34 Hand Job Tips, Secrets & Positions to Give a Handjob that Drives Him Wild

If you want to see him moaning with pleasure, you need to know how to give a great hand job that will blow his mind. Use these hand job tips to drive him crazy!

You may be good at giving him head, but as many men would dare to tell you, they would like you to know how to possibly give a good hand job the right way too. The two go together like sugar and spice to make something more than just nice – a mind-blowing experience!

Still not convinced? Well, let’s crunch some numbers: the average penis is 5 to 6 inches in length, while the average mouth is only 2 to 3 inches deep. And unless you’re that talented in deep throat, your hands can make up for the difference to ensure that your man gets the total workout. 

Besides that, giving a good hand job is a great way if you want to do something naughty for your partner but don’t want to get a di*k in your mouth, especially when you’re just hooking up and you don’t know his past.

Being generous sexually is crucial for a lasting relationship

You don’t always enjoy giving this. Truth be told, a hand job – no matter how quick or slow – just doesn’t do much for women. It can even be boring. 

However, it’s still something very nice and generous to do for your partner. And giving him something special even if you don’t get anything in return is important.

You need to be able to give your lover what he needs in a relationship – and vice versa. Giving is a huge part of what makes good sex, and good sex is one of the reasons relationships last. If both of you are always making sure the other gets little surprises now and then, your relationship will be much healthier. [Read: 19 rules for being a great partner in a relationship]

Best tips for how to give a hand job that will make him orgasm!

So, if you want to take that masturbatory technique to the next level and add your own hand flourish *pun intended* to it, then follow these tips to get your man off to the magical land of horny hand jobs.

With that, here’s how to give your man pleasure using your hands.

1. Get right to it

Thankfully, men don’t need foreplay nearly as much as women do. And if he’s already in the mood and ready to go, your job is halfway done! You should definitely get right to giving him a hand-job when he’s in the mood and you don’t have much time.

Starting immediately will ensure that you have enough time to get the job done. So don’t waste any time with anything else. Rip off the pants and put your hands to work! [Read: Give him the best handjob with these sexy moves]

2. Ask him what he needs

This is not the time to experiment and see what he likes by his reaction. Nope. It’s time for you to go ahead and just ask. Let him get verbal about what he wants and how he wants you to do it.

He’s been masturbating for years, so he knows what he likes and what’ll get him off faster. So if you really want to give a quick handjob, ask him what you can do better. [Read: How to get your man to start communicating more]

3. Choose your potion

First of all, you should consider slicking up those magic hands. While it is possible to give a hand-job with a dry hand, it is going to hurt him due to friction. It could actually be painful and downright unpleasant for your man.

It’s also sexier when it’s slick, so pick a lubricant of your choice: oil-based, silicon-based, water-based lube, or even your spit as lube if you want. Whatever it is, the kind of lubricant you use can be a game-changer and can turn a heated moment into full-throttle.

It doesn’t have to be anything special. Sometimes using your saliva is more than enough. If you have lube handy, use that! You can even use something as simple as a lotion or coconut oil.

The bottom line is to use lube to make your hands feel like the inside of your vagina and turn the whole hand-job experience better. [Read: Use lubricants to liven up your sex life instantly]

4. Choose your best position

When it comes to creating magic with your hands, it is best to find a position you are both comfortable in. You can jerk him off while you’re sitting on top of him or while lying on your side. 

You can also have him standing up in front of you while you sit on the bed, or he can straddle your stomach. Be inventive with your positions but ensure enough space for your hands to do their job. [Read: The 30 most creative sex positions that are definitely worth trying!]

5. Don’t be afraid of a firm grip

Your man is strong, and his penis has its share of strength training, too, so don’t be afraid to give it a confident grip. After all, it’s not a flower, so give it a real tug—but not too much.

Just as we have different preferences when it comes to the massage pressure applied to our muscles, men like their members stroked in different ways too. 

It all depends on how perceptive you are of his reactions: does he flinch or moan when you do this or that? Once you figure this out, you are well on your way. [Confession: My happy-ending massage experience]

6. Determine the height

The height of how you move your hand up and down his length is actually determined by how comfortably your man’s foreskin is being stretched as you move. 

If you pull down too far, you might strain the skin directly beneath his glans, and this will hurt, making him go soft.

Meanwhile, if you pull too high up, you may knock against his glans, which is very sensitive and might therefore hurt him as well. You can observe him when he is beating his own meat and see just how he strokes himself. [Read: Why you should love an uncircumcised penis]

7. Determine the speed

Although giving the perfect handjob is not rocket science, it still takes some careful calculations in terms of how fast you should go. Again, you can observe him as he gives you a show.

The important thing is to first start with slower, longer strokes to get a rhythm going, and once you both get warmed up, you can then speed up. 

Watch for his expressions and reactions to see if you’re going too fast that it hurts or too slow that he might think you’re not in on it. [Read: 20 moves that’ll leave him hard as a rock]

8. But finish with a consistent speed

However, you do want to make sure that when he’s close to finishing, you stick with a consistent speed. This can ensure that he won’t lose it. Just keep a steady stroke with the same pressure until he’s finished.

9. Fingers or hand? 

If you want to be a pro, you should learn how to give a hj using every part of your hand, including the fingers. So as a form of teasing, you can run a finger from the head down to the balls in one smooth, seductive motion. 

For him, this would feel like one gentle tongue stroke in a blow job. Meanwhile, the palm is there for the bigger moves, like when you want to feel his dick getting harder as you perform the classic handjob. [Read: How to master the art of the sexy finger blowjob]

10. One hand or two? 

A good way to jerk him off, aside from just grabbing him and tugging up and down with one hand, is to alternate between your lefty and righty. 

Or you can use both hands. The thing about this is your dominant hand might get too tired, so you have to switch it up and let your other hand get some “man-hours” too.

11. And if you have a free hand? 

If you are an all-star and you can accomplish the deed with one hand, don’t just leave the other dangling. You can stimulate other parts of his body, such as his balls, which are incredibly sensitive. [Read: Hot blowjob secrets to drive him wild with desire]

You can fondle his jewels or gently run your nails across them to give him an extra boost of pleasure. You can also massage his perineum, the area between his anus and scrotum, or even play with his butthole, whatever you both are into.

12. The flick of the wrist

If your arm gets tired and you want to minimize friction, you can also create magic with simple wrist rotations. Or gently rotate your hands as you slide them up and down his shaft to create a pleasant stimulation that will make him feel much more aroused compared to simply jerking and wringing his manhood.

13. Go to the tippy top to bring him over the edge

Aside from his balls, the most sensitive part of his privates is the top of his penis or the glans. So, when you’re giving a handjob, you should give this spot high priority. 

The easiest way to do this is to make a tight “O” shape with your thumb and index finger and put it over the top of his penis. Then just move your hand up and down about a couple of inches to stimulate both the frenulum and the ridge of the glans. [Read: Big blue ball facts every girl’s got to know]

14. Don’t forget to stimulate the frenulum

Frenu-what? The frenulum is that tiny patch of skin on the underside of his penis. It is a piece of flesh that joins the glans and the shaft—and it has lots of nerve endings, therefore, is mighty sensitive. 

You can run your finger and gently tease it for foreplay. If you get tired of moving your hand up and down, you can also take a break from the shaft and rub his frenulum with a minimal amount of pressure for several seconds before going back to the shaft again.

15. Embrace variety

Now that you have read through most of the tips, by now you know that jerking your man up and down between your fingers isn’t the only way to do it.

In fact, there may be 101 ways to make your man come with just your hand doing the work. [Read: 15 biggest sexual turn-offs for guys when you’re trying to arouse him]

What you can do is experiment with a variety of strokes and movements as a way to change things up and find what your guy loves. But be careful with changing it up too much because you might leave him so confused with the fluctuating momentum that he might go limp again. Remember, hand jobs aren’t science projects that you can experiment on.

A hand job is also not just about your hands and his penis. You can also put on a show by having him stand in front of a mirror as you start caressing his body from his belly to his inner thighs before wrapping your whole hand around the base of his penis and starting with your thing.

16. Passionately kiss during it

This is definitely only necessary if your man gets really turned on through kissing. And if he cares about you, he should. That being said, kiss him throughout the whole thing if you can.

You can even take your lips to his secret pleasure zones. Kissing his neck, ears, and anything that feels really good to him can make it much easier to do a quick handjob. [Read: Your guide for steamy passionate kissing]

17. Use a twisting motion

Instead of just stroking up and down, try twisting your hands. This hand job technique works great at expediting the rate at which your man finishes because it’s adding a new sensation that he normally doesn’t get.

And that means he won’t be accustomed to it. This will ensure it feels even better, and he’ll be able to get close to orgasm quicker simply because he’s not used to the motion already. You can also combine using your two hands. Twist both hands in opposite directions around the shaft and on the head of the penis.

18. Whisper dirty things in his ear

This is a fantastic thing to do if you want to give a quick handjob. The dirty talk will make your man so much hornier than before, so don’t be afraid to let your partner know about your dirty thoughts. [Read: 50 sexy things to say that’ll make him hornier than ever]

If you’re not sure what to say, start off with something simple like, “I love feeling you in my hands.” That will be enough to get him going, so he’ll finish much faster.

19. Add in some ball play

If your man is a fan of you giving his balls some attention, then go for it! Only do this if it adds to his pleasure. Sometimes ball play is used as a tactic to make him last longer.

With a quick handjob, that’s obviously not what we want. Therefore, only give his balls some attention if it’ll make him finish faster. [Read: Foreplay ideas for him – 29 moves to get a guy mad-horny with ease]

20. Lock eyes

Sure, you might be intensely focused on giving the perfect handjob that you go into your own little zone. But don’t forget to maintain eye contact with him. That is very sexy when you are looking deep into his soul as you give your man a hand.

21. Pay attention to his body language

All men are different. What feels good to one might not feel good to another. For example, one man might love his balls squeezed and pulled, but it might be painful for another guy.

So, the best way to figure out how much he’s enjoying himself and how much pleasure he’s experiencing is to simply watch his facial expressions and body language. If he flinches or makes a sound that doesn’t seem pleasurable, then stop what you’re doing and switch things up a bit. [Read: Male body language – 48 subtle signs to instantly read a man’s thoughts]

22. Consider adding toys

There’s no reason you have to only stick to your hands when you give a handjob.

Sure, the word “hand” is in the word handjob, but you can bring in toys to help your hands pleasure him. Anything from vibrating rings to butt plugs can enhance his pleasure.

23. Let him finish on you

Sex experts would surely agree that this is something that really turns guys on. Just the idea of being able to finish on you can be enough to expedite the process of the handjob. So, if you have enough time for him to do this and get yourself cleaned up, do it!

24. Practice makes perfect

The real secret to a quick handjob is figuring out what works best for you and your partner. And the best way to do that is to simply practice. Do this as often as you can and see how fast he can finish. [Read: Slow blowjob – how to blow a guy in slow motion and leave him quivering]

Not only will this ensure he lasts longer for you later, but it’ll also open up opportunities for quicker handjobs in the future. When you know how short you can get the job done, you’ll be able to do it more often.

Handjob techniques

Now that you know the general tricks that make a handjob so great let’s go into the specific techniques you can use to make your man scream with ecstasy.

1. Precum play

Why let all that precum go to waste? Put it to use and use it as some lube. That way, you don’t have to use anything else to get him all slicked up. [Read: Can you get pregnant from precum? And other answers you must know]

2. Gentle claw 

If you know what a claw looks like, then this one shouldn’t be too difficult. For this technique, you should keep your fingertips together as you lower your hand onto the head of his penis.

Use your fingertips to rub the head of his penis and then move down to his shaft. This kind of movement gives your man a lot of pleasant sensations. Change up the amount of pressure to keep it exciting for him.

3. Traditional

This one is probably the easiest. Just grab his penis and wrap your fingers around it. Then slide up and down as you normally would. [Read: How to give good head – the biggest guide and 50+ blowjob secret tips]

If you want to make it a little spicier, you can use some extra stimulation at the tip of the penis. Just use your thumb to caress the head back and forth in circular motions.

4. Double-handed backhand 

If you want to make it more interesting than just using one hand, then you can use both of them. One of your hands will be sliding his penis up and down, and the other one will stimulate the tip of the head.

You can also pinch him or massage the penis in small circles. And you can even bring in your tongue if you want to.

5. Escalator

For this technique, you will be stroking downwards only with your left and with the right hand doing the motion alternatively. Your hands are always dynamic. [Read: How to please a man with your mouth – lip-smacking blowjob tips]

When your right hand is at the bottom of his penis, the left one goes up. This keeps his penis constantly engaged everywhere, from bottom to top. Your hands will keep exchanging positions. Keep one hand going at it a little rough and the other one doing it in a gentle manner.

6. Balls 

Don’t forget about his balls, because they are very sensitive. But remember to be careful with them and handle them softly and gently. 

There isn’t a “right” way to play with your man’s balls, but there are different methods you can use. For example, you can try fondling, squeezing, or pulling them.

Cup them in your hands while you use your fingers softly to rub and play with them. [Read: Men with big balls – pros, cons, and what girls think of huge testicles]

7. Analingus handjob

When you’re doing a handjob, you don’t have to just focus on his penis and balls. You can also focus on your partner’s anus, which is very sensitive to touch. While you stroke his cock with one hand, you can use the other hand to play with his anus. You can also lick it too.

If you don’t want to use your fingers or tongue, you can use an anal plug if your man likes it. One position to try is having him down on all fours with you behind him. Stroke his penis while pleasuring his anus.

8. Twisting in opposite directions

This handjob technique involves wrapping both of your hands around his penis. Then you gently twist them in opposite directions. When you can’t rotate any further, then switch directions. Try to do it as quickly as you can. [Read: Oral sex tips for women – effortless ways to perfect the perfect blowjob]

Be careful not to apply too much pressure because it can make his penis feel like it’s getting a burn. So, use a lot of lube and don’t pinch his skin.

9. Ring 

Most handjob techniques require you to use your whole hand *or both*. The ring technique needs only your index finger and thumb. You will need to put them together to form an ‘O’ shape using both of them. 

Then, use the ‘O’ to stroke his penis up and down. This technique is very exciting for most men, and it can also delay their orgasm. [Read: Male orgasm – how it works, what men feel during and after ejaculation]

10. Prostate play

When you are giving a handjob, you can also do some prostate play that will make him moan with pleasure. For this technique, you can stimulate the prostate in two ways. First, you can do it externally by massaging his perineum. 

Second, you can do it internally by sliding a finger 2 or three inches up his anus and curling it toward his balls. This is similar to how he would stimulate your G-spot.

Circumcised vs. uncircumcised penis – is there a difference?

Some men are circumcised, and others aren’t. So, is there a difference in what you should do when giving a man a hand job to either one? [Read: Circumcised vs. uncircumcised – who makes the sexy cut?]

The short answer is… not really. Sure, the uncircumcised man has his foreskin intact, so there will be more flesh to maneuver when you are giving a handjob. 

But as for the sensations to your man, his circumcision status should not affect his level of pleasure. You can just use all these techniques on all kinds of penises.

Risks involving a handjob

While it’s not common to contract an STD by giving a handjob *it’s lower than through oral sex or intercourse*, there are still some risks. [Read: How to avoid getting STDs]

For example, there might be a microscopic tear on your skin or his that can let in all sorts of pathogens. So, if you’re giving a handjob to a new partner or even a stranger, you might want to consider wearing some latex gloves to protect yourself from the possibility of infection.

Final thoughts on giving a handjob

Remember, no two men are created equal and alike, so if you think you have your hj formula down pat, think again. 

You’ll have to experiment with different moves and strokes to find out what exactly can leave your man weak in the knees with your hand. Better yet, you can ask him what feels good as you compliment him on his manhood while you’re at it.

[Read: The complete guide to mastering the art of the perfect blowjob]

Now you know how to give the perfect handjob. However, just as important as technique, you have to have the right attitude too. So, shrug off any performance anxiety and have fun pleasing your man. Your enthusiasm will definitely be as big a turn-on as any handjob.