15 Signs He Doesn’t Care About the Relationship & Has Checked Out

You feel something isn’t right between you. He isn’t returning your texts and acting distant. These are some signs he doesn’t care about the relationship.

At the beginning of your relationship, things were going really well. Your boyfriend would text you during the day and call you to see how you’re doing. But things slowly changed. Maybe it didn’t happen all at once, but at some moment, you realized that things are off. They’re not the same as they used to be, and you’re experiencing some signs he doesn’t care about the relationship. 

You probably haven’t said anything just yet. Right now, you’re keeping your eyes open, and trying to see what’s going on without confronting the issue. And though that’s not a horrible move, it’s not making things easier for you. Don’t you want to know what’s going on?

You eventually need to confront your partner before you feel worse. Not knowing what’s going on in your relationship isn’t fair. He’s not the only one involved. So, you need to make the first step and voice your concerns. Hopefully, he tells you how he truly feels so you can decide your next move.

The issues could be simpler than you think, or they could be much more than what you think. The point is you need to figure out what’s going on. 

[Read: Why men pull away: 12 possible reasons why and what you should do next]

15 signs he doesn’t care about the relationship 

So, if you want to put the pieces of the puzzle together before you talk to him, then do it. Take a look at these signs and see if he cares about the relationship or not. It’s better to see the signs he doesn’t care about the relationship now.

#1 You feel something is off. This is an important must in the signs he doesn’t care about the relationship! We all have intuition, and I’m a big advocate of listening to your gut instinct. Most of us ignore our gut instinct because it usually goes against what we want.

But listen, you know if something is off; you feel it. If you think something is wrong in your relationship, then the odds are something is wrong. Don’t doubt your feelings; they’re usually right. [Read: How to follow your gut instinct with these tried and true methods]

#2 It’s all your fault. When you talk to him about your feelings or the relationship, he seems to flip the conversation, putting the blame on you. Now, this isn’t to say you’re an angel in the relationship; everyone plays a role.

But, you’re not to blame for everything. If he’s avoiding taking responsibility for his actions, then he doesn’t care about you or the relationship.

#3 He doesn’t consider your feelings. Whether it’s deciding where to eat or what movie you will watch, he makes all the decisions. It’s not that you don’t have an opinion, you do, and you share it, but he simply ignores what you suggest.

If you’re okay with him calling the shots, then it’s fine. But if he’s making decisions without asking how you feel about it, then that’s not a good sign. [Read: What to do when you’re feeling uncertain about your relationship]

#4 He dismisses your feelings. Maybe you tried to bring up this conversation before, and if he cared, he would have respectfully listened to you and engaged in a conversation about how you’re feeling.

But, he’s not. Instead, he sighs or walks away from you, uninterested in even touching the subject. Now, that’s not a good sign of a man who cares about the relationship.

#5 He doesn’t try to get to know you. When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal for couples to have deep conversations to get to know each other. But your boyfriend doesn’t ask anything about you. He’s not curious to know what you’re interested in or what you’re doing in life. Well, you know that’s suspicious, right? If he’s not trying to get to know you, then what is your relationship? [Read: 30 deep questions to ask someone before you get in too far]

#6 You two don’t do “coupley” things. It’s normal for couples to go to the movies, eat out at restaurants, or even grab a coffee together. But you don’t really do anything. He may come over to hang out and watch Netflix, and vice versa, but other than that, you don’t go on any dates. If he’s not interested in going out with you, that’s weird. Why wouldn’t he want to go on dates? [Read: Why you should never make someone a priority when you’re only an option to them]

#7 You’re emotionally drained in this relationship. We all have rough patches in our relationships where we’re emotionally exhausted, but this shouldn’t be a continuous feeling. When you’re next to him, you shouldn’t be feeling this constant heaviness and anxiety about the relationship. If you feel this, then it’s a good sign this relationship isn’t for you.

#8 He’s not present when you talk. Okay, naturally, there are some conversations we all zone out in, but to a limit. If he’s always texting while you’re talking or not engaging in the conversation, then, what’s the point?

Honestly, what is the point of being in a relationship? You might as well hold a mirror in front of your face and talk to yourself. [Read: The real signs your relationship is over or on the verge of ending]

#9 You make all the moves. Whether it’s hanging out or going to the movies, you seem to be making all the plans. If you don’t call, he’s never the one to make the first move. What? Is this even happening? If this is a normal part of your relationship, you need to know this is not normal. A relationship is a two-way street, and he isn’t meeting you halfway.

#10 He doesn’t help you out. I’m not talking about financial help as one of the signs he doesn’t care about the relationship. Maybe you need help carrying the groceries inside the house or you missed your bus and need a ride to work.

These are small favors that anyone would do for someone they cared about. But, he always seems to be unable to help you out when you need it the most. This is a strong sign he doesn’t care. [Read: 33 traits of a good boyfriend you should always look for]

#11 He’s actively pursuing other women. Come on! You know this isn’t a good sign. If he’s swiping through Tinder or texting with other women, he doesn’t care about your relationship.

Now, unless you have openly talked about having an open relationship, there’s no reason why he should be actively pursuing other women. Come on, it’s time you talked to him. [Read: How to know if someone is on Tinder and dating you at the same time]

#12 You haven’t met any of his close friends and family. When it comes to his personal life, you don’t really know much about him. He doesn’t introduce you to any of his friends or family. Now, I can understand not meeting his family yet, but his friends? Come on.

If he’s keeping you completely separate from his personal life, that’s because he doesn’t want you in it. 

#13 He only wants sex. Now, sex isn’t the most important part of a relationship, but it is a crucial component. When a guy isn’t interested in the relationship anymore, he will either do one of two things: continue having sex with you or stop completely. He will distance himself emotionally, but try to shift the relationship into a sex-only one. [Read: The signs he just wants sex and is only using you for his enjoyment]

#14 Or… he’s avoiding sex. This is also another option. Since he no longer cares about the relationship, he stops having sex with you. Once a guy stops having sex with you, he’s out. It’s now only a matter of time before he says something to you.

#15 There’s no talk of the future. When it comes to the future, the only plans you have is twenty minutes from now. Other than that, there is no conversation between you about the future. And you know why? Because he doesn’t want a future with you. Yes, it stings. But, the truth hurts.

[Read: Don’t ignore these sure signs he wants you to leave him alone]

After looking at the signs he doesn’t care about the relationship, what are your thoughts? Put the pieces of the puzzle together and decide for yourself.