36 Questions to Ask in a New Relationship to Predict Your Future

You met someone who you think you see a future with, but don’t jump too far ahead. There are some crucial questions to ask in a new relationship.

When we’re in a new relationship, we’re usually all giddy and overlook the important questions to ask in a new relationship. The ones we should be asking. You know the saying, love is blind. So, we quickly jump into the relationship and learn as we go. Now, this isn’t bad. Sometimes, when you know, you just know.

But if you want to take your relationship to the next level, ask your partner some serious questions. After all, it’s not only them in the relationship. The last thing you want is to invest your time in a relationship that isn’t ideal for you. If a relationship doesn’t serve your needs or work with what you want for your future, then why would you stay in it?

[Read: Questions to ask your new lover to learn everything you need to know]

36 important questions to ask in a new relationship

Get to know your partner by asking them deep questions. They may not necessarily be comfortable to ask, but you deserve to know what your partner wants in life, and vice versa. Plus, these questions will help you build a deeper connection with your partner. So, really it’s a win-win for everyone.

Don’t be afraid to ask these all important questions to ask in a new relationship that could predict your entire future in a few minutes!

#1 Would you like to be famous? If yes, in what way? Are they aiming for fame? [Read: How to really know if someone is right for you or not]

#2 If you could wake up tomorrow with one new quality or ability, what would it be? X-ray vision? Seeing the future?

#3 Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? This is always a good question. 

#4 You and your partner both share something you consider a positive trait in each other. Make it a total of five qualities each. Let’s see what your partner loves about you and vice versa. [Read: 50 questions to test your compatibility in the relationship]

#5 What is the greatest accomplishment of your life? Everyone is proud of something they’ve done in their life.

#6 Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going to say? Why? I hope I’m not the only one who talks to themselves.

#7 How close and warm is your family? Do you feel you have a happier childhood than others? Was their childhood happier than most people? Were they loved as a child?

#8 If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, your future, what would you want to know? This is a tricky one. 

#9 What would be a perfect date for you? Walk on the beach and a picnic? Netflix and chill?

#10 How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? Oh god, we’re bringing in the mom question. But it’s one that needs to be asked.

#11 Make three “we”statements that are true. What is true about the two of you?

#12 When did you last sing to yourself? Or to someone else? Who doesn’t sing in the shower these days?

#13 Is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it? What’s holding them back? [Read: All of the amazing reasons why you should follow your dreams]

#14 Complete the following sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…” What is an experience you would like to share with someone? 

#15 If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose? What’s more important to them? Body or mind? 

#16 If you were going to become a good friend with your partner, tell them one thing that would be important for them to know. What should they know about you?

#17 What do you value most in friendship? Honesty? Loyalty? What do they look for in a friend? 

#18 Name three things you and your partner have in common. Do you share any common interests?

#19 Tell your partner what you like about them and be honest. It’s all about honesty, so don’t lie! 

#20 What is something that’s too serious to be joked about? Or is everything up for laughs?

#21 What is your most treasured memory? There is one memory they have that warms their heart.

#22 Tell your most embarrassing moment to your partner. We all have an embarrassing moment… or five…

#23 Do you have a secret hunch about how you’ll die? Oh god, another morbid question… *waiting for the answer*.

#24 When was the last time you cried in front of another person? Alone? Crying is healthy and showing vulnerability is never a bad thing. [Read: How to be vulnerable in a relationship and feel instantly closer]

#25 What is your worst memory? It won’t be easy to talk about, but it needs to be done.

#26 Tell your partner something you already like about them. Oh, there’s one thing you like about them.

#27 For what in your life are you most grateful for? Is it friends? Family? Money? 

#28 If you were to die tonight with no chance to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them? Are they expressive? Or do they hold their emotions in? 

#29 If you knew in one year you would die, would you change anything about the way you live right now? Why? Are you doing what you want to do right now? 

#30 Your house, with all your belongings inside, catches on fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you can save one more item. What would it be? Why? Don’t tell me it would be your cell phone…

#31 If you could change anything about how you were raised, what would it be? Did they have a perfect childhood? I don’t think anyone did. 

#32 Out of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing to you? Why? It’s a hard question to ask, but one that will make both of you reflect on your relationships. 

#33 What does friendship mean to you? How do they view friendship? Is having friends important to them? 

#34 Share one personal problem with your partner and ask for their advice on how they would handle it. See how they view situations and how they handle tough scenarios. [Read: The 10 signs your partner is truly supportive of you *and your goals*]

#35 Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story with as much detail as possible. Four minutes isn’t a lot, especially if you’ve had a rich past.

#36 What roles do love and affection play in your life? How do they see affection and love, and how important is it to them?

[Read: 21 questions every new couple should be asking each other]

Of course, you don’t need to ask your partner every single one all at once! But these questions to ask in a new relationship will help you get a better understanding of each other in no time.