37 Best Blowjob Techniques, Positions & Tips to Leave a Guy Gasping for More

The most powerful feeling is when you make your guy’s toes curl with pleasure as you lick him to orgasm. The good news is you can learn the best blowjob techniques to give him that sensation. 

In a time when both men and women are becoming more and more open about their sexuality, sexual positions, and oral sex techniques mastering the best oral sex techniques is pretty important!

Being a great fellatio giver is just a matter of practice. However, there are still so many ways to give a blow job, and in your own journey towards blowjob excellence, you may have even come up with some of your own techniques for giving a good blowjob experience.

To help you out, we’re going to give you a few but the best blowjob tips and techniques to take you from out of practice to super-confident in no time! [Read: How to give good head – The biggest guide and 50+ blowjob secret tips]

Why do guys love a good blow job so much?

Basically, they feel good. Isn’t that reason enough?

Oral in any guise is just different from regular sex and that means it adds extra pleasure to the whole experience. It’s also pretty intimate and the whole image of having someone go down on you is the stuff of pornographic dreams.

We can’t generalize and say every guy loves a blow job, but come on, have you met one who doesn’t yet?

It’s almost expected that within a couple’s sex life, blowjobs will become a pretty strong part of it. Now, that doesn’t mean you should do it if you don’t want to. But if you’re happy to, it pays to be informed.

Knowing a few different great blow job techniques if you want to give your man a mind-blowing orgasm will help you to keep things fresh in the bedroom and stop your man from getting bored – as if he ever could! [Read: Why are men so obsessed with their penis size?]

The best BJ techniques to be a tease with your hands and mouth

Before we take things a step further and give you some seriously impressive blowjob techniques to try, you need the basic tips to get started.

1. If you don’t want to do it, just don’t do it

If you genuinely don’t like giving blow jobs then don’t give them and try something else. There isn’t a requirement that you have to, it’s just an act that’s generally a part of sex. But if you choose not to do it, it doesn’t make the sexual experience any less than what it is.

If you don’t truly enjoy giving them, your partner is going to feel and see it. So, it’s better not to do it at all. [Read: The top *totally acceptable* reasons why a girl would refuse to blow a guy]

2. Keep your teeth out of it

While some, and by that we mean very few, men like a slight graze with the teeth, it’s generally a better idea to keep your teeth far away from his member. The penis is very sensitive, and a slight nip could have him writhing in pain. We want him writhing in pleasure, certainly not agony.

3. Pornstar wannabe

Sometimes you just need to show enthusiasm to make things work better. A blowjob from someone who looks like they’re planning their shopping list in their mind isn’t sexy. So, moan, groan, use your hands, really get into it.

You’ll quickly see the effect you’re having on him simply by really getting into it. [Read: 25 common porn myths that people still believe]

4. Get sloppy

Yes, you read right. You don’t need to have manners when giving an actual blowjob. What you do need though is a decent amount of saliva as lube. So, rule number one: the wetter, the better.

If you’re naturally low on salvia, try drinking orange juice or anything acidic prior. It helps you salivate due to the low pH level. Don’t be afraid to give a sloppy blow job and get messy – he’ll think it’s super hot. [Read: Messy, sexy, and dirty things to do in bed!]

5. Develop a solid rhythm

You could say that giving good blow jobs is like dancing, you need to have a steady beat and rhythm. Now, the rhythm you develop needs to sync up with your hand and mouth at the same time.

We know this sounds difficult, but once you do it, it makes complete sense.

A solid rhythm will allow you to have control and increase or decrease speed whenever you want, and in turn, help you give him the best blow job. But, this is the basic rule – later in our list of blowjob techniques, we’re going to tell you how to mix things up!

6. Do some foreplay before

People just love to skip foreplay which makes no sense to us. Have you ever tried driving a car when the engine is cold? Exactly. It doesn’t go so well.

Warm up the chemistry between you and create the scene. Men love foreplay, they really do.

So, don’t just go straight to his member, instead, kiss him, and tease him by touching his body with your hands, legs, and lips. Rub his groin area with your hands a bit and get him aroused. [Read: The best foreplay moves that work exceptionally well on men]

7. Use your tongue first

Before you engulf his penis in your mouth *sorry for the visual* you want to use your tongue to lick his frenulum. The frenulum is the underside of the tip of the penis, and it’s the most sensitive spot. From there, try moving your tongue up and down his shaft.

Once you get into it, then you can use completely take him into your mouth.

8. Mix up your movements

We know this may sound confusing, but you need to mix up the movements of your mouth and hands. You can squeeze it a little harder, increase or decrease speed – going up and down isn’t going to cut it.

Use your tongue during the blowjob to touch the head of the penis or swirl it around the tip. You can also give some attention to the testicles as they’re often left out of the fun. [Read: What is tea bagging? The sexy guide to eat his balls and make him cum]

9. Don’t forget your hands

At some point, you’re going to get tired, which is completely natural. But this doesn’t mean you have to completely stop what you’re doing. Remember, you have two hands, so don’t be afraid to use them.

You can use your hands to grab the shaft and gently rub it, just as you would with a hand job. Or you can use your hands at the same time while giving him head.

Or you can also use your fingers to rub his perineum while blowing him. Also called taint, this area contains a lot of nerve endings and is therefore highly sensitive. [Read: The sexiest, slutty moves to give the best hand job ever]

10. Eye contact

Men love making eye contact while receiving a blowjob. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to keep your eyes locked on him the entire time. But every now and then, look at him for no more than five seconds at a time while you pleasure his penis with your mouth.

He’ll lose his mind.

11. Don’t be silent

This is both for you and him – being completely silent during sex, in general, is kinda weird. Why not show that you’re enjoying it?

You don’t have to scream and yell, but moaning shows that you’re having a good time which will arouse him even more.

Plus, the humming and moaning will offer extra stimulation through the vibration in the throat. Don’t let it be dead silent while you give oral sex by making sure that you both feel amazing. [Read: How to turn a guy on with these sensual moves]

12. Only try deepthroating if you’re comfortable

Every guy likes a little deep throat. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to do it, some women don’t like the gagging sensation, and we don’t blame them.

But if you don’t mind it, deep throating can really amp up the stimulation for your man. You will need to practice this a couple times to get it right. [Read: How to deep throat like a porn star]

13. Listen to his suggestions

Now during the blowjob, he’s not going to stop you and explain what he likes and dislikes, but he will move his body in a certain position or hold his penis, etc. The point is, he’ll make subtle hints as to what he’s into and what he’s not into.

Your job is to try to pay attention to those hints.

14. Don’t get offended if it’s not working

You may think that you really know what guys like, but be honest with yourself, you don’t know. You don’t have a dick, so if he’s not enjoying how you’re blowing him, don’t get offended.

Take it as a learning experience and a chance for you to develop some new skills—enjoyable skills.

Many girls are offended when the guy isn’t looking like he’s having a good time, but it’s not you! Okay, physically, it’s you, but it’s just that you don’t have a dick, so you really don’t know.

So, the first step is acceptance. [Read: The small steps to get back your body confidence in the bedroom]

15. Timing is everything

You can give a blow job in three minutes, sure, and the guy will probably love the experience. However, you shouldn’t just be blowing the guy because it’s something you should do. No. You give him a blow job because you enjoy it – you enjoy having his dick in your mouth, and you want to pleasure him.

So, try making the experience like a movie – slow in the beginning, build up the tension, and then BAM! Climax. Now, that, is a blow job.

If they wanted something fast, they would have ordered a Big Mac at McDonalds. [Read: Sexual exploration – Ever heard of the finger blow job?]

16. Practice makes perfect

Being a blow job queen doesn’t come overnight—no pun intended. It takes a lot of sweat and arm strengthening. So, you need to practice and get advice and suggestions from the guy you’re blowing.

Don’t feel embarrassed, it’s in his best interest that you master the techniques like the blow job giver. So, practice, take notes, and within no time you’ll get the technique down to an art.

17. Find your own style

Every girl has their own BJ style. Some girls use a lot of tongue, others have a specific rhythm they follow. Find a style that suits you because you’re the one that will be giving the BJ, not him.

Once you find a groove that suits you, just practice on making it better. [Read: 18 sexy ways to be incredibly good in bed and leave anyone wanting more]

18. Initiate

Do you enjoy asking your guy to go down on you, or would you rather he did it spontaneously? Probably the latter. Who wants to ask for a blow job all the time?

So, be the one to initiate it – it’s not like he’s going to say no. Trust us, he won’t say no.

19. Use everything you’ve got

Okay, you’ll be needing your mouth, but don’t forget the other beautiful parts of your body. Use your chest, hands, feet – use it all.

Go wild. A blow job, of course, will need your mouth. But you don’t have to limit it to just that one body part to give the best blowjob ever.

The best blowjob positions and oral sex techniques to suck and deepthroat a man to orgasm

Now you know the basics, it’s time to talk blowjob techniques and positions!

You might have performed some of these before, or you might never have heard of them. Either way, it’s fun to practice and explore!

One thing’s for sure, your guy won’t be complaining! [Read: Being sex positive – Why this matters and why you need to get on board]

1. The hand blowjob

This blowjob technique is actually a hand job disguised as a blowjob. Whether you’re inexperienced or just don’t like to give him head, this is what you do.

Until you have discovered that you can mostly use your hands but still make it appear like you’re putting an erect penis into your mouth, you’ve still got a lot to learn!

This is also a great way to give your mouth a break until you’re ready to move to another blowjob position. [Read: Quick hand job – For when you’re short on time and horny as ever]

2. The rough blowjob

This blowjob technique is very primal. You may have mastered it because you like it rough too, or you’re in a hurry to get someone off in public. It involves very fast sucking, sharp head bobbing, and plenty of hand and finger stimulation.

This is actually less on quality but more on forcing a quick orgasm— something you’d prefer to do if you don’t know the person very well. [Read: 15 dirty ways to have the sexiest rough sex ever]

3. The standard of all blowjob techniques

The standard blowjob is slower, and you’re in a much more comfortable environment. You may actually want to pleasure your man, so you take more than five minutes on his dick. You’re also actually more enthusiastic, but not going crazy *and by this, we mean crazy good* on him.

4. The gourmet

From the term itself, this blowjob technique requires some edibles. You either use some whipped cream, honey, chocolate syrup, or any food item that will make his dick taste better. If you want to spice things up a bit, this is the technique you’d want to whip out.

You’ll love licking yummy food off your man, and he’ll love seeing your delight as you service him. [Read: Sexual bucket list – 17 fun sex ideas you have to try]

5. The handicap

This is a position that women with exceptional experience often do, especially if they want to show off. This involves using only your mouth and tongue to pleasure him. No hands involved.

For added effect, you can have your man tie your hands behind your back with your undies or his tie.

6. Suck de soleil

If you’re lightweight or petite and your man is especially muscular and strong, you may have done this position with him many times. You let your guy hold you upside down while you shove his dick into your mouth.

Simultaneously, he may thrust into your mouth while standing up, and maybe even while giving you head in return. It’s acrobatic and tiring, but worth it! [Read: 13 spicy sex positions to heat up your bedroom romps]

7. The python

You may have tried this technique with a hefty man… if you know what we mean. However, this technique can be done with men of all sizes, too.

You put his dick into your mouth inch by inch, like a python swallowing his prey. [Read: Big vs. small: Why bigger isn’t always better]

8. Vocalization

This is one of those blowjob techniques where your loud side can really come out. You are so into your thing *or at least you’re giving him the illusion that you are* that you talk dirty and vocalize even during a blowjob.

This includes the gurgling and choking sounds that you make as you thrust his dick into your throat. This technique adds pleasure to the usual head, as the vibrations in your mouth add more stimulation. [Read: What does sex feel like for a woman? The 7 different experiences she feels]

9. The whole shebang

This is the kind of blowjob that will definitely blow his mind. You employ many of the above techniques, using your discretion and tuning in to what your partner likes at the moment, to orchestrate your moves.

Employing this technique can take quite a bit of time, so remember to take breaks. But once you pull it off, you’ll be able to get him off. [Read: 15 things women wish men knew about the female body]

10. The virgin’s mouth

It’s a great way to role play with your guy. You pretend you haven’t seen any other dick before his, so you’re hesitant/scared/excited/breathless to see his cock when you put it in your mouth. [Read: How to master the art of the perfect blowjob]

11. The twister

This one is basically the same as the hand and mouth job from earlier, but instead of allowing your hand to just move up and down, you twist your hand around the head and shaft at the same time to create friction.

To add extra enjoyment for him, you can use both hands and twist them in opposite directions, whilst you suck on the tip.

However, don’t twist too hard – you’re not trying to give him a Chinese burn!

12. Deepthroat “fun”

Many women have tried this and failed, and may have tried it and thought they were going to throw up. Deep throating is the stuff of porn legend, and your man is certainly going to enjoy it if you give it a go.

Basically, you take him as far to the back of your throat as you possibly can.

The downside? You’ll gag for sure, and you might be worried about being sick, so pull back once you feel yourself getting close to the gagging sensation and move on to another oral sex position. [Read: How to swallow cum without gagging and go from spitter to swallower]

13. Hitting the roof

If deep throating isn’t your deal, and let’s be honest, many women may be able to find it as their least favorite BJ technique, you could try using the roof of your mouth for extra friction instead. Rather than allowing him to hit the back of your throat, angle it upwards, so it hits the roof of your mouth instead.

Less potential for sickness and still a good time for him.

Ironically, the gag reflex at the back of your throat will actually massage the tip for him and give him extra pleasure. So, whilst you’re trying not to vomit, he’s loving the feeling. [Read: Slow blowjob – How to blog a guy in slow motion and leave him quivering]

14. When in doubt, sing the blowjob song

There is a song, apparently. A song to help you remember how to give a blow job, in case, you somehow forget how to suck a dick. We don’t know how the tune goes, but as long as you remember the words, you’re good to go.

Head. Shaft. Base. Balls. Taint. And sometimes butthole.

Remove that Beyoncé song from your head right now, she won’t be able to help you during these troubling times. Instead, put this song into your memory bank and never take it out. Follow the instructions and keep moving through the list. [Read: Men with big balls – Pros, cons, and what girls think of huge testicles]

15. Speed it up and slow it down

Imagine going on a roller coaster ride that stays at one speed. Yeah, that’s not thrilling nor worth going to Disneyland for. So, switch it up. Go slow for a bit and then pick up the pace, then just when he’s getting really excited slow it back down.

This is a lesser take on edging, and it’ll drive him wild.

16. Juggling balls

Those little puppies always get forgotten when it comes to oral sex. But you must remember them! They need love too!

While you’re giving head, take your hand and hold the balls in your palm. You can gently juggle them around a bit. Or, you can lick and suck his balls – it’s absolutely gonna drive him nuts. [Read: What is tea bagging? A sexy guide to eat his balls and make him cum]

17. The back door

We wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you’ve asked him before. A man’s back door is very personal to them, so permission first.

But if he’s consenting, while you’re sucking his dick, take a finger and press it onto his anus or use a sex toy to stimulate his prostate. If he’s into rimming, you can also swirl your tongue around his rim. [Read: How to eat ass – The rimming checklist to eating his ass like a pro]

18. Putting on a show

While giving head, try touching yourself with one hand, or get him to touch you. You’ll notice that he’ll become more aroused and that blow job will probably turn into something else pretty quickly. Someone’s getting laaaaaid.

Remember that men are visual, so giving him head while you’re wrapped up in a blanket isn’t overly stimulating. Instead, take off some clothes and give him something to look at – your beautiful body!

Remember that giving a blow job is a two-way street!

It’s all very well and good learning blowjob techniques to make him go crazy, but make sure he’s giving you a good time too! If he’s refusing to go down on you, maybe you should think about whether you want to go down on him.

For the most part however, guys are happy to give and take. Just make sure you’re getting yours too!

[Read: The ultimate HEAD guide for women who hate giving head]

So there you have it, a shortlist of the many positions, blowjob techniques and oral sex tips that every girl knows *or should know*. These techniques are fun, and a key to giving a great BJ experience, plus you may have even used a lot of them in the past.