Limp Dick: 31 Causes, Cures & Ways to Go From Flaccid to Firm ASAP!

It might be a nightmare for you, but a limp dick happens to more guys than you realize. Some good news? You can understand and cure it. 

A limp dick can be a devastating thing for a man to deal with, especially as there isn’t always an obvious reason for its sudden and unwanted onset. It may seem to him as though there is an issue with his very manhood, and his confidence takes an irreparable nosedive as a result. The good news? It’s really not that drastic.

However, what’s not often talked about in the whole limp penis stakes, is how a woman might feel when she is faced with one.

Ostensibly, she might seem supportive and helpful about the whole thing, but it often leaves her feeling rejected.

Of course, the guy is the one that’s doing all the panicking in that moment, but it’s important to remember that a limp dick situation affects both people. [Read: 20 easy ways to keep an erection up and hard for longer]

What causes a limp dick and how to cure it

We all want to know the cure, don’t we? It’s every guy’s worst nightmare *and every girl’s too*, so let’s talk about some ways you can cure that limp dick you have going on, while understanding what causes it.

1. Limp dicks happen

First of all, you should know, whether you’re a man or woman reading this, limp dicks happen. Every guy will have a situation when they’re going to lose their erection, or not even get one.

Ladies, it’s not you. Fellas, you’re not a freak because you can’t get hard. You’re not a wind-up doll. [Read: The honest reasons why losing an erection bothers men so much]

2. Don’t make a scene out of it

If you or your partner can’t get hard, don’t make some huge deal out of it. You have to know that there are countless reasons why there’s no boner happening.

These things happen. It’s like when a girl can’t get wet. It’s not the end of the world, nor is it the first or last time it’ll happen.

3. It’s all in your mind

A lot of these situations *if not brought up by some external factor* are brought upon psychologically. Maybe you have an exam tomorrow that you’re thinking about, or the fight you had earlier with your partner is still bothering you.

Believe it or not, men are also human beings with feelings. Feelings have a funny way of cockblocking people.

4. Calm down

If you want to cure your limp dick but you’re freaking out, you need to take a breath and chill. If you keep hyping yourself up, you’re going to get yourself into a space where you’ll unable to pull yourself out of. Point is… take a breath. [Read: The best ways to overcome sexual anxiety and perform]

5. Work out

We don’t mean to head to the gym and lift some weights. We’re talking about working out the penis muscles.

Kegel exercises are great for working the penis muscles and increasing blood flow into your penis. What does increased blood flow mean? BINGO. Boner time. [Read: Kegel exercises and why both men and women should do it]

6. Take it easy on the booze

If you’re completely wasted and trying to focus on not passing out, how are you possibly going to have sex with someone?

Alcohol might be the liquid courage you need, however, when you need to have sex, it’s not your friend. It’s going to cockblock you, and it’s going to hurt.

7. Put out the cigarette

Not only is smoking a complete turn off, but nicotine is horrible for your health, especially your sexual health.

If that doesn’t get you to stop, then continue on with the limp dick. But really, smoking creates problems with blood flood which may be a reason why you can’t get hard.

8. Are you on meds?

You sometimes don’t think about it, but if you’re on medication, your limp dick could be a side effect. Antidepressants, painkillers, anti-anxiety pills, all these have an impact on your sex life.

So, if you think you’re going to have sex that day, try taking a lower dose if you can. But of course, check with your doctor before you do anything. Actually, you should tell your doctor about the issue, and maybe they’ll prescribe you something different.

9. Getting the yawns?

If you work full time or haven’t been feeling well, how are you supposed to give it your all in the bedroom? You’re not Superman. You’re tired and out of energy.

If your body is run down, there’s no way you’ll be able to put all your energy into an erection… you have no energy. So, invest in sleep.

10. In rare situations, health conditions can cause a limp dick

Perhaps you have an undiagnosed sexual condition or a health condition that’s unrelated, but it is affecting your sex life. This doesn’t mean you won’t be able to have sex.

This simply means you need to go to your doctor and make sure it’s not medically related. Don’t panic! It’s unlikely, but it’s always better to check. [Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about the penis]

11. You’re not present

Your mind is somewhere else. If you’re distracted by other thoughts than the naked person underneath you, then you’re not going to be able to keep an erection.

It could even be that your phone is going off or the TV is on in the background. If you’re able to remove the distractions, do so. Because it’s not helping anyone.

12. Who are you having sex with?

Are you really attracted to your partner, or did you just pick them up because you felt like you had to? It could be that you realized you made a mistake and now you don’t want to have sex.

Listen, we know some guys feel like they need to have sex with everything that walks, but you don’t have to. You can choose who you want to have sex with, as long as they want to have sex with you, of course. [Read: What do women really think about your penis?]

13. They’re not turning you on

Maybe they’re not doing it how you like. You feel like something’s off, and of course, you’re going to get a limp dick – you’re not enjoying it.

But that’s up to you to tell them how you like it. So, be honest and upfront when you don’t like something, and show them how you like it. [Read: The 15 biggest sexual turn offs for men in bed that makes a boner go down]

14. Performance anxiety

A lot of guys get this. They get a girl who’s really attractive, and they’re worried they won’t be able to please her. Or they want to impress her.

Just relax. You made it this far with them, so they’re obviously attracted to you. It’s gonna be okay. [Read: How to not be nervous before having sex with someone and just enjoy it instead]

15. Do regular exercise

Exercise improves many of the issues leading to a limp penis, including poor blood pressure, low stamina, and stress levels. Plus, it makes you feel a lot more capable and confident in your appearance.

16. Alter your diet

A heavy, carb-rich diet can cause temporary issues with a limp penis. Change it up for foods high in zinc, such as nuts and some seafood, to put the lead back in your pencil. [Read: Aphrodisiacs and food hell – A lover’s guide to eating well]

17. Are you stressed?

It can be very difficult for your body to perform properly when you are suffering from high levels of stress.

If stress has become such an issue in your life that you suffer from impotence and a limp dick, then you need to deal with the source of that stress before worse things happen.

18. Take some time off

Sometimes you might just need to relieve yourself of the stress of performance pressure, and take a little bit of time off sex as a whole. Return to it when the jitters have gone, and you might just be fine.

19. Focus on the foreplay

If sexual intercourse is a no-go for a while, just make sure you pleasure your girl with as much foreplay as you can throw at her.

As long as she’s getting her sugar she’ll be fine. With the confidence you get in giving her the big “O” again, you might feel a few stirrings where they have been missing for so long. [Read: 10 foreplay moves every guy needs to do to their ladies]

20. The little blue pill

Viagra, or certain alternatives, works really well. It isn’t a permanent solution of course, but it gives you a little time off from worrying about the limp penis issue, so that hopefully things return to normal on their own. As with anything medication or health-related, speak to a doctor before you do anything.

21. Confide in your doctor

If all else fails, and you really aren’t having any success with alimp dick, then it may be down to physical rather than mental/psychological issues.

If this is the case, you need to see a doctor as soon as possible so that it can be dealt with before it goes past the point of no return.

Partner struggling with limp dick? How you can help him

If your partner often struggles to stay hard, or get hard in the first place, it’s going to affect your confidence too.

Don’t worry, it’s nothing you’ve done and it’s probably something very simple that’s caused it. But, here’s how you can help him out.

1. Talk to him

Show him you’re being supportive and use the opportunity to see if this is a new or an old thing. You might be able to help. [Read: How to talk about sex without sounding like a pervert]

2. Lay off the pressure

Whatever you do, you need to make sure you gently encourage him to work through the limp penis thing at a pace to suit him. Pressurizing him for sex will only make the issue much worse.

3. Don’t ridicule him

Making fun of his problem is the absolute worst thing you can do. Not only will you not get any sex, but you’ll be lucky if he doesn’t dump you within the week! [Read: Why does losing an erection bother men so much?]

4. Relax him

Sometimes the issue is a dose of performance anxiety, especially if this is a new relationship. The answer to this is to relax him. Give him a massage, put on a bit of soft music, and let nature take its course.

5. Work him

Lady, you have hands and a mouth for a reason. Put in the groundwork, and you might just be rewarded with an erection sooner than you thought. [Read: How to give good head – The biggest blowjob guide and 50+ secret tips]

6. Non-penetrative sex

The penis can be put to use without being erect, and the act can be just as enjoyable for him as for you. Stop focusing on penetrative sex for a while, and just have dry sex with him and make out instead.

It’ll remove the pressure of sex from his mind, and that’ll make it easier for him to get an erection without even realizing it. [Read: Dry humping and the virgin’s way of getting orgasms]

7. Tantra

A great way to build up core body strength and develop the all-important pubococcygeus muscle, in the sexiest way possible. [Read: Tantric sex and the beginners guide to awaken your sexuality]

8. Assess his lifestyle

His limp penis may be down to aspects of his lifestyle that he has not himself identified; such as lack of sleep, a poor diet, or too much booze. In this case, it is entirely justifiable for you to step in and suggest a few changes benefitting you both.

9. Give it time

Please be patient for him. Even if it takes months for the problem to sort itself out, any lack of patience will add further months to the end date. If it’s worth dating for, it’s worth waiting for. [Read: 12 foreplay moves that are almost guaranteed to work effectively on men]

10. Consider the options

Guys are notoriously bad at tackling personal health issues, and he may need you to take over and suggest some next steps if things aren’t getting any better after a while. One of these may be a suggestion to take a visit to the doctor.

Stay calm and know you’re not the only one

It probably won’t make you feel infinitely better to know that you’re not the only guy who has struggled with limp dick, but that should tell you how common it is. So many lifestyle factors can cause this unpleasant occurrence, but they can be changed too. That means limp dick can be cured!

If you’re worried and changes aren’t working, just have a quick chat with your doctor – you won’t be the first guy to ask about it and you won’t be the last! 

The most important thing is to relax. Stress and anxiety will only make the whole situation worse. 

[Read: Can’t get hard? The reasons why your penis is being a total dick]

If you’re freaking out about the limp dick… don’t. Just be cool. The cooler you are, the harder it’ll get. And we mean that in a good way.