Are You More Than Friends? 17 Signs You’ve Gone From Talking to Dating

When you like someone, you constantly ask yourself if they see you as more than a friend. It’s important to know the signs to get your answer.

Do you ever ask wonder ‘are you more than friends?’ Are you completely confused and wondering where your relationship with a special friend is heading?

The lines can easily be blurred between friendship and something more, so don’t worry if you ask yourself this question.

You’ll be surprised how many people actually struggle with this! It’s time to stop your confusion once and for all, and get some clarity on the signs you’re more than friends. [Read: 20 easy ways to get your friend to like you more and fall for you]

Are you more than friends?

The thing is, the lines between friendship and relationship can easily be blurred. If you’re not more than friends, you shouldn’t really be asking yourself this question. A platonic friendship wouldn’t have any romance in the equation.

So if maybe you find yourself being affectionate with one another or you feel nervous around them at a given point, you could have feelings for them. If they reciprocate this, you could be more than friends. In a platonic friendship, you shouldn’t have to question their intentions for you.

You’ll feel that it’s strictly friendship when you can decipher the signs you’re more than friends.

17 subtle signs you’re more than friends and falling for each other

Sometimes, two friends can have so many happy things in common that a simple friendship could become a lot more complex over time.

There’s a reason why it can be so easy to fall for your best friend. They’re the person who knows you better than anyone and if you let yourself fall for them, a friendship can quickly turn into a relationship.

If you’re perfect for each other, both of you will inevitably fall in love with each other, just as long as the friendship is great and there’s that perfect potion of secret attraction that bubbles under the surface. So are you more than friends? Use these friend-to-lover facts to find out. [Read: How to flirt with a friend – 18 ways to tease them without being weird]

1. Both of you call and text each other every day

It may start off as an occasional call to keep in touch or exchange a bit of gossip. But over time, the calls get more frequent and last longer, and usually stretch late into the night.

You might find this hard to believe, but there’s no need to call one another every day.

This is something you do with a significant other, not a friend. If you’re wondering are you more than friends, the fact that you call each other every day means there’s only one answer – it’s a definite yes!

2. Sharing secrets and opinions

Lovers finish each other’s sentences. Friends who are turning into lovers share their secrets and opinions. There’s no need to share your dirty little secrets with your friend unless you’re becoming more than that.

So does your friend know you sleep in the nude? Or did you find out that your friend was wearing black underwear during last night’s long phone conversation? You might not be aware that you’re flirting, but sharing these intimate details with your friend is one of the signs you’re more than friends. [Read: What do guys think of their female friends? The honest truth revealed]

3. Overprotective about each other

Friends who are on the verge of becoming something more are very protective of each other. Do you ask your friend to call you and let you know once they’ve reached home, or do either of you try to help the other person out of a sticky situation all the time?

You can be protective of your friends in moderation, but if you tend to be overprotective about them, you need to start thinking if this is really a friendship.

If either of you tend to go above and beyond for the other, then that answers your question of are you more than friends. [Read: Key differences – Protective boyfriend or controlling boyfriend?]

4. New dates and jealousy

This is a really big one so pay close attention! Whenever you or the other has a new date, does either of you show any signs of jealousy or envy? Being jealous is harder to hide than you might think.

Do you get irritated if your friend goes out on a date with someone they like, or even talks about their date excitedly? Or does your stomach churn with anger if your friend makes out with someone on a date? The questions will help you answer the question of are you more than friends or not.

Neither of you should be getting jealous in the first place, if you really are just friends *there’s no such thing as friendly jealousy!* [Read: Why am I so jealous? 8 ways to recognize the reasons & fix it]

5. Spending weekends and holidays together

When you meet your special friend, is it mostly just the both of you or are there other friends too? Weekends and holidays are a time of leisure and happy moments. If either of you pushes to just hang out with the two of you, then start thinking about intentions.

If this is the case, you obviously love spending time with another and can’t get enough. Now, if that’s not a happy budding romance, what is? [Read: Is he in love with you?]

6. Go out on dates with each other

Now, of course, you don’t call these *dates* when you’re just friends. But you know what we mean here, don’t you? Do both of you go out a lot, just the two of you? If there’s a new movie in town or a new restaurant, does the first thought that pops into your head include your friend?

If you go on these friendly dates with just the two of you, it might be a friendship leading to romance! Spending unnecessary time together is one of the concrete signs you’re more than friends.

Attractive friends who *date* each other often don’t do it because there’s no one else to go out with; they do it because they love sharing new experiences with each other. [Read: 27 signs he likes you as more than a friend and wants to date you]

7. Give each other exclusive pet names

If you’re seriously wondering are you more than friends, it all comes down to having pet names or not. Do you both have cute pet names that you only give one another? Pet names are given by people only when they feel an overwhelming surge of affection for each other.

Pet names are rather personal and very affectionate. This is most commonly used when people are dating or in relationships, so maybe you’re already falling for one another *you just don’t know it yet.* [Read: What your pet name says about your relationship]

8. Extremely loyal to each other

One of the known characteristics of friendships is loyalty. But what type of loyalty becomes so much that it’s no longer friendship, but something more? When you’re in love, you try your best to be loyal to each other and be there in times of need.

And that’s one of the biggest reasons why love can also hurt so much, especially when there’s a breach of trust and loyalty.

If you always drop everything just to be by each other’s sides whenever one is in need, then this is one of the concrete signs you’re more than friends. [Read: How to know if you are in love]

9. A lot of petting and cuddling

Really, this shouldn’t even be a question any longer. Physical forms of affection such as petting and cuddling are only reserved for people you have something more than friendship with.

Do you spend most of your time holding hands or resting a head on each other’s shoulders? Interlocking of arms and occasional cheek kisses don’t really go well in a friendship.

The only reason this should be second nature in your friendship is that it’s already developed into something more than that. If you love cuddling up with your friend, you can’t really date someone else when you have your friend around. *they’d run away with jealousy!*

10. You want to kiss your friend

Whether or not you’ve already kissed your friend, if the thought has already passed your mind, this might not just be friendship for the both of you.

Friends don’t care about kissing each other or making out with each other. Nor do they make stupid pacts like “let’s get married to each other if we don’t find anyone else by the time we’re thirty.”

If you’re wondering are you more than friends or not, observe the way you kiss each other. Is it just a friendly kiss or a kiss that’s so close to becoming a real kiss? We shouldn’t have to state the obvious, but you don’t kiss your friends!  

11. You give each other that look

You know what we’re talking about – that look that lovers share in movies that are impossible to miss. Yes, they do happen in real life, and no, this doesn’t happen in friendships. If you tend to share a glance or two with your friend, something must be lingering in the friendship.

It’s the kind of look that says, “you’re my friend, but I think I’m falling in love with you.” If they glance at you the same way, why not take the friendship to the next level? Literally everyone else around you sees it but yourselves!

12. There’s flirting involved

Flirts don’t flirt, ever. It doesn’t matter if it was just a joke but if you’re subtly flirting with your friend *and they flirt back,* this is no longer a friendship. In fact, maybe both of you are just scared to admit this to yourselves, but you have feelings for one another.

Flirting is one of the sure-fire signs you’re more than friends because unless your friend is also someone you dated, you shouldn’t be flirting with them in the first place. [Read: 15 flirting signs to instantly know if someone is flirting with you]

13. Your friendship has changed drastically

Now we’re not talking about small changes, but ones that your other friends clearly notice. Maybe you constantly touch one another, or when you talk, it’s like nobody else is in the room. These are behaviors behind two people clearly in love *and you’re just in denial*.

If this is the case, you should definitely have the talk with one another and see where the relationship takes you. You’re clearly not just friends anymore.

14. You both talk about one another to other people

If you’re wondering if you’re more than friends, then assess whether you talk about how amazing the other person is to your other friends.

Maybe you don’t notice it at first, but you can’t resist from talking about them to your other friends *and you don’t know they’re doing the exact same thing*.

If you have the same group of friends, they must be secretly laughing at and adoring your hidden crush for one another! Maybe it’s time to stop kidding yourselves and take your so-called friendship to the next level! [Read: How to know if your friend likes you more than they’re letting on]

15. You’ve both met each other’s parents

In a relationship, it’s crucial for you to meet their parents and to get along. In a friendship? Not so much. So if you’ve both met each other’s parents and have bonded with them pretty well, it’s a huge indicator that this is more than a friendship for the both of you.

16. You both want to know your past lovers

It’s completely normal to share your past relationships and breakups with your friend. However, if you are both interested in knowing the precise details of your relationships, that’s when it gets tricky.

Even friendships have significant boundaries, so if you both know every raw detail of your past relationships, ask yourself why this is the case.

If you don’t share this kind of closeness with your other friends, perhaps you’re both in denial that this is already more than a friendship. [Read: 18 signs a friend likes you romantically even if they’re hiding it]

17. You both compromise

While friendships do feature compromise, this is more required in relationships. If your friend always crosses oceans for you and moves mountains for you *and you do the same for them,* then this is no longer a friendship, is it?

Instead, it shows you’re more than friends and that you clearly want to be together. You’re willing to meet them halfway, even if it requires a little bit of sacrifice on your end.

You’re more than friends, now what?

Now here’s the tricky part. Just because you’re more than friends doesn’t really mean it’s heading towards true love and you’ll get married soon. It could get there, but all these emotions could also be one-sided and turn out to be limerence or even lust.

There’s always the risk of ruining a friendship, which is why people don’t often cross this bridge and date their friends. However, if it’s real love and they do feel the same way, it might just be worth the risk for that happily-ever-after.

If you want to take it from a friendship to something more intimate, say something like “you know, I wonder why WE haven’t dated each other” to your friend, and they’ll know exactly what you mean. 

[Read: All the signs you should be dating your friend already]

Use these steps if you’re wondering are you more than friends or not. If it’s something more, why not take that leap of faith and take things a step further?