Muy Caliente: Kinky Things to Try in a Relationship to Add Heat

You want to add a little spice in the bedroom, but you’re not sure how. Why not go kinky? Learn some kinky things to try in a relationship to add heat.

Even the strongest relationships go through dry spells. It’s normal and something everyone will experience. But at some point, you should push past the relationship dry spell and bring back the intimacy. And when that point comes, maybe you’ll want to use some new kinky things to try in a relationship and add a little umpf to the bedroom… if ya know what I mean.

You don’t want to end the dry spell with the same old sex routine. Bring new inspiration underneath the sheets. Because whatever you two were doing before, though it worked, needs a break.

15 kinky things to try in a relationship

I know what you’re thinking, no one said relationships were this much work. Well, welcome to the real world. Even couples with amazing chemistry need to come up with new ways to keep the sparks alive.

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You’re going to be given some kinky activities to use in the bedroom, but make sure, before you try any of these, you talk to your partner first. The last thing your partner needs is a surprise for some butt stuff. You want your partner to consent and try new kinky things with a clear and conscious mind. Maybe sit down with your partner and look through this list together and decide what you want to try out first.

A little kinkiness never hurt anybody. [Read: Top 50 kinky ideas that are worth trying in your lifetime]

#1 Introduce sex toys into the bedroom. If you haven’t used toys together before, why not give it a try. You don’t necessarily need to become BDSM masters to be kinky. Just incorporating a new toy into the bedroom is kinky enough. Choose a toy together and give it a try.

#2 Watch a little porn together. Usually, people watch porn by themselves, but watching porn with your partner is also pretty hot. Just listening to the moaning will arouse you. Plus, it’s a great way to discover each other’s desires and learn some new moves. [Read: Porn for couples? It just might save your relationship]

#3 Explore each other’s fantasies. If you want to get kinky, ask your partner what their fantasies are and vice versa. Maybe they want to role-play or have fantasized about anal sex. You should compromise and see what fantasies you both want to try out.

#4 Role playing. It can be a sexy doctor, nurse, or French maid. Basically, whatever turns you both on. Role playing is a great way to get into another character and let go by being someone else. Of course, the first time is a little awkward, but you’ll get over it. [Read: Naughty sex games to make couples feel horny again]

#5 Try out some light BDSM. If you’re thinking about Fifty Shades of Grey, you know there’s one submissive and one dominant partner. You don’t need to go full out and have your own BDSM room, but you can try out light BDSM activities like restraints, blindfolds, and spanking. Just make sure you talk about it beforehand and have a safe word!

#6 Use dirty talk. Oh man, it’s getting hot in here! Dirty talk is a huge turn on for many people, but some are a little shy to give it a try. All you do is whisper what you want your partner to do/what you want to do to your partner into their ear. It’ll take some practice to understand what turns your partner on and vice versa, but it’s hot. [Read: How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one can]

#7 Mutual masturbation. Kinky doesn’t mean you need to touch each other. Usually, people get aroused by the thought of not being allowed to touch their partner. Sit in front of your partner and masturbate. The catch is, they’re not allowed to touch you. This is not only kinky; it’s hard. [Read: Mutual masturbation – intimate ways to connect without touching]

#8 Mirror sex, anyone? Mirror sex is underrated. People think, oh, it’s just a mirror, it’s not a big deal. But have you had mirror sex? Watching your partner handle you is very arousing and can make for some very steamy foreplay.

#9 Butt play. If you haven’t tried any anal play, then maybe this is the right time. If it’s your first time, make sure you use a lot of lubricant, so that it’ll be a more pleasurable experience. You don’t need to have anal sex; it could just be anal play with toys or your partner’s fingers.

#10 Maybe some public sex? If you’re willing to take a little risk, public sex is exhilarating. All you need to do is pick the right place for you to get down and dirty. It could be a club, a library, or a movie theater. Whatever you choose will be hot. [Read: The best places to have sex that extend way beyond the bedroom]

#11 Orgasm denial. This one is challenging if you’ve never done it before, but well worth it. Test each other by seeing how close you can both get to an orgasm before stopping completely. You can do it over and over again until you can’t take it any longer. Once you release yourself, you’ll have a seriously intense orgasm.

#12 Make a homemade movie. Just make sure you don’t live stream it on Facebook for your mom to see! But why not make a little homemade video for you and your partner to enjoy? There’s nothing hotter then watching your partner on camera have sex with you. It’ll be your own naughty movie collection.

#13 Don’t close the blinds. Not everyone is comfortable with public sex, but this isn’t really public sex if it’s in your own home. Instead of closing all the blinds, why don’t you leave them open? It’s a little naughty, but not entirely public sex. Just make sure your neighbors won’t call the police on you!

#14 Have an all-day nude fest. Who needs clothes, anyway? Being naked is sexy, and you don’t only need to strip down before a shower or sex. Instead, have an all-day nude fest, where you and your partner hang out at home while naked. Being nude means there will be a lot of sex. [Read: 20 things that are best done naked at home]

#15 Try out a threesome. Now, this isn’t for everyone, and certainly, it’s something you should talk about beforehand. Don’t have a threesome to save your relationship. It’ll be a disaster. But if you want to spice things up, an additional person will definitely make things spicy.

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Now you know some kinky things to try in a relationship. The next step is to talk to your partner and see which ones you want to try out together.