like a certain someone, read these tips that you like the idea of him more than you actually like him.

1. He doesn’t make your heart flutter

When you look at him and your heart stays still, that’s your body saying, “Nope, he isn’t the one.” A guy you really like would make your heart sing and dance.

Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t physically excite you.

2. You don’t think about him much

When we have a real, serious crush on someone, they become all we think about. Day, night, at school, during work, around friends and family, we can’t get them off our minds!

But if you can go a whole day without him crossing your mind once, it sounds like you just don’t like him. [Read: 33 steps to stop thinking about someone you like but can’t have]

3. You don’t tell your family about him

If you’re close to your family, then you probably tell them all about the exciting things in your life.

But if you don’t tell them about this crush, it’s because deep down, you know you don’t actually like this person and there’s no point in wasting your family’s time. [Read: 18 signs it’s time & ways to prepare your partner to meet the parents]

4. You know that you couldn’t care less about the outcome

You’re not actually that worried about asking this “crush” on a date because you wouldn’t be all that bothered if they said no. Whereas if you really liked him, you’d be terrified of rejection.

5. You don’t get excited when he texts you

“Oh, look, he texted me… meh, I’ll reply in a minute.” Does that sound like someone who has a crush to you?

If you don’t feel excited to talk to him, why are you even asking yourself, “Do I like him?” [Read: 26 flirty texting secrets to text a guy you like & keep him interested 24/7]

6. His most attractive quality is his money

You can’t force yourself to like someone just because you want a taste of their money. If you start dating this person, you’ll only be using them, so don’t waste either of your time.

7. His enthusiasm makes you nervous

Maybe you do like him, but you have commitment issues and his enthusiasm is scaring you. [Read: Fear of commitment – 47 signs, whys & ways to get over your phobia]

Or maybe you just don’t like him and don’t want this to go any further.

8. When you think about it, you’re not actually that attracted to him

Either his appearance or his personality. Maybe he physically looks great, but you find his personality boring or annoying. Or maybe you think he’s the funniest guy you know, but you think he’s not so easy on the eyes.

Either way, if there’s a part of him that’s holding you back from full attraction, it means that you don’t like him.

9. You don’t see him in your future

When we have a crush on someone, we instantly start imagining a life with them. We annoy our friends with an endless stream of questions, like “What would our kids look like?”

If you can’t imagine yourself taking his last name or you don’t picture what your kids would look like, you’re really not that into him.

10. You’re ignoring red flags

If you don’t really like a guy, but you hang out with him because he’s attractive or because he gives you attention, then you’re going to overlook his rudeness or his judgmental comments about others.

You don’t really like him anyway, you’re just having fun at the moment. [Read: 34 big relationship red flags most people completely ignore early on]

11. You don’t remember personal details

You know that he told you the name of his mom and the city he grew up in, but you can’t for the life of you remember what they are. Maybe you like the attention he gives you more than you like him.

12. You need to work out your own issues

If you’re aware that you have things to work on before you get into a relationship, then maybe you like the idea of this guy more than the guy himself.

These issues could include commitment issues, family problems, or stress with your work life. [Read: 42 signs you’re not ready for a serious relationship & how to let them know]

13. You’re still on the apps

If you really liked this guy, you wouldn’t bother looking at who’s out there because you’re convinced that he’s the one.

But if you’re still scrolling through dating apps and talking to other guys, then this guy you’re asking yourself, “Do I like him?” clearly isn’t very high on your interest list.

Things to consider when you start thinking, “Do I like him?”

If you’ve been gossiping about this guy to your friends and asking them, “Do I like him?” then you’re already in a bit of trouble with this guy. If you’re confused yourself, chances are certain things are standing in your way.

To help you figure out if you truly like this person or not, consider a few things first. These 13 things help you discover if you truly like this guy or not.

1. Think about why you’re confused about it

The fact you’re questioning your feelings for this person is enough reason to have reservations. Normally, if you like someone, you REALLY like them and that’s that.

If you’re debating whether or not you have feelings for him, think about why that is. Are you just starting to like him and the feelings aren’t that strong? Are you unsure because you don’t know him that well?

Figuring out the truth behind your own questioning helps you find out if your feelings are real. [Read: Stages of physical intimacy as you go from strangers to lovers]

2. Make a list of all the things you like about him

This is a great exercise when deciding anything, really. By getting your likes on paper, you’ll be able to pinpoint the qualities you like most about him. If those are all things about his looks, it’s safe to assume you’re only physically attracted to him.

3. Have you got to know him at all?

Have you ever sat down and got to know him at all? Do you know his likes, dislikes, morals, and even some of his goals? If not, then you may not even have grounds for liking him.

If you don’t really know anything about him, then your feelings could be purely based on how he looks and the effect his looks have on you. This means you can’t really even have true feelings for him. [Read: 43 things to talk about with your crush & make them think of you]

4. How long has this maybe crush been going on?

There’s a difference between a crush that’s lasted a week and a crush that’s lasted for a couple of months. If you’ve been crushing on him for a VERY long time, you probably have real feelings for him. If not, give it some time and see if the feelings pass.

5. Does he compliment you?

This is something not a lot of people think about while wondering, “Do I like him?” out loud. If you’re unsure whether you like a guy who often compliments you, you could just like his attention and nothing else about him. [Read: Does he like me? 101 subtle signs & body language clues guys can’t hide]

6. Are your friends pressuring you into liking him?

The truth is, your friends influence your feelings in many ways. Meaning they manipulate you—not on purpose—into thinking you like someone because they think you’ll be great together.

If your friends urge you to go for it even if you feel unsure, be careful not to like him based only on your friends’ wishes.

7. Are HIS friends telling you that he likes you?

You may also be influenced by some of his friends and not even know it. The funny thing about our brains is we always like people who seem to like us.

That being said, if his friends are approaching you and telling you he has a crush on you, then your mind may get the idea that you like him ONLY because he likes you.

8. Are you completely over any ex-boyfriends you’ve had?

This is a tough question to answer because a lot of us THINK we’re over someone when we really aren’t at all.

If it’s been a long time since you’ve been with someone then you’re probably fine. But if you went through a tough breakup, you could be stuck on your ex while trying to like this guy. It’s messing with your mind. [Read: How to start dating again – signs you’re ready to get back in the game]

9. Have you ever even talked to him?

You’ll be surprised how many people are convinced they’re REALLY into a guy and like him a lot but have never even spoken to him. If you’ve never talked to him, then you don’t actually like him.

10. How do you act around him?

Whenever he’s around, are you able to just be yourself or do you act like a completely different person? If you’re forcing yourself to act like someone you think he’ll like, then you might not actually be interested in him. When you have to be someone else, you’re not allowing your true self to feel for him.

11. Can you picture yourself with him?

Have you ever truly pictured a relationship with him? Can you see yourself in a real relationship, going through all the ups and downs with him?

If you just can’t seem to picture how a relationship works with him, then you may not really like him after all. When you have feelings for someone, you’re usually picturing any scenario that leads you into a relationship. [Read: Do I love him? 17 signs you see a real future with him]

12. Have you ever tried to make a move?

Have you ever tried to talk to him or made a move by asking him on a date? If not, then you may just like the idea of liking him.

When you really like someone, you’re usually pretty eager to start things with them and try for a date to be with them. If you’re not even driven to do this, then you might not like them at all. [Read: What to text a guy – 44 tips, rules & examples to start a fun conversation]

13. Without anyone else influencing your decision, would you want to be with him?

Without thinking about your friends or his friends or anyone else, would you want to be with him?

In a perfect world with no outside influences, would you want to spend your free time and perhaps your life with this person?

Your answer to this tells you all you need to know about if you really like him or not. [Read: Does he have a crush on me? 30 signs a smitten guy just can’t hide]

If you like him, what now?

That’s entirely up to you!

If you really like this guy and you think that he might like you too, there’s nothing stopping you from asking him out on a date.

But if your feelings come as a nuisance, you think that you have no chance with your crush, or you just want to move on from this crush for whatever reason, let it go. At least now that you know what your feelings are, you can get over them.

[Read: 21 BIG secrets to get over a crush on someone and feel desirable again!]

Whatever you choose to do, you have to make this decision yourself. Don’t let other people influence or sway your decision.

Sometimes, deciding if you really like someone can be a very hard thing to do. Luckily, you have these tips to help you discover your true feelings.