How to Tell a Girl is Feeling Horny: 12 Subtle Signs She Can’t Hide

Wondering how to tell if a girl is horny? Well, it’s not easy just by looking, but there are some ways to find out if a girl is horny if you watch closely.

Ever heard of the popular saying that goes “When it comes to sex, men are like light switches while women are like car engines?” It implies that men are always reliably ready for sex at any time of the day while women need to get warmed up first to get things going. But, most men struggle to know how to tell if a girl is feeling horny. Why? Because they’re totally oblivious to the signs a girl is horny in the first place!

Contrary to the popular depiction of a sexually-aroused female, which entails ripped clothes and a ridiculous amount of dirty talk, the telltale signs of a horny girl are sometimes subtle. They’re often not readily recognizable to the rest of the observing world.

It’s not like she has a neon sign saying “I’m horny.” It’s something she feels and she’ll let you know if she wants you to be aware of it.

But, you can learn the signs and get a head’s up. [Read: Times when women are at their horniest, and what you can do about it]

The subtle but very clear signs a girl is feeling horny around you

Of course, we’re all aware of the physical signs of female horniness. We’re talking about getting wet down under and perky nipples even if she’s not cold.

But in a casual setting, you can’t just approach her, feel her undies and peek through her blouse to check! Doing that will earn you a slap across the face at best and trouble with the law at worst.

Instead, learn to detect her subtleties. There are signs she’s letting you know that she wants you to explore the bedsheets with her. Let’s check out a few ways you can learn that a girl is horny when she’s around you.

But, do remember that you need to tick off a few points all at once to be sure. It’s very easy to mistake just one sign for horniness when it’s something else entirely! [Read: 10 ways to build the sexual tension slowly with a girl]

1. She looks at you like a piece of well-done steak

Otherwise known as “eye sex” or “eye f*cking,” this type of flirting is her long-range strategy. It lets you know that she’s horny, or at least she’s willing to let you make a move on her.

You will notice that she will keep stealing seductive glances at you, wanting you to look back. And when you do, she’ll let herself get caught, blush, and she’ll then flash her “come hither” smile topped with the occasional lip bite.

When this happens, don’t be an idiot. Get up, approach, and talk to her. [Read: 13 lusty signs of sexual attraction when a girl likes you]

2. She’s a lot flirtier than usual

Okay, in this case, we assume that you’ve established at least a neutral type of relationship with her. You do the usual things that friends or acquaintances do, like hanging out and a little casual talk every now and then.

And then, for some reason, you notice that she’s flirtier and more teasing than her usual personality would otherwise show.

Your suspicions would be further confirmed if she singles you out from the rest of the males around her. Flirting is an obvious sign that she’s aroused and that she wants your undivided attention.

If that’s the case, you should reciprocate her flirting and go get into her game because you know, flirting could only escalate into something better. [Read: How girls flirt – 22 signs she’s flirting way more than just being nice]

3. She’s obviously touchy-feely

Another sign that a girl is horny is when her hands travel to places where they usually don’t. This doesn’t mean that she’ll grab your crotch immediately though.

Her touching could be subtle yet a ritualized invitation for you to do the same to her, and she’s telling you that she won’t mind.

She’ll stroke your arm while listening to you intently. Perhaps she’ll stroke the side of your face. It could be that she brushes an invisible piece of dust off your shirt. Basically, any type of touching that she doesn’t normally do is touchy flirting. Along with other hints, it’s one of the signs for how to tell if a girl is feeling horny.

She might also deliberately get her face or body close to you, hugging, wrapping her arms around your waist or arm, the usual foot rubbing against your legs, or at times, whispering way too close to your ear for comfort. [Read: 6 ways to accidentally kiss a friend and get away with it!]

4. Your conversations are kinkier than usual

If she’s asking way too personal questions or leaving suggestive remarks in the middle of your conversation, it could be a sign that she’s into you sexually. Verbal teasing is a dead giveaway that she’s horny.

Usually, women are notorious for using subtle and indirect signals, meaning that her needs are so urgent that she’s being direct.

She might do this by making sexual double entendres in the middle of an otherwise normal conversation. Perhaps she’ll mention her preferred sexual positions and past sexual encounters, or ask you about your own past sexual experiences.

These are intimate topics that girls wouldn’t normally open up about. The best way to respond is by keeping up with her naughty talk by staying one step behind, using only the right amount of sexual content to make her hornier. [Read: 20 dirty questions to casually ask a girl and leave her wet]

5. She tells you how good you look

In a normal situation, this behavior could be passed off as mere flirting, but if she’s sexualizing everything you do, then it’s another story.

In every man’s subconscious, being sexually complimented is a secret fantasy. Most guys want to be chased and hit on by lots of women. If she’s telling you that you look hot, while exhibiting the other signs here, that’s a pretty good sign she’s feeling horny.

She could do this by mentioning how well developed your arms, chest, or shoulders are, or by complimenting how your new pants fit those buttocks perfectly.

She might ask if you work out often so she can mention how she would want to sud you up and wash her thongs on your well-cut abs. See? It’s not just “oh you look nice today,” it’s a sexualized compliment that leaves nothing to the imagination! [Read: Decoding compliments – 50 cute words and their true meanings]

6. She appears a bit uneasy around you

Female arousal comes with various biological mechanisms. These include increased heart rate and heavier breathing, creating a certain degree of discomfort, and hence, the reason why she says that she feels “hot.”

So let’s say that you’re on a date and she constantly shifts about in her seat while keeping her gaze at you. She’s playing with her hair, or keeps going to the ladies’ room to freshen up. It could only mean that she’s into you and wants to get the best of your attention.

It’s also that she’s feeling hot under the collar and can’t sit still because of it. It’s definitely one of the ways for how to tell if a girl is feeling horny. [Read: How to get a girl horny and wet just by casually sitting next to her]

7. She flaunts her best assets to you

You’ve seen this before – the untying the hair clip, stooping down when talking to you to let you see her cleavage, wearing that V-neck with a push-up bra, yoga pants, or fixing herself up for you even in a casual meet-up. It could only mean that she’s locked into you.

If she wants to get you, she’ll present herself in her most attractive form in your presence. This means that every detail is carefully considered, from her dress down to her perfume.

So appreciate her effort and make a move. [Read: How to seduce a woman and make her want to get into bed with you]

8. She lets you touch her and she’s comfortable

This could be described as the dead giveaway prior to the point of no return. Girls, even the most flirty ones, are very sensitive to unwelcome touching.

So if she lets you touch her, then there is no need for further explanation because you know what comes next.

Be careful though, and start carefully. Don’t just slide your hand inside her blouse unless you want a deserved slap. Make it more romantic and ritualized in order to build sexual tension for the both of you.

Start with your hands around her waist, up to her arms, and caress her neck. Take note of the parts that she likes touched as she guides you further. If she seems uncomfortable, back away. Watch her reactions and act accordingly. [Read: How to turn a girl on with her touch and make her melt into you]

9. She moves in an obviously sexy way

She probably doesn’t walk with her hips swaying all the time. If she’s amplifying that hip sway and turning around to check that you’ve noticed, it can only mean one thing. The same can be said for dancing.

Most women wiggle a little when they’re dancing. But, if she pulls you close and grinds against you, it’s pretty likely that she’s feeling less calm and a little horny.

10. She voices changes

This one might sound odd. No, she’s not suddenly going to turn into Darth Vader when she talks, but you will notice a change. It’s likely that her voice will be lower, breathier, and she’ll just sound different.

Her breathing will be more shallow than it usually is, which is why her voice has that sexy, breathy edge to it. It’s something you’ll need to pay real attention to if you want to notice it, but it’s one of the big signs a girl is horny. [Read: How to touch a girl’s breasts and feel her up for the first time]

11. She’s distracted and perhaps agitated

She’s so horny that she can’t think straight. That’s a good sign, right?

She’ll show you this by appearing totally distracted and perhaps even a little agitated. She might fidget in her seat, bite her lip, take deep breaths regularly, and speak with that low voice we mentioned.

It’s very difficult to focus on anything else when you’re majorly turned-on. That’s where she’s at right now.

Of course, she could be annoyed about something and that’s why she seems distracted. That’s why, when learning how to tell if a girl is feeling horny, you need to look for more than one sign. You need to piece the jigsaw together and work out the full picture. Just one sign isn’t going to do it! [Read: She wants the D – 24 signs she wants you to take her home]

12. She comes right out and tells you

Of course, if she just says “I’m so horny,” or “you turn me on,” that’s all the hard work done for you. It’s a dream scenario because it means you don’t have to worry about reading the signs correctly.

If she tells you this, ask her if she wants to go home. You always have to ask, because let’s be honest, someone feeling horny and actually wanting to do something about it are two different things.

Always be clear about what she wants by asking her. Consent is important. She’ll feel comfortable with you because you asked and that will make the experience much more fulfilling for the both of you.

[Read: How to make out with a girl for the first time and make her love it]

Women, even in a state of arousal, would prefer their men to act up and take the lead. The reason why she gives off these signs like a trail of rainbows is to let you know that she’s horny and wants you. So what are you going to do about it?