How to Read the Signs He Is Pursuing You When You See No Pattern

We expect men to pursue us the way we see in movies. But life isn’t a Hollywood chick flick. Here are the clearest signs he is pursuing you.

Don’t get me started on Hollywood movies. I blame them for my early twenties! I thought if I left a room dramatically, the man would slow-mo chase me down the street, falling to his knees while calling out my name. Obviously, that never happened, at least not to that extent. But there are clear signs he is pursuing you.

13 clearest signs he is pursuing you even if you’re not too sure

Now, I don’t want to give you mixed signals. This doesn’t mean if a man shows you minimal interest, he’s pursuing you. If a man chases you down, telling you he’s in love with you and wants to be with you, most likely, he means it. But the majority of men will take a calmer approach, while still showing their interest.

If you feel he’s giving you mixed signals, this is something else. You’ll know when a man is interested in you. I realize that’s a vague statement, but you will see and feel it when someone has feelings for you.

[Read: Mixed signals from a guy? The guide to interpret his intentions]

Mixed signals show an internal confusion the man is dealing with. If you see a lack of action behind his words, then this isn’t the guy for you. But we’re not going to focus on mixed signals today. Instead, we’ll talk about the certain signals that he’s pursuing you.

You’re looking for the signs he’s pursuing you, but are you really seeing?

#1 He contacts you. If a guy is interested in you, he’ll contact you. He won’t wait days or weeks for you to make a move. He’ll send you texts or call you to chat and ask you out. If he wasn’t interested, you would wait for the rest of your life for a text that will never come. If the guy likes you, he isn’t going to wait for someone else to slide in and take his spot. [Read: How to decode the text from a guy and tell if he is into you]

#2 He’s consistent. It’s really all about consistency when you’re looking for the signs a guy is pursuing you. If he texts you when he says he’s going to text you and meets you when he says he will, this is a sign he’s interested in you. A man who isn’t interested in you or sees you as casual will only contact you when it’s convenient for them.

#3 You feel yourself around him. When you’re spending time with him, you don’t feel like you need to be on your best behavior. You can crack jokes, tease each other, and talk about your passions and hobbies without feeling judged. Feeling comfortable around him is a sign you are connecting. [Read: Science backed clues that will tell you if he likes you]

#4 He makes plans for the two of you. When he texts or calls you, he usually has a reason why. Of course, he may text you just to keep the connection going, but most of the time, the conversation will end with him inviting you out to a movie, dinner, or coffee.

#5 He opens up to you. Men won’t open up with just anyone they meet. Though it may take a couple of dates to develop the trust and bond between you, his vulnerability is a huge sign he’s interested in you. [Read: 16 signs a guy likes you but is scared and unsure what to do]

#6 He wants to meet your friends and family. If a guy isn’t interested in you or sees you only as someone casual, there’s no way he’ll meet your friends and family. Why would he? But if you’re looking for signs he is pursuing you, see if he wants to get to know the people who raised you and the friends you spend your time with.

#7 He actively listens. This isn’t something people are good at. Yes, we hear others when they talk, but we’re not actually listening. Instead, most of us are thinking of a good reply or other random thoughts. But he genuinely listens to you and engages in genuine eye contact.

#8 Your needs matter to him. If you want to be in a healthy and happy relationship, you both need to care about each other’s needs. When you express your need, he doesn’t just ignore you and continue with what he wants to do. He listens, you talk about it, and come up with a solution. [Read: How to fix a one-sided relationship before it ends in failure]

#9 You meet his friends/family. If a guy introduces you to his friends and family, this is a huge step forward. He’s showing you to the people he loves and trusts the most. He wants to not only let his friends and family see the person he’s interested in but also show you his life.

#10 He talks about the future. No, I don’t mean the wedding. But he’ll talk about what you should do next week or a restaurant he wants to take you to. If a guy isn’t interested in you, the last thing he’s going to do is talk about spending any time with you in the future.

#11 He does small kind acts for you. It’s really about the small details of your interactions. He surprises you with take-out after knowing you had a long day at work. Or, he offers to help you when it’s out of his way. He’s doing these things because he cares and likes you. He wouldn’t go out of his way if he didn’t feel this way.

#12 You feel it. We’re humans, not robots. You know when someone has feelings for you. After reading these signs he is pursuing you, hopefully, it’s more clear for you. If you feel there is chemistry and an emotional bond between you two, you’re probably right. If you’re not sure, then clarify with him what’s going on. [Read: The signs he’s fighting his feelings for you and holding himself back]

#13 He tells you. If he tells you he’s interested in you and wants a relationship, well, then he’s probably telling the truth. Take his words for what they are and watch his actions. If his actions match what he’s saying to you, then he’s being honest.

[Read: The subtle signs a guy likes you but is trying not to show it]

If you weren’t sure about the signs he is pursuing you, hopefully, these tips helped you solve the big mystery. It’s about time you knew what was going on!