How to Get a Guy to Kiss You When You Want Him To: The Secret Moves

Sometimes guys just don’t get the message, even if you’re clear. If you want to learn how to get a guy to kiss you, here’s all the information you need. 

Picture the scene – you’ve been on a few dates with a guy and everything is great. You really like him and you think he likes you too. But, nothing else is happening besides flirting. You want him to kiss you but he doesn’t seem to be able to pluck up the courage to do it – but you know he wants to! If you want to know how to get a guy to kiss you, it’s really not as hard as it seems.

Guys worry about rejection just as much as girls, we seem to forget that fact! He may be worried about going too fast or he may be scared to kiss you.

If there’s one thing that scares guys more than anything else, it’s a girl who backs away from a kiss hastily. No guy likes that. His ego will certainly be bruised and it will damage his confidence no end.

Instead, he’s trying to work out what you’re thinking, but he’s struggling because he’s obviously not a mind-reader!

A guy may like you a lot, but almost always, he’ll wait to get a sign from you first. Especially when it comes to leaning in for a wonderful first kiss.

[Read: What makes a guy want to kiss a girl? The most kissable traits guys can’t resist]

There’s a lot riding on that first kiss

While many people think it’s no big deal, it’s true that there’s a huge amount of importance attached to a first kiss. It’s your first act of real intimacy with one another and if it goes badly, it’s pretty hard to wipe the memory away.

While not everything hinges on whether or not that first smooch goes well or not, there is quite a lot riding on it at the start. 

If you like each other and you both wait a little too long for a kiss, you run the risk of misunderstanding one another. You might think that you don’t like each other at all.

But, if you go for it too fast, you might worry that the other person thinks you’re rushing and wondering what you’re really after. 

Of course, all of this could easily be solved simply by talking to one another but you’re not in that comfort zone yet. You’ve just met and it’s all mysterious and strange. Dating is weird, right?

There’s a lot of confusion around this first kiss, but if you want to know how to get a guy to kiss you, there are some sneaky tips you can make use of. [Read: Kissing chemistry 101 – How to kiss someone for the first time]

Should you just go for it instead?

Why do we need to wait for a guy to initiate the first kiss? You can do it too, you know!

But, it’s true that many people err on the side of tradition and feel worried that if they go in to kiss a guy before he’s attempted it himself, they’ll be seen as too keen or even easy. It’s all wrong, but it’s something that’s still ingrained in modern-day brains, unfortunately. [Read: 18 things you do that makes guys think you’re an easy lay]

But, if you want to cut out the waiting, you can go for it yourself. If you’re sure he’s into you and you’re pretty convinced that he’s just nervous, make it easier on the poor guy!

Use this guide on how to kiss a guy for the first time, turn him on, and drive him crazy with desire.

How to get a guy to kiss you

Getting a guy to kiss you on a date can be tricky. If you hold the thought and wait for him to kiss you first, there’s a good chance that you may lose the opportunity once and for all, but how long do you want to wait?

While it doesn’t have to be on the first date, if you’ve been waiting for more than two dates, you’ll probably be getting a little anxious about what’s really going on.

Use these tips on how to get a guy to kiss you, and you’ll be able to get the message across in just the right way. You certainly won’t seem desperate or too easy to get. [Read: 23 signs he desperately wants to kiss you and how to tell when he’s going to do it]

1. Read his body language

The first thing you need to do before you try and get him to kiss you is to read his body language.

Does it look like he wants to kiss you but he’s holding back? You’ll be able to tell because he’ll seem nervous. Is he fidgeting, biting his lip, is he shallow breathing, or simply looking generally like he’s unsure?

If he’s doing these things, it’s likely that he’s having an internal battle in his own brain. He wants to kiss you but he’s scared you’ll push him away or laugh.

By understanding what he’s thinking, you can figure out your next move. [Read: 21 signs he wants you bad and is irresistibly attracted to you]

2. Show him that you want him to kiss you

If you can somehow reassure him, albeit psychically, that you want him to kiss you, then you’ll probably ease his nerves.

Of course, you could just come out and tell him, “are you going to kiss me, or what?”, or you could use your own body language moves.

3. Move in closer

When you’re standing next to the guy after the date, don’t just stand an arm’s length away. Try to find any excuse to get into his personal space.

Pretend like you slipped your foothold and take a step closer. If you’re sitting down, move closer to him in an obvious manner and say something like “it’s pretty chilly, isn’t it?”

By moving in closer, you’re discreetly letting him know that you don’t mind the little space in between both of you. And that’s a great way to warm him up and let him know you’re ready for some puckering! [Read: How to show a guy you like him and still be a tease]

4. Make your lips a feature

Draw attention to your lips and you’ll let him know that you want him to kiss you. Learning how to get a guy to kiss you really is about giving him the cues that it’s what you want.

Some guys are gentlemen and we shouldn’t complain about it. They want to be totally sure that you want a kiss before they even attempt it. Bless them!

So, bite your lip, lick your lips, pucker your lips if you have to! Basically, make it clear that your lips are feeling like they need some company. [Read: Lip biting – The scientific explanation as to why it’s oh-so-sexy]

5. Initiate eye contact

When you’re sitting next to each other, stare into his eyes deeply as he talks about something.

Ending the date is always an awkward thing, for men and for women, especially with so much uncertainty in the air. Every time he says something, listen to him and stare into his eyes without bobbing your head up and down.

Don’t move around a lot, and just give him the time to look back into your eyes and build a connection. [Read: How to make a guy horny and hard just by casually sitting next to him]

6. Look at his lips

It’s not only about drawing attention to his lips, it’s about showing him that you want to kiss his lips too!

As both of you speak to each other with your eyes locked, look down at his lips for a second or two and look back into his eyes again.

He’ll instinctively understand that you’re ready for a kiss. He may even make a move sooner than you think. [Read: The triangular eye contact and how to flirt with a guy very subtly]

7. Touch his hand

There’s nothing like some sizzling flirty touches and sexual chemistry to work this shy guy up. He’ll know you want to kiss him and that will give him confidence. As we’ve already established, most guys feel pretty scared to kiss a girl without knowing for sure that she wants to kiss him back.

When you’re sitting really close to each other, move your fingers closer to his, almost to the point where his fingers are touching yours. There’s a good chance that he’ll place his palm over yours, but even if he doesn’t do that, you can touch his palm in the middle of a conversation while trying to emphasize something like “I’m having such a wonderful time with you.”

If he has anything more than sawdust in his head, he’ll know that you really like him and are interested in kissing him. There’s nothing like a chemistry-inducing touch to warm a guy up for a kiss. [Read: What turns guys on? 34 sexual turn ons that arouse men in seconds]

8. Whisper sweet nothings in his ear

If you’re standing next to each other, and find it hard to try any of the earlier moves, here’s a tingle-inducing move. This will make him kiss you within seconds after you try it.

As you stand beside him and have your shoulders almost touching each other, move closer to him and take your lips close to his ears.

When you get near his ears, place one hand on his cheek or near his ear and say something like “thanks for a wonderful date” in a very soft and happy voice. If he doesn’t have the hair on the back of his neck standing upright, we’d definitely be surprised. But if he doesn’t get the complete hint and ends up just blushing, use the next move. [Read: How to be a seductress]

9. Kiss his cheek for no reason

When you’re sitting or standing next to each other, and there’s no one else around to make the moment feel awkward, lean into him.

Either whisper something, or for no reason at all go even closer to him and softly kiss his cheek. Don’t rush this or it’ll seem like a joke!

Give him a sweet little kiss on the cheek and let the moment linger for a few seconds. It’ll immediately create enough sexual tension to force him to turn toward you and kiss your lips within seconds. There’s no way you can ever go wrong here! [Read: 33 sexy ways to seduce a guy who’s not yet yours and hook him hard]

10. Kiss him goodbye and linger

If you want to know how to get a guy to kiss you, there can’t be any better way than to use this move as you say goodbye. If the guy you’ve just dated isn’t manning up or trying to initiate a kiss even when it’s almost time to say goodbye, it’s time to try this perfect move.

As he comes closer to give you a hug and kiss your cheek goodbye, turn your face towards him ever so slightly so that the corners of both your lips almost touch each other. It’s even better if you can get his lips to touch yours. Of course, it’ll never seem obvious at all!

He’ll realize that both your lips touched each other by “accident” and he may just smile at you awkwardly.

At this point, don’t move away from him. Just look into his eyes and stare like there’s something he still has to do. And before you know it, he’ll be embraced in a passionate lip-lock with you in no time! [Read: How to kiss someone accidentally and get away with it]

11. Failing that, just ask him to kiss you!

We mentioned this at the start but if you’re not having any joy, you can just ask him!

In a joking yet obviously serious way *it’s easier said than done*, smile coyly and say “you can kiss me if you want.” Then maintain the eye contact to show that you’re totally serious about your intentions. If he wants to kiss you, he’ll definitely do it right then!

[Read: How to make out with a guy like a sex goddess]

Can it get any easier than this? Now that you know how to get a guy to kiss you on a date, go on and work your magic with these never-failing tips.