21 Big Signs He Will Never Marry You & You’re Just His Maybe Girl

You’ve been in a relationship with him for years, yet marriage seems so out of reach. Keep reading if you want to know the signs he will never marry you.

There’s this saying that a guy will never be ready for the right moment for marriage. It’s either he sees you in his future or not – simple as that. So it’s essential to know the signs he will never marry you, so you can stop getting your hopes up. It’s not easy, especially when you love him.

But, if you notice that he’s not fully invested in the relationship like you are, then you need to re-evaluate what you’re doing. Men can hang around for years without feeling the need to seriously commit to you, which is fine, if that’s what you agreed upon.

But women tend to be more future-driven about love, so if you have a different future in mind than your partner, it stings to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to marry you. There’s no reason you should be wasting your time if this is the case.

[Read: Is he just using you? How to know if a guy is only pretending to care about you]

Why doesn’t he want to marry you?

This is such a heartbreaking question, and the fact that you want to know the answer makes it even more heartbreaking. First things first, it’s not your fault he doesn’t want to marry you.

Men generally shy away from commitment and especially something as serious as marriage. Blame it on immaturity or their “evolutionary” need to sow their oats for that. [Read: What age does a man really mature? 19 signs he’s grown a real pair]

Once you marry someone, that’s a lifetime commitment with them and only them. For women, it’s a beautiful thought. For men, it’s a scary thought. Most often, the reasons he doesn’t want to marry you have to do with his internal issues.

He could’ve come from a broken family and doesn’t want to repeat the same pattern. Or maybe, he just doesn’t believe in marriage and commitment. But no matter his reasons for not wanting to marry you, it’s not your job to change his mind.

It sucks that you wasted your time on a guy that doesn’t want to marry you, but you can’t change him, either. This is why as early as now, you need to spot the signs he will never marry you before it’s too late. [Read: 27 signs he wants to marry and spend his life with you]

21 signs he will never marry you and is just stringing you along

Sometimes it’s hard to see the signs he will never marry you. Some of these signs are obvious, and some are a bit less so.

But if you keep nodding “yes” to yourself as you read this, don’t worry. Someone does want to spend the rest of their life with you, it’s just not him.

1. All his exes are “crazy”

He’s had a couple of serious relationships in his past, which is a good sign for most women. But when you ask him why they all ended, he claims that they were all crazy. All three of them were apparently completely nuts. This is always a red flag on anyone, regardless of gender.

If he claims that all his exes are crazy, it’s not his exes that are in the wrong – it’s him. Maybe, in reality, they wanted something more serious, and he bailed out. We know how much you wanted to be different than his exes, but you’re not. [Read: 22 early warning signs of a really bad boyfriend]

2. You’re laying down some hard hints

Guys aren’t stupid, they know what the hints are. And if you’ve been baking him a cake every week that says “where’s the ring” written on it, well, he gets the hint.

You shouldn’t have to try as hard to get him to propose, you know? If you’re dropping hints and he’s ignoring every single one, this is one of the signs he will never marry you. If he did, he should’ve proposed a long time ago. [Read: How to get a guy to propose – The best hints to get that ring]

3. He keeps pushing the wedding further and further

Maybe he proposed, but when you talk about the wedding, he keeps delaying it. That’s one of the huge signs he will never marry you.

Maybe he proposed to you just to get you to shut up and get off his back. This sounds really harsh and brutal, but it’s true. Why would he deny the wedding further if he’s anticipating marrying you?

The fact that he did this just to shut you up says a lot about his character. In other words, you’re just wasting your time with someone who clearly doesn’t see a future with you.

4. He’s waiting for the “right time”

It’s not the right time. He and his mother had a fight last week and who knows how long that’ll take to get over. He’s just swamped with work. He’s waiting for that promotion. It’s just not the right time. If you had a penny for every time he said that, you’d probably be rich!

Okay, maybe not literally, but still. Again, there is never a right time for anything, and people who say this often use it as an excuse. If he wanted to marry you, he’d do it – simple as that. [Read: Right person, wrong time? How to learn to time things right in love]

5. You haven’t met his family

Does he have brothers or sisters? You wouldn’t know because he doesn’t talk about them nor have you met them. Not a good sign, really, not a good sign. Any guy who’s serious about a future with you will let you meet his family and actually hang out with them often.

If he’s actively avoiding you meeting his family, that’s one of the concrete signs he will never marry you. If he really liked *or loved* you, he would be showing you off to his family because he’s proud to have you by his side.

6. He acts very distant

You’ve noticed that he’s somewhat distant from you, almost as if he’s wanting to break up with you. Well, maybe you should get the hint and just do it for him. This guy is obviously immature and not willing to talk about his feelings with you.

Is this really a guy you want to marry and spend the rest of your life with? If he lacks the emotional maturity and intelligence to express his feelings and deal with conflict, that’s already a red flag. [Read: All the signs your boyfriend is no longer in love with you]

7. He downplays your relationship in public

Maybe he’ll hold your hand in public… maybe. When he introduces you, he says only your name and not your relationship with him. He doesn’t want people to know where you two stand because that would mean he’s off the market.

His intentions for you aren’t genuine and even if they were, he doesn’t see you in his life in the long run. If he downplays your relationship, this is one of the signs he will never marry you. [Read: How to make a relationship official without relying on social media]

8. There’s no you in his future

He doesn’t actually plan anything in advance with you. There are no summer holidays together or plans of moving in. Actually, there’s no you in his future. That must sting a lot and we’re sorry, but it’s true.

If he really cared about you, he wouldn’t be hesitating to plan trips with you a year in advance or buy a dog together. But the mere fact he’s hesitating means he already knows he doesn’t want a future with you. [Read: He’s not that into you – 20 signs it’s time to accept the truth]

9. He doesn’t care to meet your friends or family

He hasn’t met your friends or family and he’s not pushing to. Well, if you were interested in marrying someone, wouldn’t you want to know who their family and friends are?

Family is an integral part of being serious about someone long-term. So if he doesn’t care about meeting your friends or family, it just means he thinks that won’t be a problem since you won’t last that long.

10. He doesn’t focus on pleasing you in bed

He doesn’t actually care if you orgasm or not. What his main concern is, is that he orgasms. Now, if you orgasm, that happens to just be a bonus. Pretty selfish of him, right?

We know that sex is just sex, but it can define how a guy feels about you and his intentions for you when you’re in a relationship. If he’s that inconsiderate in the bedroom, guess what? He’s also bound to be that way outside the bedroom. [Read: 34 passionate signs he’s making love to you and not just having sex]

11. You can’t be seen on his social media

He has Facebook and Instagram, but you can’t be seen on any of his social media. That’s not a good sign. Actually, it’s one of the signs he will never marry you. If he was really into you, he wouldn’t be hiding you like you’re a troll. But okay, let’s give him the benefit of the doubt.

Even if he is not a social media person, he should be at least tagging you on special occasions like your anniversary, birthday, or Valentine’s Day! If not, then you already know where your stand in his life. He basically doesn’t want other people, mainly other women, to see that he’s taken. [Read: Backburner babe – 14 signs you’re just his backup lover]

12. He’s full of “I love you’s” right away

When you first met him, he threw the phrase, “I love you” out to you like it was nothing. He’s not serious. It’s easy to say I love you to someone, but it’s much harder when you actually mean it.

There’s a difference between saying things and actually meaning them. So if he just casually throws words around like nothing, it’s one of the signs he will never marry you. Even if he says he’ll marry you, why would you believe him? [Read: When should you say “I love you” for the first time?]

13. The discussion of marriage has him sweating

You can’t even bring up the topic of someone else’s marriage without him becoming anxious and short-tempered. If that’s his reaction, he’s not ready. More importantly, he’ll never be prepared.

Marriage isn’t something he likes thinking about, and the idea of spending the rest of his life with you has him sweating. So, end the topic of conversation. In fact, if you’re ready for marriage and know he isn’t, end this relationship as well. [Read: How to make a guy realize he’s losing you – 13 hints that really work]

14. He’s indecisive

He can’t even decide what color shoes to wear, so what makes you think he can decide whether or not he wants to marry you. Marriage isn’t a pair of shoes, it’s a serious commitment you’re making to someone.

An indecisive person often can’t decide anything, including crucial life-altering decisions like a marriage! If he’s incapable, better not to marry him anyway. [Read: 15 firm ways to deal with an indecisive partner]

15. You’re a “maybe”

When you ask him, it’s a maybe. To his mother, he says he’ll maybe marry you. Listen, if you’re his maybe, ditch him. Who wants to walk down the aisle knowing that you were his maybe?

You deserve a guy who’s a hundred percent sure about marrying you, no questions asked. So if he always answers maybe, it’s one of the biggest signs he will never marry you. [Read: 33signs and traits that make a guy a really great boyfriend]

16. It’s all excuses

When you bring up the topic of marriage, he already has twenty different answers available. Maybe he wants a better job, or he just got a new job and needs time to adjust. Maybe his friend is getting married now, so he wants to wait until that’s finished. The point is, there’s an excuse for everything with him.

It’s because it’s one of the signs he will never marry you. He has every excuse in the book memorized just in case you ever ask him again. He’s ready to use each excuse until you eventually get tired of asking. [Read: How to make a guy jealous – 30 really wicked ways to win his attention]

17. He’s told you

It doesn’t get any more evident than this. If he’s told you this way before and you refused to listen, well, that’s on you.

Even if women tend to see and love people for their potential, it’s not your job to change his mind or beliefs about marriage. If he already told you he doesn’t ever want to get married, leave it at that. Stop trying to make it something it clearly isn’t.

18. He deflects or avoids the topic of marriage

If he refuses to talk about the topic of marriage or avoids it every time you bring it out, it’s one of the signs he will never marry you. If a guy sees you in his future, he shouldn’t shy away from his topic.

If anything, he should anticipate talking about this with you because, well, it’s you! If he loves you and adores you with his entire being, marriage should be something he embraces rather than runs away from. [Read: 20 questions to ask each other before getting married]

19. He lives like he’s still single

Men generally take longer to mature than women. But if he’s living as if he’s not in a relationship with you and as if your relationship will never head into marriage, that’s because it won’t.

If he’s partying until he’s blackout drunk and constantly going out wherever and whenever *without you*, maybe that’s because he wants to pretend you don’t exist. He clearly doesn’t care about you enough to prioritize your relationship above other things.

20. You aren’t a priority

When a guy is serious about you, naturally, you should be one of his priorities. Especially when he plans to marry you, that’s an absolute must. But if he chooses the most absurd things above you, then you’re clearly not that important.

It just means you don’t matter enough to him to be prioritized, so you also won’t matter enough to be considered in marriage. If you’re not a priority, this is one of the clear signs he will never marry you. [Read: The right priority in your relationship – How to find & focus on it]

21. He says he’s not ready

The concept of being ready is often fictional. We never know when we’re ready – for anything. Whether it’s falling in love, finding a job, getting married, or having kids. We’ll never be prepared because all those things are scary milestones in a relationship.

But if he says he’s not ready, better believe him and don’t make it into something it isn’t. He’s not ready, and he probably will never be ready for marriage.

[Read: He’s not ready for a relationship right now – Should I wait or walk?]

So, what should you do if he doesn’t want to marry you?

You deserve a guy who sees you in his future and is sure about you. Stop trying to change his mind because that’s not your responsibility. Also, even if you do change his mind, if he’s that flaky in decisions, that’s not a man you can rely on marrying.

The best thing you can do at this point is to end the relationship to make room for someone better – someone who won’t have doubts about marrying you when the time comes.

[Read: Letting go of people: Why it’s so hard & the right way to do it]

Now that you know the signs he will never marry you, you’ll be able to take a step back and look into your relationship. If he shows most of these signs, it’s best to end your relationship for good. You deserve so much better than that.