Boyfriend Extra-Friendly & Flirting with Other Girls? 19 Signs & Must-Dos

Flirting is natural for most people. And it’s harmless unless you’re in a relationship. So, here are signs your boyfriend is flirting with other girls.

Before delving too deeply into paranoia, you have to learn the difference between being nice and being flirtatious. For example, if you are at dinner and your man asks for the waitress’ name with a smile on his face, he’s just being a nice and polite guy. So, how do you know if your boyfriend is flirting with other girls?

However, if you see him engaging in an in-depth conversation with her, whether it’s at the table with you or when he heads off for a bathroom break, he may be flirting.

So, what about the online world? Be it a text or Facebook message, crossing boundaries into the digital world also counts as flirting. It may be hard to get your hands-on digital proof without being a snoop and possibly incurring his wrath if you are found out.

But one way to gauge if he is flirting with someone else is when you notice him being secretive with his text messaging. If he acts like he has something to hide, then he probably does. 

With that being said, it’s always a good idea to give your man the benefit of the doubt before going for the jugular. [Read: When does flirting become cheating? The guide to know that exact moment]

The subtle and obvious signs your boyfriend is flirting with other girls

As tough as it may be to differentiate, it’s important for you to know ifyour boyfriend is flirting with other girls or if he is just being nice. 

Although you may not be able to control what goes on in cyberspace, you can take note of how he behaves with other women when in the flesh. If you don’t know where to start, here are the most common telltale signs.

1. He gets into her personal space

You can’t stop your man from speaking to other women. In fact, there is nothing wrong if you encourage it every so often, as it will undoubtedly boost his confidence. When your man is confident, everybody wins.

However, if you notice your boyfriend speaking and flirting with another girl and he’s all up in her personal space, you will know for a fact that he is flirting. An innocent conversation does not entail leaning in close to the other person. [Read: Flirting while in a committed relationship – What you need to know]

2. You see body contact

If both parties are guilty of touching each other, look at it as a glaring red flag. Whether he innocently brushes her arm or she playfully hits him, these are flirtatious signals that you need to take seriously.

Either stop the interaction by politely cutting in, or wait till he’s done to give him a world of pain. [Read: 13 lusty signs your man is sexually flirting with another girl]

3. There’s way too much smiling

There is nothing wrong with him smiling at someone else, and neither is there anything wrong with him nodding agreeably when he engages another woman in conversation.

However, if you notice that the smiles are ongoing and that she is being sucked deeper and deeper into the conversation, he is probably turning on the charm and flirting with her.

Sometimes, you don’t need to hear the conversation to know just what is going on. Trust your instincts and cut in, if you feel uncomfortable.

4. There’s too much eye contact

Of course, it’s polite to make eye contact with the person you are speaking to, but if eye contact is prolonged and ceaseless, feel free to radio Houston saying you have a problem. They may not be touching per se, but never underestimate the importance of eye contact when flirting. 

Men tend to hold intense eye contact while listening and avert their gaze when speaking. You should know his game as you obviously fell for it, so pay attention to the signs. [Read: Eye f*cking and the signs of serious sexual eye contact]

5. She responds just as flirtatiously

If you suspect that your boyfriend is flirting with other girls, then shift your attention to the woman he is with. Her reaction towards him will tell you if he is indeed flirting.

Women tend to be more expressive with their facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language.

If she is blushing, looks down often, smiles shyly at him, and displays all the other hints of her liking him, then her responses validate his intentions.

However, if she has a stoic expression on her face or expresses nothing more than pure interest and friendliness, you have nothing to worry about. [Read: 35 signs of attraction from a guy when he’s falling for a girl]

6. The world seems to disappear around them

If he focuses on nothing and no one else but her, you have a problem. This is especially true if you guys are in a group setting, and he can look at no one else but her. Before you jump to conclusions, ensure that you assess the situation first.

Perhaps they are talking about work or engaged in harmless conversation that entails her planning her kid’s birthday party. 

Before making a big deal of it and ruining everyone’s night, join in the conversation and see how he reacts to it. If he looks taken aback or pays little attention to you, he was and still is flirting. [Read: 22 very obvious signs your man has a crush on another woman]

7. He always stares at other women

Staring appreciatively at other women may not mean he is flirting, but there’s a huge chance that he’s considering it. If he does this often with you around, imagine what he is capable of when he is out solo or with his boys.

Cut him some slack if Victoria’s Secret supermodel Adrianna Lima walks into the room. He is allowed to gape all he wants because, after all, he is just a man. 

But if he behaves this way with every pair of tits that crosses his path, you know that he’s got other things on his mind. [Read: The right way to get rid of your man’s wandering eye]

8. Observe his stance

Another way to gauge if your boyfriend is flirting with other girls or if he is just being nice is to take note of the nonverbal communication signs that he flashes at her, one of which is his stance. 

If he stands with his legs spread hip wide, arms relaxed at the side with his thumbs hooked into his pockets or belt loops, body leaning in, head tilted to one side, eyebrows raised, eye contact is intense, and smiles all around, he is definitely flirting.

9. This isn’t the first time

Although this may be jumping to conclusions, if this is not the first time he is guilty of flirting with other women, then it’s probably not his last. Although the saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” may be a little too harsh, the underlying message is the same.

If he has done it once before, he is probably doing it right now and is most likely going to do it again. Although keeping your man on a leash is so retro, you need to stand up and be heard if he has the gall to flirt with other women. 

Keep the channels of communication open and ensure that you speak to him if you are not comfortable with it. A nice guy will respect your wishes, apologize and not do it again. 

As important as it is to always trust the person you are with, loyalty is just as important and if he cannot offer you loyalty, then he certainly does not deserve your trust. [Read: 15 gut-wrenching signs your boyfriend is more interested in your friend these days]

The covert signs your boyfriend is flirting with girls over text

Maybe you are worried that your boyfriend is flirting with other girls over text. If you are, then here are some signs that you need to watch out for.

1. He is overly protective of his phone

This is the most obvious sign your boyfriend is flirting with other girls over text. If he doesn’t want you near his phone, then he is clearly not comfortable with you seeing whatever it is that’s on there. 

So, if you try to Google something using his phone, he might immediately take it away from you. Or, if he wants to show you a photo, he might keep his hands on the phone so you don’t take it from him. This is a very suspicious sign that he might be up to no good. [Read: 21 signs to know if he’s texting another woman behind your back]

2. He’s always texting someone when you are together

It’s normal for people to be texting others when they are with people these days. However, if your boyfriend is always talking to someone when you two are spending time together, then it could mean that he’s flirting with other girls.

This is especially worrisome if he isn’t texting you as much as he used to. If that’s true, then his time is going toward someone else, and it’s probably a girl he is flirting with.

3. He acts weird or flaky with you

If he just suddenly cancels plans with you, or if you two are talking over text and he just stops replying without telling you but he’s still online, then it could mean that he’s texting and flirting with another girl.

If it only happens once or very infrequently, then it might not be a big deal. But if it becomes a pattern, then keep your eye on it. [Read: 16 warning signs your boyfriend is falling in love with someone else]

4. He gets defensive when you ask him questions

If you are asking who he is texting and he gives you vague or shady answers, then you might have a problem. Or, if you ask what he did that day, he might only give you a one-word answer.

If this is a behavior that has come on suddenly, it could be because your boyfriend is flirting with other girls. [Read: How to know if he’s lying to you without asking or confronting him]

What to do if your boyfriend is flirting with other girls 

If you have seen these signs from your boyfriend, then you probably are wondering what you should do about it. Here are some guidelines for you.

1. Find out if he’s guilty

Don’t just go crazy and start verbally attacking him and accusing your boyfriend of flirting with other girls. He might actually be innocent – you don’t know for sure yet. So, you can confront him and ask him to see his phone.

2. Figure out how much you can trust him

If he has a bad history of being shady and has given you reasons not to trust him, then maybe you are on to something. He might really be up to no good.

But if he’s never given you a reason to not trust him before, then maybe you are just being paranoid. [Read: How to get over trust issues in your relationship and move forward]

3. If he’s guilty, can you forgive him?

Let’s say that either your boyfriend admits to flirting with other girls or you catch him red-handed. You really need to think about what you are going to do.

Can you forgive him? Should you forgive him? Remember, if he did it once, he’ll probably do it again – especially if he’s gotten away with it before.

4. Ask friends what they think

If you have mutual friends, ask them if they know anything about your boyfriend flirting with other girls. Maybe they know something, and maybe they don’t. But they may have some insight to share with you and help you figure out what to do.

5. Don’t go ape-shit crazy with you confront him

We know that you might be fuming mad at him, but if you go crazy on him, it will only backfire on you. So, you need to outplay him and approach him in a calm manner.

Have evidence with you when you do. That way, he can’t deny it – even if he tries. [Read: My boyfriend likes other girls’ pictures on Instagram – What should you do about it?]

6. Move on

If you find out that your boyfriend is flirting with other girls and he admits it, you might have to see how far it’s gone. Is it just flirting? Or has it crossed the line into cheating?

If he is cheating, then you will probably have to cut your losses and move on. If he doesn’t respect you enough to be loyal to you, then he doesn’t deserve you.

[Read: Is he only using me? 23 signs you’re in love with a man who doesn’t care about you]

Every woman has the right to wonder if her boyfriend is flirting with other girls. But it’s best to be completely sure before mouthing off a barrage of accusations. Know the facts and check for the signs before confronting your man about his behavior.