Cowgirl Sex Position: How to Try It, 26 Variations & Secrets to Make It HOT!

If you’re wondering how to master the cowgirl position and wow your partner tonight, look no further. We have all the tricks you need to know! 

The girl on top, or “cowgirl,” position is one of the most common sex positions. After missionary, it is probably the most used and the most basic, but that doesn’t mean it needs to be bland. The man doesn’t have to just lie there as his partner gyrates above him—you can make it a treat for all involved!

So, if you’re starting to feel like you need to skip this position to make your sex life better, think again! Here is all you need to know about this position and how you can make it more explosive. [Read: 30 day sex challenge – 30 sex positions for 30 days]

What is the cowgirl position?

Basically, the cowgirl position is when the girl is on top. She’s riding him like a cowgirl!

As you can imagine, it’s a pretty basic position, but there are many variations you can use to spice it up a bit and give both of you the best time possible.

The reason this is such a famed position is because it gives the girl more control over penetration, therefore allowing her to reach orgasm more easily. For the guy, well, he gets a seriously good visual, and that never hurts! [Read: 45 minxy sex moves and positions to impress a guy and blow his mind in bed]

Why the cowgirl position is so great

In case you’ve never tried the cowgirl position before, you might not understand the commotion. Here’s why the cowgirl position is beloved by many:

1. The person on top is in control, i.e. the girl

2. It might be easier for the girl to achieve orgasm [Read: Amazing types of female orgasms all girls can experience in bed]

3. It offers direct clitoral stimulation

4. It’s provocative for both partners

Of course, being on top can be daunting if you’ve never done it before, as you’re firmly on center stage! However, show your confidence by climbing on top and going for it; you’ll definitely enjoy the simulation this position brings! [Read: What does an orgasm feel like? The answers-cum-guide to the big O]

There is one big myth about this position you might hear: that it benefits the guy more. Well, that’s not true. As we’ve already established, this position offers direct clitoral stimulation, something most women need to be able to orgasm. So, it’s truly a position for everyone!

How to talk to your partner about trying the cowgirl position

Trying a new position can be nerve-wracking, but this is a pretty simple option.

If you want to try the cowgirl position, you could try having a conversation with your partner beforehand and suggest that you try something new. They’re sure to be curious!

Alternatively, wait until you’re both in bed and getting it on, and whisper in your partner’s ear that you want to get on top. Trust us, they won’t say no! [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

The things guys can do to make the cowgirl position better

Don’t just lie there, guys! Your girl doesn’t have to think being on top is the lazy man’s favorite position! Here are a few ways you can take this basic position to the next level.

1. Play with her clit

Let her control the rhythm, and use a finger or two to stimulate her clit. Often, the rhythm of her movement means you don’t actually have to move your finger, just hold it over her clit, and let her grind her way to orgasm. [Read: Clitoris stimulation – 19 secret touches to leave a girl squirming for more]

2. Lift your hips

As she is on top, put your feet flat on the floor/bed with your knees bent, and lift your hips up. This will push you in deeper, increasing stimulation for both of you.

3. Hold her down

This works especially well when you have your hips lifted. Grab her waist or her hips, and pull her down so you are thrusting deeper into her.

This feels good and also allows her to move quicker/more aggressively without risking you slipping out. [Read: How to have rough sex and 15 dirty moves to have the sexiest time ever]

4. Sit up

When you are sitting up, you will be deeper inside her, and you are now face to face, so you can kiss or caress each other’s neck, ears, and chest. It also opens up more positions for her.

When you’re sitting up face to face, it’s easy to get into one rhythm together and share the workload, so to speak.

5. Angle your pelvis backward

Roll your pelvis backward as though you are thrusting toward her belly button, and you will stimulate her G-spot. This is one of the main benefits of lifting your hips slightly.

6. Play with her nipples

The nipples are an often-neglected erogenous zone once foreplay is over. While she is on top, you have great access to play with them and increase her pleasure as you turn yourself on even more. [Read: Nipple play – 26 ways to focus on a girl’s breasts and make her orgasm]

7. Pull her in close

You can kiss her, nibble her neck, or just hold her close to you as you take control of the rhythm.

If she’s kinky, you can pull her down by her hair and control her head to alternate between kissing, kissing her neck, and just holding her close. [Read: 42 secrets to satisfy a woman in bed and make her wet just thinking about you]

8. Stop and hold her down when she comes

Many girls will involuntarily convulse when they come and end up “collapsing” while letting you slip out of her.

From this position, you can grab her waist or hips and hold her down, so you are deep inside her when she comes. This will feel great for both of you. [Read: Do simultaneous orgasms really happen to regular folk?]

The things girls can do to make the cowgirl position better

Ladies, you’re in control of this position, so make the best of your upper hand!

1. Control the pace

For girls whose partners tend to finish too soon, this position is perfect for you to control the pace and rhythm to tease him a little bit and really focus on stimulating yourself.

2. Gyrate

You can move in every direction, so don’t limit yourself to forward/backward and up/down movements. Gyrating in a circular motion feels best for both of you since you can control the different areas his penis stimulates within you.

Build a steady rhythm, and you can control your movement to maximize pleasure. [Read: 46 expert-level tips and secrets to be a better lover and feel amazing in bed]

3. Tilt your pelvis

When it comes to the cowgirl position, often a smaller, subtle gyrating of the pelvis is more effective than big movements of the whole body. By angling your pelvis backward, you can move him around inside you and stimulate your G-spot as you give him a great view.

4. Play with yourself

Men find it extremely sexy when you bite your lip, play with your nipples, or play with your clit. So while you’re up there, give him a show he can’t tear his eyes away from. [Read: How to finger a girl – 21 delicate moves to make her squirm and orgasm]

5. Legs straight

Have him sit up and keep both his legs out straight while you do the same, and hold each other close. This is a great position to get him deep inside you and to build a great rhythm together.

6. Lean back

When you’re face to face, put your arms around his neck, and lean back. This position changes the angle of his thrusts to stimulate your G-spot.

7. Squat

Instead of straddling his hips with your thighs, squat with your feet on either side of his hips. This lets you have better control of your up and down motions, and it also allows you to free up your hips for easier movement.

You can grab the headboard or have him sit up as you use his neck to get leverage and not tire yourself out.

8. Kiss

The typical consensus is that guys just want to get straight to it and don’t value foreplay and kissing, but when you are riding him, bending over to make out can definitely be a turn-on for guys.

It also gives him active involvement in what might otherwise be a passive position. [Read: How to talk dirty to a guy and 36 secrets to arouse him with the sexiest words]

The things you both can do to make the cowgirl position better

There’s no need to rely on just one or the other! Teamwork is the key to turning this seemingly bland position into one of your favorites.

1. Find the right motion together

You need to work together to find a good rhythm that works for both of you. Getting the timing right will make the experience even more orgasmic.

It’s probably easiest to start slow and get into a rhythm together, then increase the pace as you desire.

One of you should lead while the other follows. If you both try and lead, you will end up sloppily falling out of rhythm all the time. This is when you should be communicating just how fast or slow you want to go. [Read: 22 playful ways to make sex more fun and interesting when it’s boring and lame]

2. Passive or active?

This is a position where either one or both of you can be active. The guy can just lay back and let the girl ride him. Or the girl can let the guy create the movement and just go along for the ride.

But if you both want to be in control, just get the rhythm down, and take turns in adding the little movements to make the experience better for both of you. [Read: 46 sizzling sex life secrets to spice up your bedroom and leave you horny 24/7]

3. Alternate the workload

Whoever is leading will get tired after a certain amount of time, and this position is one that lends itself very easily to sharing the workload, as both can be active at any given time.

Whereas in many other positions, to change who is doing the work would require changing positions altogether, the cowgirl position allows you to build more momentum. Then, you can keep things going for longer without interruption. [Read: Kinky sex positions for a wild night every day of the week]

Cowgirl position variations

The great thing about the cowgirl position is that it can be adjusted slightly, therefore making it even more explosive! Here are some variations you can try:

1. Reverse cowgirl

This position is exactly the same as the regular cowgirl, but instead of facing your partner, you’ll have your back to them. Basically, they get an amazing view of your ass!

2. Horizontal cowgirl

The horizontal cowgirl means that you both get to lie down! You’ll start in the regular cowgirl position but then you’ll lie down on top of your partner, or very close to them. It’s ideal for G-spot stimulation too. [Read: How to hit the G-spot and make her squirm with pleasure]

3. Sitting up cowgirl

Start in the regular cowgirl position and then the person lying down will sit up, so both of you are facing each other in close proximity and moving as one.

4. Squatting cowgirl

We mentioned squatting earlier, but it’s so good that it’s worth mentioning again! Squat over your partner with your legs on either side of their hips and use your knees as leverage to bounce up and down.

This position is a real workout for the thighs! [Read: Intense orgasms checklist – the moves to guarantee one all the time]

5. The lotus

Your partner sits down with their legs crossed and pulled close to their body. You then sit on top so you’re both facing one another. You can then either wrap your legs around them or place them by your sides.

6. Sideways straddle

Your partner lies on their back and bends one knee. You then straddle that knee and face away from them. Then, you’ll slowly lower down until they’re inside you and away you go!

7. The octopus

Your partner should sit on the bed with their hands stretched behind their back for support, and their legs should be stretched out in front of their body.

You then lie on your back, in front of their crotch. Then raise your legs over their shoulders. Your partner can move closer and you can start penetration. [Read: How to have tantric sex – a beginner’s guide to awaken your sexuality]

One possible risk of the cowgirl position & how to try it safely

There might be one horror story you’ve heard about related to the cowgirl position and that’s possible penile fracture.

Yes, it can happen, but don’t worry—it’s rare!

To avoid the chances of this happening, it’s important not to bounce up and down on your partner’s penis with too much energy or aggression! Remember, it’s hard but it is breakable!

If you can bear this very small risk in mind and try different variations of this sexy cowgirl position, it might very well become one of your favorites!

[Read: Sex positions that could leave you with a broken penis]

Give these tips a try, and they are sure to sizzle up the cowgirl position for you and your partner. Why not share this feature with them and try a few of them out together?