How to Turn Someone On While Talking to Them and Make Sparks Fly

Everyone wants to know the secret for how to turn someone on, but not everyone knows the answer. Well, it’s time to find out what makes people tick.

We all want to know how to turn someone on. If you thought you were the only one asking how to turn someone on, well, you’re not alone!

But, turning someone on consists of more than physical attraction. Have you ever seen someone very attractive, but the minute they speak, you’re turned off? See, attraction is more than just physical appearance. I know that’s not what you want to hear. Of course, it would be so much easier to know all you had to do is wear Converse sneakers or talk about dogs to turn someone on. 

But the thing is, whether you like it or not, we’re emotional beings. Physical attraction can only do so much. Though physical attraction can work for short-term success, if you want to develop something long-term, you must figure out what turns people on emotionally. There’s no other way around it. If you want to turn someone on, they need an emotional response to your actions. We’re attracted to others who arouse us on a multitude of levels. If you really want to know how to turn someone on, you’ve come to the right place. 

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How to turn someone on: 11 powerful ways to spark the flame

Let’s get started in learning the nuances of how to turn someone on.

#1 Engage in conversation. What’s the biggest turn on? When someone is actually engaged in conversation. This doesn’t mean you’re talking to them while you’re texting at the same time. Being engaged in conversation means to have your phone away and your attention completely on this person. Giving someone your attention is a huge turn on. [Read: How to talk to your crush and turn them on to fall for you]

#2 Get flirty with the eyes. Most of the way we communicate with each other is done nonverbally. Have you ever looked at someone, and they knew what you wanted to say? That’s nonverbal communication. If you want know how to turn someone on, tease them with some flirtatious eye contact. Eye contact never fails. [Read: Subtle but powerful eye contact flirting moves that work like magic]

#3 Ask questions on what they find important. If someone is talking to you about a specific subject, it’s important to them. Why would they talk about basketball, for example, unless they enjoy the sport? If you want to turn them on, ask them questions about the topic they find important. This shows them you’re interested in them.

#4 Subtle touching. If you’re too touchy, you run the risk of being suffocating or appearing creepy. The best way to turn someone on without scaring them off is with subtle touching. Now, keep your hands away from their intimate areas. Instead, lightly touch their waist, lower back, or arms. This will be enough to give them butterflies. [Read: These methods will help you master the art of subtle sexiness]

#5 Intense eye contact. You’ve done the flirty eye contact, but now take it up a notch. If you want to let them know what’s on your mind, give them an intense and prolonged stare. I don’t need to tell you the look; you know what I’m talking about. Your eyes will tell them everything they should know… maybe a little bit more. 

#6 Give a little sexual touch. But do this only if you BOTH are comfortable touching each other. If this is your first date, don’t touch them at all. If you are vibing and already touching each other, tease them with a gentle smack on their butt or run your hands through their hair. It’ll send shivers up their spine. [Read: When a guy touches you – The different body parts and what they really mean]

#7 Point your toes towards them. When you’re talking to someone you’re interested in, point your toes towards them. Shockingly, our brains actually pay attention to people’s foot direction, using it to measure someone’s interest level. To make them feel appreciated, point your toes towards them while they talk. They’ll subconsciously notice. 

#8 Don’t be afraid to peacock. In other words, show off a bit. I mean, we’re animals at the end of the day. Just like peacocks, fan your feathers out and show them what you’re all about. Whether you’re a man or woman, don’t be afraid to show yourself off. [Read: What is peacocking and why do we subconsciously do it to impress someone?]

#9 The triple head nod. Who would have thought a head nod could turn someone on. But it’s true. In fact, research show that people will speak three to four times longer if the other person gives three slow head nods. So, when they finish talking, give three slow head nods. It shows them you want them to continue, and you end up having a deeper conversation. [Read: How to talk to anyone and master the art of a real conversationalist]

#10 Give genuine compliments. Let’s be honest; everyone love compliments. Now, don’t shower them with compliments, that’s not going to turn them on. Too many compliments will only make them suspicious of your motives. That’s not what you want. If you truly want to give them a compliment, then do it. It’ll come off as genuine, and they’ll appreciate that.

#11 Sexting. Ah yes, sexting. This isn’t about flirty eye contact or subtle touching. Sexting is all about words. If you want to get hot and heavy with someone, sext! Of course, they should give you the stamp of approval. But if they give you the green light, sexting is a great way to get the flame blazing. 

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Now that you know how to turn someone on in a casual conversation, what are you waiting for? It’s time you used these tips and spark the flame.